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what to do when you dont know what to do
ok, id like answers only from people who have been with their boyfriends/girlfriends for over 6 months. and preferably ages 16 and up, please. ok well, does it ever feel to you as if yall shouldnt be together? like theres nothing there anymore. youre not all excited to go home and talk to them. you really dont even care. youre not "cheery" around them or talking to them anymore. and you picture them with someone other than you, and it bothers you some, but not THAT much? i dont know what to do. im 16 and hes 17. weve been together 6 and a half months and were each others "first loves". ive never felt this way for anyone else before seriously. hes like a part of me now. but the past couple days ive been feeling this way and i dont know what to do. normally, im absolutely crazy for him, but there has been a couple times when ive been like "we should just be friends", but sooner than i say that, something happens that makes me realize just how in love i am and i could never lose him. so maybe its one of those times again..? or maybe its the gray weather.. ahh someone please help me. i dont want to make a huge mistake and regret it!! btw that whole "taking a break" deal does not swing with us we just dont really agree with it, we're either on or we're off.
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Sorry for the clicheness of what I'm about to say, but...the honeymoon's over! What is happening to your relationship is very, very normal. The excitement of all the "firsts" is over, the initial happiness is gone, and you're just left with each other. At your age, this kind of thing can be hard to handle. Most teens misunderstand it as falling out of love. You're not falling out of love, it's actually quite the opposite. You are so much in love, you're beginning to, in a way, take it for granted. All of a sudden he becomes just like another sibling, cousin, or friend. He's nothing that special anymore. That is where you're wrong. The romance may be dying, but don't you love your family and friends more than anything? If he is becoming like them to you, that just means that you love him that much more. If you stay with him longer, it will keep growing and growing until it goes beyond the family/friend level. You just have to be be patient. You're getting more comfortable being around him. You've gotten to know a whole lot about him. The exciting part of your relationship may be gone, but your love is just beginning. If you were to leave him for someone else that you felt that "spark" again with, you would find yourself in the exact same situation you are in now after some time with the new guy. What has to happen is, that you have to accept that this is the way love and relationships work. You can either give up, or work hard. If you give up easily, relationships will likely be very hard for you. My advice would be to stick with him until you have a good reason to leave him (cheating, lying, crime, abuse, etc). Maybe he isn't the guy for you. Maybe he isn't worth the work. Decide by that, not by what you're feeling right now. Good luck!! :)
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This reminds me of my friend and her boyfriend who actually have been going out for almost 6 months. Where its like, you kind of dont care if you talk to him that day or not... but then, you dont see yourself broken up? Well, you should give it some time. I mean, this may be just a phase or... its really how you're feeling? Look, the only person that knows for sure what you want to do, is you. Just try and see if you can see yourself without him, if you cant, then that answers you're question.
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Be 'off' for a while. Do your own thing, date other people. And it it's meant to be, nothing can keep you apart. However cheesy it sounds lol. Hope I helped
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