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three years and....
i've been with my boyfriend for over three years. i love him and he loves me, but we're past the "infatuation phase". sometimes he takes me for granted and doesn't always show how much he loves me, but he's never been the romantic type, so i can understand. plus i'm his first "real" girlfriend, so he isn't as experienced with romance as other guys i dated in the past have been, and what i was used to back then (now i've grown comfortable with the way my current boyfriend is and all that, though).
my question is, is it terrible that i flirt and am most likely going to hangout with one of his friends that has gone away for college? the friend has admitted to having feelings for me, and i can't help but wonder what it'd be like if i dated him. and when some of his other guy friends tell me they wouldn't mind hooking up with me, i wonder about things like that too.
i am totally happy with my relationship, and i love my boyfriend with all my heart. is it bad that i think about the possibility of being with someone else, (even though i know they could never bring me the happiness my boyfriend does)?
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the truth is: no one was ever with a person and didn't ever wonder what it'd be like to be with someone else, even if just for a second. and for anyone who denies they've ever though this, you're a liar.
it's completely natural to fall out of sync when in a committed relationship for so long. yet you have to wonder, three years is a long time and you've no doubt changed yourself which is totally normal, but are you ready to try a different relationship? if you can't imagine being happy like you are now with anyone else then your boyfriend then i suggest first talking to him. now he's a guy so he may not want to hear it or may shrug it off but subtly suggest something different to do. a change of pace to put a little spice back into the relationship.
you've both grown used to each other and no longer have the desire to impress on every occasion.
i'm sure all will be fine when discussed with your bo. goodluck ;)
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If you truly love your boyfriend,the thought of another man shouldn't be going through your mind, let alone his friend. But at the same time, is his friend romantic? and if so maybe he's taking the place of your boyfriend in the romantic category and you just cant help but flirt because you want that. But I perfer your keep your distance with the friend because you dont want your relationship to end because of a crush. Also talk to your boyfriend and tell him you'd like to feel loved and that he needs to be more romantic. Its never to late to learn so you being his only real girlfriend is not an excuse. If you two truly love eachother you'll find a way to make it work
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There is nothing wrong with thinking or fantasizing about it.
However I do think it is very wrong to flirt with his friend though. In general flirting while in a relationship is not that great. It can lead people on, and guys often have trouble interpreting those signals (often for good reason too I might add).
I also think its particularly wrong because it is his friend, and because he has admitted he has feelings for you. That means that you would categorically be leading him on. It is the sort of thing that can really blow in your face.
It is also incredibly unfair to this guy, who will think that he has a chance with you. You would be using him to stroke your own ego essentially.
That being said, I dont envy your boyfriend for his friends. If you are loyal to him I would let him know what they have said to you. No one should have friends that hit on their girlfriends. That sort of lack of loyalty will manifest itself in other areas too. He is better off without them.
Good luck.
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