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Well, I really like this girl. I'm 16 and shes 15. We've been hanging out after school for like 5 months, and I've been trying to ask her out for at least half that time. But everytime I'm about to, I freeze up. I'm pretty sure she likes me back. This is especially annoying for me because I've never had a problem like this before, I've always been perfectly smooth with the ladies. I really like this girl, and I dont want her to get bored and move on. She's been amazing to wait this long for me. What's wrong with me!?

She's probably wondering why you haven't made a move yet, and trust me, girls do not like to wait that long! haha
It definately sounds like she likes you a lot if she's been hanging out with you for five months. It's normal to freeze up adn be nervous, but really, once you just spit it out, you'll feel so much better and you know it! If you wait too long, she'll do exactly what you said, get bored and try to move on. So next time you see her, ask her out, or make plans for the summer, or something. hope everything goes well!

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Okay so, I'm going out with this guy, and I think I might be in love with him. I posted a question like this before but the answers didn't really work outt, people said you just feel it, I think I feel it but I want to make sure, I think I may be in love with him.
So my question is how do you TRULY know if your in love?

Thanks!
--Ashley

Okay, we were talking about this in my religion class, and there's no definite way BUT there are guidelines (courtesy of my religion notebook):

-The happiness, security, and development of the other's is at your attention
-You put the other person's needs before your own
-Love with that person brings you closer to the other people that love you (parents, grandparents, friends) because real love makes you whole

-Love is also emotional, intimate, sharing, caring, acceptance, understanding, forgiving, committing, and includes some physical attraction


...so that's the checklist. But love is different in every situation, those are just the occaisonal common characteristics

There's a chance that it's not love but just infatuation, which is basically all about the physical stuff, and it's normal, it just doesn't last long.

good luck

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Are you suppose to wash your hair everyday?Not Because I wash my hair everyday.Someone told me It like ruins the hair or bad for it.Thanx

Well, if you use a lot of conditioner, then yes, your hair will become greasey, so try sticking to conditioner like every three showers, or only using a little bit each day. It really depends on your hair type, so if you are an African American, most ones I know wash their hair about once a week. But people with thick hair like to use more conditioner because it weighs their hair down and thins it down a little, and people with thinner type hair don't need that much conditioner. Hopefully this somehow helped. :)

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I like this guy, but whenever i talk to him i get shy n think mmore bout what i say. I always do this around guys i like but he is also pretty popular. I am usually loud n talkative but it just doesnt work round him. Please give me advice on what i can do so we can talk more!
I will rate go0od if u try ur best to answer this.

x0x Thankz,
In Love & Lost

Just try to forget about all your nerves and talk to him about anything... your crazy math teacher, trouble with homework, anything! If you don't know that much about him you can ask him questions too (What classes do you have, do you have brothers or sisters). That will lead you to telling about yourself, and possibly some funny stories you might have. Eventually the conversation will flow better, and you may learn things you never knew! Whatever you do, keep your chin up and smile, because confidence is a major turn-on! Good luck! :)

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There is this guy who I met this year and is really nice. I think i might like him.. and i wish i could tell if he liked me or not. One of my other friends seems like she likes him too, and in my opinion he likes her better. Ive asked and she say she didnt, but she is always hanging all over him. I dont want to tell her or anyone for that matter that i like him because i think they would tell him, and i just trust very few people. I mean im not ugly at all, actually ive been told im really pretty, but i have NO self confidence at all!! i just wish i could know what to do. And this isnt like a weird situation because i am not awkward around him or anything.. we are actually friends. I dont usually tell guys that i like them, and i dont really wanna lose our friendship or embarress myself so if you could help that would be great

Sorry I haven't answered this in so long... it's just been taking me awhile to think it over. I think that it is great that you two are friends, and maybe all that your crush wants to do is keep it at that. Maybe you can drop a few subtle hints, but if he doesn't seem to get it, then maybe he just wants to keep you two at a friendship level. It's okay, maybe someday he'll see you as more than a pal. And maybe your friend that's a girl is all over him because she thinks that it's okay, and if she knew that you like him, maybe she'd be a little more restrictive. If you can't stand to see her over flirt with him, you can let her know. But if you don't want to, that's perfectly fine. Whatever happens, go with the flow and good luck ! Sorry if I didn't help. :)

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my name is nicole ok i live in cali and im 15 years old me and my x like broke ^ like on monday i feel like soo tear a part i have been crying i dont know if i should go back with him i was like with him for like 8 months things dont feel the same because his not in my life right now i feel like some other girl could take my place he has been crying 2 so have i i dont know if i should move on or not should i take him back or give me more time can somebody please help me!!

Well, if both of you are sad and depressed, then maybe you guys should get back together and give it another try. Call him or IM him (or if you're feeling brave, talk to him in person) and let him know that you're miserable without him and you're sorry things didn't work out, and if the both of you could give it a try again. If you both broke up for specific problems with both of your personalities, then talk about it and try to work things out. For example, he might think that you are attracting too many guys' attention :). Or you might think he complains too much. Try to peacefully work things out, and take and give constructive criticism (not to be mean, but to help strengthen your relationship). Hopefully everything will work out. Good luck with it! =)

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I love my boyfriend dearly and everthing and I mean everything is going great and I am as happy as ever. But somehow I just feel like something or someone is gonna break us up...Like somethings gonna keep us apart... It makes me feel depressed...Maybe I feel this way because whenever I was in a relationship a guy, he never took it seriously...could this be why? and if it isn't then why do i feel this way?
Thanks in advanced :)

It's great that everything is going great, so maybe you feel this way because everything is almost TOO perfect, maybe? Perhaps you think that this is too good to be true? Sometimes when you are in a relationship that is pretty much perfect, you get bored that there isn't anything to do, so you feel as though something might come along and screw it up much too soon. But just relax, and have fun with your boyfriend, and think about your relationship with him with a positive attitude, because if you continue to do so, you will most likely enjoy it. :) Hope everything goes great!

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My boyfriend is always putting his arm round my waist and touching me but I never know where to touch him. I don't want to be really outragous or anything, I just want to know how I should touch him.

You can put your arm around his waist, or on his back, or even casually slide your hand into his back pocket. If you two are sitting down, then you can lean into him too.

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HEy uh i love this girl but im afraid to tell her.I told her once that i liked her but she seemed to dislike me even more and all her freinds hate me.What should i do?

Sorry, but if a girl doesn't say anything back to you, it means she doesn't like you like that. If you told her you liked her, and she wasn't into that, then imagine how she'd feel if you told her you loved her. You are going to have to take the hint and let go. Sorry, but focus on someone else who won't desert you. Concentrate on other things at the moment. Don't worry, the right person will come along :)

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There's this guy at my school that I really like, I'm friends with him and everything. I've asked him out a few times but he said he'll think about it, then he ends up saying no because he thinks I'll use him to make my old boyfriend jealous. I try to tell him I won't, and he stil says no.

He's friends with pretty much everyone. He's the nicest guy ever. He's cute, and he's just...awesome. I don't get to see him that much so I can't like let him see how I act...so he doesn't know my...way of...YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN, very much. So he's like clueless to how I act. You know?

So my question is, how the heck can I just get him to like me? I mean, if he just kinda sorta likes me i'd be fine, even if we don't go out. Just help me...PWEASE.

I really wanna know how. Please help! Sorry this was so long. ^-^;

Just invite a bunch of people over to watch a movie or something and casually invite him too (make sure he's not the only boy there, that'd be awkward). You can invite your ex boyfriend over too if you are still friends and then you can flirt a little with him, or you can exclude your ex boyfriend if you two aren't friends. Anyway casually invite your crush and say he can bring some of his friends with him. Anyway, don't overflirt with him. Continue being nice to him, but distance yourself some more. Maybe your crush is not interested in you and he is giving clues i.e. saying that you are going to use him if you two become an item. Sorry sweety, this will be a tough time, but you will have to let go about it. Tell him that you just want to be friends and leave it at that. Good luck! :)

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ok theres this guy that i like and last night he asked me if i was interested..i kinda freezed and just told him that i dont talk to him that much anymore so i dont know..i mean its true but thats not what i would have liked to say if i would have thought about it! i havent been able to talk to him today because we go to different schools and he hasnt gotten online and ive been really busy today but i really need to talk to him about this..he gets hurt really easily because this has happened before but a little differently..ok so the question is..how do i tell him that i like him without sounding stupid because i pretty much lied to him the night before?

Just explain to him that you choked when he said that but you really do like him, and you're sorry for sending the wrong signals, but that you really are interested. Call him up and say it or Instant Message him if you don't want to do it in person. If you forget than write what you will say on a note (Don't sound robotic when you read it though) and practice saying it. Be confident when you say it though, because boys are attracted to confident and fun-loving girls. Good Luck! I hope I helped!

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ok, so heres the delio, i had been waitin for this guy to ask me out for 4 months, he had told a bunch of ppl he was gunna and we had been flirting and stuff, well he finally did on halloween, and i said yes , well 3 or 4 days into the relationship he gets in a fight with my friends, see hes christian and he believes no sex beofre marriage and no abortion and that kinda stuff which is what i believe too, but my friend dosnt, and so he called her a prostitue, well i stuck up for my friend, and was pretty much you dont have any right to call her that, you can tell her what she believes is wrong but thats crossing the line, and he got mad and is now ignoring me because i "took their side" over his, he has been ignoring me for the last 5 freakin days! and i have apolgized like 3 times, even though i feel like i did nothing wrong, and today i finally said we either need to fix this or break it off, because i dont want to be in a relationship where my boyfriend ignores me, even though i really really like him, but im sick of it, what should i do? should i try and work things out, or break it off with him?

Well, it's great to see how loyal of a friend you are. But your boyfriend calling her a prostitute is crossing the line. Tell him that you are not sorry at all, that your friend has her own beliefs and is entitled to them. Ignore your boyfriend back. If he comes back to you, then it's your choice to accept him back or not for insulting your girl. Remember, friends last forever, boyfriends during high school usually don't. Good luck! Turn to your friends for support and help if this is tough for you, they'll help you through it. :)

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hey! i really need help cause i dont know how to kiss :-/ I am going to a party and like i have to kiss people (haha i sound so dumb!) and i dont know how to...like how am i supposed to french if i dont know how to? lol please answer!

Okay, when you kiss somebody, you just kind of lean forward and put your mouth against that person's. Sounds simple, in a way haha. I suggest you leave your mouth a little bit open, but not really wide. Try this: Say the word "peaches", and when you reach the part where you sound out the "s" pause and look at yourself in the mirror. That's probably the best way to leave your mouth when you kiss someone, otherwise you might clank teeth. Okay, you don't have to french kiss somebody to make a kiss special, but if you wanna, here's how: Just when you are kissing someone and you feel his tongue sort of touching your lips, open you mouth a little more to pursue the idea, or keep your mouth shut if you don't. Just relax, and have fun at the party! P.S. bring mints!

P.P.S. You don't need to kiss someone to be cool. If you don't want to kiss, or if you feel uncomfortable at your age, then feel free to go unpuckered! :) Good Luck!

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I feeldumb asking this question but imma go ahead. Well okay. My bestfriend is a guy. He and i went out this summer but then we broke up. I still have feelinsg 4 him, but he's going out with one of my really close friends cuz she asked him out. Since he started going out with my friend, he's been acting weird around me. Like, one day he thought i was pissed at him, and he's like "jules r u mad at me?" and his voice was shaking and so was he. It freaked me out. And then ppl keep telling me how good of a couple we make and how much he flirts with me and how much he neva stops like touching me. Anyways idk wat 2 do. Then other day, he was whispering something 2 me during this sleep-over while we were watching the movie. i didnt get it, so i asked him 2 tell me agin and he refused to. He told me he feels bad 4 breaking up with me and that he cant live with me being mad at him. I've told him that it's okay but he just doesnt get it i guess. But now after the sleep-over things have been even more tense i guess. I don't know if he really likes his g/f, who's one of my close friends cuz they neva hang out and him and i hang out more, and we also made out once, NOT MEANING TO emotions just came running basically. I feel really horrible. I just don't know what 2 do anymore. I don't wanna hang out with him that much anymore cuz im just scared of wat will happen. Any help?

If you don't want to hang out with him anymore, then you don't have to. Just tell him that you don't think that it is fair to his girlfriend. If you still want to hang out, then you still can. But he can't control your actions; only YOU can. If he tries making a move on you tell him to stop, he'll be cheating on his girlfriend again, and you will be in the middle of it. Continue to be nice to him, and if he says that he can't live with you being mad at him, just say, "Oh, shutup! I'm not mad at you" in a jokey way.

It seems like you have mixed emotions about him. If you still have feelings, let him know in a subtle way that you are interested, and still you know, be his friend and all. But he can't make you do anything, if he does, then that is harassment. Since you said you were scared, you really shouldn't be, because it sounds like he still has feelings for you, and he would never try doing anything bad to you. :) Just don't make the first move, otherwise your friend that is also his g/f might not be that happy. Good luck sweety :) Sorry, this was a tough question, and it took me a while to think up an answer.

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I met a guy almost 5 years ago who was everything I could have ever wanted. He was perfect in every way for me...then we lost touch. We were too shy to keep in touch, but for awhile after we left each other...I can't stop thinking about how perfect it was. What do I do now?

Send him a card letting him know that you are thinking about him. E-mail him. Call him if you have his number. Arrange a casual lunch to catch up on your news with each other. Stay in touch, because you don't want to lose a loved one. Eventually you can work up the courage to tell him that you want to be in a relationship with him. Good luck hunny! If you need any more tips email or IM me!

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Okay, so I'm 14 and a female. My boyfriend broke up with me a couple weeks ago because he 'wanted to stop dating for awhile'. I pretended not to care and all this. My friends ended up getting all up in it and now he knows I still love him and he said he loved me, but I think he was lying. I still haven't directly told him I still love him because he said he didn't want to go out with anyone for awhile and I totally respect his wishes. My friends just don't get this. What should I do? Because I mean, I'd do anything to get my boyfriend back, I just don't think he's really in to me anymore.

That must be a rough time for you :( But one thing to remember: If your ex-boyfriend really wanted to cut off your love relationship, he would have told you that he didn't love you anymore, or would have said, "Let's just be friends." I think that he still loves you, but maybe he's going through a rough time, or has lots of schoolwork, or has football practice daily. Let him know that you'll always be there for him as a friend, and that you respect his wishes about his no-comittment thing for a while. Whatever you do, don't try to push back into the relationship, otherwise the outcome may not be that great. Since he broke things off, let him do the mending if necessary. :) Good luck in all you do :)

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well today in lunch my boyfriend, i duno if hes really my boyfriend, but im guessing he is cuz he told me he wass. i can't trust him AT ALL. he took my purse from me and took my cellphone and wouldn't give it back. i thought he was goin to do something to it, like break it or call people n stuff. so i turned him in, because hes like that he would do something bad to my phone, and that phone was so expensive. my friends say i did the right thing. but would u hate me? he got 3 days suspension by the way.

You did the right thing, definately. Some people, including him and his cronies, will call you a tattletale, but would you rather be called a tattletale by a few number of people, or would you rather have a pushy-jerk-boy steal your purse and cell phone, and possibly ruin both? I wouldn't hate you if I knew you. He's an asshole, he deserved those three days of suspension. Right on :]

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hey need some help..any ideas on some good song lyrics or a cute quote or saying to put in my profile under my boyfrinds name..im no good at poetry and iduno what song or quote from a site i should put..any suggestions?? thanx a bunch

Here are some:

If you were a hamburger at McDonald's you'd be McGorgeous!

Love is when you hold my hand, it lets me know that this is right, it takes away my fears because it lets me know that you are here.

**-- Love is the Can't sleep, home-run-over-the-fence, World Series kind of thing --*

*yOu ArE mY rOsE iN tHiS cOnCrEtE wOrLd*

^-In this world of bLaCk AnD wHiTe, you are my CoLoReD picture-^

((-- I wanna be the girl you call baby, the girl you call your own, the girl you hold in your arms and fall asleep with on the phone -- I wanna be the girl that makes you say, "My life has changed since I met her." --))

[ * you are like my sunshine, you make me happy when I see you * ]


Hope I helped :)

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what kind of dancing is 'frinding' liek how do u do it

i'll rate high

I'm guessing you mean grinding. It's when the dude stands behind the girl and they dance dirty. The two people, you know, sort of grind their bodies together, like, rubbing. If you still don't get it then watch Mtv, you'll learn more than enough. :)

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ok look there is this girl that i like and she is well one of my best friends i dunno it is just when i am around her i feel so loved and i mean she is really really beautiful and stuff. but tonight i was at her house for a party no occasion just a party and she looked so hot and she cuddled with me well she was cold and stuff.

but the question is how can i show her that i can be a good boyfriend and that i like her more then a friend.

thnx

Drop lots of hints. When she's sad about something, give her a warm, long hug (us girls LOVE to be held). Smile at her and look her in the eyes a lot. When she's sick or feeling sad, drop by her house with candies and a card letting her know how special of a girl she is to you (you can even sign the card Love, (your name) if you really, really want her to know). Always be kind to her, but don't follow her around, that just appears to be desperate. If you guys are really close friends, then you can even give her a peck on the cheek good-bye sometimes. If you think that she really enjoys all these hints you drop, then go up to her oneday and say, "Wanna come over Saturday night? We could have a movie marathon." When she comes over to you house, make sure it's clean and doesn't smell bad. Make some popcorn and you guys can make root beer floats together. If it's a scary movie you're watching (like The Panic Room or Darkness Falls, or something), that might actually be an advantage for you, because when girls are scared, we jump and cling onto people. So you can like, put your arm around her or hold her at scary parts. Then after that movie, watch a movie of her choice. Or, you could go to the movies together and see something like The Forgotten. But don't make her see anything she doesn't want to see. Good luck! Hope all goes well :]

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