about

My name is Melissa. I'm a sophomore, and finally SWEET 16. So, I'll be driving on January 7th. I usually go by May or Mel. In the picture is myself and my AMAZING boyfriend Kyle. He's truly my entire world & I'm not sure how I got lucky enough to get someone like him. I don't like girls. They're fake, and I just in general dislike most girls. Little known fact? There are times I hate my best friend, I mean, hate hate. She drives me insane. When I'm close friends with a girl it's a big deal. As far as best friends go; I have Kyle, who's the most amazing boyfriend in the world; Jennifer Anne Reese aka: PIECUP.. she's one of the few girls I'm close to. I'm generally a nice person, if I like you. If I don't, you'll know it.

In college I want to major in psychology; with a minor in wedding planning or some type of organizational planning type thing. I'm a planning freak. I ALWAYS have a plan, and if you don't plan stuff ahead of time, I'll probably kill you. I tend to change my plan spur of the moment a lot, but I always have one. Lol, one of those weird things about me.


I'm not that much of a "laid back" person. In general, I have my opinion, and I'm going to win. Drama = stupid. But just like every other girl on the planet, I definitely start my share of the drama. I don't like it, but it follows me like a puppy, so I'll just admit I start stuff.

I like giving advice. I've been through a lot, and I want to help people in any way I can. If you'd rather email or IM me, feel free to ask. ♥

advice

There is this guy that I really like ALOT, and me and him are constantly flirting and he is always trying to grab my hand and stuff, and he is always like i like you so much, and when i'm like jokingly like dang i'm cool and it's cause i'm so dang cute and he is like yeah you are, and he keeps telling ME, MY friends, and HIS friends that he is going to ask me out and he still hasn't. What is his problem, is he procrastinating or just teasing me please help.

:&hearts Alix

If you want him to ask you, ASK HIM! It's obvious that he likes you, so just go for it. (=
&♥; Melissa

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Well christmas is coming up and i think i know what im doing for my Girlfriend, if you have read my past questions, i'm doing this thing, i get a vase with 11 roses in it, and one glass rose in it. And a card on it that says "when the last rose dies is when i will stop loving you" Hence... a glass rose wont die. Then besides that im gonna do one of those build-a-bear things.. and a silver neckless. Sound good? anyone know a good place to get a silver neckless? like a heart emblem of what ever?

Just a suggestion, because it depends on budget and that kind of stuff, but I suggest getting her a heart locket, with her first initial engraved on the front (you can sometimes buy them with that), a picture of the two of you inside, and have something special engraved on the back. Like the date you started dating & I love you, just something simple! Good luck!
♥ Melissa

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a guy i like asked me out. he's so shy that he actually got my friend to do it. i think that's cute though. but i'm a little old fashioned and think he should make a move on me. i said yes, but today in school we went about normally like we're just friends.

i don't want to come off too strong, but i want to get him to acknowledge that we're going out. at least say it, or hold my hand or something. i think he might be a little embarassed if i went up to him and took his hand, because he's so shy.

advice please?

He should definitely do SOMETHING a little different. Just tell him that since you guys are together now, that you need to start acting more like it. It shouldn't be too bad! Good luck!
♥ Melissa

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OK what do all of you guys look for in a girl...what is more important looks or personality...or do they need to have both...what attracts you most about a girl???


thanksss

Well, I'm a girl, lol, but after asking all the guys around this class, they said it's personality, but looks DO help. It's a bonus, but it SHOULDN'T make or break the relationship. So, I guess it's more of a balance of both. (=
♥ Melissa

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I was searching through some xangas and I came across this girl that I'm not too fond of. I stopped to look at all the pictures she had thinking it might be pretty funny. I found multiple pictures of this girl, with my boyfriend on his bed. Nothing sexual, I think, but the fact I'M not even allowed in his room let alone his BED kinda ticked me off. Am I wrong to be upset that he had a girl that EVERYONE knows is basically a slut on his bed with him?

Uh, this is some GIRL on YOUR BOYFRIEND'S bed. You most definitely have a right to be mad about that simply because it's a girl on your boyfriend's bed. You have a right to be a lot more mad if you're "not allowed" in his room. Talk to him, and then if something else happens, end it. You deserve better!
♥ Melissa

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So i graduated from High School last year. And i'm in my first long term relationship. I mean of course i've said i love you and we've had sexual moments together, but i also had that with the last two...the problem is i feel different i feel like i want to give him my whole heart and let go of trying not to give him to much. I want to make things work and show him just how much i care. But in the last two relationships i got cheated on for about 4 to 6 months of our relationships so im scared...is this normal? I have been with him for 6 months!

Actually, it's NOT that normal.. I guess it's "common" but normally you don't have it happen over and over to you. Don't take what they did and let it mess up your current relationship. Good luck!
♥ Melissa

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i like this guy that my best friend dated about 2 years ago how do i tell her and make sure its okay with her with out messing up our friendship

Okay, here's what I would suggest. Bring him up in conversation. Just "Oh, so about ______. Have you talked to him lately.." And then ask if she has any feelings for him. Then just ask if she would mind you dating him. Since it was a while ago, she PROBABLY won't. Just check first. [=
Luck!
♥ Melissa

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okay well i have a bf and hes gone for about 2 weeks so i wont be able to see him and i barley get to talk to him. but the thing is wen hes not gone we dont talk (well barley anyway)) and the thing is im started to like this other guy. and i dont want to but then again i do becuz hes not shy unlike my bf and idk what to do im so confused right now. please help me.

Okay.. you need to talk to your boyfriend before you do ANYTHING else. If he's just shy, then try to get him to open up more. Just sit down and ask him why he won't talk to you, because if you're dating he should be. If he doesn't change, tell him that you don't want to be together anymore, and go for the other guy. Who knows, maybe you'll end up loving him. Or maybe one day you & your current boyfriend will get back together. But if he can't talk to you, the relationship isn't going to work. Good luck!
♥ Melissa

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Ok im kinda confused. I like to fight, i dont care if its my friends fighting or someone i dont like. But my girlfriend hates it. And recently.. she asked me if she could do her girlfriend a favor. She wants to know if i will let her, try to get her friends boyfriend to make a move on her, (in other words help her friend catch her boyfriend cheating). It's up to me to say yes or no. I could knock this guy out and everyone knows it.. but she doesnt want me to no matter what. So i have no idea.. its up to me to let her do it or not.. but i have no idea how im supose to react if he does try something with her.. HELP Any answer gets best rate.

If he does try something, you should ACT pissed. Because they're trying to catch him cheating. Meaning that nobody's SUPOSED to find out. So when it gets out and you "find out", act pissed about it.

Then again, I don't think having some guy make a move on her is that great. That decision is up to you. Good luck.
♥ Melissa

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Ok, well here is my story. Me and this guy I have known since 8th grade (10th grade now) went out for about a year. We have been "semi-dating" I guess you could say ever since we broke up, but the thing is that after we broke up we still had a relationship and I got pregnant. After he found out that I was pregnant we started to get really close again and it made me want to be with him. Both him and I know that the baby is his, there's no doubt about that. Well, today we were talking and he knows that I still would really like it if we made our dating official, like boyfriend girlfriend again. He knows that I want to be with him, and he said that we would be together. Well here is where the problem comes in, he doesn't want to make it official. To me if it isn't official then does that mean I can be with someone else? I am the type to get jealous and I think that unless we make it official I will continue to feel the way I do and its making me very depressed, what should I do? Would it be right if I just took charge and asked him out or should I just keep giving him hints that I want him to do it? HELP PLEASE

~*ConFuseD*~

If it's not official then you each can see whomever you want to see. If you want to be with him then you need to tell him what you want, then go from there.
♥ Melissa

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I have a boyfriend who is really awesome. He is a year younger than me. His name is *Michael.* My freind always flirts with him and he flirts back. What should i do?

Talk to your friend first. Boys are dumb, expecially younger ones, and girls mature faster anyways. It should be friends over boyfriends, so talk to her about it. If she doesn't change her behavior then talk to him.
♥ Melissa

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theres a guy that I really like. We havent slept together yet but I was hoping that one day we could be more than friends. Anyways I just found out from one of his friends that he spent a year in jail when he was 18, but wouldnt tell me what for. Anyways, that was a long time ago, he is in his 40's now.
He is a really nice guy and I know he would never hurt me. But I'm really curious as to why he was in jail.
Should I ask him or wait for him to tell me?

If you want to know, ask him. If it doesn't really bother you, then let him tell you in his own time. (=
♥ Melissa

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We have a school dance this week and i want to sneak my boyfriend in that goes to another school. But i dont know if he wants to go or if i will get into trouble. So should i try to sneak him in and risk going home or not even try?
Thanks

First of all, talk to your school about it. At my school, all we have to do is sign a permission slip. They have to agree to follow our school rules, and pay to get it, just like everyone else. Also, they have to be IN high school.

Talk to your school admin. and see if there's a way you can get special permission. If not, try sneaking him in like half way through? If the only consequence is going home, and there isn't anything more serious (like banned from the rest of the dances, detention, something like that..) then go for a while, so you have SOME fun, and then have him come.
♥ Melissa

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I'm 16 and I've never been in love. I'd just like to know if anyone else out there has ever been in my position, because I really feel alone. All of my friends throw around the word "love" after having a 2 hour bf/gf relationship. But, I'm scared when I'm older that I won't ever have that one person to wake up and want to be with everyday! It like scares me. Had anyone else been in my position?

First of all, it's SMART that you aren't / haven't been saying you love everybody that you like, or date. That's intelligent of you. And if you haven't been in love, don't worry! It'll come eventually, and you'll be glad that you waited to have those special feelings. Good luck!
♥ Melissa

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14/f so i've been with my boyfriend for half a year.. and umm we made out a little i guess... so we were lying on my bed...watching tv and whatnot. his hand was on my pants playing with the belt hoops and suddenly he put his hand down my pants slightly...then he went farther and i kinda jumped...and told him no so he was okay with it...soo its a couple of days later..and i'm hanging out with him... he has his arms around me from behind and then his hands drop around my stomach and lower..then he puts his hands on my legs and he moves his hands... brushing up against /there/ and then he suddenly moves his hands to my stomach again...then few minutes later he puts his hands against THERE again...and i kinda got stiff...and i told him not to do it again.. i dunno.... so im just confused. in my mind i wouldn't mind if he did it but my parents said that im too young to do anything below the neck so.. yea and thats stuck in my head so i'm just stuck in middle of wondering what to do.. so..

the next time he does that..what do I do? break up with him or seriously tell him 'NO'. yeah..

lately hes getting a little weird..or horny i guess? cuz when we hang out...he's always behind me pushing my ass into him and whatnot... or like..he pushed me up into a table and talked to people while he was between me..then he would come closer and kiss me while leaning over the table a little too much.. almost like the missionary position. yeahhhh. i dunno. i'm just..blah right now. i don't want to have sex because that ruins a relationship...if you dont get enough or if you do it too much. gah. i dunno!

Next time he does it, have a serious talk with him and tell him that's not something you're comfortable with, and if he can't stop you'll have to break up with him. That SHOULD scare him. He shouldn't be doing that if you aren't ready and don't want him to.

If that's the only problem, you SHOULD be able to fix that. It shouldn't be a problem, because he should take no for an answer. If you really don't want to break up with him you need to explain to him that you don't want to do that and you aren't ready, and he needs to back off.
♥ Melissa

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There's a girl that I've liked for about 2 months. She's just about my perfect girl, but had been going out with this guy since I met her. I gave up on her about 2 weeks ago cuz he friends said she always has really long relationships. I moved on to this other girl and her and I hit it off. I told the 2nd girl that I like her today, and she said she liked me too. But not 10 minutes after that I found out the first girl was finally single. I think I might like the first girl more, but now it's like the 2nd girl expects her and I to go out. What should I do? Which one should I pick? And how do I not make myself look like an asshole either way? I'll rate high for good answers.

If you've been waiting a long time for the first girl, you should take your chance with her while you still have it. Just tell the second girl that you can't date her right now. You might make yourself look like an ass, but it's probably worth it end the end.
♥ Melissa

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Ok, I like this guy and I am trying to figure out if he likes me. He isnt a giant flirt, but he is sweet. If I say I am cold he gives me his jacket. If he wants to talk he will come in to some of my classes during passing period to surprise me. Today before last period he waitied for me to come in to the class so we could talk and so I could give him his jacket back. But know it wasnt just for the sweater, because this teacher came out and was like "uhh, you need to get to class cuz you are going to be late. So he goes "Oh I can run a few extra laps" I love being around him and I like him so much! Please, does he like me or what?

*I rAtE hIgH*

It looks like he likes you. But nothing's definite unless THEY say it! So just ask him. Or slip a note into his jacket next time you borrow it. (= Good luck! Let me know how it turns out, pleaseeee!
♥ Melissa

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Last saturday I went on a "date" with my guy friend Jake. After we went out to eat, we sat in his car for a few minutes and just talked. I've never hugged him, or anything. But we were sitting there, and I put my head down to pick something up when he touched my hair and said, I love your hair. you look so beautiful with it. After that I was like, omgosh he's the best guy ever! Is this normal? Like just from him touching my hair and telling me I look beautiful - like I think I'm really starting to like him.

Sorry if this sounds cheesy.

I personally would say that you liked him before, obviously since you went on a date with him, lol, but with him saying that you're realizing that you like him a LOT. Just take it as a compliment, and continue spending time with him. It's always nice to be complimented once in a while. (=
♥ Melissa

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ok so i like this guy and for once a guy is taller than me hes 6 foot and im 5'8 so im thrilled anyways i have 2 classes with him and one of the classes i have lunch in and he eats with me and ill still his seat or he'll give me his cookies bc he knos i like them and he always gets to english before me on purpose bc he knows it bugs me only problem hes kinda shy and so am i thats why i think he might like me but i dunno i want him to ask me out does he like me as just a friend or is this flirting? should i give up or not? im not the kind of person to make a first move so i want him to someone please help! i just want to know what is going on if what im doing is right if i need to flirt more or whatever so yea help me somebody please! thanx bunches!

If he's shy.. you might HAVE to make the first move. He might not even know that you like him, because that's just how boys are. Good luck (=
♥ Melissa

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Do any other girls have a list of qualities that they want in a potential boyfriend? I have a list of about 20 things that I want a guy to have before I date him.
For example, he must be a non-smoker, have a good job, live on his own, be neat in appearance, have a vehicle, and no children from a previous relationship. These are just some of the things. I had one guy ask me out but because he lived with his mother and smoked I turned him down. Another guy asked me out and he had a 5 year old daughter, so I turned him down to. Some people say I being too picky, well I tell them I just have high standards.
Part of the reason for this is because my last boyfriend was a total loser. He was on welfare, he didnt have a car or a license, he was dirty, he smoked, and was financially and mentally abusive to me.
Do any other woman have high standards? And do you think I'm being too picky? Also do you think I'm scared of being hurt again so that is why I strive so high, and subconsiously I'm doing this so I won't have a boyfriend again?

You have good standards. Don't settle for anything else than you want, because you won't be happy unless you do. Just get as many of them as you can. People are entitled to a FEW imperfections. (= Good luck!
♥ Melissa

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