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Jealousy!
First of all, there's this girl I know. She has a lot of guy friends and stuff, and she also has s boyfriend.
Well, I have a bad feeling that one of her best guy friends, who I like, likes her. I mean, he talks to her a lot more than he talks to me. I mean, she would never go out with him (she knows I like him), plus, her boyfriend is a close friend of this guy's. So, it's pretty much impossible for now.
But I can't help but feel jealous! I honestly just wanna go for the guy, but the whole jealousy thing holds me back. I've liked guys before that have liked her, so I guess that contributes to my paranoia.
Anyway, my question is, how can I stop being so jealous and get the guy? Thanks!
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oh my god i hate that! thats happened to me too! i mean i liked this guy named cory and he likes this popular girl who already has a boyfriend! its so annoying! its like HELLO!!! IM RIGHT HERE! BOYFRIEND FREE AND FALLING HARD FOR YOU!!! its like a TERRiBLE feeling! honestly, what i did was give up and move on. if i could go back in time though, i would have taken my chances and asked him out. partly because dannggg i DIGGED him, and partly because it was time to end this jealousy thing. but i didnt ask him out! i wish i did. but i was too friggen worried about like.. what if he says no!! then i would b even more jealous. but... when i thought about it.. it didnt really matter anyways. i mean, if you ask him out and he says no then hes not worth it anyways! if hes gonna dig a girl whos NEVER going to say yes, then thats his fault, and it serves him right for it to stay that way! i suggest you ask him out. you really cant go wrong. if hes says no, then yes, at first you'll be even more jealous, but you'll realize, he had his chance. instead, he'd rather chase after a girl who he doesnt stand a chance against. serves him right if he does say no. on the contrary... if he says yes... jealousy be gone, and youve got a date =]
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Well, look at it this way... She already has a boyfriend. This other guy who you like but likes your friend needs to take a hint and get back to reality. Normally, I hate guys that try to "wait in line" for their crush to break up and then pounce one her, but this is an interesting situation.
Your friend's relationship is a big factor in this because that is what's giving you a chance. Talk to the guy, ask him to come with you to a movie or something, show him that you're interested and that might help him realize that he can't have the other girl but he CAN have you. You need to realize that there is NOTHING he can do with her at this point, so there's really no reason to be jealous. What you're describing sounds more like frustration than jealousy, to tell the truth. You seem frustrated that the guy can't take a hint and let your friend have her relationship.
Good luck! However... If this guy can't or won't take the hint that the other girl is taken, rethink how much you really want a relationship with someone like that.
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