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Idk if I should masturbate!
I am thirteen. I like this girl, and I asked her if she loved me. She said she like-likes me. Take note this is not the same. She is an amazing person and she is one of a kind. I don't want to lose her, but I'm so reved up about sex, I can't help but masturbate. Should I stop? I need some real girl advice. Also, someone who can support male masturbation please pitch in.
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Masturbation is normal and at your age better than going out and having sex, you are hitting puberty and that is what happens, your hormones are at a peak and it is the age you should start exploring your body and sexuality. most people start around that age masturbating and you will most likely never stop. Even when you get married you will still do it when your wife is away or with your wife.. you might ask your parents to explain masturbation and sex to you. they will explain it's normal and women do it too.
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you are definitely too young at 13 to be wanting to have sex so i think it is a great way to release that by masturbating. it will probably be awhile till girls start wanting to have sex too so your gonna have to wait a long time!
masturbating is a completely normal and healthy thing to do especially at your age. don't feel bad or ashamed about it at all. it definitely isn't something you should be promoting about yourself but don't worry about it. maybe you wont think about sex so much?
the only thing you need to worry about is getting addicted, i think your too young now for that to be an issue but if masturbating becomes something you physically can not live with out than you need to talk to someone about that.
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Contrary to what parents, teachers or clergy may tell you; there is nothing wrong with masturbation. According to a recent survey, which happened to be published in a catholic magazine, 85 % of us masturbate. This would include people shuch as your parents and teachers.
Masturbation is normal, for boys and girls. It is also something that is done as part of foreplay to sex although then it is generally refereed to as mutual masturbation as one partner masturbates the other. A hand-job and fingering is masturbating; just called by other names. Most organized religions while not condoning the practice do not condemn it either. It is not recognized as a sin.
The only reason I can think of for we parents to make an issue of it is; that it feels good and leads to wanting to have sex. Actually masturbation is an alternative to sex that allows you to relieve all the sexual tension brought on by the hormones produced by puberty.
It might be better for parents to encourage their children to masturbate rather than discourage or condemn it. I don't think we will see this happening anytime soon.
It is normal to masturbate as long as masturbation does not become an all consuming occupation to the extent you do nothing else. Even if you need to masturbate, jerk off as your friends my say, 3 to 4 times a day to relieve your sexual tension. This is way better than pressuring a young girl into doing something she is not ready for.
As for love. Most males your age confuse love and lust. Girls know this instinctively. The fact that she says she likes you is a plus. Don't pressure her to say she loves you or to have any type of sexual activity with you. When she is ready she will let you know.
It starts with a kiss, then a hand job, then allowing you to feel here in certain places and maybe letting you finger her. Just don't rush her. If you really like her take your time, you are both to young to be playing around sexually and need time to grow and mature first. Doing so as a couple. This can be not only be fun it is also a great way to learn from each other.
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