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I am kinda siily, but thatz wat people lyk about me! I am kinda loud, but i am kinda smart. Isnt dat funny. Music is my boyfriend, and people say i am random, but i am concentrated sometimes. I lyk 2 speak spanish, because you can yell at people in spanish and it sounds so cool!I lyk dis guy in my skool, so i may dump music , you never know. And i am as cute as a button! Supoosedly...i am boy krazy, but i just think i am boy crazy. Oh yea i love to dance. I can dance for like ever. And i love pizza!I hope i help you with your problems! Enjoy! Oh yea, i love cartoons, especially donald duck as a baby.

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Theres some guy who likes me and i only want to be friends. he asked for my number and I didn't want to be rude so i did and he texts me everyday and it kinda annoying since i don't like him. and he told me that he wished for me and yeah its sweet but I don't have those feeling for him.

Any advice?

Ok tell him that you dont like him like that cuz you are definately leading him on. He may even think you guys are in a relationship. Tell him, so he wont get the wron idea, and so he wont get hurt. Good luck! :)

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What is the best possible way to get over someone? I got dumped MONTHS ago by my first boyfriend and I'm still not over it. He's somehow always on my mind and being pathetic, I still cry over him. My friends and family are even sick of hearing about it. Does anyone have good ways that you got over someone that hurt you badly? I just want him out of my mind & heart!

OK, this can be very hard to deal with, and you shouldnt rush it. It can take a day, a week, a month, or even a few months, but you will finally face the fact, that you guys are over. And that if he dumped you, he is an indiiot, and should be lucky to be with you. And trust me when you get over him, you will finally notice the amount of guys who would love to be with you, and you will find that special person...eventually. So dont fret, because hez not worth it. YOu will get over him soon enough! :)

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so theres this boy.... i havent met him but all my friends are friends w/ him. just to start outt hes a player and every girl wants him. i just finally got over this one guy and then me and the playerr started talking on myspace then aim and now we like always talk on aim and text like every day.. he started out flirting w/ me like he does w/ like every other girl but then after a while he started implying that he thinks that we'll probably end up going out... which he doesnt do to every other girl.. well we've been trying to make plans for a while now but i keep fucking things upp and i fucked things up for the like 6th time and now hes mad at me.. he wont answer my texts.. i dunno what to do. help me out.

It kinda sound like you wanna go out with this guy, so since you kinda screwed up, then just go to him, and ask if he wants to hang out with you this weekend. And you can say you sorry fir messing everything up. Hopefully, he will say yes. Good luck!

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Hello, my name is Beth! I am 15, and I really need help!

Ok! So, I guess I should start at the beginning.

A year ago I started dating this guy, Logan. Well, a couple months after we started going out, this other guy, William, kissed me. Well, I didn't like William that way. I only saw him as a friend. So I told Logan, Logan got mad at Will, pretty soon the problem died down, and it wasn't anything bad anymore. Logan was even comfortable with me being around William alone. So, me and William become really good friends, but he starts crying all the time because I didn't love him back. And I tried to explain it to him that I don't love him. Well, he respected it, but he didn't understand. So, he got alittle depressed, and he wouldn't come near me. Well, I was ok with it. I didn't love him, so no big deal. But, me and Logan started having sex, and my mom caught us, so I wasn't allowed to see Logan anymore, and she started shoving William on me. Well, I didn't love William. So, me and Logan started having problems. We start to go to Missouri on vacation, and my mom invites Will. Will agrees, and so we're on our way. And me and William start having alot of fun! Like, we start dunking each other underwater, flirting alot, having loads of personal fun. Nothing like sex, or anything. But, I call Logan later telling him how great my day is, and he get's pissed and hangs up on me. Well, I can completely understand why he hung up on me, I would be mad if he was wrestling with a girl who loved him. So, something happened. Like snapped inside me, and I didn't want Logan anymore, I wanted William. So I told William that I thought I had fallen in love with him, and of course he was happy as could be. But we couldn't date or anything because I was with Logan. But i've been with Logan so long, and I gave him my virginity. Like, that was the most important thing to me. So it got really hard for me to just let Logan go. Well, William is headed to boot camp in a few weeks, so I decide i'll finaly do it. So I do. And I get alittle depressed, but I have William to tell me it's ok. So me and Will start going out, and I couldn't get any letters the first 2 weeks he's gone. And I really start to get lonely, but i'm determined. Well, we finaly are able to start writing letters to each other, and about a month and a half I get a letter that says,"I can't say I love you enough." Well, I thought he meant he didn't love me enough, but he meant he couldn't say it enough. So, as soon as I misunderstand the letter, I call Logan and ask him to forgive me, because I still don't wanna be alone. Logan forgives, and takes me back like a hero, but later I get a letter from Will that says he DIDN'T break up with me. So I start freaking out, and I don't know what to do. Back at square one. So I dump Logan, and tell William about everything that went wrong, he calls me a few days before he's ready to come home, and we agree that we are still together. Well, 3 days later my MOM gets a break up letter from him that I can't misunderstand. It said he didn't have the patience for me, and that he can't forgive me for the misunderstanding. So, AGAIN i'm back with Logan wondering how Logan could take me back after all that, and William comes home, and he COMPLETELY ignores me. Utterly. I didn't see him the first 3 days he was home, and he finaly sends me a message saying,"You can ignore me like I have been ignoring you, or you can tell me how I screwed up." I told him I was sorry about everything, and that I understood if he didn't love me anymore, but I wanted our friendship back atleast. Well, he agreed, and he came out to see my mom, but he didn't treat me like a friend. He didn't talk to me at all. Well, 2 weeks go by, and I guess he starts trying to make me jealous with my twin sister, which works, but a few days before he leaves to go BACK to Cali he tells Emily, my sister, that he loves her. William wouldn't say something he didn't mean. And, basicaly...

I guess I want William to be happy. And i want to be the one to make him happy. Do I ignore it, talk to him about it, or what?! What do I do to maybe make him like me again...?

As for Logan. He's a great guy, and I regret hurting him. And he's been a part of my life for so long, I don't know how I could bare to keep hurting him. And I think he deserves better than me. I feel bad, but what can I say?...I just don't love him anymore. It would be easier if I did.

WOW, that was long! Anyways, i would talk to him about how he used to love you, and just lyk dat you go after your sister. Ask if he is saying he loves her, just to be with some one, or to make you jealous. I would talk the WHOLE ENTIRE SITUATION with him. And i am not giving you advice, on how to make him like you again, because you hurt him once, and no one deserves to be hurt like that. YOU should think about that. As for logan, you should apologize for what you did, and hope he forgives you. USING PEOPLE IS WRONG! I kno you may not rate me high, becuase this advice huts, but it is true!

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Hey, ive been going out with this guy for a lil over 2 months, and he is awesome..i love him soo much. He's 15 but with christmas coming up i have no idea what to get him!! Please HelP!

BEcause the gift came from you, i am sure it will be special but you can get him like a football(if hez ajock), a CD of his favorite band(if hez a musician)a sketchbook and art suppiles(if he musician) or maybe acessories(if he likez earings and bracelets, like goth). Um...but you can never go wrong with a home made gift. Hope i helped! Good luck! :)

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if you dont go to school with him youve known him for a bout 2 years and its tonight...

You can give him a little mirror. Listen, tell him you have a crush on this guy you like, and hopefully he will want to know. IF not,convince him, and then when he asks who it is, say i dont want to say it out loud, and that you dont want ppl to hear. So then, you can say i have a picture of the guy, and give him the mirror. He will open it, and see himself in it. That worked for me! That is a really cute way, to do it! Hope you like it!

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my man and i have been dating for three years. I have caught him lying a few times about where he has been. One time he took his son to a concert 30 miles away. Problem, I called him to ask where he was, he said he didnt want to drive all the way back home so he was going to go hang out at a bar and wait. I said ok,well he came home and the next morning i found a receipt on his dresser it was for a restaurant, I yelled and he admitted he never went to a bar he hung out in a mall and ran into a former female coworker and they just caught up, my suspicion is he set up a meeting all along, i forgave him and moved on. A year later, he was supposed to meet his son at the mall to buy him a pair of shoes. When he got home he smelled of cig smoke. i asked him if his son got a good deal, he said yes, i left it at that, the next day I ran into his son, i asked him if the he liked the new shoes, he said he never met his dad there. I confronted my b/f and he said he waited there for him but he never showed, asked him why he smelled like smoke, he said cuz he went to get a sub and friends of his were smoking outside while talking to him.LIE?one week ago, he got a suspicious phone call, told a total lie about who it was, turned out to be ex.girl. He said he had been talking as friends for a while. Bt he couldnt tell me cuz I'm so jealous! Also I found out in the beginning of "us" he was taping us having sex. I told him no more, he said ok, last week I found a new tiny camera set up.OOPS, he also secretly taped other girls and i told him to get rid of the tapes, he said he did, When I did laundry one day the drawer came out a little too far, there were the tapes!!! He is caring and sensitive and supportive otherwise, why do guys do this???????helppppp

Ok, i feel really bad for you, and i am sure you really like his guy, but you need to let him go. HE isnt honest or trustworthy, and those are the main components of a relationship. I would dumo him, because he obvioulsy isnt grateful enough to have you. He probly doesnt kno that you are one of the best things in his life, and he would be devastated without you. You have given him too many chances, and you need to let him go. If he is cheating on you then kick him out. No one deserves that, and you are nice, if that happened to me, i would kick him out the first time Guys do this, because they dont think they can be happy with one girl but they can, and he doesnt appreciate you. Let him go, and you will find someone who is right for you, and who would be honored to have you in their life, and they will do anything for you, and would never do anything to hurt you. Hope i helped. Extra luv! Good luck! :)

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well, i lke someone ALOT and they used to like me but they got a girlfriend and we got into a fight over that and then we were gonna talk about it but that never ended up happening and so im really frustrated that we never got to talk about him haveing a girlfriend but what i just found out that made my frustration worse is that i found out that he broke up with his girlfriend and now is trying to get with one of my close friends.. i dont know what to do... someone help

Well if it is really bothering you that the person you like had a girlfireind, nad wants to go after one of your friends, then just tell him you would really like to talk about the whole situation like he promised, because it is really making you feel uneasy. And as for him going after one fo your friends, i would just talk to him first, so that he knows about your feelings for him, and how you dont want him to go out with yourt firend. And you can talk to your friend who he wants, and tell him that you dont want her to go woth him, because of your feeling for him. Be strong and good luck! :)

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ok so i had sex with my boyfriend two days after my period and three days after i stated birth cotrol. It was my first time and he didnt use a condom. im on my 13th day on the pill now and we had sex about 5 other times, only once with a condom. i never bleed and i didnt feel or hear my cherry pop so i dont think it did. im so scared that i am pregnant and i dont know what to do.

oK, BIRTH CONTROL IS USUALLY effective, but there are chances and cases that i hadnt, and it wont always work. To be completely safe, use the condom and the pill, becuase you dont want to take that risk, If you want to see if you are preganant go to CVS or some pharmacy/drug store and buy a pregnancy test. And it will tell you if you are preganant or not. And be careful, becuase the pill may not work, and condoms can break, but just take the test to see. And if you are pregnant tell your parent, it will be the right thing to do. Good luck! :)Plus, i think if you miss a period, it means u are pregnant.

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Okay i went out with a guy and he broke up with me!!! I still love him and i know for a fact that he wants to ask me out again!!! But ive developed a crush for one of my best friends who i really think likes me hes always staring at me (especialy my eyes) I dont know what to do or who i like more

Wow, you must be quite a catch! (old-fahioned, iknow). Well first, think if there was any serioous problems you and your ex faced during ur relationship, to the point where you shouldnt get back together. If you want to choose who to be with, you can ask your friends or you can even do a pros and cons list. And then pick. If you really like a guy, you will always be thinking about him. Does this happen with any of these guys, if not, then you may not like either, but if yo do, go with that guy. But if you do to choose to go for the best friend, make sure he actually likes you, and is not just flirting. But if he is looking at your eyes, then it usually menas he likes you. :) Lv ya! Good lukk!

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Alright, so I really like this guy, and he is in two of my classes, and sometimes in my lunch, though I don't sit with him. I sit next to him in one class, and near him in another. What are some things I can do to be, I don't know, I guess flirty? Like, what do guys want/see in girls that they like? Or what can I do? Any advice would help. I'm not really an outgoing kind of person, and its not like I would just say "Hey! You want to hang out tomorrow night, or go to the movies some time?" Literally, there is nothing I can do about that, so don't say just get over your fears and go for it.
Thanks.

In order to be flirty, i wouldnt really like curl the hair, and stuff like that but be you. I would maybe laugh at his jokes if hez trying to be funny, spend a few extra minutes in the morning with your hair, and be a little more picky with what you wear. Dont start wearing like rilly mini skirts, because guys dont like tramps...or girls who are easy. Guys like girls who are confident, who can laugh at themselves, and dont really care what people think about them. They dont want a regular girl, who is insecure and shy. I would also maybe get close to some of his friends, in order to get close to him, and get to know him, so you can learn some stuff about him. In the hall you can talk about a crazy teacher you have,homework(a good reason to call him, well it kinda corny, but still cute), you can talk about clubs, sports, a new movie opening(you can invite him)liek by saying "i am going to the movies this weekend with a few frens, u can come if u want", but more of you in it! And hey if you really want to talk to him, ask him if he knows a place to go to learn about whatever he is doing at church. I hoped i helped. :) Good Luck!

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considered a slut if she has sex on the first date?

I personally think that a girl may be pervieved as a slut by many different people if she has sex on the first date. I personally wouldnt call the girl a slut, but i would just think that the girl gives herself up al little to easily to the guy. I would try to get the girls side fo view, but she may be judges to be a bit more...kinky than others. :( sry. Hope i helped.

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I was on hear a couple months ago.. but for those of you who didnt read it:

Last year this boy jake, popular, smart, nice, everything you would want in a guy, and me started talking a lot and we became good friends during school. i'm not hugely popular, like i have a ton of friends, and i am friends with a bunch of people who are considered 'popular' but i wouldnt be considered that. weelll iin january of my freshman year( last year) he asked me to daance at the semi, which i was really surprised by, because i kind of liked him but i would never guess he would ask me to dance.. well when he found out i liked him the rest of the year we didnt really talk much, and it bummed me out. This summer i started going out with this kid mike, who was kind of an asshole and we broke up a couple weeks ago, but since the year started jake has been talking to me a lot again. Like for example, hes in my spanish class, and he purposly switch seats with his friend so he could be next to me, and hes always talking to me and writing me notes and things.. like yesterday he hung up a sign that said 'marry me ashlee' and like i really like jake, ive liked him for a while, i just dont want to get myself hurt again, his birthday is tomorow, should i do anything? and besides the birthday, do you have any advice for me on what hes doing, if he likes me or not...?

thanks so much, i really appreciate any opinions, guys and girls

--ashlee :)

I dont want to sound mean, but i dont think he is interested in you like that. I think that he is just rilly flirtacious. I am sorry. I mean if he stopped talking to you as much when he found out you liked him, than i dont think he likes you any more than a friend. I am sorry, but dont worry thereis a guy out there for you who will be happy to be with you! :)Good luck!

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iv been with my bf for about a month and we havent kissed yet. i really wanna kiss him but im too shy to make the first move. Is there any signs or something i could do to get him to kiss me?

Well why dont you guys go to a movie, and maybe the magic will work there, or maybe you can just give him a peck, on the cheek, and maybe he will feel you are ready for him to kiss you, but i am pretty sure he is feeling the same way. Good luck!

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i'm going to italy to visit a guy that i really like, he told me not to fall in love with him, but at the same time he is taking me to venice for 3 days, how can i not fall in love with all the romance he is going to give me, we already had sex. what does this mean? can he be confused or am i? he acts like he really likes me.

call me old- fashioned or watever, but if you have sex with a guy , shouldnt it be because you think you love, him? I mean who says dont fall in love with me, no offense, but i think he is in denile or something. I realy hope it works out!

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i have no idea what to get my bf for his birthday. we will have been together 6 months & he`ll be turnin 17. hes not into sports or anything, but he plays guitar and likes the Fender brand.. soo i was thinkin about gettin him a Fender hoodie or something.. but i think he's already going to get one soon, and i think theyre pretty expensive anyway, and i dont have endless money. i dont want to get him cologne because he got me perfume for my birthday so i dont want to repeat that idea, and i cant cook so i cant fix him dinner or anything. i thought about the picture of us in a frame but i have to get a picture first, and i want to get him more than just that anyway. hope that helps! any ideas?

does he like to read books, or does he like parties?Does he like video games, a tool box, a new guitar, i got it! You can get him a gig! Ha! Hope you lyk it! Tell him happy birthday!

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I am female, 23 years old and my boyfriend 22. After almost 2 years of relationship, my boyfriend called me ugly. What can I do or what can I say?

If your guy called you ugly, then you shoulod dump him, you shudnt be with sum one eho doesnt appreciate you! Dum him, and soo he will feel bad for losign you. But if it was a joke, then talk 2 him, about it and tell him that you were really hurt.

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14/f
okay well my friend said she didnt like this guy anymore but i like him a lot. he is everything that i look for in a guy and i am everything he looks for in a girl. would it be rude to start flirting with him.would it be mean if i dated him. i dont want to ruin our friendship.

well tell your friend that you are interested in this boy, and rilly ask her if she is rilly over him, because you dont want to ruin your relationship. Rilyy talk 2 her about him. Then she will rilly come out!

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14/F Hi,listen all girls look.There's this guy I like,Dakota Gorsuch,since third grade we've been crushing.But he can't get the couage to ask me out!he wants to but won't.he's going out with a good friend of mine.But he doesn't want to.What should i do? :[

WHy dont you take the first step, and ask him out. Duh! I mean after he breaks up with his girlfriend, and i would be mad at my friend. Or you can leave him a note, in secret, and tell him! Yay! Good lukk!

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well i am really nice i am like the all american girl and yet i still cant get a bf.i am ok looking i have hazel green eyes light skin and brown hair.i am really smart and sweet yet nothing but all these guys that lats just say are not my type ask me out. how do i flirt or get the right guys attention. my style is hollister and american eagle.

Ok, girl dis is chicacaliente, and lose dat whole sweet and cute thing, If anything, i am guessing you are shy, aand dat may be it. Get involved and talk more. DOnt just depend on your lookz, cuz guyz want more. I am sure you are pretty and you can get anyone you want, so go 4 it, with some attitude. And i wudnt go over the top with flirting, maybe you shud wear some skirts and stuff, and laugh at guyz jokes, and dont take stuff so seriously. Try to look nice, and if you do all of dat, you will have guyz eating out of ur hands. I hope dat helpz, and i kno it sounds dorky, but watev. Good lukk!

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