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I like songs that describe my mood(s) or situation... Well right now I just feel betrayed and hurt by my friend. She WAS my best friend but now we're not really good friends anymore and it's because of something I guess. I don't understand it. She's moved on, and has changed a lot. It annoys me and also makes me sad. Everything is confusing and has changed a lot. I also feel left out and feel like "my friend" doesn't really even care about me anymore. It's like we were never "bffl"..... It seems like everything's a lie... I dunno how to describe it, but weird things have happened and I don't understand, cause never in my life would I think it would actually happened. I'm just surprised by it. I'm also sick of fake ppl. Or, posers, and copycatters!!!!! I'm annoyed by them and wish they'd just stop the act..... oh and no, I'm not looking for detailed advice, I just need songs. I'm wondering if anyone knew some reallyyyy goood songs that talk about everything I just said, or something like that. Songs that have good lyrics, and make you really think about them. They could also be sad songs...... Some examples are "Welcome to my Life", "Untitled", and "Perfect", all by Simple Plan... You know songs kinda like that. xD Thankkss! (link)
This is happening to me too :/
but heres a song that talks actually about your situation haha its like perfecttt

say goodbye-Joy williams
really good :)


I wear compression shorts when i work out and all that good stuff. Usually i wear nike or under armour, but anyway I was wondering if you're supposed to wear underwear underneath? someone told me you're not supposed to...

i kinda hope it doesn't make my cough cough to get sticky... not to mention people seeing the shape.... (link)
ever heard of g-string or a thong?


I'm seriously getting really frusterated. I'm trying to find a pair of boots for under $100. I want them to be black, and I don't like the sheepskin boots (like Uggs, Emus). I'd like something about mid to knee height, and something with a flat or very low heel.

So far, these are the only ones I really love, but they look uncomfortable and maybe too "dramatic":
http://www.amazon.com/Sam-Edelman-Womens-Margaret-Black/dp/B000TFSJSG/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&s=apparel&qid=1196823403&sr=8-3

Does anyone have any suggestions? Or any experience with those Margaret Boots in the link?

Thank you so much.

(link)
urbanoutfitters.com
gojane.com
forever21.com
delias.com

there ya go they have a ton (:



where does this girl get her clothes?



http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendid=9673133 (link)
urbanoutfitters.com



Me and my friends have been friends for like ever but I really need a change I mean they are so babish and we argue alot.

I have started to hang out with some other people
and I feel so much better. But I dunno if I should go back to my old friend? (link)
i think you should still be friends with her but also still be friends with your new friends just open up your horizons and stuff, so then you can hang with your new friends at times and then your old friend. just don't tottaly ditch your old friend just say hi, and have little conversations and hang out with her sometimes and stuff.


Attractive or not??????? answer?
http://img229.imageshack.us/my.php?image=170416hv0.jpg

shes my friend's friend do you think shes pretty? (link)
not really

just being honest

in her own way she is though =]



Long story short, where I live you have to give this important speech at the beginning of your senior year.

I "gave" mine 2 days ago. I put the gave in quotations marks since I didnt follow it through. I started it, but messed up somewhere in the middle, started crying, and left the classroom, and then skipped the rest of the classes that day.

My teacher told me I'll get a new chance to do it this week. I will die. Same speech, same audience. They've all probably been talking about me and how humiliating that was.

The moral of the speech was that the more you believe in your dreams the more like reality they become.

I was wondering if there's any way to turn this into something positive (or atleast LESS embarrassing) by including that little awful preformance in my speech somehow?

OR is there something funny I could say at the introduction of the speech (to make the fact that I'll be repeating that same beginning of the speech less horrible) ??

Thank you. Please pray for me, I'm really scared to go back to school because of this!! (link)
Hey =]

I had something similar happen to me one time except i didnt cry, well i cried, but it wasnt during the speech it was after i was done with the speech but anyways so we had to do a 5 minute speech, and like we were in groups of 3 and i got in the WORST group possible we were so unorginzed so on the day of the presenation we didnt know who was saying what part, and everything so i get up there tottall clueless, and i start to panic because i dont know what to say and then i take like 1 minute pauses because i HAVE NO CLUE what im doing or saying and then i start to get my words all mixed up and then it just went down hill from there.

but my advice for you is try not to get nervous, because my lemme tell you my nerves got the best of me! i was soo nervous, and like who cares what the people think of you, just try and be confident, and just think by the end of the day they probably have forgotton ALL about your speech and have worried about their own problems.

and maybe something you could say like in the introducting or something idk

like HEYYY I'm Back! Or something to let them know your back and just BE CONFIDENT don't let them know your not confident

and like if you mess up just smile or laugh about it, don't let it defeat you, haha okay well i hope i heleped a little =]

because trust me i know EXACTLY what it feels like and everyone was laughing at me, and mann it just wasnt good, haha

but goodluck on your speech =]



Hey guys. I'm into a certain type of clothing. The clothing sort of.. hangs on you?

Like:

http://media.twango.com/m1/original/0077/4cf42af4b7b747fa9c61c60c19e92bdc.jpg

http://www.auctiva.com/hostedimages/showimage.aspx?gid=507690&image=74714415&images=74714415,74714419,74714413,74714406&formats=0,0,0,0&format=0


http://i12.ebayimg.com/01/i/000/b2/65/122e_1.JPG


http://www.auctiva.com/hostedimages/showimage.aspx?gid=507690&image=82001471&images=82001471&formats=0&format=0


http://www.auctiva.com/hostedimages/showimage.aspx?gid=507690&image=74892128&images=74892128,74892130,74892126&formats=0,0,0&format=0


http://www.auctiva.com/hostedimages/showimage.aspx?gid=507690&image=82007032&images=82007032,82007033&formats=0,0&format=0


http://www.auctiva.com/hostedimages/showimage.aspx?gid=507690&image=82004140&images=82004141,82004140,82004143&formats=0,0,0&format=0



I found those pictures off of an ebay account selling the clothing, but I'm not fond of buying off of ebay. Are there any stores, preferably in the united states, that have websites with clothing similar to these pieces? (Especially the grey dress)

Thanks so much! (link)
urbanoutfitters.com

definately ^^


Well my parents hate my style(it's just jeans or gray trousers with band shirts and so on(very dark colours)
They want me to change my style of clothes..and I am almost ok with that...

But I'm looking for a style that is like more feminine but also has an edge to it..like rockish/metalish style.(metal as in metal music :P)

So yeah, pictures would be great, but anything is appriciated.
Like shoes( I wear vans and converse) shirts, jackets, trousers, skirts(I'm not really a skirt fan, but i might change :D), accesories.

Thanks :) (link)
I recommend urban outfitters

urbanoutfitters.com

i kind of have have a rockier style and i wear like leggings with cute boots and stuff with like a edgy shirt or whatever

just look through urband outfitters in my opion i think its a edgier style haha but thats my opion =] and they have plenty and vests and everything

hope i helped =]


alright so me and this girl are really tight and we spent basically the whole summer together and we just get along so well and we were just complete best friends. now she's always hanging out with this other girl, let's call her jillian, and she blows me off to hang out with jillian, which i ask her if she wants to do something first but then right after jillian asks her if she wants to do something and she says yes. we never hang out anymore and i try to make days in my schedule were we can hang out but then she says "no sorry i cant, im 'babysitting'" but then i see her away message and stuff and its like "hanging out with jillian" its just really annoying. i have nothing against jillian, she's a cool girl we're kind of friends but, i just want my old best friend back...what should i do?

15/f (link)
Heyy =]

I'm going through the same thing with my best friend, she has all these new friends that she made from cheer and stuff and like we were SO close in the summer time like we would seriously hang out every chance we got and stuff and never get tired of eachother,and tell eachother everything, but then she made new friends from doing cheerleading and she started to hang out with all her cheer friends and she would blow me off all the time and leave me in the dust, and like we used to tell eachother everything, but then she barely would barely tell me anything, and if she did tell me somthing, she would tell her cheer friends first and tell them every detail and then only give me a breif description about it. but then i got sick and tired of it so i talked to her, and i told her basically everything i was feeling, and then yeah lemme tell you it was pretty emotional hahah but yeah it made things alot better between us, so talking can do alot. Talking is the key. =]

hope i helped.


should i just shave off all my hair and wear a wig? im sick of my silky, limp, volume-less asian hair! (link)
No because what if you want to have sex, and the wig falls off, and then the guy sees you with a bald head going down on him, yeah thatd be pretty freaky if you ask me. Dont shave off your head. its a hassle i mean you would regret it. who cares if you have asian hair. there are plenty of products that can make it so you can have volume, im sure someone out their in the world they have things for asians that probably help asian's and there hair, yeah.

so dont shave your hair!


Where Can I Find A Vest Like This One? --

http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=f1z66g&s=2


Anyone Know Where She Got It? (link)
Urban outfitters and forever 21 those are the best places but uraban outfitters is better


k soo im 15/f, sophomore, and i have these 2 best friends. yesterday after school we went to one's house..but..my best friend,"A", decided to leave at around 5:00. because she was BORED. and "tired". ok, so we were watching america's next top model..it was raining outside..we couldnt think of anything else to do. but she wanted to go home. k so youre probably like,whats wrong with that? she ALWAYS does it! the week before we were at my house and she left at 9:00 or something , while my other friend stayed till 10. and she even made her sister go home just because she wanted to go home. her 11 year old sister would stay out later than her! it's pathetic and we're 15 almost 16! i know our town is pretty boring, most of the time we only go out to eat and hang at each others houses-we couldve went to the movies, but she finds those boring too. the mall, but we couldn't get a ride..i suggested bowling, she didn't want to. it's like nothing satisfies her. and seriously i'd rather do nothing with my best friends than do nothing by myself. i dunno what her problem iss. and also we went to my other friends house yesterday, but she wanted to go to mine cuz somehow "it's the most fun" i don't know how, i really don't see how it's so much fun. but we had hung out at my house the last probably like 4 fridays, and my mom was like getting annoyed cuz she had the responsibility and if we didnt go out to eat, she had to cook or order pizza. so i don't know what to do anymore, i actually told her when she left yesterday that like, why does she always leave so early. of course she denied and just said she wanted to go home because she was tired and had "stuff" to do.

i'm just sick of this! like it makes me mad cause we have so much fun together, i don't understand her though. she ALWAYS leaves early just because she gets bored. what should i say to her? what can we DO that's not "boring"?! is this ridiculous or what ugh. thanks so much, sorry it was so long! (link)
i know sometimes if you do the same things over and over things it CAN get boring. But change it up a little. I mean you guys are sophmore's, even though you town is small who cares create excitment in it, and at eachother's houses blast the music real loud, and create stupid and silly videos of you guys and then post it on like myspace or something. I dont know if you have a video camera but you can do it with your phone and stuff. And like at the mall and movies go up to guys and talk to them, that's always fun. Just create your on fun.

hope i helped a little.


Ok so it's my first year of high school and i totaly cant do this whole high school thing i'm already thinking about dropping out because i'm way to stressed i dont feel comfortable asking anyone for help but my sister and my sister wont help me cause i get way to mad when i do homework because i'm so stressed and i can deal with my english teacher because all he does is give you work and more work and barely explains anything what am i supposed to do i am seriously so close to dropping out right now and if i tell my parnts i cant deal with my english teacher and all he does is give work they just tell me right your just be lazy you need to get off your butt and do work i just cant do this anymore what am i supposed to do people my whole life have told me your just being lazy you really are really smart blah blah blah but the real problem that they dont see is that i am stupid i dont understand half the work and i cant do it and i'm not jsut saying that because i hate school or anything cause teh only reason why i hate schoool is because my english teacher and because i'm getting such bad grades (link)
I'm going through the same exact thing as you! you know i thought highschool was going to be this whole great new experience and a blast! but the first week was hell and from then on it has been hell all the way through. I felt the same exact way you do with you english teacher except with my math teacher, she was all like "You should already know this stuff and should have already been taught it last year" and well WE DIDNT and so she barely taught it! and so i'm like dude wtf! why cant you just teach it! and i was so frusterated and i was on the verge of failing that class, and she gave like 2 worksheets of fifty problems each like EVERY day and it was just so overwhelming, but i got a tutor and i went to tutorial which is where the teachers give extra help in the morning times before school and well my grade rose from a D all the way up a B- and TRUST ME IT WORKS, its better then sitting there in class staring at a quiz not knowing what the hell is going on. No one will judge you if you go and ask your english teacher for help trust me, this is higschool YOU DO NOT WANT TO FAIL, you will regret it later exspecially if you drop out. So go ask your english teacher for help it will make you feel alot better afterwards trust me


13/F

Okay, so my gym teacher knows I hate gym. I tried to get into another class... But no, my principle hates mE!!!! He let the others kids get a different class, but nooooo. I had to STAY! Damn it! I've had gym all 3 years in middle school! I fucking HATE IT!!!!!! I was not built for gym, math, science or make up. UNDERSTAND THIS. My gym teacher broke my cool two days ago. I wore my black high heels so I don't have to do gym again. He yelled at me and told me to go to the office... Here's what happened...

Me: What? Okay, whatever...
Gym dude: Don't use that tone with me!
Me: What? Okay, whatever...
Gym dude: Romero, I want you to participate
Me: Well, I told you I hated gym, but you didn't listen.
Gym dude: So? It's good for you.
Me: Yea right. It makes me sore and mad.
Gym dude: Go to the office now! You're making me mad!
Me: Fine, I will. good bye...

After he went int othe gym I yelled after him: bastard! He didn't hear me, damn it. and I went to the office. i never got in trouble because of some cute guy i nthe office. He mad me happy again, yay and we went to class together. Now, look.
What i want is, HOW DO I GET OUTTA THIS FUCKING CLASS?!?!?!?! And don't give me any shit about, Gym is good for you, gym will make you feel better, gym will blahblahblah

I was built for writing, computer stuff and fucking anime characters, got it? NOw, here's more info on my daily thigns to tell you some about mah...

Writes, sleeps, sits at comptuer 24/7 (yay), studies presidents (I like history), and is VERY lazy! I am lazy, and proud, I'm a bitchy, lazy, emo anime fucking freak! Okay, anyway... hope that helped, haha

p.s don't ask about the anime fucking thing...*Adivce person stares at screen* Okay fine, I like anime alot, okay? Get over it... (link)
Get a friggen life. You have to take gym to graduate high school so get used to it. Yeah alot of us don't like gym either, but do we moan and cry about it? NO we get through it. Now stop going on this site and then saying OH IM SO FUCKING LAZY! I HATE GYM OMGGGG MY GYM TEACHER IS A DICK! yeah because your a bitch. Just get over it and take gym. If you want to graduate cry a river and get over it.



13/F

Anybody know a site that lets you download FREE completely FREE FREE FREE japanese, emo and rock music?!?!? PLEASE! I'm getting an iPod, so BOOM!!!!! (link)
We live in the USA so we dont listen to japanese music. So go on limewire and search for japanease music or move to japan and go listen to their music.


i want to get side bangs.
should i do it on my own.
if so how exactly??
like do i part my hair??
idk.
also pictures would help. :]

plz and thanx. :] (link)
NO! to personal experience do not do it on your own! expsecially since this is your first time ever doing side bangs and such, it will end up in a straight line and messed up and nothing how you wanted it to me. So go to a hairdresser and they will do it, don't do it on your own, its much much easier just to go to a hairdresser. Because once you mess up on hair you can't do much about it.


16/F ok so you know how friends sing in cars together or just blast their music and sing out loud? well i cant seem to do that with my friends. i sing in my room all the time with the music blasting but i cant with people around.. what can i do? (link)
OMG! I FEEL THE SAME EXACT WAY AS YOU! okay so just the other day like i was in the car with 5 of my friends and soulja boy came on and so we blasted it and they all started to sing and i like just couldnt sing it with them and idk why and so i was just sitting there and it was really akward..

but now that i look at it i wish i would of sang with them because we are all having fun and no one cares about how you sing or any of that stuff so just sing with them and let loose. because trust me its WAYY better then sitting there and watching them all sing.

hope i helped


i have this best friend i've been bestfriends with for a while now.
lets say a year or two?
i always feel so bad because she calls herself the ugly duckling.
she's pretty, and guys are really into her.
but for some reason (please dont think this is conceited sounding..)
whenever me and her are together, the guy ends up being into me and not her.
she gets so upset and has creid on my shoulder about it and told me how jealous she is of me.
it's flattering, sure.
but it hurts to see her like this.
now.. the guy she likes.. lets call him "bob."
bob and her have had a thing for a little,
nothing serious though, they never even kissed,
it was just a mutual liking eachother thing.
but now bob texted me and tells me he likes me.
i don't know what to do.
he said he wants to hook up with me and stuff,
but i would do that to my best friend.
he said if she doesnt find out, it really cant hurt her.
i cant even tell her that bob likes me, because i dont wanna hurt her.
when she gets upset about those things she takes it out on me and it makes me cry.
i don't know what to do.
hook up with him or not?
i'm starting to like the guy but that just makes metters worse.
what do i do!? (link)
Don't do it, i've had a friend do that to me, and trust me it is NOT WORTH it AT ALL! I mean come on you say you hate to see her like that you would probably feel really guilty about it afterwards and then your friend would find out and then it would be a whole mess and then you probably wouldnt even see the guy again. so in my opion one hook up isnt worth all the dumb drama. But i mean if he is the love of your life go for it! =]


I hate to say it, but -- Loneliness is getting the best of me. I want to be able to say "God is enough, all i need to be happy" or "I'm satisfied just having my family and a few close friends", but I can't, I'm not. I constantly find myself longing for the "myspace" life. Having lots of gorgeous female friends and funny male friends to do fun things with and take lots of pictures with. To have people constantly calling me. TO FEEL LOVED. This is not a question of how to make friends - go out, join a sports club, church group.. I know, I know, I know. Whatever.

I probably wouldn't be satisfied anyways. I keep longing for other peoples lives. And in a weak attempt to become them.. I get their hairdos, clothing styles, and even opinions. But (ofcourse) it doesn't work.

Help me please, I can't remember ever being satisfied. I've always hated myself, my friends, my life.

I'm lonely and I fear always feeling this way.

(link)
I FEEL THE EXACT EXACT EXACT SAME WAY AS YOU! IDENTICAL! It was weird when i read this! i was like OMG! THAT IS EXACTLY HOW I FEEL! i was even going to ask a question about this also. But just so you know i know how you feel.

i don't really know how to give advice on this since i feel the same way as you, but i just wanted you to know that you have someone that feels the same way as you and that your not alone. But i always tell myself "how long can things be bad for? i mean things have to get good some day."

and they will but if you ever want to talk or anythng my myspace is www.myspace.com/sportsqueen

it sucks i know its the worst feeling ever

but things will get better you just have to get through with it and try not to let people get you down and stuff thats what i do.




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