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So my girlfriend and I have been dating for 10 months now.

We hangout alot and we use to talk on the phone every night but now the last couple of months the talking on the phone has stopped. We still hangout alot.

but when we don't hangout we barely talk. We use to text alot and use to text to eachothe very good. But now it's like she isn't interested in talking to me. We are both 17, she pretty much just one words me or says 2 words but doesn't participate in the convo.

The other day she said our conversations get old, because i always ask the same thing. She never tries to start a conversation with me and she never asks questions or anything. But when I do see her other messages to other people she is more involved with them and participates better. I

What can i do to improve our texting?

It makes me feel bad and makes me feel unwanted. She has the attitude of she gets what she wants and she doesn't care. If it doesn't go her way she usually just ignores me which just hurts me more.

I don't think your problem is being "bad" at texting. I think your girlfriend is just starting to get bored which happens a lot in relationships that have lasted as long as yours. Doesn't mean she likes you any less.

However, you do have a right to feel the way you do. The best thing you can do to help both parties is to simply talk to her about it.

Start with: "I realize that we have been together a long time and I sometimes overuse topics, but sometimes it's nice just to hear from you when I'm not with you because I think about you a lot when I'm away." That way she feels special because you miss her and you will more than likely get more texts :)

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Hi. 25/f, here. I'm confused. Like, very. I'm about to go into a graduate program for clinical psychology and I can't figure this out. I need another (few) sets of intelligent eyes on this situation to help me.

So, my boyfriend and I broke up a couple days ago. Prior to all that, we were on a break, and a friend of his made it all but stupidly obvious that he has a thing for me. I've known it for quite awhile, thanks to a couple we're-the-only-people-awake-this-ridiculously-late style conversations, including his being very supportive while I was losing my mind about my then boyfriend and his immaturity issues. I was honestly hoping it would all remain platonic and it'd be fine. I was hoping my - well, now my ex - boyfriend and I would get back together and this guy would scooch out of the picture, respecting his friend and knowing that I would never do something so disrespectful as cheating.
Buuut we broke up instead.
Now I'm confused, because on some level I think I'm attracted to this guy. He's nowhere near my "type," but he's intelligent, he's interested in me and my life, he's independent, and... I don't know. Loathe as I am to admit it, I don't think I could ever be sexually attracted to a heavier guy. I work hard on my body, running is a big part of my life, and I don't know if I could deal with someone who doesn't match me in that sense.
But really - am I just rebounding? Should I even consider this as a possibility?
My life is ridiculous...

More so than not, I root for the underdog. But, as in putting myself in your shoes, it seems to me like a rebound. Usually the rule I have is if you wouldn't/couldn't brag about them(looks included) to your bestfriend, then he's probably a rebound. And if you have to ASK yourself if he's a rebound, then he probably is. I could be wrong, it wouldn't be the first time, but from the outside looking in, that's the way it seems.

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Im 15, female single for around a year now and i just am an awkward person. all i want is a boyfriend, there are a couple of guys i think are hot and i would love to talk to them more but i just dont know how. one is in my spanish class and is my friends cousin and she told me she would talk to him, let him know about this partner dance them poms team im on is doing but i dont know if i should strike up a conversation in spanish class or what?! help please this is driving me nuts!

Talk to him!!!!! If you're feeling a little awkward just start small!

For example, one day ask him to borrow a pencil or anything for that matter. Then the next day talk to him again thanking him for letting you borrow it and maybe make up some story about how you had to ask someone in every class for a pencil and how you felt silly doing it. Just to get the convo going.

OR ask him a Spanish related question. Such as how to pronounce something or what the homework was.

Pretty soon you'll be talking to him casually like its no big deal and then you can build a friendship which will hopefully lead to more!

If you don't talk to him you might regret it! What's the worse that could happen?! Give it a go!

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Hi im 15 and mostly talk to a group of 3 girls every night on facebook..our conversations are quite short lived becus it will usually be 'wat u doing?' then they ask me and i might ask them something about school..im always the one who keeps the conversations going but am also boring them with the same questions! Does anyone have any advice on conversation.i also really like one of them but i think i am boring her is there any way of flirting without telling her how i feel until i think she feels the same:) all help appreciated

The best way to be a great conversationalist is to ask lots of questions about the other person. Here's a link to a ton of random questions that you can squeeze into the convo to make it more entertaining :)

http://www.futurescopes.com/romantic-ideas/597/102-questions-ask-your-boyfriends-or-girlfriends

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My boyfriend and I have been living together for 3 months. We have been dating 9 months. My boyfriend goes to church twice a week. He reads the bible. He visits his parents twice a week. He also has a bachelors degree and a good job. He is 26 and I am 21.

I found out I was pregnant in October, a month after we moved into an apartment together. (We have never used a condom and he knows I am not on birth control.) I found out he still has not told his parents about the pregnancy and he does not bring me to his parents when he goes to visit. He told me he wanted me to get an abortion but he never offered to pay for it or take me. (I don't want an abortion anyway.) He brought up marriage briefly twice, when he was drunk. He doesn't remember. He has been going out drinking with his coworkers and coming home at 3 AM on weekends, and he never used to do that. Since I told him I was pregnant, he hasn't felt the need to take me out to dinner or bring a pizza home, and we used to have a date night once a week. Its been about 3 months since he took me out. He spends about 3-4 days of the week sleeping here. We don't even go for walks to the park or the swap meet in our town anymore.

I don't think we are too young for marriage and we can financially afford a baby, but he still probably thinks his life will be ruined. My thinking is, he should have put a condom on if he didn't want a baby.

Should I ask him if he is going to marry me? We are Christians and I want marriage before this baby comes. I don't need a wedding, a private ceremony at a courthouse is fine with me. Having a baby will be hard to do alone, but I will sue him for child support if he leaves me. It's only fair. I did not become pregnant by MYSELF and I should not have to raise it myself but if I do have to raise it myself, I will need the extra income from him. Also, when should I tell his parents? I already told my boyfriends that if he does not tell them, that I will pick up the phone and tell them. I know it is not my place to tell HIS parents, but I said that to scare him 2 weeks ago, and he has not told them still. I think they deserve to know that their oldest son is having a child. I know that they would want to be in the child's life as because my boyfriend said his mom mentioned she wants to be a grandmother. What the heck do I do?!

I was in almost an identical situation nine months ago(my daughter is now 2 months old and I am almost 21).

You have every right and then some to be angry at your bf. the best way to approach this is to have a serious conversation about why you're upset and what you expect out of him. Being up the fact that getting an abortion goes against everything he says he believes in and if he wants to be the Christian man he's making himself out to be, then he needs to man up and take care of his child.

Make sure you add in how much you care about him and how much it's hurting you to be treated like you and your unborn child come second to his partying or whatever he's doing when he's not home with you. Also ask him whaaat he expect of you so nothing is confused and you know where you stand.

As far as telling his parents goes, you may regret telling them in the future. They may talk him into staying with you and raising your baby with you but at the same time you may forever wonder if he's ONLY with you because his parents told him to be. That can put a lot of strain on a relationship and your self esteem. Let me know if you need any advice on pregnancy or anything else!

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this might sound weird. but is it okay to make out with your best guy friend? because i read a lot of stories on yahoo answers about people that make out with their best friends but they arent going out. I want to do that with my best guy friend. so maybe if we do that. we might become bf/gf. unless it is wrong to do. but if its okay how would i start it?
please help. than you in advance.

I don't think it's wrong at all! But it really depends on if YOU think it's strange. Because if you're feeling weird about it, chances are, if you ask him about it, he may feel the same way. However, in all honesty, boys are pigs lol, so I think he'll be okay with you two having a little fun. To start it off I would say something like "So, *insert name*, would you ever consider having a totally random make-out session with me?...just for fun?" you can say this in a more serious way if you like, but I think it would be kind of cute and flirty if you said it like that.

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So my boyfriend was at an event thing where they had a dance, and he ended up slow dancing and dirty dancing with girls. Do I have the right to not like that, or am I crazy?

ABSOLUTELY!!!! You have every right to be upset. If I were you, I would talk to him about it before you explode though. Tell him that you aren't comfortable with girls grinding up on him, especially if you don't know these girls. Tell him you are not sure what his intentions were but he really hurt you by disrespecting you in that way.

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I am a 15 year old guy who's just finishing grade 10. I spend all my time making short and feature length movies mainly by myself and some of the time with my friends. Also I listen to alot of metal and instrumental techno music. I read books about the occult and death, along with really funny comic collections. I have never had a serious relationship, and I would really love to have one. I find it easy to become close to girls in a friendship way, so they trust me with anything but if I tell them I like them (which I have!) they get kinda awkward and won't want to go out with me. I know I'm not the best looking guy around, I'm very skinny, tall, glasses, and I have long hair because I love metal music, but I still think that if someone gave me a chance they might actually be pretty happy. Any advice for me to get a girlfriend?

I'd like to start off by saying the number one important thing is to stay true to yourself. Don't change who you are because you want a girlfriend. That will just lead into problems. What I suggest is trying to meet a girl who enjoys things that you do. For instance, you said you like heavy metal, so you could probably find a nice girl who ALSO enjoys metal at a concert. Or maybe you could go to a midnight production of a movie you'd like to see, or an opening for a new book. You could even go to a comic book convention. Try surrounding yourself with girls with the same interests as you. :)I wish you all the luck in the world.

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I've been in a long distance relationship for 9 months. We're recently broken up, and I showed my boyfriend fake pictures, and only JUST showed him my actual self a few days ago. I was terrified to tell him, but he actually took it MUCH better than I thought he would. He was a little upset at what I did, but said he still loved me, and if I 'work with him a little bit' by showing him more pics of my real self & maybe getting a webcam, then we could get back together.

We both have strong feelings for eachother, & I (stupidly) ended the relationship because I knew I could never meet him since I sent fake pics. But now, he knows what I really look like, and accepted me, so a relationship is possible again.

This is my only problem. I've only showed him shoulders up pics of me. I'm not fat..but curvy. He's a tall, lanky guy, VERY skinny, he only weighs 120 lbs! But, I weigh more than that, & I'm scared to show him pics of my whole body. He's been asking for 'bikini'/full body pics & for me to get a webcam, but I honestly don't have any bikini pics, because I hate my body. I think it's too curvy, and it's my #1 insecurity.

Anyway, I do love him, & I realize if he can get over me faking pics, & he does like my face..then can my body really be a cause for him to stop loving me? I'm just scared he'll be unattracted to me, and won't want to tell me because he's too nice.

Basically what I'm asking is: 1. How should I go about showing him pics of my full body? Just send him a bunch then say I have to leave quickly? (I don't want to be there when he sees them, hahah) 2. Should I get a webcam if he accepts the pics the way they are? It's not really like I'd be showing my body on there anyway, he'd really only see my face. Thank you.

Okay dear, this is how I see it..I think you SHOULD send him a full body shot of you. I mean, you'll have to do it eventually if you're going to keep a relationship with him. And even if he DOESN'T like your pictures, then he's a jerk and you don't want to waste your time with this guy anyway. But I doubt that would happen because he must think you're someone really special if he forgave you for sending him fake pictures. :). But to answer your most specific questions..

1. I would send him a few pictures and wait for his reply. Because if you just run away, then you're going to spend the rest of your night wondering what he's thinking and if he liked it, and so on and so forth. Like I said before, it's going to happen sooner or later, why not do it now?

2. If he accepts, and YOU want a web-cam, then go for it. Like you said, you'll only really be showing your face.

p.s. be sure not to let this guy take advantage of you. If you don't feel comfortable doing something, don't do it. :D Keep a good head of your shoulders.

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Hey, i need help on flirting!!! how do i make myself more comfortable around guys and how should i flirt with them 2 make (him) like me more??!?!!?

Thanksssss :)))))))

Present yourself well to your utmost ability. Get a realllly cute outfit that you feel good in(b/c let's face it, that makes EVERYONE most confident). Also, play with your hair while your flirting, or bite your bottom lip even. DON'T OVER DO IT THOUGH!! Also, Always start off my flattering them, so start with a compliment. 'I'm loving the shirt, is it new?' 'Did you get a haircut? It looks nice' 'wow, you have really green eyes!' etc.

GOOD LUCK!

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when the time comes i want to tell my boyfriend that i love him, in a very special, unforgettable way. I have a few ideas, any of you have any you have used, heard of, or think is an amazing way to say, ILOVEYOU.

Get some M&Ms and form a ton of them to form the words "I LOVE YOU". Or get a scrabble board and arrange it to say 'I LOVE YOU". Or, this may be difficult, but get alphabet soup and make it say "I LOVE YOU". Also, if you want to go ALL out, M&M's allow you to make custom M&Ms, so you can make them say whatever you want instead of having the brand names on them. This has a cost of course but it's a cute idea : )

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if a guy asks if you masturbate, will he think its like "hot" if you say you do. i do, but like i dont want to say so if its like a turn off lol. idk. this is a weird question but its anonymous. do i answer yes or no ?

YES! Guys get verrrry turned on. In all honesty, I was nervous to tell my boyfriend too, but trust me, they love to hear that stuff. If you want to spice things up, do it in front of him. I guarantee you'll have a happy hubby. ; )

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hi i am 21 yrs old girl from london just started going out with my new boyfriend i am meeting him next week dont have a clue what to do or where to go. Can you plz give me some ideas asap
thanx

-Make dinner yourself
-Go over to his house for dinner
-Go to a movie
-Dinner AND a movie(can't go wrong there)
-Go to a coffee shop
-Take a walk
-Do something new together(fishing, skiing, tubing, etc.)
-Go shopping together(that's always cute :))
-Go get ice cream
-Take him on a picnic.

Hope you can use at least one of my ideas :)
GOOD LUCK!

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I have a best (guy) friend i have known since elementary school. We live in Tampa fl. We are both 13 and in 7th grade. He asked me out at the beginning of 7th grade. But I didn't like him like that. But now it's near the end of 7th grade and I'm like in love with him. He knows I like him. But since we are best friends we hang out alot. I've even been inside his house. But if we go out and break up we won't be friends anymore. Because he dated a girl that he had known for a while and then they broke up over something he won't tell me about. Now they are enemies and I don't want it to turn ot that way with us. So wat should I do. I have tried so many advice columns but none replied. Pleeeeeeease help.

The best way to approach this situation is my talking to your friend. You say he already knows that you like him, so the hard part is over. Just say something like "Look, you know I like you and to be honest, I want a relationship with you. But I just want to hear from you that if something were to go wrong between us, we'll remain friends" Also, before you talk to him ask yourself how much you like him and how much you're willing to risk to be with him.

Good luck : )

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So I got dumped like last week from a 7 month relationship the first guy I really liked. I want some breakup songs that will make me sad but also make me feel better about it. hopefully? thanks

Keith urban - you'll think of me
Keith urban - stupid boy
pink - you and your hand
the hazards - gay boyfriend
goldfinger - still counting the days
holiday parade - driving away.
Diana degarmo - a boy like you
jojo - get out
julie roberts - breakdown here
eve6 - here's to the nights
redjumpsuit - face down
lost profits - rooftop
gary alan - man to man
good charlotte - movin' on
Hillary duff - rain
jessica andrews - who i am
jo dee messina - bye bye


theres some diffrent types of songs.
i hope you enjoy them. and i hope you feel
better :[ keep in touch if you need more help.

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Okay... well... I have never had a relationship. Ever. And I know it isn't bad that I haven't, but I always feel so low about myself because I don't. All my friends say I'm pretty and that guys like me, but I really don't think so. Now I put this under love life for a reason.
Is there any possible way for picky me to find someone. I'm shy, and I like some guys but do not know how to approach them.
And if you don't have any relationship advice for me, could someone at least help me be more confident in myself? I'm tired of feeling low all the time.

honestly, look in the mirror and say OUT LOUD the things you like about yourself. It might seem corny, but it works. that, or write everything you like about yourself personality OR looks and keep it in a safe place then look at in when you're feeling down.

and the way to be more confident around boys is to ACT confident. Just ACT like you know what your doing and have fun with it. Be yourself, not some fake girl who forgets who she REALLY is. : ]

Good luck hun,
if you need anything else, just ask.

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does my boyfriend love me?

i guess you could ask him but i think you should tell him you love him first(if you do) and see if he says it back : ) good luck

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16/f
So..how?
thanks, i rate

1. flirt like crazy
2. talk to him alot
3. smile whenever you talk to him
4. look in his eyes when you talk to him

and to get a guys attention try to look REALLY pretty : )

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(its kind of long...sorry)

I met this guy in like, February. Freaking awesome. He was totally hitting on me and he was always smiling. We hooked up that night. I gave him my number, just to see if he would call me. 2 weeks later he did. He said he enjoyed his time with me and wanted to hand out again. We tried to get together for 4 months, but nothing worked. I won't get into detail on that. Everytime I talk to him, he ALWAYS makes me smile and feel wonderful about myself. He said he appreciates it when I call and when I talk to him. He said he doesn't care what other people think. He said that he really likes me and wanted to be more than friends. Well we became more than friends. Ever since then I've been feeling like I love him, not like him. I mean like really love him. My horoscopes make perfect sense, my intuition is leading me in the right direction, and I've been oh so happy. I told him that he makes me feel like I'm worth something and he said, "You deffinately are." He helped me get through a tough time, and he helped me stop cutting. I helped him stop smoking...for a while, and he's just perfect for me. I just don't know how to tell him I want to date him. plus, my dad doesn't like this at all, and i want him to understand. Any ideas? SORRY IT WAS SO LONG.

THAT IS SOOOO cute : ). it takes a person you REALLY care about to make you stop cutting(trust me i know). I think you should DEFINTLY tell him you love him! it might take some bravery but i think you should. i think it would be really sweet to say it in person but if your dad is really striked about that then on the phone say something like "*name* I just want to let you know that I really care about you and over the time that weve been together I realize that I love you" from what it sounds he loves you too. then after you say that then ask him out.

about the dad thing, just talk to him about it. dads arnt really easy to get the idea of their daughter dating inside their heads but i feel like you can do it if you try. tell him that you arnt a little girl anymore and that you think your responsable enough to handle a relationship.
i hope i helped. sorry if i didnt. : )

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Theres this kid, that I like, well he wanted to bang me, & he got mad because I wouldn't.. but now were ok again, should I not talk to him though anymore? because he wanted to bang me, & everything? I really like him. But, I'm only 13. & like hes kinda a bad kid. & all my friends say to stay away from him. But, I just really need another persons opinion. Please help me out.!

(I'm a girl, if you didn't already know. ha)

ok listen, from experience, if your friends say to stay away from him, it probably means that you should. I know it may not seem like it but sometimes if we want to beleive something so bad then we do. your only 13 and if he got mad because you wouldnt let him "bang" you then he really isnt the type of guy to hang out with. im not saying people cant change but most likely if it involves negitive peer peressure then you should stay away. hope i helped.

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