Hello, all! I haven't had much life experience compared to some people, but I can give you my view of things, and I'll do my best to give an honest opinion. Ask me anything and I'll answer as best I can!
Myself, I'm a Nursing Assistant finishing up some classes before I start working. My interests include cooking, martial arts, music, video games, gardening, acting, reading, and paintball. My girlfriend is slowly pulling me into politics, but she's drawing me in none the less. =P I love her so much!
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I met this 24 year old guy at the dog park. We totally hit it off, and we talked for two and a half hours. After that, I added him on MySpace, and then he randomly messaged me one day like amonth later, asking how I was, how I've been, and telling me he'll have more free time in the next few weeks (he owns his own business and works a LOT) So, I messaged him back, blah blah blah, we made plans, hung out again, etc. During that meeting/date thing, he persuaded me to start a doggie daycare business. Now I've been talking to him about that lately, and he's helping me through this whole starting a business thing. He's sort of my business advisor. Anyway.
I like him so much. It's one of those awesome romantic type crushes, as opposed to one of the sexual ones. But, as it is to be expected, he's SO much more mature than any other guy I've liked. So I don't really know how to approach the subject (with guys my age and younger, you just sort of bug them and tease them) without ruining what we have. Since he messaged me that time, totally out of the blue, do you suppose I have a chance? Do (normal, not just looking for sex) 24 year olds ever even consider dating 18 year olds? What should I do?! (link)
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If you are interested in him, and don't pick up on any suspicious behavior, then keep on talking to him. Sometimes you do have to be careful with older guys, but not all the time. But something I would advise here... Let HIM be the one to make the first move. From the looks of things, he does seem genuinely interested in you. However... the thing about him not contacting you for a month right off the bat is a little strange. Just my thought, though...
Yes, there are some very nice guys out there who are a bit older than a girl that they are interested in. An older guy can be more responsible than others, so that's a plus. Be careful, though.
Best advice I can offer is to let him make the first move. Watch for suspicious behavior and keep an open mind to things. He sounds like a nice guy, though! Good luck!
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I'm in a long distance relationship with a guy I used to think was perfect. It isn't exactly the best relationship but we always seem to work through everything. I cheated on him very early on in the relationship, a little less than a month into it. He seemed to forgive me right away, as if nothing happened.
Then I caught him telling someone that he didn't have a gifl friend. We got into a big argument about it because he didn't see why it was wrong. He promised me it wouldnt happen again.
A week after that, I got a myspace. He was always telling me to get one so one day I did and searched him and added him. The next day, a girl left a comment on his page about seeing him and a great night of sex. I looked at her page and he told her the same things he told me. He swore he didn't do anything with her but why talk about it if you didn't do anything?
I just re-read that and I know this relationship isn't working but I don't know how to end it. Everything I plan on breaking up with him he some how talks me out of it. He has this was of twisting my feelings around and I don't know what to do about it. Help? He's 21 I'm 18 (link)
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Well, the first thing that's to be noticed is that you've both made mistakes. On one hand, he forgave you for what you did, but you haven't forgiven him. If he says that he didn't do anything with her, then should you at least attempt to trust him? Or perhaps there's a previous incident that makes you unable to trust him? Trust is the biggest part of a relationship. If it doesn't exist, than neither does your relationship.
About talking about something he says that he didn't do though... That's a problem. Why mention it if it DIDN'T happen?
If you feel that it's time for you two to move on, then maybe it is. He's probably talking you out of it all the time because he's afraid of losing you. The best way is to make things very formal. Not an email, and certainly not IM. Call him, talk to him, and give him the reasons why exactly you are breaking up with him. Yes, it might be difficult, but plan what you need to say so you don't get flustered. But... Give him a chance to talk as well. Communication is essential in a relationship whether it is beginning, continuing, or ending.
The only real advice I can offer is to be strong about it and plan what you are going to say to him. I'm sorry that you're in this situation... Feel free to send me any other questions you may have. Good luck!
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ok, i was just wondering what do guys like in girls?
i mean not the obvious big boobs and nice ass
but like some looks and personality
xo` thanks (link)
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A guy likes a girl who is not just interested by guys in general, but him specifically. Guys love to be noticed by girls (which is why we do so many stupid things such as jump bikes off of huge ramps to impress people). =P
Personally, I like a girl who is commited to things. Not just a relationship, but also the things she does say for interests or hobbies. Someone who is sweet, caring, generous, and thoughtful is very attractive to me. Also, it's fun when a girl knows how to be playful, but not in an overdone way, if you know what I mean...
A "good" guy will look for qualities in a girl rather than just what she looks like.
Hope that helped!
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I'm kind of stuck. I've been out of a very long relationship with this guy. I miss him a lot. Thing is, I broke up with him because he liked some other chick. It still bothers me that he likes her and yet "likes me" too. He's the only person that really talks to me. So we're really close. He was like a best friend for me but a little more, you know? But now it's just awkward because we sometimes act like a couple..
I keep hurting myself because I find myself.. wanting to be with him again. I doubt it will happen. A part of me doesn't want to try again either. Is there any way to forget him?
I keep talking to him like.. every night. It's just an old habit. I'm thinking of completely.. letting him go. Forget him. Out of my life thing.
But then I'll have no one to talk to because my friends.. aren't that close to me. [I've tried to be close, believe me.. they push me away.]
So going out with friends isn't going to work. Plans don't get that far with them.
I just need something to keep me busy. I don't know. A new hobby? Or.. something. I really need some help. (link)
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Hey there!
Your friends aren't there for you, perhaps. But your family might be. Your mother and father would be a good source of help on this, and you could always hang out with them. (going places with your family might seem "uncool" but it's really not)
The trick to forgetting something or someone is putting your energy somewhere else like you are thinking. School might not sound like a fun thing to do but focusing on that could help. Also, read books (but not romantic ones), maybe go out to some dances or clubs as well. You might meet someone new there, you never know. ^_^
The other thing you need to do is to be honest with this guy that the your friendship with him is causing a lot of trouble for you. If he's a good guy he'll understand and maybe help you out by backing off. If he doesn't know what's happening, he might get worried or try to get closer to you by calling more, writing, coming over to see you, etc... And that will get you no-where.
I hope you find a way through this! Feel free to drop any other questions in my box and I'll answer them as best I can. Hope that helped!
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I need help, really bad.
I lied to my boyfriend about something really big, not going to get into details, it's a VERY long story! He just called me & told me that he doesn't want to be in a relationship with me right now, because he just can't handle it.
& I have absolutely no idea what to say or do to make everything better. I can't handle thinking what it would be like without him, it's just WAY too much for me.
So, PLEASE. If you were in my position, what would you do?
Thanks in advance. (link)
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Hey there!
In my oppinion the best thing to do now is just be completely honest. Tell him the truth and don't hold back. Even if he breaks up with you, you have it off your chest. And perhaps if you show him you care by telling the truth he'll think about giving the relationship another shot, who knows?
If and when you do tell him the truth, let him know that you're telling him not because he's breaking up with you (as that could seem like revenge), but because you belive he deserves to know the truth.
I'm sorry you're in this situation, and perhaps there is no way to repair it. But if you try, you shouldn't blame yourself.
Best of luck! I hope that helped...
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I am from miami and i am 15. I had met a boy and he is 17 we have been friends for a month and he asked me to be his girlfriend so i said yes and a week later he had to move back to new jersey and we have been going out for 6 months now but he works as a chef and barely have time for anything. should i drop him or stay with him? (link)
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Hey there! ^_^
First suggestion would be to talk to your boyfriend about how you're feeling. Distance can be hard, but just distance is never a good reason for a break up (in my oppinion). He's far away, yes, but a try things like leaving messaages for him, calling him, writing him when you can. Maybe he won't get back to you all the time, but at least you're letting him know you're thinking of him. That's heartening to him AND you.
If you love this guy and want to keep him, then why shouldn't you? Age isn't really a factor here like a lot of people will say. You're old enough to make decisions and manage a relationship, long distance or not. The first couple of bumps in the road are always the worst, but you get used to the difficulties of a long distance relationship after a while. Yes, it can be hard, but if you really love the person, it's just as rewarding as any other successful relationship.
Ask yourself a question, though. Without any pressure from others, without thinking about the distance, ask yourself the questions: Do you love him? Is this what you want?
If the answer is yes, then do little things to further the relationship. It's not always the big things that matter. Always remember to tell him that you love him, even saying it at random. Guys love to hear that from their girlfriends!
If the answer is no, then I hope all goes well for you. But whether the answer is yes or no, you need to talk your boyfriend about how you're feeling. Talk to him about what HE wants in the relationship and figure out where this is going.
Good luck! I hope that helped a bit. ^_^
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I am a 15 year old girl in Australia. My boyfriend is getting really serious, He has started talking about how he's going to ask me to marry him sometime soon and i'm getting really freaked out. When i tried to tell him how i feel, he got all upset thinking i don't love him. I really do, but he wouldn't listen. He got sp upset he started hurting himself a little and when i apologised and everything he finally calmed down, he told me he could have killed himself, and he kept using that against me, Until i was crying.
Later he told me he was sorry and shouldn't have said any of that stuff. But every time i try to talk to him about how i feel, he threatens me with suecide. I can't do anything because i am scared he will do something really bad. (link)
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First off, I don't want to be mean, but your bf is horrible for trying to control you that way. Don't let him force you to do things, and don't do something simply because you're afraid he'll hurt himself. If he has a knife to his throat or something, then ok, talk things out with him. But the way he's controling you is abuse.
The first thing I would recomend would be to tell others of what he's up to. A suicide hotline might be a good place to start along with his and your parents. And don't be afraid to tell adults, as you and your bf are still 15. Find out in what ways he's thinking of hurting himself, if he's serious he'll have an actual plan. Once you know more, you can act better upon it.
Do not do anything that you don't want to just because he says that he might hurt himself. That's complete BS. If you ask me, it honestly doesn't sound like he's serious because he knows it's a way he can control you. But don't push things... Maybe he's serious, maybe he's not. In the end, if he does end up hurting himself, IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT. You're not making or forcing him to do anything, despite how he's making you feel.
One more thing... He's 15, talking marriage, he's threatening suicide if you don't coopperate, he's mentally abusive to you... Sounds like you need to re-evaluate the relationship. He doesn't sound stable at all. If threatening himself stops working, what's next? Threatening you? Hurting you? It wouldn't come as a surprise, that's for sure.
Good luck! Get people to help you with what you're going through, and don't confine this to just yourself and him. Take him seriously, but don't let him control you. Also, if you've got an easy way out of this relationship, my advice would be to take it.
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15/f (this is long.sorry)
I've liked this guy for about a year and so did one of my best friends.but then she told me she didnt like him anymore because she was interested in another guy.
soo about a week ago,i found out they were going out!!i talked to my 'friend' and she keeps denying she told me she didnt like him anymore.but she told me numorous times.lets just say we're not friends anymore.
then one of my other friends sent me an IM covo with her and she said she never liked me as a friend.I just feel so..backstabbed & cheated.
My question is should i just kick my 'friend' and the guy to the curb or should i try to be friends with them again?If i should try talking to them again,what should i say??
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I went through something like this once: one of my oldest friends made the statement "I've greatly disliked him for several years now" about me on his blog. I don't doubt that your friend did, in fact, tell you that she was not interested in this guy. But now she's eating her words and doesn't have what it takes to admit that she was wrong. It's pride, plain and simple. ...of course there is always the possibility that there is a missunderstanding somewhere, but it doesn't seem like that because of the way she's talking about you.
You have every right to feel backstabbed and cheated. Not by the guy... but by your "friend." My advice would be to pull back from this situation. If the guy is good, he'll see through your friend and get away from her. For now, don't bother with either of them, it's not worth it. Your friend has made a choice, and if you ask me it wasn't the best. Let her live with it a while and see what happens.
Good luck! Hope that helped!
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I have been in a serious relationship with my boyfriend for 3 years. During that time, we have had some problems but have worked them out and have been doing very well, until lately. I don't know why I did this, but I cheated on my boyfriend with someone who is a very close friend of mine and have even developed strong feelings for...but I still honestly love my boyfriend. I didn't know it was possible for me to not only cheat, but do it for a few months while my boyfrined thought everything was fine. I also didn't know it was possible for me to love two people at the same time.
So, as much as it hurt to do this, I told my boyfriend about everything yesterday and, of course, he is beyond hurt. I knew I had to come clean with him to start setting things right. I want to be with my boyfriend and that's why I needed to tell him - to start to put the trust back in the relationship. However, I am still very confused about my feelings for the other guy, which are very valid and real (and he feels them for me as well). It killed me to hurt my boyfriend like that, and to keep something going outside the relationship for so long, but I really need advice at this point. I am lost and don't know what to do... thanks for any help! (link)
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First, you need to ask youself the question of who you love more. If it's not your boyfriend that you love more, then maybe you should talk to him about things? Perhaps it's time to move on if that's the case? Communication is essential in a relationship whether it's begining, continuing, or ending.
You stated that you want to be with your boyfriend. That can only happen if your relationship with the other guy is non-existant. So don't be confused about your feelings for this other person, because he's obiviously second to your boyfriend. And in something like a bf/gf relationship, there is no room for seconds.
A true relationship with a boyfriend or girlfriend is exclusive. There shouldn't be "other interests" or "flings" durring the time you are together. I don't mean to be harsh, but if you can't be faithful to your boyfriend now, how will you be able to stay faithful to him as a wife? I believe that being someone's boyfriend or girlfriend gives you a little taste of what it would be like to have that person as a spouse.
You came clean about it to your boyfriend, and that was very brave of you. In my oppinion, the next step is to continue to be faithful to your boyfriend if you know that you love him. That means cutting off contact with this other guy. A new person can seem exciting sometimes, but you'll almost always find that once you really get to know them, they aren't as great as you thought they were. On the other had, you have your boyfriend who, dispite what you have done, probably still loves you very much.
If you do love your boyfriend, he's the only one that you have room for, so to speak. You've both been hurt, but things can heal. It will just take trust, commitment, and some time. You'll find your way thought this, I know it seems impossible, but you'll get through it.
Hope that helped somewhat! Good luck!
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so i party alot and so does my boyfriend and recently i walked off with my friends boyfriend and my boyfriend freaked out like saying he wasnted to kill her boyfreind so i broke up with my boyfriend ))who i really liked(( in front of everybody like cusing at him and the works and so i left ((this was a 3 am ) and he called a million times that night and the next day and he still thinks we going out but i clearly stated ITS OVER but i dont thin he gets that> how should i tell him i want to be friends nothing more and also its hard because we are going to six flags on saturday with his family ugh what should i do? (link)
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Well, if you really like him, why did you break up with him? That seemed like a small, jealous outburst and nothing more serious on his part. ...Unless he actually has a habit of hurting people or making constant threats, then it would be a good idea to get away from him.
You're probably not getting through to him about this because he refuses to believe that you've broken up with him. And considering when and where the break up occured, he might think that you weren't serious. The best remedy for that is to cut contact with him for a while. If you can, pull out of going to the theme park with him and his family. You'll miss out, but what's the point of going with them? It would be like pretending you and he are still together and that's not going to get you anywhere. Furthermore, it would just be giving your ex what he wants.
Tell him again clearly and calmly that things between you two are over. If you choose to not go to the theme park as well, tell him that you won't be going with him, and tell his parents that you won't be going just so there's not failure of communication (but only tell them about the break up if you want).
Good luck! Hope that helped you out.
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i have this friend called Matt who i've been mates with for a couple of years now. he confessed he liked me early last year, then got a girlfriend and we just stayed friends. they broke up last year. well a few months ago, we were in his room and kissed. now we're basically together, seeing each other constantly. i really, really like him and have ever since we met.
problem is.. there's this other guy online, named Pete. i live in the USA and hes in france. we're sorta in a internet relationship. however, i'm not getting to see him until earlyish next year when he flies out. i haven't told him about my "friend" because quite frankly, i'm not sure what to say.
i feel like i'm stringing two guys along. everyone tells me i'm not doing anything wrong because my online guy is so far away. but i still feel guilty. i'm not going out with matt officially but we do act like it.
i don't want to "break up" with pete because hes spending all this money to see me, and i feel that would be unfair. however, i really like matt and it would be perfect if it wasn't for the timing.
i just would like some opinions on this situation. should I just continue what I'm doing? am i a cheater? i never intended for things to get like this, and it's depressing me to think of what i could be doing. i wish things weren't so complicated.
thankyou. 5's for everyone.
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The best thing that you can do in this situation is to be honnest and tell the other two people involved. Honnesty is what is lacking in this, and being honnest is the best way to sort this out now. If you're not honnest, you can't hope to have a relationship with either of them.
I don't mean to be hard on you, but don't listen to the people that are telling you nothing's wrong, because there IS something wrong. Online or not, it doesn't matter, they are both people with feelings and affections. The feelings of both of these guys are probably going to be hurt, but that's the situation that you've put yourself in. And even though people will get hurt, telling them is doing the right thing, and perhaps they will be accepting of the situation and it really won't be that bad.
You have to ask yourself the question "which guy do I want to be with more?" You can't have both, and if you continue to try, you'll probably lose both of them. Who knows, though? Maybe you'll end up with one and the other will still want to be your friend.
You probably did never intend it to go this far and I'm sorry to hear about this. I hope that everything turns out as painless as possible. Feel free to send me another question if you need more help on this. Hope that helped, and good luck!
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do you think its bad that ive never had a boyfriend or have never kissed someone when im 14 getting ready to be 15? (link)
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I'm 21 and just became the boyfriend of a wonderful girl 7 months ago for the first time (my first and only girlfriend). ^_^ I've also never kissed her, or any girl for that matter. >.>
Waiting around for the right one can be can be much better than going through relationship after relationship, I think. Sure you learn along the way as you go through new loves and break ups, but learning with one special person who is willing to stick with you through rough times is amazing.
Good luck! And when you do find that certain guy and kiss him, it's going to feel a lot more special. ^_~
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16/F, You know that typical story of if the most popular guy likes a girl who is considered a geek/loser that everyone likes to pick on and his friends don't approve by saying that you're reputation will be ruined etc. Then his friends would give them both a hard time in school. I'm in that type of situation and I'm wondering why does this happen? (link)
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To put it simply: because humans are scum.
You've been labled; probably since you started school you've carried a lable that others see. Stereotyping, essentially. Labels are almost a form of "class" in schools. You step out of your "class" and you're persecuted for rattling people's cages and screwing up "the way things work." It's done because many of the popular teens feel that they HAVE to have lables, as it gives them their little groups where they can feel special. Once they get out into the real world, none of that is going to matter, though. The reason you're being persecuted is that you're standing up to this structure, almost a revolution, you might say. And it makes people who believe they have "power" very nervous. (good on you!) They don't like it when someone defies lables like that. It's sad, pathetic, superficial... yeah. But that's most teens for you. Sorry that you're caught up like this.
The best thing to do would be this: talk to the guy about it. If he's understanding and sees what these people are doing, AND is willing to not let it bother him, he's a great guy. A person who can withstand that type of pressure is one in a million. Don't let these people push you around and tell you what you are and who you're "allowed" to love. Giving in to them will tell them that they have power over you, and that's what they crave. Don't give them that satisfaction.
Good luck! I hope that everything works out! ^_^
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omg i hate myself sooo much....i'm not supposed to miss my ex and stuff. i'm not supposed to cry over him when i'm going out with my bf joe. god i'm soooo stupid and i shouldn't cry over schuyler i'm like joe a lot i'm a bitch and a whore i don't know what i should do. (link)
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First off, (and don't get pissed at me for this) putting yourself down when you already are feeling down never got anyone anywhere. I say things to myself a lot like "I hate myself" or "why do I do such stupid things?" and "I'm a terrible boyfriend" but it never helps, it just makes things worse.
You're not a whore, and you're not a bitch. Even though I don't know you, I can say that honestly. It looks like you jumped into a new relationship to cover the pain of a pervious one. You don't seem like you're over your old bf, and that's ok. It's normal for your heart to take a while to heal.
My advice would be to suspend the relationship you have at the moment for a little while. Not a break up, just take a bit of time to think things over and to heal. These things never go away by drowning them in a new love, they just have to "dry up" on their own. Once you're feeling better, then you'll want to get involved more in your relationship with this Joe guy. ^_~
Also, let your bf know what is happening. If he's an understanding person, he'll help and support you the best he can. Good luck! ^_^
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im 13 and a girl. A couple of months ago my friends asked this guy out for me. he said no.Latley he has been stairing at me, bumping into me, flirting with my friends in front of me. Also my friend calls him Mr.(my last name) when he calls her PP(perfect pitcher)and he doesnt care. When i asked him to stop he said no. Then in front of his best friend who hates me he said on a scale 1-10 of prettyness im a 3.5. Also he asks my friends if i still like him. when they ask about or talk to him about me he gets innoyed.Does he like me?or does he like one of my friends?(if he does like me)how do i make sure without being obious?
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Sounds like this guy has an ego, and most guys his age do... (assuming he's about 13-14) The hard part of finding a guy is finding one that respects you. This one obviously doesn't.
Sorry if this isn't the answer you're looking for, but my advice would be to not even bother with this guy. Don't worry if he likes you or your friend because any guy that has the balls (or lack thereof) to treat a girl like that isn't worth your time.
Hope that helped... There are MUCH better guys out there. Good luck!
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16/f My friend and I both like eachother. We've both expressed our feelings for eachother, but we've never kissed or anything else along those lines. I really want to start something with him, but the problem is that he's going to college and I won't be able to see him at school all the time anymore (he'll be about 2 hours away). How do I persuade him that we could work things out even if he goes to college? Anyone have any good reasons at why long term relationships can work? He doesn't believe that they can. (link)
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Long distance relationships are much harder to mantain, but in the end, waiting for someone you KNOW is worth the time can be a wonderful feeling. In a long distance relationship, you can really show someone how much they mean to you by simply waiting for them. Myself, as well as two of my best friends are in long distance relationships, and all of them are some of the strongest relationships I've ever seen.
Tell him that you can come and visit on weekends, tell him you'll write to him, tell him that you'll send hime "care packages" if he likes that. But most important of all: tell him that you are willing to wait for him, even though he may be far away. Tell him that you think the relationship is worth the effort.
Also... This might be hard to take... but perhaps he wants to "free himself," so to speak, as he's going into college. Maybe he wants to be single, I don't know... But keep that in mind.
Good luck! I hope that things work out well! ^_^
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First of all, there's this girl I know. She has a lot of guy friends and stuff, and she also has s boyfriend.
Well, I have a bad feeling that one of her best guy friends, who I like, likes her. I mean, he talks to her a lot more than he talks to me. I mean, she would never go out with him (she knows I like him), plus, her boyfriend is a close friend of this guy's. So, it's pretty much impossible for now.
But I can't help but feel jealous! I honestly just wanna go for the guy, but the whole jealousy thing holds me back. I've liked guys before that have liked her, so I guess that contributes to my paranoia.
Anyway, my question is, how can I stop being so jealous and get the guy? Thanks! (link)
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Well, look at it this way... She already has a boyfriend. This other guy who you like but likes your friend needs to take a hint and get back to reality. Normally, I hate guys that try to "wait in line" for their crush to break up and then pounce one her, but this is an interesting situation.
Your friend's relationship is a big factor in this because that is what's giving you a chance. Talk to the guy, ask him to come with you to a movie or something, show him that you're interested and that might help him realize that he can't have the other girl but he CAN have you. You need to realize that there is NOTHING he can do with her at this point, so there's really no reason to be jealous. What you're describing sounds more like frustration than jealousy, to tell the truth. You seem frustrated that the guy can't take a hint and let your friend have her relationship.
Good luck! However... If this guy can't or won't take the hint that the other girl is taken, rethink how much you really want a relationship with someone like that.
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Hey i am 16 years old and i had this boyfriend and we were getting pretty serious but i would break up with him like everyday cause he would just do stupid stuff or ignore me sometimes in the hallways at skool...well he started to wanna do sexual stuff to eachother and he wanted to have sex and i felt so pressured so one day i ended up letting him finger me, and he just wanted more so i had a long talk with him telling him that i wanted to wait till marrige for sex..and 2 days later he broke up with me i was devistated and now he has been nothing but rude to me and the other night we were fighting and he had the nerve to ask me to wait for him over the summer after telling me that he hated me,he says that he needs time to matture and learn how to be a better b/f. well we got in another fight cause i found out he was trying to get close to some girl who is a well...whore and he got all mad and told me to forget waiting on him and i wouldn't let that happen.so he told me that i had all summer to find someone else and if not then we were gonna spend h.s together? i dont know what to think or what he wants? will you please help me i am so confused. did he just want sex? or does he really need to learn how to be matture? do i wait till summer is over and skool starts again for him? we havn't talked in over a week though...=( (link)
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Is he just after sex? Yes. Any guy that treats you like that for not giving in to him wants only one thing. Does he need to learn to be mature? Definately. He thinks that sex and manipulation is the way to get to a girl's heart. Yeah right.
Considering he went after some other girl who you have promptly labled as a "whore," I would say that he's not going to be waiting for you over the summer, so why should you wait for him? There are a lot better guys out there. If you're having trouble finding a mature guy that can treat you right, why bother having a bf right now? Guys your age aren't very mature in the first place, though they ALL think that they are. Wait a year or so and you might find a more mature guy.
If this sounded sarcastic, I'm sorry... Guys that just want a girl for sex sicken me. Hope I was of some help!
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My ex b/f i love him so much. but last summer i made the mistake of cheating on him when i was angry and upset. I made a bigger mistake by telling him. We broke up and usually i can deal with rejection and break up but it was hard on me. I thought i was over him but now as the skool yr comes to a end we talks to me and he was bringing back my old feelings.So the last few days he is on my mind constantly.i wanna know is there a way i can get over him or make him realize how i feel? (link)
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Make him realize how you feel? How does HE feel? Not to be harsh, but you are the one that cheated on him. While you were honest in telling him, he was probably very hurt. You were also hurt because you felt that the break up came as a result of something you did, and it didn't just happen by itself.
Talk to him about how you feel and asking him about his feelings would be the first step. But you need to be sesitive to the fact that you did hurt him enough to cause a break up. If he doesn't want to get back together, accept it. If that's the case as well, then you'll want to back off from spending time with him for a while, as that will make things harder for the both of you.
I don't mean this to be harsh, but that's the best advice I can give you. In the future, don't do anything out of anger when it comes to a relationship, as it will almost always lead to a situation like this.
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I met this guy over the internet and He talked to me and he said he liked me and wanted to see me so I decided to meet him and since I never had a boy friend be for this was somthing I would be excited about.We met up and the first thing I noticed was his eyes because he had beautiful eyes and that day we talked and just hanged out for a little while and then it was time to go and we kissed.After that day things started to change. When I would come on to my screen name he wouldnt I.M. me but instead I would I.M. him but we still both talked and this made me like him more. A few months later we decided to meet up again this is in January and it was really cold that day. It was on a Thursday. I went to the place we were goning to meet up and I waited their for 2 hours hoping he would come I was so cold but then I left and when I got home I went on my screen and saw that he wasent on I thought he lost intrest in me and I thought that was the reason why he left me waiting and the next week on Thursday I got sick and I couldnt eat with out throwing up that whole week. After I finally had a chance to speak to him and he told me an excuse saying that he couldnt come that he was busy but he said it in away I belived it so I still talked to him. Then at the end of March he tells me he likes some other girl and that he wants to be with her and I felt so bad because I felt like he took my heart and tore it right up that day while I was talking to him I had a panic attack. Then its April and he I.M. me asking me if I was single I said "yeah why" and says that he wanted to see me and I was just thinking is this worth it but I still loved him so I decied to give him one more chance so we make a day and I go and wait to find him not there and I was so pissed off because he would do this to me. One friday in may I finally said what I had to say because I was sick and tiered of it and I also told him I loved him and then instead of being sympathetic he tells me that when me and him met up after I left he messed with anothor girl, then he tells me hes in love with someother girl and we were cursing at each other too. Now things are deffanitly over between me and him yet I wanted to get revenge so bad Im having my friend playing him but when im on my friends screen name I do all the talking and he is so romantic with and I feel bad because I know its not me hes talking too. He even talks about me to this girl that is me but he dosent know it. I cant stop thinking about him I want to get over because I know he never liked me and he thinks im some nut but im just over emotional espeacialy when he was the first guy who showed me emotions liked that towards being romantic. I need to get over him because I have no feelings for any other guy just him and I even had feelings for him to engage in sexual activity and thats somthing I would never do because im afraid to but with him was diffrent for him I would do anything just to be with him but knowing his true feelings now makes me so sad.Please help me with this problem because I cant stop thinking about him and it hurts. Thank you (link)
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First impression is that he's using you as rebound. He's found other girls in other places and is comming back to you when those relationships fail. You're absolutely right: this guy is a jerk. He's probably not worth any effort, because a guy that cheats on you, and it sounds like he did, in this way will probably keep doing it. And you'll keep getting hurt. Guys like this are horrible, selfish, users that only care what they can get from a girl.
My advice would be to not contact this person any more. Don't let him use you. The thing you should concentrate on most preventing him from hurting you, and that means get your mind off of him. When you start to think about him, do something to get him out of your mind: call a friend, do an activity, read a book, but just keep distracting yourself from thoughts of him.
Good luck! Talk to your friends about it as well, and they'll help you to get your mind off things.
Oh, and if you're feeling up to it.. Block the asshole for good measure.
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