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Hello -- I'm Becky. I am here for you, to help you with anything you need help with. I'll try my hardest to answer your questions. It may not always be what you want to here, but know that I always put my time and effort into each answer. I'm not here to gain points from you, when you rate my advice... I don't long for a 5 as my rating. All I care about is helping you. It's ridiculous how people basically go on this website to see if what they is justified and right, and if advice columnists state otherwise, they rate your advice low. For example, a 13 year old girl asking how to give oral sex. First of all, it's not bad if someone warns you to put what you're doing into deep thought and consideration. They are just trying to give you their opinion on the situation. Isn't that the whole point of this website? Exactly. Anywhoooo, I'm 15 years old. Yes, 15. Too young? No! I'm very mature for my age. If you dont want to get advice from a 15 year old, then don't listen to it... However, I'm still going to give you my opinion :)
Florida -- Yes the hot sun, all the variety of people, and the beaches is all here. I love Miami, I've been here all my life and I dont intend on leaving any time soon. I've actually had no choice, since I've never even left the state :0 But that will chance this summer. :) Hmmm... (And it did!)
I go to High School and I am a Freshman. :0
What else? Well, I play the guitar and I have been playing since I was in 4th grade. I love everything about music -- it's my life. Seriously, I either have my iPod to jamm to, iHome, computer... I basically need music anywhere I go, because I really can't live without it. I mean I could, but it would be a very depressing and boring life 0.o
I've gone through so much drama the past few years of my life and I'm not even in highschool. Each time I go through a horrible situation, I learn from it for the next one. It's hard, but that's life. Everyone has drama in their life. Everyone has been betrayed. Everyone is going through or has gone through these stages of seeing who your true friends really are in the end. It's a hard journey, and I'm no where near done with it. But everyone goes through it. And if you have any problems or questions a long the way, I am here to help. :D
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There is this friend,and he now knows that I like him. He was shocked to hear that but we still talk. One day he randomly came up to me saying "You are going to do me aren't you, just letting you know you can do me anytime" I gave him like a look but he was smiling then just walked off. Then in class the next day I was "sleeping" and I overheard him say this " I'd pound on her s--- like bam I'd f--- the ish out of her" we still talk. But what am I supposed to do or to say to that? I like him but I'm confused. What should I do?
That kid is a perverted loser. The fact that he found out you liked him and is using it to basically talk like he's now going to score with you shows that he is not worth your time. That IS how most guys talk but there are better guys out there that actually know how to respect woman and not talk about them like they are nothing but a piece of ass. Seriously, I recommend you forget about him because he definately is not good enough for you. There's better guys out there that are worth your time :)
I've been dating a girl who can't get rid of her ex-boyfriend. We spend a lot of time together and she cares for me. He has beaten her, and she does fear him. She tried to leave him several times, but only went back. Now she claims she will cold turkey him once he gets his own place in a month. Then she said she will give me all of her and make an honest attempt at us. She talks about the future and keeps me hanging on. Will she ever make the move or should I move on and figure she will never leave him?
Look, it sounds to me like she's just stalling to get rid of her ex because if she wanted to get rid of him, she would have a long time ago. You need to explain to her that this has gone on for too long and you dont want to be just hanging on forever. It's all on you though, do you honestly feel like she will ever leave him? If not, then you have to move on because stuff like this happens all the time where a girl's boyfriend treats her bad and yet, she doesn't leave him. It doesnt make sense but there really is nothing anyone can do about it. The way she has you hanging on by talking about the future isnt really fair to you, because this will make it even harder to move on since you believe everything she's saying. If you want to wait for her because you truly think she's worth it then go for it, but from what you've said, it doesnt really sound like she is going to get rid of the ex. I'm sorry. I hope she does and that I helped. :)
I am a 16 year old female. I like a guy who is 21. What do I do? I've been told he likes me too. But thats a big age difference.
Right now it seems like a big age difference because your 16 and he's 21. But when your 21, he'll be 26, thats really one 5 years apart. My parents are 6 years a part. You shouldnt think of it that way because as you get older thats actually normal to date a guy thats a few years older than you. I would say to go for it, but dont do anything you'll regret with him. Follow your heart.
Ok so theres this guy names Tony and i really really really like him. But heres the thing im friends with his sister. but like when i have softball games he come because his sister is playing right next to me. So when i hurt my leg he comes over like 20 mins after and like took a woofle bat and smacked my noisy with it and then did it again. like everyone thinks i flit with him and that he flirt with him. I want to ask him if he likes me but im not sure if i should. Like when he stairs at me i smile at him and he smiles back. When i told him nice game he started smiling and was like no i sucked. and like i get nervous around him. so please help what should i do ask him for not ask him??
Definately ask him -- He seems to like you too which is good and you need to remember that life is short and you cant just sit and wait around until it's too late. Go for it. If it doesnt turn out the way you wanted, atleast you know instead of that horrible question: What If?
You definately should go for it!
how can it not be awkward between me and my best friend. god i like him so much and i wish i could let him know that but somehow i feel like ill get hurt again. its just i think he may feel something for me too but a while back when i told him how i felt it was not possible for him to like me. but now he can like me because he is over that situation he was in. and im not talking about another girl, im talking about him thinking he was attracted to guys. but hes made it clear that hes not anymore. hes strait. but yea the only problem is that he has always been afraid of commitment. and he wrote a poem about heartbreak and i think it was about me. its so sad.... but yea idk it seems like he really likes me too. but is he scared like me? help please and thank you. 14/ f btw.
You need to put yourself out there. This guy is afraid of commitment? I don't think he's going to reveal his feeling for you, if he has anyway. He might though and you need to find out. You cant just sit around waiting for something that might never even happen. Because in the end, he will always be that What If... And you dont want to happen, do you? Well, I would tell him. If he doesnt feel the same way, make it clear you still want to be friends but atleast you know that you gave it a shot and it will be a lot easier to move on, knowing there's nothing there. So, tell him! And good luck :D
16/f.
i liked this guy and he liked me. me n him go to the same school.
we both live "out of zone" for our school and should be going elsewhere.
well, he called me recently and told me that he didnt want a relationship with me because of lacrosse and his grades.
but come to find out, he lied to me and hes going out with one of my friends that goes to the school that we should be going to.
i really liked him and i spent my sweet 16 depressed over him. should i confront him about it? call him and tell him we need to talk? or should i just let it be, seeing as he's been ignoring me lately?
First off, I'm sorry for what he did to you. Not all guys are complete idiots though -- Most are :) But there are good guys out there and this one is definately not one of them. I wouldnt even bother calling and talking to him, he's not worth a second of your time since he treated you badly by lying to you. He could of just been honest when he broke up with you, that he liked someone else you know? But making it on his studies and sports is just an easy way out that he took. He's a loser. You deserve better. Stop stressing over him because seriously you're better off without him and guys like him. But not all guys are like that, keep searching for the right one ;)
15/f. i really like this one guy who is in 8th grade and i'm in 9th grade. we hang out a lot outside of school in this one group of friends. i'm just confused because sometimes i think he likes me and my one friend in 8th grade thinks that he likes me too, its just that he has a girlfriend! so i don't know what to do. like we hang out because we are friends but its hard not to flirt with him. and once i left my friends decided to play a game of would you rather with him. this is what happened:
my friend: would you rather go out with ashley or katie (me)?
my crush: well i'd go out with ashley, but i'd rather go out with katie.
and this got me really happy because this other girl ashley is always flirting with him and he flirts back. so then i thought that this obviously means that he likes me! but he still has a girlfriend, and i figure if he liked me that much he'd break up with his girlfriend and go out with me.
but then i don't want to be mean and cause them to breakup! see this is my problem! so can anybody tell me if 1) you think he likes me and 2)what do i do since he has a girlfriend?
thanks so much for reading this and helping me!
[1]He does sound like he likes you, since he flirts with you and everything - But guys at that age are players. They can like more than one girl you know?
[2] He does'nt really seem to be boyfriend material. Like you said, he has a girlfriend and flirts with other girls, like ashley and you and probably plenty more. If he ever did break up with his girlfriend and asked you out, how would you feel if he was flirting with other girls and might even do the same thing to you that he could do to her? It's easier and better if you dont make them break up, because it isnt right. If they ever happen to break up, then make your move but be careful, with him flirting with other girls. Good luck!
So I am in marching band, and I am friends with people from other schools that my band regularly competes against.
I, through MySpace, have been talking to some boys from another school (I'm 15/f), and so I went to go sit with their band yesterday during a festival. The boy's name I sat with was Seth. Seth immediately grabbed my hand and he was tickling me, I was on his lap, etc.
So, he is not friends with another member of his band, Riley. In fact, he harbored rumors about Riley and my best friend, Laraine, hooking up, even though both are currently taken. However, Seth was totally sweet to me and I like him now.
The thing is, though, I told Rily and Laraine that I wouldn't talk to Seth anymore, but he just imed me to tell me how much fun he had talking to me yesterday, and he apologized to me for the whole rumor thing.
I don't know exactly what I'm asking, but people have warned me about this guy. However, he makes me happy when I talk to him, and I'm also friends with this best friend.
Oh, and he might be gay. According to Riley, he came out of the closet and then went back into the closet in high school.
So, what do you think I should do?
You shouldnt of told your friends you werent going to talk to him because if they see that you do, they're going to be mad that you went back on your word. However, they dont control what you do and who you talk to. It sounds strange that he came out and went back into the closet. He probably did it for attention or a joke. But maybe Riley said it to spread a rumor about Seth just like Seth spread a rumor about Riley, you never really know. The thing is, people can lie about other people. People may warn you about him, but that doesnt mean you shouldnt give him a chance, just keep your eyes open and dont believe everything you hear. Goodluck:)
when is it right to tell someone you love them...and what if they dont tell u they love u back
how do i know he really means it?
help me out
There isn't a right or wrong time to tell someone you love them. If you feel it, say it. You shouldnt be ashamed just because the person you're telling might not exactly feel the same way YET. And if he doesnt say they love you back, doesnt mean they wont ever. Atleast, they were honest and didnt lie about it just to respond to you. You'll feel it when he says he loves you to determine if he means it or not. There is no way of actually knowing, then to just trust him. Goodluck!
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behind my parents backs...its been about 10 monthes now and my boyfriend and i are still together...he's turning 20 in 2 days and i just turned 16 so yea theres a 4 yr age difference. my parents flipped out when they found out over the summer. they hate the age difference and swore they'd get him kicked off FDNY....i can't afford to risk that for me but we're just so in love and i dont know what to do anymore. i hate sneaking around and lying to my parents.
You have to tell them because they are bound to found out sooner or later. They cant force you to break up, they're probably going to be furious but atleast it's off your chest and a hude weight is lifted off your shoulders. You cant always tell you parents what they want to here, but you should tell them everything no matter what. Good luck!
im 15/f. whenever i find out a guy i like is gonna ask me out my immediate thoughts are: how is this going to end? if we date am i going to end up breaking up with him? will he end up hurting me? will we end up hating each other? this always happens and it ruins everything. how can i stop focusing on it ending when it hasnt even begun?
Avoid those negative thoughts since all it is doing is ruining everything! Think postive! Be happy that someone likes you because other girls may not be as lucky as you :)
Hey im a 14/f and i am haveing boyfriend issues or obvi. ex boyfriend cuz he dumped me but we were going out for alomos a year. And he just dumped me in front of all his friend's. and it was very humileating. and it made me feel so bad. And now he is talking crap about me and calling me all this sh** And saying that i do drugs and stuff when we all no i dont so can you help ??
Immature boys do that and you're way better off without him, if you see what rude things he's capable of. Ignore the rumors, aslong as you know who you are and what you do, you'll be fine. He's doing this because he has no life and he wants to get you mad, so be the bigger person and dont let it get to you, whatever you do, dont stoop down to his level because then you are no better than him!
my boyfriend is friends with this girl i hate. its one of those feelings where when i even hear her name mentioned, i feel sick to my stomach. she did a lot of stupid things and i really dislike her. is this stupid? shes just always there and it drives me crazy. i did mention it but nothing changed. any ideas or was anyone else in this situation?
It's not stupid, trust me happens all the time with me! But, the situation might not change because you cant control your boyfriend no matter how much you want to. It might be difficult, but try and tolerate the girl or tell her to back off if it gets to the point where you cant even look at her face! You can also, talk to your boyfriend telling him you really would prefer not being with her, and if she is around, not to expect you to act fake! :)
i just started going out with this guy and were both really shy so things are a bit akward.Can anyone give me some advice on how to make it not as akward or help me to become a little less shy ?
thxs in advance =)
Talk to him to let him know that you dont want it to be awkward between you too. And try and make an effort when you're with him by starting a conversation that may interest him so there wouldnt be any awkward silences. But, there's always going to be times in your relationship where its awkward and nothing to talk about, but that's normal and you shouldnt worry about it.
alrighty here's the deal
a month and a half ago my girlfriend (let's call her m) broke up with me. we still talked and everything and other stuff like that but it was awkward. personally, i didn't care. i was going to do the same thing in about a week (and no, i DON'T want to get back with her).
two weeks later, i started going out with a friend of m's. let's call this friend k. k told me that m and and another friend of m's (who we'll call s) didn't really care at first. they gradually started being not-so-nice to either of us though.
about a week ago, k called me right after i got back home from water polo practice after school (we go to different schools). she was crying a lot. i found out that m, s, and another "friend" (whom we'll call c) verbally attacked her because of me (remember, m is my ex)
feeling angry at all of them, i verbally attacked k's so-called "friends," who also used to be my friends. now m and s won't speak to k and myself (k and c made up and are still best friends).
i feel like i've ruined my relationships with these people, and that k's losing friends and getting verbally attacked because of me (of course, she says it's not my fault. but i disagree).
what should i do?
thanks for any and all help.
Even though M broke up with you, you showing that you didnt care and going out with a friend of heres probably made her angry (girls are weird like that).. Well, those people that attacked K dont seem to be such good friends, and your relationship with her shouldnt be affected by that because of other people not having any lives. This whole thing will blow over as time goes by and M will probably get over it, because hello? she broke up with you! K deserves better friends and explain to her that even though what they did was hurtful, it's better off for her knowing who they really are. Good luck;)
ok so theres this guy in my spanish class thats a year younger than me that i swear is perfect. hes taller than me hes cute hes smart hes funny hes athletic and hes so sweet. thursday after school i was walking in the hallway when he found me and asked me what i was doing over the weekend. i told him i was going to disney world because i was going there with choir and he was like oh yea thats right you told me that. and then we walked outside and both left. when i got home i realised he might have been trying to ask me out. but im not sure. hes really nice and he could have just been making conversation. he sits right infront of me and we talk alot everyday and he will just turn around and stare at me w/ a smirk on his face. i like him alot and i think he likes me too, but im not sure. im never sure! but anyways do yall think he was trying to ask me out and that he likes me? i dont know what to say to him to show him i like him without being just plain obvious. we would be soooo perfect together its crazy. thanks so much!
I'm pretty sure he was asking you out. Dont worry, if he did like you, he'll probably ask you out again for another weekend. Try and bring it up since you guys talk a lot, or ask him out, but not in an obvious way, you know? Like, ask him what his plans are for next weekend (if you're available) and see if he wants to hang out.
SO i have a boyfriend, we have been going out for a month. We always cuddle, when we see eachother and we see eachother 6 times while dating. We do kiss but not make out. I dont know why, but I feel like I cant kiss. But the thing is, Ive done lot of kises with other guys..& make outs & they said i was good. But now i feel like i cant kiss, & i love my boyfriend so much, I just dont know why. Well, my question is what can I do to give me confident to kiss my love? Like make out, i dont want him to think im bad:s
Thanks for help:)
Aww.. well it's obvious that you like him so much you're afraid to kiss him because you dont want him to think you're bad, right? Well, like you said you've done it a lot of times and you were told you were good so just forget every bad thought in your head when you're with him and just go for it! Besides, even if it is bad, you guys will keep working on it and it'll get to be really really good. I doubt it'll be horrible since you are experienced. So, dont be shy and go for it :)
hey everyone.
my best friends boyfriend is into some bad stuff. [i hear this from alot of people not just one source and the people telling me dont even know eachother] my best friend and him are happy together. he makes her really happy and she loves him alot. i dont want to see her get introuble because of this because she doesnt do any of it. idk if i should tell her or not im kinda stressed about what to do.
thanks=]
Definately talk to her. You're her best friend, you have to tell her everything whether its good or bad. She'll probably be upset when she find out, but she'll need you to help her through it. And maybe, shell be willing to help him stop doing that bad stuff... but that's up to her. You just have to be there for her.
ok, id like answers only from people who have been with their boyfriends/girlfriends for over 6 months. and preferably ages 16 and up, please. ok well, does it ever feel to you as if yall shouldnt be together? like theres nothing there anymore. youre not all excited to go home and talk to them. you really dont even care. youre not "cheery" around them or talking to them anymore. and you picture them with someone other than you, and it bothers you some, but not THAT much? i dont know what to do. im 16 and hes 17. weve been together 6 and a half months and were each others "first loves". ive never felt this way for anyone else before seriously. hes like a part of me now. but the past couple days ive been feeling this way and i dont know what to do. normally, im absolutely crazy for him, but there has been a couple times when ive been like "we should just be friends", but sooner than i say that, something happens that makes me realize just how in love i am and i could never lose him. so maybe its one of those times again..? or maybe its the gray weather.. ahh someone please help me. i dont want to make a huge mistake and regret it!! btw that whole "taking a break" deal does not swing with us we just dont really agree with it, we're either on or we're off.
This reminds me of my friend and her boyfriend who actually have been going out for almost 6 months. Where its like, you kind of dont care if you talk to him that day or not... but then, you dont see yourself broken up? Well, you should give it some time. I mean, this may be just a phase or... its really how you're feeling? Look, the only person that knows for sure what you want to do, is you. Just try and see if you can see yourself without him, if you cant, then that answers you're question.
does anyone have any tips on " moving on " or possibly " winning your bf back" ahha thanks
Moving On: Meet new people, see if there is anyone you know you want to get to know. Try to get your mind off of him... doing stuff that doesnt remind you of him. I know it might be hard at first, trust me, but you will, sooner or later.
As for "winning him back": Try talking to him and telling him how you feel if you still have feelings for him. Try and see if he may have feelings for you? Like looks, hints... stuff like that. You could always make him jealous, but that doesnt always work. Make sure you really want him back before doing anything like that.