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Well my so called close friend lets call her lena i trusted her i told her everything ! ok well me and her we used to bitch about this girl wrong i know and i regret it so dont tell me im a mean bitch or anything anyways well lena went and told her that i said this and that about her and the girl lets call her nina well nina told me off when lena backstabbed her aswell but i didnt say anything anyways nina told me off and started screaming at me and she told me our friendship was over and i just want everything back to normal if i could go back in time i would but i can't i've learnt my lesson all i want is everything to back to the way it was but i don't know what to say or do and now lena is closer to nina now and i miss lena so muchh and i also miss nina i don't know who to trust anymore </3 any advice on what i can do to get things back to the way they were sorry if its long.
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i see your dilemma. unfortunately, you might not like my advice. i don't think it really matters that you were talking bad about someone else with your best friend. this girl "iena" is suppose to be your BEST FRIEND. best friends don't go behind your back. they are not two-faced, and they don't tell other people your secrets or the things that you say. this girl is not a real friend. you should dump her, and move on. go join some afterschool groups that interest you and make some new friends cause your old friend is worthless.
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you're like a miniture version of my other friends who are sort of having a fight like that. anyways...
If you truely, deeply feel bad about this you need to confront lena and nina about it. Find somewhere, sometime that you can talk to them alone. Say "Hey, I know you're mad at me but just listen to what I have to say. You might ignore me, thats ok, but just promise me that you'll listen to me" then just let out your feelings to both of them.
also, from experience, I woulnd't talk to both of them at the same time because they can gang on you and hurt you. If they refuse to listen... like listening to music, or walking away... then write them a note and stick it in their locker at school (make sure it's the right one... I almost did that once!) or write them an email, or send an IM message, text message or even leave their cell phones/home phones a voicemail.
Anyway you can, try to get them to listen to you. Don't feel bad if they don't respond... all it takes to mend this friendship is for them to listen to you. Once they hear you out, give them some time to think about it. Don't expect them to call you right after you explain everything to them. Wait a while ( usually 2-7 days) and then call/text/email them again.
You really need to let your heart do all the talking. Don't write down all of the lines you're going to say to them... because that's just coming from your head. You need to tell them what is coming from your heart. Showing emotions and body language is a bonus. Crossing your arms= bad. It shows that you don't really give a shit about the friendship. having your hands on your head= good. It shows that you are having a headache because you are so sorry. laughing= bad. Also, it shows that you are not serious. Crying= good. It shows how much you care about them.
I wish you luck!
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