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Im in love with a guy who is being a jerk
I met this guy over the internet and He talked to me and he said he liked me and wanted to see me so I decided to meet him and since I never had a boy friend be for this was somthing I would be excited about.We met up and the first thing I noticed was his eyes because he had beautiful eyes and that day we talked and just hanged out for a little while and then it was time to go and we kissed.After that day things started to change. When I would come on to my screen name he wouldnt I.M. me but instead I would I.M. him but we still both talked and this made me like him more. A few months later we decided to meet up again this is in January and it was really cold that day. It was on a Thursday. I went to the place we were goning to meet up and I waited their for 2 hours hoping he would come I was so cold but then I left and when I got home I went on my screen and saw that he wasent on I thought he lost intrest in me and I thought that was the reason why he left me waiting and the next week on Thursday I got sick and I couldnt eat with out throwing up that whole week. After I finally had a chance to speak to him and he told me an excuse saying that he couldnt come that he was busy but he said it in away I belived it so I still talked to him. Then at the end of March he tells me he likes some other girl and that he wants to be with her and I felt so bad because I felt like he took my heart and tore it right up that day while I was talking to him I had a panic attack. Then its April and he I.M. me asking me if I was single I said "yeah why" and says that he wanted to see me and I was just thinking is this worth it but I still loved him so I decied to give him one more chance so we make a day and I go and wait to find him not there and I was so pissed off because he would do this to me. One friday in may I finally said what I had to say because I was sick and tiered of it and I also told him I loved him and then instead of being sympathetic he tells me that when me and him met up after I left he messed with anothor girl, then he tells me hes in love with someother girl and we were cursing at each other too. Now things are deffanitly over between me and him yet I wanted to get revenge so bad Im having my friend playing him but when im on my friends screen name I do all the talking and he is so romantic with and I feel bad because I know its not me hes talking too. He even talks about me to this girl that is me but he dosent know it. I cant stop thinking about him I want to get over because I know he never liked me and he thinks im some nut but im just over emotional espeacialy when he was the first guy who showed me emotions liked that towards being romantic. I need to get over him because I have no feelings for any other guy just him and I even had feelings for him to engage in sexual activity and thats somthing I would never do because im afraid to but with him was diffrent for him I would do anything just to be with him but knowing his true feelings now makes me so sad.Please help me with this problem because I cant stop thinking about him and it hurts. Thank you
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First impression is that he's using you as rebound. He's found other girls in other places and is comming back to you when those relationships fail. You're absolutely right: this guy is a jerk. He's probably not worth any effort, because a guy that cheats on you, and it sounds like he did, in this way will probably keep doing it. And you'll keep getting hurt. Guys like this are horrible, selfish, users that only care what they can get from a girl.
My advice would be to not contact this person any more. Don't let him use you. The thing you should concentrate on most preventing him from hurting you, and that means get your mind off of him. When you start to think about him, do something to get him out of your mind: call a friend, do an activity, read a book, but just keep distracting yourself from thoughts of him.
Good luck! Talk to your friends about it as well, and they'll help you to get your mind off things.
Oh, and if you're feeling up to it.. Block the asshole for good measure.
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wow...it sounds like your in such a tough situation and im really sorry that you are because i know thats its really difficult to handle it especially when u have mixed emotions! wow okay first off you need to get over this guy! i understand u like this guy and stuff but even though you want to move on you just cant right? yea i know EXACTLY how you feel!! you need to do something to get your mind off this guy..its going to be hard but you CAN do it.. stop messing with him on the internet pretending to be this other girl because its only hurting you more to be in contact with him and to hear how "sweet" he's being. that's not the kind of revenge you need. in fact, i wouldnt advise you to get revenge because trust me it wont make you feel any better and your just stooping to his level and i know your better than that!
what you need to do to recover is to create an e-mail address w/o him knowing its you and write him an anonymous letter telling him how he made you feel or instead you can mail him a letter, you just need his address, and dont put any retuern address on it. this guy is just a heart breaker who has no concern for anyone's feelings and what makes it bad is that he was your first boyfriend and that hurts you really bad. but trust me you can never fully get over him..he's always going to be in your heart or in the back of your mind because he was your first and that always makes someones special no matter what.
i hope i helped you and if you feel like talking some more you can always email me at yahoo (you can get it off my columnist page) and we can talk more
i wish you all the best
lots of love xo
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