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byotchy friend
my friend always talks bout me behind my back, and im soooo sick ov her shit! She wont stop, but i want to keep being her friend. what should i do?
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omg i have advise! my fwend is just like dat! her name is stephanie. everyone doesnt see the real side of her. but i do and everyone loves her cuz they dnt no her! but anyways we have been best freinds 4 two years and yet she does dat! ugh it pisses me off but wat i did was i confronted her about it and altho she still does it, wen she does i tell her i dnt like it and she gets mad but gets ova it eventually.
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if your friend is talking behind your back, don't be her friend. Tell her if she doesn't stop the crap that she's saying, then tell her that you don't need a friend like her.
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I have had an experience like yours and i would say to make new friends and surround yourself with people who like you. You don't HAVE to stop being her friend, just start hanging out with your other friends more often. If she needs anything from you she will definately come and ask. Be a friend to her even if she still continues to act the way she does. If she was truly your "BFF" she would care about you and your feelings. That's what i did when my friend started to be mean to me. I hung out with new people and made a bunch of more friends. She was using me to go to places and meet boys and i just got fed up with her. We used to do everything togther. Now this year i barely talk to her anymore and i have so many BFF's i cant count. It's definately for the better because i found people who don't treat me like s**t. But i always help her if she comes to me for something.
It's definately your decision and im not saying you have to do what i did. But it was the best decision i made. :)
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do one favor for me... write down on a piece of paper all of the qualities a good friend has. some examples would be honesty, loyalty, loving etc.
now what i want you to do is see how many of those things this girl has. If your list contains about 10 personalities... i would guess this girl has 3 of them.
this girl is NOT your friend!!! trust me on this one, break off this friendship because she is only causing you to feel more miserable. if you break off this friendship, i guarentee that you will be so much happier. I had a friend like her once. always talking about my back but yet sometimes she would be so funny and nice to me. I would come home from school or her house somedays crying... my mom would say that i need to stop being her friend because shes making my life a mess. and when we grow older that she will destroy it. but i couldnt stop being her friend, she made me feel happy sometimes and that i could just be me and let loose and be wild. and that anything could happen. but i knew deep inside of me that she was dragging me down with her. so one day i went up to her and said "you know what? im done with you. im done with you and your snotty attitude and i dont need a friend who makes my life miserable. goodbye." and we stopped talking for a long time.
please please please dont be friends with her because she needs to learn her lesson and if you leave her, she will learn it.
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Why do you want to be friends with someone who treats you so terribly? Someone like that isn't worth anybody's time.
If you're sticking by her because she's your only friend, it's time to expand your circle. Join a club related to something you're interested in. You'll find people with common interests there, and that is an excellent foundation for friendships.
If you're sticking by her for any other reason, I'm sure there are plenty of people who would love to be your friend. These people are probably frustrated that you continue to let her treat you like this.
It won't be easy to break of a friendship like this. But in the long run, you'll be so much better off.
I hope you make the right decision.
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