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bad friends - under my level
15/f
I don't like my friends anymore. Please pardon me if this sounds conceited.....But I'm just trying to make a point; I'm at a higher level than them. I consider myself to be, and I've been told I am. They always either put me down or just.....ignore and neglect me.
They never ask to do stuff with me. I'm the one who always has to ask.
They go somewhere with their other friends and don't even include me. They have parties, don't include me.
At other times, they talk to me only when they need homework help or when they're bored.
And these are my BEST friends. Like, I won't hang out with anyone else.
And they make me feel bad about myself....I know I'm prettier and smarter (please don't yell at me...I'm not trying to sound conceited) I consider myself to be...And they just sort of.....detain me, you know? I already set a high level for myself.
They all have boyfriends. And most of them broke up with their boyfriends, and their boyfriends formed an interest towards me...And they get SO jealous.
It's like..Friend 1: OH MY GOSH! WHY ARE YOU TALKING TO HIM?!
Well, maybe because he's not your bf anymore?!?
I feel like i'm wasting my life/time/energy on these girls and guys when I could be out there hanging out with better people or, even better, not hanging out with anyone at all (I wouldn't mind)
I really wanna show them that I'm not interested in their friendship.
Any advice? :) Thank you very much. And please please pleaaaaaaase don't think I'm conceited. I'm really sorry if I sound like I am. <3
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you're actually right... you ARE wasting your time with these people. If your school hosts after school activities... find an activity that you have an interest in. Then just meet new people that have the same hobbies as you. For me... its volleyball. I'll meet a new person by having a conversation like =
me- How did you do that?
them- oh i just did this... then that.. etc.
me- oh cool. I'm (my name) by the way
them- i'm (their name)
me- so...etc.
and i'll just keep talking about the surroundings. Like say if you're in the classroom and the teacher smells bad. then be like- "so does the teacher always smell this bad?" and let the conversation flow from there. another way to keep conversations flowing is to ask questions. If you ask questions- they are going to have to answer them. If they don't answer... then thats rude and trust me, people feel guilty if they don't answer a question and just leave it hanging in space.
Just find new friends. If you're friends are getting jealous be like -its not my fault! and smile and walk away.
or if you find out that they are having a party and didn't invite you be like - "i don't even know why i try..." and if they say "what did you say?" be like "Oh nothing... i was just saying to myself why I bother spending time with you guys because you don't even treat me as real friends. But oh well... its your loss not mine." and walk away
walking away is probably the highest level of rejection. It makes the other person feel really bad and that you just ended the thing. You know how in like a sport and the tiebreaker is really close... like if the sport ends at 25 and the score is 22-23... and you think "ok i'm going to be the hero. I'm going to finish this right here... right now!!" You need to be that person and think that when you have a fight or anything like that. Be the one who stops it and ends it. Case closed... its over!! walk away!
-volleyball2150
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I don't think you need any advice other than the advice you're already giving yourself. If you feel you shouldn't be their friends anymore, don't be. You know what you need to do, now just take action. They don't act as friends should; you're right about that. If they aren't assertive in making plans with you, and you're the only one that is, then don't try to make plans with them. It sounds like they're just bringing you down, and no friend should do that. Try to find some friends that are more like you that will bring about a more positive relationship and help you along to success.
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Okay, the thing about your friends, that i noticed, are they are jealous and b*tches. Well, i think that they are jealous that your prettier, samrter, adn their boyfriends like you. I know you want me to tell you brilliant advice, but all i can say is that this is what highschools like. Try to branch out and hang out with different people. Like if they have a party and dont invite you, have your own party and invite different people. And instead of hanging out with your so called "best friends" hang out with other people. Hope i helped!
xoxo Paige
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