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I am really bored.People tell me to get a life.How do I do that.Please tell me how I should get a life,get rid of my boredom,meet new people and make new friends. Any answers are appreciated

so what your saying is your just home alot and dont really have any major things you wanna do and if you do have thigns you wanna do you cant do them. right? well if thats the case then i sugjest trying things you havnt tried before, things like clubs, groups, outdoor activitys, even if you arnt totaly into them you should just try some and see if maybe you are good at it or meet people who like what you like there. maybe you got some talents you can put to use, like playing games, drawing, biking, skateboarding, filming, like anything, and you can do that on your own and also meet new people by doing that. go into chat rooms and talk to people that live near you or people that you will never meet. it doesnt matter since the thing with chatting is it makes you more confertable with talking to people, it isnt the same as talking to them face to face but you pick up jokes and good convo ideas from it. so i hope this helped in any way. always here for you XD

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heyy umm im looking for guys to answer this question.. but girls are fine too.
so umm im gonna go to my boyfriends house this weekend and i was just wondering if you could like suggest some fun stuff we could do.. im not having sex with him. and please dont suggest like make out.. bj.. hj.. or any of like the bases or anything. just like fun stuff to do. and this is the part thats basically for guys... whats some stuff that guys like girls to do to them? like besides make out & that stuff
thanks! xo

ok im 15/m and i love to do a bunch of stuff with my gf besides making out and that sort of stuff, i dont really know your boy friend and i doubt if he is JUST like me but here are some things i enjoy to do. watch a movie, just hug and cuddle, take a walk somewere and talk, HUGS! hehe, playing fun games like Apples to Apples, physical games like basketball, football even if you arnt good most guys enjoy seeing there girl trying to beat them at something, or creat memorys and by that i mean like this one time i had with my gf, we made a gingerbread house and it sucked but it was fun cuz we got icing all over each other, idk things like that, just have fun. hope this helped.

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I have this ex boyfriend. We dated on and off for more than a year.

Recently, I caught him in some lies and minor cheating stuff. I don't really trust him, but I consider him a very close friend.

We talk about once a week, and eveyrtime we do he nags about wanting to get back together. I don't want to right now, but its not because I don't trust him.

I mean, he's a great guy, but I want to be single right now.

So I need some more reasons, even if they are made up, to keep him off.

And if I happened to havea thing with one o fhis friends, how could i break it to him without hurting him?


He's really sensative.

well if you havnt already just tell him the truth about why you want to not date right now. he should get it cuz everyone has that time were they just want to be single. and if you happen to like one of his friends that is not to good since if you tell him you want to be singe then date a friend he will know you are just saying that to blow him off. so if you want to be single then you wouldnt date a friend of his, but if you kinda just dont feel like dating him in perticular (sp) then i would just tell him that he is a great guy but i we dated already and your not sure if it would be a repeat of last time or not.

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Ok I dont start working until the end of march, because thats when I turn 16. I really want a new xbox 360. Im like craving for one. lol My friends all want me to get one because they play.
My mom said I need to buy it myself. I hate this my parents can afford it..? What can motivate me so I can wait the 2 months?

o la la, i have a xbox 360. and i must say it is the only thing i feel in love with at first sight haha. well you want to knwo what to help you wait for 2 months right? so i would say try to keep you mind off of it, that helped me since i had to wait a loooong time for mine (i got it launch day but i wanted to get it since i first saw it) or if you are always around it and cant just forget it for a bit then do what i would do. play your friends! haha. i would play it alot when ever you can so you pretty much feel like you have one. (my xbox is gone as of now due to its BROKEN :'( but i play my bros when he goes to work and its not that bad.) so i hope that helped

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hey everyone.
my best friends boyfriend is into some bad stuff. [i hear this from alot of people not just one source and the people telling me dont even know eachother] my best friend and him are happy together. he makes her really happy and she loves him alot. i dont want to see her get introuble because of this because she doesnt do any of it. idk if i should tell her or not im kinda stressed about what to do.

thanks=]

hmm.. well idk know the full situation here, but from what you said i would tell her mainly since that is what a true friend will do. dont tell her to dump him or anything but you know just give her a heads up.

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Many people told me I switch moods way to quickly. I only do this around my friend austin, i dont know why but I do? Am I manic depressive? I dont want to ask my parents or a doctor? I do change moods sometimes, however I can get sad when something bad goes wrong or i get sad?

i am deppressed. and i know it and take pills for it. you may have it or you may not. you may just be more sensitive then others and care about people even if you dont know them, and that is a good thin. as for the mood swings i dont know your age but if your a teen then dont worry about it too much cuz most teens do and dont reliz it, but if you do have more mood swings then usual then maybe you just absorb the feelings of other. what i mean by that is if you see a person crying it makes you feel worst, if you see a bunch of people having fun and laughing it makes your day better. so it could be that. hope this helped :)

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22/f

Guys this is mostly aimed at you but I need EVERYONE’S help on this.
When I was younger like in high school I was the outcast losery dork. No guys would ever give me the time of day. Even when I would try to talk to them. All of a sudden now guys that I did go to school with are coming up to me and wanting to talk with me. Even ones that were bullies to me, are being all nice and flirty. I don’t get it. Can anyone help me with this. Why are guys so confusing like that? is it me? it doesn’t seem like I am different yet they have changed.

ok well what i am thinking here is 1) you werent all that good looking in high school or maybe a little dorky (no offence ment) and now you just changed a little bit with out knowing it since it happend over time. or 2) maybe they changed. like got more mature and saw you for the person you are on the inside, maybe got into some things you were more into. or 3) maybe they liked back then but since no one else talked to you they felt if they flirted with you it would make them seem like a dork. i know im not the best at this but i enjoy helping and i hope i helped. :)

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alright this guy wanted to go with me to a mall kinda far away from where i live, and i dont really know him. so i said instead lets go get coffee, he said it was cool. now tday i texted him and he said that he couldnt hang out cause he had to take his mom to work which is near that mall he wanted to go to.he said maybe next thursday and that he was sorry. was he blowing me off or wat?

hmm to tell the truth it could be either way. 1) maybe he asked you to go to that mall since he knew he was going to be near it anyways and it would be good for him since he could drop off his mom and then hang with you. or 2) he wanted to go to the mall and he said he would go to the coffee shop with you to not sound like rude or something. so maybe he did blow you off but didnt want to be a ass, so if he did blow you off he tryed to be nice about it even though he Should have just told you. but like i said it could be either way, you know him better then me so you pick the one that fits. hope this helped :)

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So I'm a cutter. As in, cutting my wrists and legs. I'm in therapy (so obviously my parents know about it). I had been clean for about 3 weeks, and since just 2 days ago, I started cutting again. Not to the point where I'm making my self bleed or anything, but it seems to numb my pain. It's like an addiction. Does anyone have any tips on how I can focus my thoughts somewhere else besides on self-injury?

i agree with the prev. answer but if you ask me when you get that depressed you find a way to get away from everyone. (i would know) so if its from a Ex bf/gf or friends making you sad or deppressed i would try to just make your self feel better, try to do things that makes YOU happy. talk to people who make you happy, do things you like and enjoy, and try to forget about what happened or what they said to make you hurt/sad. like for me i play video games on Xbox live adn talk to people on there, i play guitar, and mainly listen to music. so i hope this helped :)

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Ok I'm 18.... and i'm stuck between these two guys.

Bob and i have history, about over a year of it. I fought my butt off to be with him. The thing is my mom and grandma dont like him. And after risking getting thrown out of my house for him and having to go through hell and all this i just dont want it to for nothing.

John is well a man. He has a job and is going some where in life. And my mom LOVES him is a postive. He's kind of overbearing, which gets annoying.

I like Bob, but i think i think i have a thing for John. So i have no idea what to do. I want to know that if I should just take a break from Bob and take a chance with John.

i kinda agree with the prev. answer, but if i were you i would keep good friends with john and stay with Bob. but if you happen to break up with bob sometime soon i think you should give john a shot, cuz as you prolly know usualy when you date a person you like them more cuz its more physical. :) hope this helped.

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I love this one boy.
He acts mean and like he hates me, but all the guys do that to me.
His best friend told me , he likes me and just says that because everyone else does and hes scared of what people would say about him.
We used to be really good friends and stuff, and we've sex type things so i dont know.
Should I beleive his friend or what?
And his friend honestly isnt the type to lie and stuff but Im not sure.
Its confusing...

15/f/Ca

im 15/M and i know what you are talking about, since i used to like a girl who was unpopular (not saying you are)and alot of my friends didnt like her at all and still dotn like her. but to me she was like me on the inside but wasnt scared to show who she was in school and that is why my friends think she is weird but really she is just like me. so yeah i didnt realy act mean to her alot but i just didnt say anything when my friends talked about her. but i would always talk to her when my friends are not around. so this may be what is going on or not, but im just trowing it out there for you. hope it helped. :)

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