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I know that nobody of this site are doctors, I so intend on visiting on real soon. Anyway..
I previously asked this qwuestion..
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=546688
And the answers I recieved said i may have Vaginismus. So I decided to research into it a little, and I found this list of symptoms:
- involuntary (against your will) spasm of the muscles in the vagina,
- fear of pain or real pain,
- intense fear of penetration,
- loss of sexual desire if penetration is attempted
- pain if penetrated by a tampon, finger or penis.
I definitely have pain when penetrated by fingers and penis, but not by tampons. I am also not sure if its muscle spasms im having or just some other problem. The rest, I do not have. I get in the mood for sex, and really want it, but when it comes to actually getting down to buisness it really hurts, like something is being hit.
On the link below, it lists possible causes of Vaginismus..
http://www.nhsdirect.nhs.uk/articles/article.aspx?articleId=386§ionId=5
None of thos have happened to me!
Im realy stuck of what it could be, does anyone have any ideas of what it may be other than vaginismus?
And possible ways I can possibly help myself overcome this? (link)
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You dont have to have all the symptoms of an infection for it to be that. It might just be one symptom and the infection could be there. Your best bet is to go to the gynocologist and get checked out.
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Recently my judgement took a turn for the worst, and I had unprotected sex several times rather than wait for my boyfriend to get some condoms. And now, at the early age of fourteen, I might be pregnant.
This doesn't shock me because I knew what I was doing, but my parents will absolutely die! I've always been their perfect daughter. Really, I'm convinced they only like me because I bring "bragging rights" to the table. So I'm genuinely afraid for when I have to announce what will surely make them hate me.
And that's not even the half of it. What about my aunts, uncles, and grandfather, who are all more than a bit old-fashioned?
Most importantly, I worry for my younger cousins, who are all under 10 years old. They like sand castles on the beach, Hannah Montana, and animals. :) They have always looked up to me as a rolemodel, putting me first in front of their own mothers as the one who decides what they do and say. I was flattered before, that they would think so highly of me; now I'm worried of what they'll think when they see my stomach grow bigger and bigger and wonder why I, unmarried and still a kid, am having a baby. I don't want them to follow in my footsteps or, once they're older, be ashamed of me.
I know I could just have an abortion and put an end to all my worries. But I've decided to take responsibility for what I've done and raise my baby, with help from its father and perhaps my grandmother, who is a very understanding woman. :)
I don't want to lose my family. They're the most important thing in the world to me. But I don't know how to do this without them completely ignoring the fact that I was ever alive. Help? :( (link)
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For 14yrs you sound like a very mature young lady. First off you heart is in the right place and by you doing the right thing you have to think more about yourself and your baby and less about how your realtives are going to think of you. Yes they're family, but they'll get over it. as far as your parents, they are your parents and always will be. at first its normal and only right for them to be upset and if they weren't I'd worry because that would probably mean they dont care but tell then when your ready because the sooner the better and the more time they have to accept what happened before the baby's born. And for your younger cousin's, they love you so they'll also understand. By the time they're old enough to understand that what you did was a mistake they would already undestand that mistakes happen. Good Luck
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i'm 17 and my boyfriend is 19. we've been going out for almost two years now. i really do love him. he graduated last year. he told me multiple times he was going to college but every time kept making up different excuses. i could tell he wasn't serious about it but i always believed him that he would eventually go. a few weeks ago he told me he is not going. i was completely devastated that he basically lied to me for year, although he still says he was planning on going. anyway, i plan on staying with him for a long time. but what bothers me is if our relationship continues for awhile, what job is he going to have? i'm not trying to be greedy or anything, it just scares me. i guess i need stability. i'm not sure what my exact question is, but what would you do if you were me? (link)
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Be upfront with your boyfriend. Explain how you feel about the entire situation and hopefully he'd understand where your coming from. tell him you love him and want to be with him for awhile. Ask him why he doesn't want to go to college, maybe he has a really good reason why. If he doesn't understand and nothing is changing his mind, work on it but keep in mind your 17 years old, you have your whole life ahead of you, dont let him discourage you from going to college.
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i've been with my boyfriend for over three years. i love him and he loves me, but we're past the "infatuation phase". sometimes he takes me for granted and doesn't always show how much he loves me, but he's never been the romantic type, so i can understand. plus i'm his first "real" girlfriend, so he isn't as experienced with romance as other guys i dated in the past have been, and what i was used to back then (now i've grown comfortable with the way my current boyfriend is and all that, though).
my question is, is it terrible that i flirt and am most likely going to hangout with one of his friends that has gone away for college? the friend has admitted to having feelings for me, and i can't help but wonder what it'd be like if i dated him. and when some of his other guy friends tell me they wouldn't mind hooking up with me, i wonder about things like that too.
i am totally happy with my relationship, and i love my boyfriend with all my heart. is it bad that i think about the possibility of being with someone else, (even though i know they could never bring me the happiness my boyfriend does)? (link)
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If you truly love your boyfriend,the thought of another man shouldn't be going through your mind, let alone his friend. But at the same time, is his friend romantic? and if so maybe he's taking the place of your boyfriend in the romantic category and you just cant help but flirt because you want that. But I perfer your keep your distance with the friend because you dont want your relationship to end because of a crush. Also talk to your boyfriend and tell him you'd like to feel loved and that he needs to be more romantic. Its never to late to learn so you being his only real girlfriend is not an excuse. If you two truly love eachother you'll find a way to make it work
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