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is he a obsessive or crazy...what?
so i party alot and so does my boyfriend and recently i walked off with my friends boyfriend and my boyfriend freaked out like saying he wasnted to kill her boyfreind so i broke up with my boyfriend ))who i really liked(( in front of everybody like cusing at him and the works and so i left ((this was a 3 am ) and he called a million times that night and the next day and he still thinks we going out but i clearly stated ITS OVER but i dont thin he gets that> how should i tell him i want to be friends nothing more and also its hard because we are going to six flags on saturday with his family ugh what should i do?
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Well... Tell him directly to his face, calmly, "I'm sorry, but I just want to be friends." If he asks why, tell him why. But do it nicely! About the six flags, ask him about it. Ask, "Can I still go to Six Flags with you, as your friend, or am I uninvited?" Good luck!
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make sure he knows that before saturday
just tell him "i meant it when i said we are over!" tell him the truth about how you feel.
if it is "clearly over"
why are you going to 6 flags with his family?
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i think it would be best to sit down and talk to him and explain. and if that doesn't work i think it would be in your best interest to cut all contact from him and his family. talk to him first and see what he has to say. good luck!
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explain it to him so he does get it. Just find another boyfriend and maybe then he'll understand.
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Well, you guys were both drunk so clearly your actions are unsure of and so are your conversations. He may think that you just broke up with him because you were drunk. But then again, he does have a reason to be mad that you just walked off with your friends boyfriend. But under no circumstance, did he have a right to start saying those things. It could've been because he was drunk. I would talk to him about that and tell him that he can't be that obsessive. He was probably trying to call you to make things right because you guys were both drunk. If you really don't want to be with him, tell him that he is too obsessive and possessive for you and that you would feel most comfortable just being his friend. He probably won't talk to you for a long time, because let's face it, most break ups suck. But, just try to be nice about it.
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Well, if you really like him, why did you break up with him? That seemed like a small, jealous outburst and nothing more serious on his part. ...Unless he actually has a habit of hurting people or making constant threats, then it would be a good idea to get away from him.
You're probably not getting through to him about this because he refuses to believe that you've broken up with him. And considering when and where the break up occured, he might think that you weren't serious. The best remedy for that is to cut contact with him for a while. If you can, pull out of going to the theme park with him and his family. You'll miss out, but what's the point of going with them? It would be like pretending you and he are still together and that's not going to get you anywhere. Furthermore, it would just be giving your ex what he wants.
Tell him again clearly and calmly that things between you two are over. If you choose to not go to the theme park as well, tell him that you won't be going with him, and tell his parents that you won't be going just so there's not failure of communication (but only tell them about the break up if you want).
Good luck! Hope that helped you out.
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