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ruining relationships
alrighty here's the deal
a month and a half ago my girlfriend (let's call her m) broke up with me. we still talked and everything and other stuff like that but it was awkward. personally, i didn't care. i was going to do the same thing in about a week (and no, i DON'T want to get back with her).
two weeks later, i started going out with a friend of m's. let's call this friend k. k told me that m and and another friend of m's (who we'll call s) didn't really care at first. they gradually started being not-so-nice to either of us though.
about a week ago, k called me right after i got back home from water polo practice after school (we go to different schools). she was crying a lot. i found out that m, s, and another "friend" (whom we'll call c) verbally attacked her because of me (remember, m is my ex)
feeling angry at all of them, i verbally attacked k's so-called "friends," who also used to be my friends. now m and s won't speak to k and myself (k and c made up and are still best friends).
i feel like i've ruined my relationships with these people, and that k's losing friends and getting verbally attacked because of me (of course, she says it's not my fault. but i disagree).
what should i do?
thanks for any and all help.
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Even though M broke up with you, you showing that you didnt care and going out with a friend of heres probably made her angry (girls are weird like that).. Well, those people that attacked K dont seem to be such good friends, and your relationship with her shouldnt be affected by that because of other people not having any lives. This whole thing will blow over as time goes by and M will probably get over it, because hello? she broke up with you! K deserves better friends and explain to her that even though what they did was hurtful, it's better off for her knowing who they really are. Good luck;)
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Since you & your ex girlfriend haven't been broken up for a long time, you going out with someone else [especially her friend] is gonna bother her. She might say she's fine with it, but she's not. No girl would be unless they were completely over you. Getting over someone or something takes time, and the amount of time is different for everyone. For her, it's taking a while.
Since she's pathetic, she thought she'd verbally attack your girlfriend. I would just tell your ex that you're done with her, and that she needs to stay away from your current girlfriend. And tell your current girlfriend to get a restraining order from the other girls who attacked her. I realize her best friend was one of them, and they made up so they're okay, but the other two need to be gone. If there's restraining order against them, they can't hurt her feelings anymore. They won't be able to IM her, call her, message her, or even go near her. Verbal attacks may seem like nothing, but it could escalate to more dangerous behavior so that's why a restraining order is needed. You could use one two, and I don't advise you or your girlfriend to go near/talk to these girls anymore.
It's not your fault though, so don't blame yourself for this. Yeah, she's going out with you & it seems like her fault, but it's not. It's not your fault your ex isn't over you. So don't even worry about it.
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you may not like this answer, but i think you should explain to k (your girlfriend, right? idk, theres too many letters) that it would probably be best for both of you if you broke up
and that you dont want k to lose all her friends just to go out with you
you have to look at the relationship, is it worth her losing all her friends and being verbally abused??
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