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best friend is "bored"
k soo im 15/f, sophomore, and i have these 2 best friends. yesterday after school we went to one's house..but..my best friend,"A", decided to leave at around 5:00. because she was BORED. and "tired". ok, so we were watching america's next top model..it was raining outside..we couldnt think of anything else to do. but she wanted to go home. k so youre probably like,whats wrong with that? she ALWAYS does it! the week before we were at my house and she left at 9:00 or something , while my other friend stayed till 10. and she even made her sister go home just because she wanted to go home. her 11 year old sister would stay out later than her! it's pathetic and we're 15 almost 16! i know our town is pretty boring, most of the time we only go out to eat and hang at each others houses-we couldve went to the movies, but she finds those boring too. the mall, but we couldn't get a ride..i suggested bowling, she didn't want to. it's like nothing satisfies her. and seriously i'd rather do nothing with my best friends than do nothing by myself. i dunno what her problem iss. and also we went to my other friends house yesterday, but she wanted to go to mine cuz somehow "it's the most fun" i don't know how, i really don't see how it's so much fun. but we had hung out at my house the last probably like 4 fridays, and my mom was like getting annoyed cuz she had the responsibility and if we didnt go out to eat, she had to cook or order pizza. so i don't know what to do anymore, i actually told her when she left yesterday that like, why does she always leave so early. of course she denied and just said she wanted to go home because she was tired and had "stuff" to do.
i'm just sick of this! like it makes me mad cause we have so much fun together, i don't understand her though. she ALWAYS leaves early just because she gets bored. what should i say to her? what can we DO that's not "boring"?! is this ridiculous or what ugh. thanks so much, sorry it was so long!
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I'm the same age and I don't know about her, but I always leave my friends' houses early. I don't like staying out late at night, that's just how I am (you would hate me, haha). Maybe, that's the way your friend is too. Or maybe, something is going on at home and she's not telling you about it. There could be something wrong, I wouldn't be mad at her I'd just talk to her about it.
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ha ha yeah thats pretty sick.
I think that this girl isn't satisfied with the group of people she's with. Now, I'm not trying to be mean here... but you're too much of a softie. I can already tell because this has happened a lot and you are not taking action. You should've taken action after the first 2 or 3 times. Take her somewhere where there are no distractions and when you 2 are alone. Sit her down and tell her that she either is going to be friends with you and your friends and have FUN, or find a new group of friends. You said that you would rather do nothing by yourself, than nothing with your friends.
When you talk to her, don't be a softie... but don't be too harsh so that she wants revenge. "body language" Stand up straight and tall, cross your arms... don't be in a position where she doesn't take you seriously. Attitude is everything. You need to be a solid. Where she is a little intimidated by yourself.
She either needs to be around you and have fun (or at least ACT like she is having fun until the time of that day is over) or find another group of friends where she can actually enjoy herself. You can tell her that she is just wasting her time being bored around you guys and she would be way better off by herself. Next time you arrange a hanging out day... don't include her. If she asks- just say that whenever she is around, she brings the energy level way down and you wanted a day to see how it would be like without her.
Maybe go to a local store and buy Board games, video games, computer games, thriller movies (the kind that is like in the beginning you're like "oh this is kinda boring" but then towards the end its like "oh my god.. whats gonna happen next" Sorta like one of those books where you can never put it down")
Even if the movie is not that good, it still would be a thriller so that makes it even more interesting. Maybe get a deck of cards and play a game like Solitare. Maybe have a magic show, talent show.
TUNES! whenever you hang out with friends, you need to have music. If theres a song playing that all of you know, be the first person to stand up and start dancing. More people will join and soon all of you will be dancing. If you do have a ride one day, don't tell anybody where their going... then go somewhere cool. Like bowing for instance. See if there's a COSMIC BOWLING. Its cool because its black lights and if you wear white, you glow. Most bowling places have music, and while you are waiting for turns, you could be playing arcade games... dancing, eating, playing pool, etc. Maybe if you have a local gym, you could all go swimming or play tennis. Oohh..... how about YARD GAMES! play like Capture the Flag (( or my version- capture the football. Its like capture the flag, except you try to get the football and you can tackle each other. Its sooooo much fun. especially in the rain when you all get muddy. =D
Just use your imagination and pretend like you are having a party.
-volleyball2150
PS: one of my most favorite games to play with a big group is called= Endurance
Have one person be the host and they get to make up a bunch of challenges. Their will be 4 teams... North, East, South and West. (like spin 10 times around a baseball bat and then go across the lawn, take a basketball and dribble the ball and shoot. First person gets 100 points. Or have everyone tie a balloon to their shoe. So like the North team would all have 1 red balloon to their shoe. The south team would have 1 White balloon tied to their shoe etc. Then have all 4 teams on 4 walls of a room, On your mark, get set, go! everyone has to pop the other teams balloons. Theres a 2 minute session... after 2 minutes is up.. you get a break and you count who is the winner so far. If you're balloon is popped, then you're out of the game.
Its soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo much fun!!!!!!!!!
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i know sometimes if you do the same things over and over things it CAN get boring. But change it up a little. I mean you guys are sophmore's, even though you town is small who cares create excitment in it, and at eachother's houses blast the music real loud, and create stupid and silly videos of you guys and then post it on like myspace or something. I dont know if you have a video camera but you can do it with your phone and stuff. And like at the mall and movies go up to guys and talk to them, that's always fun. Just create your on fun.
hope i helped a little.
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