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I'll try to make some sense out of this, My ex who I just broke up with was the third girl that I've dated. She has a tendency of being needy and clingy and I had a problem with that. I told her about this and it offended her and we would try to work it out and it would stop for a little while but didn't last long. She was looking for a person who she can spend the rest of her life with. I on the other hand am looking to just date and see how dating goes. I want to get married, but I'm not ready to yet. She just wants a guy who she can spend the rest of her life with. I want to ask you this. When you are in a relationship, are you committed to that person? I told her that I was never committed because I hadn't dated her long which I'm not sure of whether it's right or not. I haven't had much experience with the dating game so when an issue comes up, I don't know how to react to it at times. Also, every couple of weeks or so, she would tell me that I don't deserve to date her because of her past. She's been in abusive relationships and I haven't had to deal with any of that which made it hard. Since the breakup, we are trying to stay as just friends. Even after the breakup, she still wants me to talk to her a bit and I do have an issue with it sometimes. When I told her that I was committed to her when I really wasn't, it really angered her.
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Okay that makes more since.
The point of dating is to find out what kind of people you like, how you mesh with other personalities. Dating is not necessarily used to get married, especially when you are young. So I definitely agree with you when you say you aren't committed to her, you shouldn't be! Your just trying to figure out what kind of people you like, your not looking for long term relationships with marriage in the future. You should tell her that. Tell her you are just experimenting with girls and finding out who you like and don't like and your not looking for long-term or marriage or anything like that because you two obviously have different views on dating. But don't worry you are definitely doing the right thing.
And honestly she might be bringing her past up to get attention or to get sympathy. Yes she might deserve some sympathy but her saying that stuff is just awkward. You should tell her you don't like it when she brings up her past. Just don't lie, always try your best to tell her the 100% truth about how you feel.
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