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am i wrong?
So i've been strugglin drug use i was a big crack head but i havent smoked in 24 days. Well the reason i was doing that stuff was b/c my dad is kinda a asshole. well i told my friend and she was concerned and i promised her i wouldnt smoke her anymore. Anyway lately i've been gettin pain killas mostly OCs from my bf Dwight and my friend got mad at me 4 doin em and bein round dwight. The thing is tho i need the meds b/c i'm in so much pain from all the shit my dad does. And i dont c the big deal b/c its not like i'm usin crack again or nethin? Am i wrong for usin the meds?
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Hi Honey, I am glad that you wrote and asked me for advice.
I know that you think that the pain killer meds are not as bad as crack. That is a "rationalization". What drug counselors call "stinkin' thinkin'" The addict is convinced that taking lesser drugs like prescription medications are an improvement over hard core drugs like crack. The fact is that some people have gotten into plenty of trouble, just taking prescription meds, or just smoking pot, and never graduate to hard core drugs, but in fact they are still illegal, they can still ruin your life, and they are still addictive. The only path to a successful life for those of us who have been abused by those we trust, (like your father) is to not touch drugs or alcohol at all. The emotional pain from breaking that sacred trust makes us more likely to use drugs or alcohol to dull the emotional pain. But when you wake up, the pain is still there. It will always be there. The drugs won't make it go away. The problem is that only when you deal with the rejection and the violation from this loved one,(your father) will you be able to live a normal life. The panel at the right tells me that you are 18. If that is true, that means you are a legal adult. That means you can break away from your father and whatever he did to you, and live your own life. Will it be a struggle? YES! Will it be hard? YES! Will it be worth it? YES, YES you are worth it! However, all that shit that your dad did to you makes you think that you are not. You cannot help that your dad is a looser and didn't deserve to have children. Especially a child as wonderful as yourself. He has his own path and his own demons, and most likely he won't be forgiven. You are young and can make changes. It has been done before. No matter how bad your life is, there are those who had it worse, and made the best of it. If you can get through this pain and hard work, you can become the kind of person who helps young people like you who have lost their way. It is terrible when childen are born whose parents are not prepared to raise them......financially, and emotionally and with lots of love and patience. But the world is full of kids like that. Like yourself. Stand up and do the right thing. You know what that is. Be the kind of person that you wish your dad could be. (And maybe your mom too.) Don't make their legacy, your legacy. Probably you won't think that this is as much fun as getting high. The FACT is that it is much better to look yourself in the mirror and like what you see. And honey, jail or detention is no fun at all. You WILL decide to take the correct path some day. But it will be much easier now, than 30 years from now. Continue this way for the next 30 years, and you can add, lack of education, jail time, legal bills, poor health, a couple of kids,failed marriages, and a criminal record that will prevent you from getting a job that pays well enough for you to live an almost normal life. START NOW and you have a chance. You are young and strong and smart....no matter what anyone else tells you.
Please stop using drugs, please take advantage of the programs that are out there for kids like you to get their lives in order. You can be happy, and you do have value. You can believe in yourself, and make a difference. I hope you take my advice.
Good luck to you and you will be in my prayers.
Michele
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You're so grateful to have a friend like that. I've never done drugs and NEVER will. So i'm sorry but I can't really help you on this one. But in my gut i'll give you some advice....
I don't trust this dwight guy...even though you might trust him. You never know.. he could be giving you medication, or it could be some other crap. What I would do is talk to your friend. She sounds like a very responsible girl and I trust her. Talk to her and see what she thinks. I know you told me that she says to stay away from him and the meds, and I would listen to her. If your dad is not a good guy, then ask your friend if you can stay at her place for a while until your dad settles down.
If you have a school counselor, I would HIGHLY reccommend going there. If I were you, I'd go to someone who is older, more mature, and is trustable.
I hope everything goes ok! Inbox me if you need anymore help. I'm here for you.
-volleyball2150
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