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okay well im really sick of not being popular. i have a couple of friends, but sometimes they just get sick of being with me. today in school we were reading reports to the class. the person who read their report got to choose another person to go next. NO ONE PICKED ME! my "friends" chose their other friends and then the nerds even got chosen before me. finally, this girl that no one likes picked me and everyone was laughing at me because i was the last one to read my report. i just want to be popular. now i DEFINITELY don't want to be the most popular girl in the school, but i just want some really nice friends who would take a bullet for me. i'm sick of going home every day crying, because no one ever talks to me or saves a seat for me. everyone has their own groups (clicks) and im not in any of them so im just the odd one out. even my best friends have a click and they won't let me in it. i just feel like i'm in the middle of everyone. and its not like im shy because i talk a lot and stuff, but i guess im still too boring for everyone. no one even trusts me with their secrets (including the 6 friends i have.) and i don't tell secrets and my friends know that but if they have a secret to tell eachother, they'll make me leave and then i can hear them laughing and stuff. and no one even tells me who's going out with who!! my closest friend had been dating a boy for 3 days and she didn't even tell me and i felt like a loser when everyone knew it and i was just finding out. i feel like im left out of everything, and alot of people pretend to like me and they'll hang out with me once in a while, but then they start their own clicks again and i can't get in any of them. And in AIM profiles when everyone lists their friends, I'm always close to last even if I know that person really well. I feel like I'm just not as "likeable" to people and they think everyone else is funnier and more fun than me. And I'm not mean to everyone and I'm never boring, but I just feel like I'm treated like a piece of crap. One second someone will want to hang out with me and the next second they're friends with someone else. So many people say I'm their "best friend" and I'm so "nice" but they don't want to hang out with me. I just don't get it. I don't know what to do. How can I be more "likeable" to people so people will want to hang out with me and be better friends with me? How can I make A LOT of friends? I've tried everything but I just can't get in to anyone's click. How can I do this? Please don't make me feel worse then I already do. I just want to die.
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Hi there, this must be quite painful for you. The problem is wether you want to make a friend, boyfriend, aquaintance e.g, you've got to make it happen. Just sitting around waiting for people to come along is possible but not very likely to happen. What are your interests? Once you've got a list of interests then have a look around your area that might have a group about your particular interest. I personally think that you only need a few friends because being too popular can be a bit annoying. It can invade any privacy you might want. Theres two things I think you can do to make friends:
a) Join a group of your interests
b) Strike up a conversation with someone
Also smile a bit more and look as though your happy and enjoying life. That may attract people to be your friend. Get back to me about this one if you wish. Daniel.
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well, start off by just looking on the bright side. i know, i know, it sounds stupid but, if you just had some positive feel for the problem you might get somewhere. one time in my life i felt exactly how you were feeling, and i know it's really tough. but i started making friends outside of school. i joined a lot of community typed organizations, i went to dance with kids from other schools and towns nearby, and so much more. now if doing that sort of thing might be uncomfortable for you or might be moving too fast, start small. there are tons of ways to meet new people, and create new friends.
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well. this is what it's gonna be like that in highschool. so i suggest that you join some clubs like yearbook committee, newspaper, the glee club or whatever. it's an easy way to make friends. and then when you make friends you can join all those clicks. to make people like you for you just be yourself. just act the way you do when you're with your family. it's very simple. well hope it works out. and have a great summer! bye!
.christina*
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This is why growing up is hard. In school, people are so fickle and they take so many great things for granted. I'm so sorry that this happened to you. My advice is to either talk to your friends now about it and ask them what's up or find new friends. I know that sounds horrible but if these friends are being that rude to you -I wouldn't waste my breath. You are an incredible person and even if it doesn't seem like it now, in time, people will realize how dumb they have been and love you for you. Don't change. I definately think you should talk to them and be like "okay, so you say i'm great but then you ignore me. I don't get it" sort of thing. Keep being nice to them, if you are asked to go to a movie or something and you can go - go. Joke around with different people. Not just your friends now. Keep a smile on your face (no one can resist that, especially the boys ;) haha) But keep in mind, sometimes getting into a click backfires. Clicks are overrated. Just because they have "friends" doesn't mean they truly have friends, if you know what I mean. It's better to be with yourself than be with crappy people. Think about just being you and being friends with a whole bunch of different clicks. I am and I love it. Good luck and I know everything will be fine. Just be yourself and the people that love you for it, are the ones that are worth it because you are awesome! I hope I helped and let me know how it goes! -GC07
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Well, don't try to be someone that you aren't. Good friends take time and patience, and I wouldn't waste that on the so-called friends you have. They don't really sound like they are very good friends if they aren't including you and treating you like that. No one deserves to be treated that way. Just don't spread rumors, and be nice to everyone. Be yourself. In time, you will find someone who likes you for who you are.
**BeLLe**
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