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hey everyone.
my best friends boyfriend is into some bad stuff. [i hear this from alot of people not just one source and the people telling me dont even know eachother] my best friend and him are happy together. he makes her really happy and she loves him alot. i dont want to see her get introuble because of this because she doesnt do any of it. idk if i should tell her or not im kinda stressed about what to do.
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If there is anything going on, your friend probably knows about it. If she's a good kid, which it sounds like she is, that can mean one, a few, or all of the following things. She's denying it, she thinks she can get him to stop, he's convinced her that it's not that bad, or she's gotten involved with it too. In all of these cases, it would be best if you, as a good friend, had a very serious conversation with her about this. Ask her what's going on and let her know that the only reason you are talking to her is because you are concerned. What you decide to do to help her depends on her level of involvement. If she's denying it, pound the the truth into her. She really needs to realize that no matter how much she may like him, if he's into some serious stuff, she should really rethink being with him. There are plenty of other guys out there. If she thinks she can get him to stop, remind make sure she knows that even though she thinks he is completely honest and truthful, it will be easy for him to go behind her back about it. People don't just change. If he has convinced her that it's not that bad, change her mind back! Let her know all the risks and it would help a lot if you told her it might end your friendship with her if she didn't start thinking straight. If she is actually involved, try to get her to stop, but be ready to get someone else involved. You're a good friend of hers and sometimes it is worth risking a friendship to get someone the help they need. I wish you the best of luck. Hopefully, the things you have heard aren't true!
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I know what you're talking about. Recently I've had a few difficulties with one of my best friends. She has a boyfriend whose really into drugs, and I have a lot of worries that either she will get mixed into the wrong crowd, or that she might start doing drugs too.
They also seem really happy together, and she says they are in love. I asked her if the drugs bother her, and she says that right now, no, but she worries that if they get older and continue dating, it might become a bigger issue.
I always worry that her mom will find out that her bf does drugs and forbid her from seeing him, or worse think that she was the one doing them.
So I talk to her a lot and make sure she seems like shes making responsible choices, and tell her that she can always come to me if she needs help, but I don't know what else we can do.
I think you should tell her you're worried about her, and you care about her so much, that you just want to make sure shes doing okay.
In the end it's her decision what she is going to do, but as long as she knows that actions have consequences(Drugs=HIV, damage to brain cells, whatever) and that you are always there to talk everything should be fine.
Keep your mind open, and if anything ever happens, that she gets too out of hand, then contact a social worker, or talk to your parents. But be careful you don't want to step in, if you don't need to because then she wont trust you.
I hope that everything is okay with your friend, and remember trust is the most important part of any friendship.Love,
Angie91
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Definately talk to her. You're her best friend, you have to tell her everything whether its good or bad. She'll probably be upset when she find out, but she'll need you to help her through it. And maybe, shell be willing to help him stop doing that bad stuff... but that's up to her. You just have to be there for her.
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hey, well i think that she should at least be aware of the problems that he has but not break up with him for it. my boyfriend is in rehab right now and has a lot of problems with anger and other issues. i wouldnt break up with him right now if you paid me. right now he needs me more then ever and im going to be there for him whenever.
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hmm.. well idk know the full situation here, but from what you said i would tell her mainly since that is what a true friend will do. dont tell her to dump him or anything but you know just give her a heads up.
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