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Should I ask him out.
So about a year ago I asked out this guy that I worked with, at the time I was 20 and he was 26. He flirted with me all the time at work so i thought he might have liked me too. So I told him I liked him and asked him if he wanted to go out sometime, but he said no.
I asked him why and he said that he thought I was to young for him. I'm not sure if that was the only reason but that's what he told me.
My friend that worked with us talked to him about it a couple times. The first time she told him I liked him and he said He knew but he thinks I'm to young. Then probably like 6 months after that they talked again. She told him I still liked him, and he said to her I know, I probably should have said yes.
That gave me hope again, now I no longer work with him and I turned 21 so it sounds a little better than 20. It's been a year, do you think I should ask again? And what would I say?
I feel like I have nothing to loose, but on the other hand you would think he would have asked me out if he changed his mind. I miss him and I don't know what to do.
Let me know what you think? Should I go for it and what do I say to him
Thanks!
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As you get older, the same amount of age gap come to mean less and less...
You're 21... that's a really fun time in life... 27 (28 now that it's a year later) is getting closer to that time in life where you don't want to party anymore. You want to get serious and settle down and do all that family planning and things.
I don't see harm in you asking him out again. I don't think you should qualify it with a "you should go out with me now because..." you should just ask if you're going to ask. If he still says no, though... don't be hurt. It's not personal.
21 is a great age, but it's still young... and people are going to treat you like you're young. It's just a thing. Because you're young. No matter what... just go have some fun. You have the rest of your life to figure out that love business.
PS I'm 24... and I wouldn't date a 21 yr old... you will not BELIEVE how much you change in that amount of time.
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If you don't think it is awkward if he says no, than I say go for it, yeah rejection sucks but you wont know if you don't do it!
He might have said you are too young for him because your probably still in college and he isn't, y'all are in two separate places in your lives, but hey you can still try!
if i were you I would talk to him and be like, so have you changed your mind about me yet? just keep it playful and not too serious, don't hound him with the question. And don't get your friends to do your dirty work by the way it just shows immaturity! If you want to know why he said no than ask him, have a good adult conversation!!
Best of luck!
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I'd say go for it. Too many girls wait around for the guy to ask. And guys can be just as shy or embarrassed as girls when asking someone out. If he says no, at least you'll know how he feels about you and can move on. It's better than missing out on opportunities. I would just tell him the truth. Tell him you like him and want to go out to get to know each other.
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