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guy confusion
15/f. i really like this one guy who is in 8th grade and i'm in 9th grade. we hang out a lot outside of school in this one group of friends. i'm just confused because sometimes i think he likes me and my one friend in 8th grade thinks that he likes me too, its just that he has a girlfriend! so i don't know what to do. like we hang out because we are friends but its hard not to flirt with him. and once i left my friends decided to play a game of would you rather with him. this is what happened:
my friend: would you rather go out with ashley or katie (me)?
my crush: well i'd go out with ashley, but i'd rather go out with katie.
and this got me really happy because this other girl ashley is always flirting with him and he flirts back. so then i thought that this obviously means that he likes me! but he still has a girlfriend, and i figure if he liked me that much he'd break up with his girlfriend and go out with me.
but then i don't want to be mean and cause them to breakup! see this is my problem! so can anybody tell me if 1) you think he likes me and 2)what do i do since he has a girlfriend?
thanks so much for reading this and helping me!
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[1]He does sound like he likes you, since he flirts with you and everything - But guys at that age are players. They can like more than one girl you know?
[2] He does'nt really seem to be boyfriend material. Like you said, he has a girlfriend and flirts with other girls, like ashley and you and probably plenty more. If he ever did break up with his girlfriend and asked you out, how would you feel if he was flirting with other girls and might even do the same thing to you that he could do to her? It's easier and better if you dont make them break up, because it isnt right. If they ever happen to break up, then make your move but be careful, with him flirting with other girls. Good luck!
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He probably does like you but I will be very blunt here at the risk of seeing cold hearted - guys this age will like a lot of girls. He has a gf but likes you and then when he dumps her to be with you he may like someone else more who he will dump you for... and so on.
Whenever a guy breaks up with someone just to be with another girl I find it usually a rash decision based on lust or a crush morethan anything else and it usually comes with concequences like the same thing happening again with the new girl that guy is with. If anyone can say this has happened to them and the relationship actually lasted long-term I'd be very surprised because I've never known an instance for it to happen.
I can understand you don't want to have to break them up but regardless of what I said above it might just be he doesn't see any future with who he's with at the moment in which case he should have broken up with her already instead of stringing her along. If this is the case though and he does break it off with her and wants to date you then it'll be up to you whether you want to or not but it seems at the moment there's not really much you can do. If he asks you if you like him then by all means I see no reason why you should have to lie about it. All I will say is that if he does want more and so do you then ensure it only happens after he has broken things off with his current gf. After that if he asks you out then I hope you the best of luck with him. :)
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1] He might like you.
2] You do nothing. He has a girlfriend, and you have absolutely no place stepping in. If they break up, THEN you're allowed to hope something will pan out between you.
=/ Sorry if that sounded harsh.
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