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I want him back
My ex b/f i love him so much. but last summer i made the mistake of cheating on him when i was angry and upset. I made a bigger mistake by telling him. We broke up and usually i can deal with rejection and break up but it was hard on me. I thought i was over him but now as the skool yr comes to a end we talks to me and he was bringing back my old feelings.So the last few days he is on my mind constantly.i wanna know is there a way i can get over him or make him realize how i feel?
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First, let me say that you did the wrong thing by cheating on him. I mean, if you were mad at him, you probably should've talk to him. But you did a good job telling him, because you accepted responsiblity. He should have been mad at you for cheating, but then he shouldn't be mad because you told him. You were honest and honesty is a big thing in a relashionship.
If he has started talking to you, who knows he might still like you. Just tell him that you were really sorry for what you did. And asure him that it won't happen again. if he still doesn't want to get back with you, then he is just being stupid.
*When a boy breaks up with you, he is giving you a chance to find someone better! :)*
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Okay, first off, you cheated on him, even though you were angry, you still broke trust between him and you. I know you realize that, but being angry at the time is no excuse.
Break ups are really really hard! They hurt so bad, and sometimes they mean nothing so they dont hurt at all. But I'm sure if he wouldnt have talked to you again, then you might have stayed over him, it takes time, and of course in the future he'll probably pop up in your mind again, but I believe things happen for a reason, I'm not saying there was a reason you cheated on him but I believe your not together today beacuse it was ment to be that way.
To get over him, theres no simple instructions, but summer will be coming, and you probably wont see him a lot, and that will be good, it will give some closure and quiet time to yourself. Try hanging out wtih friends, keeping busy, meeting new people.
YOu can tell him how you feel but I woudlnt force it upon him, because I think if hes talking toyou, he wants closure too, and probably to be friends..
Hopei helped. <3
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You have to be honest with him and yourself. You cheated on him so it is only right that he was angry and upset. It is a big kick to anyone to have their partner go with someone else. What made you cheat in the first place? If you feel that you may have a chance of rekindling your relationship then you should take it. However, don't be surprised if he rejects you. Tell him how you feel and apologise for the way you treated him before. You can't promise either of you won't cheat again - that's a chance you have to take. If he feels the same way then take it slowly. If he doesn't want to know or won't listen to you then I am afraid it's a lost cause. I wish you the very best.
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Make him realize how you feel? How does HE feel? Not to be harsh, but you are the one that cheated on him. While you were honest in telling him, he was probably very hurt. You were also hurt because you felt that the break up came as a result of something you did, and it didn't just happen by itself.
Talk to him about how you feel and asking him about his feelings would be the first step. But you need to be sesitive to the fact that you did hurt him enough to cause a break up. If he doesn't want to get back together, accept it. If that's the case as well, then you'll want to back off from spending time with him for a while, as that will make things harder for the both of you.
I don't mean this to be harsh, but that's the best advice I can give you. In the future, don't do anything out of anger when it comes to a relationship, as it will almost always lead to a situation like this.
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