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am i pretty ?
okay so i know this is stupid of me to ask but i feel like when i ask people i know i don't get an honest answer. im 5'2 i have light blonde hair that ends right at my boobs its usually curled or in beach waves im a 34DD in a bra i have light blue eyes i usually half to get like a size 8 in dresses since my boobs are so big and have the dress made smaller in the waist i definitely have curves and a butt my waist is smaller and i have big thighs i get really nervous and awkward when i half to get in a bathing suit because i have 2 scars on my stomach. i get told im pretty all the time but i just can't bring myself to believe it i also hate going places because i feel like everywhere i go im being judged
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hey don't let people judge you if you think you are pretty then you are
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You sound gorgeous. Dont let anyone bring you down! Your human! Everyone has flaws! It doesnt matter about your body shape, because honestly, people with curves is alot prettier than someone who is a stick and doesnt eat to be skinny. Everyone is beautiful!
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you sound stunning,and dont worry about your scars,no matter whatyre from
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From the description you sound a bit of a BABE. Curves are in, the super-skinny and pale 'heroin-chic' look's so yesterday (I always thought it was in poor taste anyway). Don't worry. You don't mention age. Teens? Feeling like everyone's looking at you and judging you is part of the kit, it feels less intense as you get older. Already a bit older? Sort out the self-esteem, that has the same effect, that is 'everyone's watching me, looking to fault me'. A petite, long haired, tiny waisted, busty young lady shouldn't really have too many self-image worries! Couple of scars...well you're concious of them. Tell you what...it wouldn't worry me, or any other bloke either. What a blokee finds pretty/attractive/sexy is the sort of 'complete package'. The overall effect if you like. Plenty of girls would love to be able to describe themselves like you just have.
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There's actually two issues to deal with here and not one. I'll tackle the being judged part first. Try and think really, really hard back to when that feeling of being constantly judged kicked in and who and or what first triggered it.
Next, tell yourself that these feelings aren't your normal way of thinking. It could in fact be depression or something else sending those constant negative, untrue thoughts about you through your brain.
It would be a great thing if you actually told your parents how you feel. Ask them to discuss this with your doctor and teachers and find support and a professional to talk to to put them behind you.
Hopefully you will see that more people like you than you ever thought did. But yes it could be a medical thing making you think like that.
As far as being pretty goes... It's really you that you need to be concerned with and your opinion of self and acceptance of your own body as being beautiful that needs to trump whatever someone else may think. You can't control what anyone else thinks at all. If you like how you look than that's key. You're fine.
You never mentioned how you got the scars on your stomach. I'm assuming an accident or surgical scars. If I were you I would wear whatever swimsuit you wanted scars or not. I promise you nobody at the pool will be concerned about them. Most people at the pool are probably hoping you don't notice their thighs, acne, beer gut etc. Just have fun at the pool.
If any idiot starred or asked how it happened make a joke about "battle scars" or "wrestling gators." or whatever as the moment you show you have a self-deprecating humor about it nobody will be thinking about it.
I actually challenge you to go to an indoor public pool at a community center this week and see if I'm wrong. Drop me a note as I KNOW there's no reason to be concerned or not to wear the suit you want. All that matters is how you view yourself and having fun.
I understand that it must be hard to be 5 ft 2 and have developed in the fashion you have to have adult curves, bust etc. as an adolescent. Boys can be awful. If this bothers you try talking to your mom about it and your doctor about self-image. Let me know how you fare. But definitely get to work on learning to accept yourself as you'll feel a ton better once you start talking to people about this rather than keeping it inside.
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Try not to focus on what you look like. I would stop worrying about how you physically look, and take confidence in who you are. Don't worry about it, you're beautiful, and don't doubt it. It's a teen thing, and I'm going through it all as well, and it'll all pass one day. Take confidence in who you are. Forget the measurements. You're beautiful.
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Guys definitely think you are pretty, whether you like it or not.
You shouldn't be asking if society likes what toy look like, it should be good enough if you think your pretty or not, don't worry about what we think. But yes you sound pretty.
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