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Hey I'm Francesca!
I know I havent been through everything, but I have had my share, and I would be glad to help you!
Ever broken any bones? How about rules?

What are the 3 things about you that you wouldn't want me to know?
1) I fall in love too fast 2) I HATE my body 3) I hide everything I feel
What is your favorite food color?
Purple
Do you sleep thru thunders and storms?
No, i'm a very light sleeper.
Are you a dog or a cat person, or rather prefer a comodo dragon?
i love cats, but I have a dog cause i'm allergic to cats.
What is the single feature people compliment about you the most?
My legs
Are you ALSO scared of spiders?
I don't like them.
What is your biggest fear, except for spiders?
Death, afterlife.
Name your most favorite part of day?
Daytime
Ever had an imaginary friend as a child?
Yes, her name was Masa
Ever been in an accident?
I have been in a car accident.
Have you ever stolen anything from a store or from someone?
I stole lotion from my grandma...
What are your turn on's and turn offs?
on's: attractive, loves God
off's: rude, having a "big head"
Are you a morning person?
I'm a morning and a night person.
What are your most favorite and least favorite foods?
Most: sushi
Least: black olives
Name the one piece of clothing you can't live without.
A bra
Do you have tattoos or piercings? If yes, how many and where are they?
I have a tattoo down my spine that says 'you are the light of the world'
My ears are pierced twice and my cartilage is pierced and my belly button is pierced.
What is/was your least favorite subject in school?
Math
Do you take showers in the morning or at night more?
After I exercise
What are the most important 3 things in your life?
1) God 2) my family 3) my friends

advice

I'm a 13 year old girl, and the boy is 14 years old. I've dated him before and he was really really sweet but he is on the chubby side, I usually don't date chubby boys. My friends said that he was talking about how he was going to ask me out this Friday but idk. I don't want to hurt his feelings because he's like the big brother I've never had. Should I go out with him?

First off, it is extremely rude that you are judging him based on his size. He is not an item in your games, he is a real person with feelings and he doesn't deserve to be judged based on his looks, just like every one else.
If you like him then date him, if you don't like him then don't.
If you don't want to go out with him then don't but be gentle about it and try not to hurt his feelings.

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pretty much all my friends have boyfriends & i feel so alone & i wanna boyfriend. i've had things with guys but never actually had a boyfriend. what should i do?

my friend might sleepver friday & i wanna look for guys or somethin

melissa (17 female)

You can't just look for guys, it's not that simple. You have to find a guy whom you are attracted to and create a relationship with him. And I cant tell you from experience that being needy like this will not get you a boyfriend, at least a good one. Guys hate needy girls, there favorite part of a relationship is the chase, and when they finally have you they feel accomplished. If you make it easy he wont want you.
I know being alone seems terrible right now but no one cares and it doesn't matter. I know from experience that you don't need a man to complete you, and there is no reason for being needy.
Just wait for the right time when you can actually find someone worth your time and develop a relationship with him, don't force it.

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im 20 and he is 22. we have known each other for 6 years and dated on and off. we have been together now for almost a year. we live together now. as of lately though im not "lovey-dovey" i usually don't wanna cuddle or have sex or even kiss. what does this mean? i do love him, but maybe we aren't meant to be. i want to talk to him about this but im afraid he will get upset. what should i do?

I have this same situation with a guy, we are both 20. We have known each other since middle school and we have officially been together for a few years. Recently I just started feeling distant, I was attracted to him but I didn't want to kiss him or have sex anymore with him. At first I started calling him my best friend, to see if he would get the hint; he didn't. I kept avoiding his kisses and everything and eventually he got frustrated and asked why. It was really hard but I told him the truth, and I felt so much better. I was just tired of being with the same guy for so long, and trust me, he wants to know. We had planned to get married and be together forever, I thought he was the one! But now I feel so much better because I know it wasn't right in the end. The best decision is to tell the truth, explain exactly how you feel. I know it's hard to accept but I feel so much better now. It may even be that y'all just need some time apart, maybe moving out for a few months would make you miss him more and then everything would be better again! I suggest trying to distance yourself so you don't make any bad decisions and regret it later. Tell him how you feel!
Good luck.

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I'm a 13 yet old girl, and I want to try flirting very subtly but still have it sound cute or something with another girl. Last night I sent her a pic of a really adorable seal and said "this seal is so cute!!! It reminds me of you! ;)" but I can't think of any other ones. Can somebody please give me some options? Thank you!! :)

I agree with the other answer.
Flirting should not be something you plan, it should just come naturally! It is cute that you found a picture you liked and sent it to her, that was a good idea! But just say what comes to you in the moment, what you are feeling! I think she would appreciate it more!
Good luck!

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i like in chicago illinois & i was wondering where i can go to meet guys... that AREN'T pervs

im a senior in high school (17, female)

Most guys your age all have sex on their mind. I suggest not looking for older men, because they will want to take advantage of a younger girl like you. It might seem like every boy just wants sex but there are a few out there that are good, you just have to look. Don't go looking for boys at parties and bars and places like that because good guys will not be there! Look for boys at coffee shops and the park and library.

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Hey im a 15 year old boy from London.my family go away on holiday with 3 other families every year.i get along well with a girl my age in one of the families.i just broke up with my girlfriend cus she had kissed another guy and this friend was really there to help me.shes decent looking and fun to be around,so i am thinking of startin something with her or at least trying to,BUT if things dont work out(which they usually dont at 15) everything will be very awkward.also if our families find out it would be very embarrassing.i cant stop thinking about her so any advice would be appreciated!i just feel lonely since i broke up with my girlfriend and it would be nice to feel wanted by another girl:)

So you are basically looking for a rebound.
Just because of the situation you are in, since your families see each other 3 times a year, I don't think it would be a very good idea to try and date her. Especially since it doesn't seem like you actually even like her, you just want somewhere there.
Why don't you keep her as a good friend and try and find someone else to date, i'm sure there are plenty other girls your age desperate for a boyfriend.
Don't jump the gun with this girl just because you feel lonely.

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Hi, I'm a teenage girl. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 10 months. I really like him and I have so much I'd like to share with him but I'm really shy around him. I really want to loosen up and be myself around him and his friends. How can I stop being so shy around my him and his friends?

being shy usually means you aren't comfortable around someone, so you need to tell yourself that no one is judging you and it's okay to be silly and stuff. No one cares if you say something stupid or out of place, just adding to the conversation is good.
Don't think about what other people are thinking of you! It only matters what you think of yourself. Just try and relax and say what comes.

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how do i get a boyfriend who might not like me

I'm guessing you meant to say you want a boy to like you, so you can have a boyfriend.
Well I don't know how old you are or anything but if you are 21+, go to a bar with some friends and find someone.
You could also go hangout somewhere public, like a coffee shop or a populated park, you might meet someone.
If you are in school then start talking to someone, eventually you could trade numbers.
To get a boyfriend you need to be talkative and friendly, just try opening up and chatting with random people, always be nice and smile!
Guys don't like girls who they know they can easily get, they LOVE to chase after you, so don't be too easy.

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Okay 21/F and he's a 23/M. I met him a couple of times and we've been out drinking together. I wanna hit it and quit it but I've been out of the game for a hot minute. I chatted with him at the bar and he told me i looked good. He came over to my house the other night and we were talking about the night before and what we remembered because I had some holes in my memory. He said "yeah we hooked up last night. I got to see you naked, I guess it was a sign of things to come" (and we didn't hook up, he was just joking around) but my question is, do you think he wants to get with me? And what should I do besides straight up grabbing his penis to let him know I'm down?

Yeah he definitely wants to hook up. If you like him then start hard core flirting with him! touch him and say he is silly and get really close. When y'all are alone get your faces really close to each other and stare into his eyes and I am positive someone will lean in for a kiss, and then take it from there! Keep kissing him and then make out, etc. But no, do not just grab his penis.

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Ok my boyfriend stayed at my house. Hes 22 Android in 20 the started kissing me. Then started taking my closes off. The took off his closes then stared putting his dick in smokies pussy. Its been a month i took a home pregraunt test, Android it came postive. What do i do????:(

Tell him.

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I like this girl, and ill be really happy if we were together. We sometimes hug, and sometimes we make eye contact and just tease each other by showing our tongue. But i still dont think she likes me, i know if i ask her out she'll reject me. I have already been rejected and it doesnt feel good, but i really want her. And other people say that she plays with her hair or her jewelry if she likes you, but she doesnt! please help tell me what to do, tell me if she likes me or not!!

Well you didn't give very much information. Is she the player type that flirts with lots of guys at a time, has she had a lot of boyfriends? She could just like the attention you give her so she acts flirty towards you when she doesn't like you.
If she is more of the shy type that hasn't had many boyfriends and isn't much of a social butterfly I would say she definitely likes you. Girls give very subtle hints, such as the ones you described, and they assume that all boys understand them.
if you like her there is no reason in hiding it. Yes rejection sucks but what do you have to lose? If she says no then you will be sad for a few days then get over it and move on to someone new, but right now you are wasting your time and energy on this girl. so you need to stop playing around and just ask her. And if she says she liked you then thats awesome!
Don't keep wasting all your time on her if you don't even know if she likes you yet!

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okay some and my boyfriend just recently broke up because we realized we were really different. We do love each other and we already do miss each other.I have had a lot of time to think and i think that we cn make it work even though we are different. Can i make it work?

None of us know anything about you and your Ex's relationship, so we can't tell you anything about that.
But I can give some insight on if opposites attract. I personally am attracted to people who are opposite me; right now I am dating a 'skater' type boy, and I am definitely not that type. I think it depends on how opposite you are as well. I know I wouldn't be able to get along with someone who hated everything I liked, you need to have at least something in common.
If you still like your ex then tell him, there is no reason not to.

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F/17
I was with my boyfriend for 6 months when our relationship went down hill, I started to feel as though he was drifting away from me. He would never put the effort in to seeing me as much as he used to, he would hardly text me and I'd open up about it and say, look I don't like how you're behaving, he would tell me to stop moaning and being a bitch, he would never understand where I'm coming from and he made it out to be my fault that he was drifting and acting not interested, he would say that "you're pushing me away with your constant moaning" but I had to tell him how I was feeling, we got back on track for about a month, all I did was make effort, I texted him as soon as I got up in the morning, he never would text me first, I made effort in seeing him, making plans, keep the conversation going and he seemed really not interested, once again. So the other day, I told him that he's taking me for granted, I told him how he's making me feel, by all means I can't be the one putting the effort it. He never texted back all day, until night (I sent it in the morning) it's obvious he checked his phone. He replied saying "why do you send such long messages" ok so now I'm stuck in between what to do, I know this isn't him, he's not the person he used to be, what am I supposed to do? I told him "what's the point anymore? Move on. Take care" and he replied with "you take care too" Wow? He never even fought for me, he never turned around and said "no, I love you" I know I'm only young, but I have never felt like this for any boy before, he's blocked me on facebook also, and when I asked him to unblock me, he wouldn't. What's going on? Does he even care anymore? Please someone help me with this situation. Thank you, I'd really appreciate it.

The best explanation I can give for his behavior is that he is a very immature teenage boy. I have been through all of this, and the reason he acts this way is because he doesn't care. He thinks there are so many more important things in his life besides you. I'm sure he felt extremely suffocated and overwhelmed when you texted him every day and tried to talk to him about your problems; and by doing that you got rid of the chase, he knew he already had you in his grasp and he didn't even have to try anymore. Guys LOVE the chase, it is their favorite part; if they know a girl doesn't isn't interested in them it just makes the girl more appealing. I'm sure at the beginning of y'all relationship it was exciting and fun, but he probably just got used to it and wants something new.
I'm really sorry about that! But don't worry, boys get better as they age!

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If a man cheats on his wife wiht the same woman for 4 years, hangs or with her occasionally, calls her, texts her, etc.(and tries to hide it), does that mean he has feelings for her? If so why does he stay married?

Of course he has feelings for her, people don't keep long term relationships if they don't like the person. This does not mean that he doesn't like the wife though; he could like both women. He might stay married because he likes the security of being married and in a stable relationship.

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So about a year ago I asked out this guy that I worked with, at the time I was 20 and he was 26. He flirted with me all the time at work so i thought he might have liked me too. So I told him I liked him and asked him if he wanted to go out sometime, but he said no.

I asked him why and he said that he thought I was to young for him. I'm not sure if that was the only reason but that's what he told me.

My friend that worked with us talked to him about it a couple times. The first time she told him I liked him and he said He knew but he thinks I'm to young. Then probably like 6 months after that they talked again. She told him I still liked him, and he said to her I know, I probably should have said yes.

That gave me hope again, now I no longer work with him and I turned 21 so it sounds a little better than 20. It's been a year, do you think I should ask again? And what would I say?

I feel like I have nothing to loose, but on the other hand you would think he would have asked me out if he changed his mind. I miss him and I don't know what to do.

Let me know what you think? Should I go for it and what do I say to him
Thanks!

If you don't think it is awkward if he says no, than I say go for it, yeah rejection sucks but you wont know if you don't do it!
He might have said you are too young for him because your probably still in college and he isn't, y'all are in two separate places in your lives, but hey you can still try!
if i were you I would talk to him and be like, so have you changed your mind about me yet? just keep it playful and not too serious, don't hound him with the question. And don't get your friends to do your dirty work by the way it just shows immaturity! If you want to know why he said no than ask him, have a good adult conversation!!
Best of luck!

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I'm 11, and I already say I love you to my boyfriend.
We haven't kissed, and we've been close friends for a year before we started dating. We've been dating a month now, and we say 'I love you.' all the time.

Is that bad?

If you honestly feel like you love him than no that is not bad. there is no age that you are supposed to say i love you, there is no time or anything it is just when you feel it!

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I am thirteen. I like this girl, and I asked her if she loved me. She said she like-likes me. Take note this is not the same. She is an amazing person and she is one of a kind. I don't want to lose her, but I'm so reved up about sex, I can't help but masturbate. Should I stop? I need some real girl advice. Also, someone who can support male masturbation please pitch in.

hey!
you are definitely too young at 13 to be wanting to have sex so i think it is a great way to release that by masturbating. it will probably be awhile till girls start wanting to have sex too so your gonna have to wait a long time!
masturbating is a completely normal and healthy thing to do especially at your age. don't feel bad or ashamed about it at all. it definitely isn't something you should be promoting about yourself but don't worry about it. maybe you wont think about sex so much?
the only thing you need to worry about is getting addicted, i think your too young now for that to be an issue but if masturbating becomes something you physically can not live with out than you need to talk to someone about that.

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I'll try to make some sense out of this, My ex who I just broke up with was the third girl that I've dated. She has a tendency of being needy and clingy and I had a problem with that. I told her about this and it offended her and we would try to work it out and it would stop for a little while but didn't last long. She was looking for a person who she can spend the rest of her life with. I on the other hand am looking to just date and see how dating goes. I want to get married, but I'm not ready to yet. She just wants a guy who she can spend the rest of her life with. I want to ask you this. When you are in a relationship, are you committed to that person? I told her that I was never committed because I hadn't dated her long which I'm not sure of whether it's right or not. I haven't had much experience with the dating game so when an issue comes up, I don't know how to react to it at times. Also, every couple of weeks or so, she would tell me that I don't deserve to date her because of her past. She's been in abusive relationships and I haven't had to deal with any of that which made it hard. Since the breakup, we are trying to stay as just friends. Even after the breakup, she still wants me to talk to her a bit and I do have an issue with it sometimes. When I told her that I was committed to her when I really wasn't, it really angered her.

Okay that makes more since.
The point of dating is to find out what kind of people you like, how you mesh with other personalities. Dating is not necessarily used to get married, especially when you are young. So I definitely agree with you when you say you aren't committed to her, you shouldn't be! Your just trying to figure out what kind of people you like, your not looking for long term relationships with marriage in the future. You should tell her that. Tell her you are just experimenting with girls and finding out who you like and don't like and your not looking for long-term or marriage or anything like that because you two obviously have different views on dating. But don't worry you are definitely doing the right thing.
And honestly she might be bringing her past up to get attention or to get sympathy. Yes she might deserve some sympathy but her saying that stuff is just awkward. You should tell her you don't like it when she brings up her past. Just don't lie, always try your best to tell her the 100% truth about how you feel.

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okay so i know this is stupid of me to ask but i feel like when i ask people i know i don't get an honest answer. im 5'2 i have light blonde hair that ends right at my boobs its usually curled or in beach waves im a 34DD in a bra i have light blue eyes i usually half to get like a size 8 in dresses since my boobs are so big and have the dress made smaller in the waist i definitely have curves and a butt my waist is smaller and i have big thighs i get really nervous and awkward when i half to get in a bathing suit because i have 2 scars on my stomach. i get told im pretty all the time but i just can't bring myself to believe it i also hate going places because i feel like everywhere i go im being judged

Guys definitely think you are pretty, whether you like it or not.
You shouldn't be asking if society likes what toy look like, it should be good enough if you think your pretty or not, don't worry about what we think. But yes you sound pretty.

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We dated twice, both times didn't work out. We both have autism and it seemed like she wanted me to talk to her every possible chance I had and for hours on end. Often we didn't have stuff to talk about and when we didn't, it kind of upset her. She would often do stuff that I didn't know what to do in terms of what to say or things like that.

So I don't really understand what you question is, do you like her and you want to be with her or you want her out of your life?
If you like her still and want to be with her than I suggest telling her what you just told me. Tell her you need more space, and that it's okay that y'all don't always have stuff to talk about because you are still getting to know each other. Tell her the stuff you didn't understand, the things she said, and tell her it made you uncomfortable. Communication is key in relationships.

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