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FWB vs open relationship
(1)what's the difference between friends with benefits and an open relationship? (is it just that with an open relationship, you're actually in a relationship while you can do stuff with other people and with friends with benefits you don't actually have a relationship?)
(2) why would someone even bother having an open relationship when they can just be friends with benefits?
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1. You're exactly right. FWB is just doing stuff with someone who you have absolutely no feelings for, and plan on having no feelings for. An open relationship is where you are technically in a relationship but can do stuff with other people.
2. I'm not really sure of the answer to that, I guess it varies from person to person. Some people like the idea of being in a relationship. It's like they're addicted to it- I know someone like that. So I guess it's a win-win situation for those people because they can feel like they're in a relationship, but also fool around with other people.
My response is that I don't think open relationships OR friends with benefits are good situations to be in. Generally, it's considered trashy and in poor taste.
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1. The answer is basically what you said--and open relationship is usually when you're seeing someone but are allowed to see other people. Friends with benefits means you guys will mess around together but aren't romantically attracted to one another or want to date.
2. Usually an open relationship means you're romantically attracted to someone...but not enough that you want to date JUST THEM. This person is your main sweetheart but that doesn't mean you can't see other people or have other hook-ups. Friends with benefits is kind of more layed back and about the sex (or just kissing) than an open relationship is.
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friends with benefits, there's no relationship there whatsoever. You're free to hook up with as many people as you like because you're unattached.
open relationships are nonexclusive. it's more like , you go on dates. You're together but you haven't set the boundaries anda re both ok sleeping with other people.
mind you, both of these are completely pointless because someone gets attached at some point or this or that. it never works in the end unless you both are emotionally dead people that like to rack up numbers.
hope that helped clear up all that confusion. ;)
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1. Typically if two people consider themselves in a relationship with each other then they go on dates and such. They are mentally more intimate than a friends with benefits relationship. They do things that normal couples do only they see other people on the side (that their partner knows about).
Friends with benefits basically just means two people meet up to engage in sexual activity and that is all. They rarely go on anything considered as a "date" and typically do not speak to each other more than to set-up a meeting for sex.
2. An open relationship has the plus side of picking a partner to be with when things are down. You can rely on that partner for normal boyfriend/girlfriend things. That partner has an emotional attachment to you, most likely, and sees you on a regular basis. Typically this means you are in a relationship with one person but have agreed to have friends with benefits with other people. People feel a sense of emotional security with having a partner (not just for sex) in this situation because they are able to share thoughts, feelings, and intimate details they couldn't share with sex-only partners.
The problem with friends with benefits is that people tend to become emotionally attached at some point, usually females. When this happens it seems that the person simply cannot grasp that a real relationship is not forming and is not there. They tend to become very depressed and may even obsess over their sexual partner, hoping for some glimmer of a relationship--which, by the way, can never be strong if it were to form because the entire basis for (at least) one person would be sex.
The problem with an open relationship is jealousy in the beginning. This may later lead with confusion of roles, and, with this being said, these relationships tend to burn out in time. You simply cannot be married, raise 2 children, hold down a job, make your spouse happy and satisfied, and go out and bang other people in your spare time. There is usually that breaking point that demolishes the entire relationship, and from there it cannot be repaired.
Both of these types of relationships tend to mess with a person's ability to affectively communicate with people that they are not engaging in sexual relations with.
I haven't even touched on the issues of STDs and pregnancy. Many people in a friend with benefits lifestyle may contract an STD from their sexual partner or may become pregnant (or may impregnate their partner). This becomes complicated and can lead many, many problems. One partner may become attached (if pregnant) or enraged (if pregnant or if a virus is found to have spread). Typically people in a friends with benefits situation or an open relationship are not keen on regular STD screenings so they infect many partners before they realize something is serious and needs to be handled. This leaves the partners angry and they may stalk or physically harm the transmitter.
This also may break up a relationship if it happens during an open relationship. You simply cannot be pregnant by a sex partner when trying to make a relationship with someone else work properly. Men like to know that if their partner is pregnant that they did that--it seems to build up a sense of manhood for them.
There are many issues with both of these types of situations so people should consider them carefully if they want to lead such lifestyles. Personally I don't think either could ever truly work out well simply because we are human. We are mentally not capable of dealing with some of the severe situations that come of these sorts of things.
In the end at least one party is always hurt by the situation, regardless of how things were initially set-up to be.
I hope I've answered your question quite clearly. If you have any more questions please feel free to ask me! :)
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