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Nagging Boyfriend
I have this ex boyfriend. We dated on and off for more than a year.
Recently, I caught him in some lies and minor cheating stuff. I don't really trust him, but I consider him a very close friend.
We talk about once a week, and eveyrtime we do he nags about wanting to get back together. I don't want to right now, but its not because I don't trust him.
I mean, he's a great guy, but I want to be single right now.
So I need some more reasons, even if they are made up, to keep him off.
And if I happened to havea thing with one o fhis friends, how could i break it to him without hurting him?
He's really sensative.
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hey well to tell you tha truth i wouldnt lie you explained you didnt enjoy being lied to so why make him go through what he put you through? also maybe ask him to meet you somewhere public like a coffee shop or the park so you guys could just talk maybe just explain that you just want to be single and when you feel like you would like a boyfriend than you wont forget about him and for now you would like to still remain friends or something if you try to talk to him and explain things i think he will understand
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He's hurt you before, he's hurt you before, and oh yeah he's hurt you before!!! If you don't trust him, don't date him. your relationship would fall apart anyways. So build your trust, then go out with him.
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Sensitive or not, there are certain things he needs to hear. You need to tell him how it is no matter how you think he will react. Give it to him straight up. It would also help if you gave him an ultimatum. Something to the effect of, "stop trying to get me to date you again or I won't talk to you for 2 weeks". If he tests you, it's his own fault and you need to follow through with your threat, whatever you decide it to be. Make it kind of harsh. He really needs to stop what he's doing. My guess is that right now he's just playing with your emotions. The more you walk lightly around him because he's sensitive, the more sensitive he will be. Your sensitivity to his alleged sensitivity is making him believe that you still have feelings for him. That's not good. He can handle, just as well as anyone, anything you feel needs to be said. You're not dating him anymore. Stop treating him like you are. He doesn't have to know that you want to date one of his friends. He doesn't even have to know that you are if you decide to. He'll find out just like every other one of your friends. The more special treatment you give him, again, the more he will think that you still have feelings for him. Dating someone else will likely help stop the nagging on its own. Especially if he finds out through someone other than you. If you're really serious about dating his friend go for it. That way you won't have to tell him how it is yet. Good luck. :)
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well if you havnt already just tell him the truth about why you want to not date right now. he should get it cuz everyone has that time were they just want to be single. and if you happen to like one of his friends that is not to good since if you tell him you want to be singe then date a friend he will know you are just saying that to blow him off. so if you want to be single then you wouldnt date a friend of his, but if you kinda just dont feel like dating him in perticular (sp) then i would just tell him that he is a great guy but i we dated already and your not sure if it would be a repeat of last time or not.
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hey, dont make something up. you got mad at him for lying to you. how would he feel if he found out you lied to him? you said all that you can say. if he continues to nag let him that that you wont talk to him anymore. that way since he likes you he will obviously want to keep at least a friendship with you, so he will stop.
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