heyy ya'll. im a teenage lover girl. im involved in many sports such as softball, basketball, and soccer, and my friends are all drama queens. thats why im good at giving advice, because they ALWAYSS need it. thats why i love sports. with all of these sad stories and giving so much advice i love to play sports to take my mind off of it. then when i get home, things go back to normal and i think about all of the situations ive been in and how i can help others. why do i give advice?? well gee, i dont know... i seem to ALWAYS need it. maybe thats what makes me so good at giving it, becuase i know how great it is to have advice on all of these crappy situations people get involved in. my favorite catergory is love life, because well gee, thats what i do best!!! need help? im here to the rescue =D.
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I really need help. My bf doesnt trust me and its really hard. Im dealing with it but i want to know what to do to help him trust. Im not really a person who asks for help but i could do with some advice. He has good reasons not to trust, really serious reasons and stuff, but i want to help him. I love him so much but hes always accusing me of cheating, sleeping with people, etc. I think hes getting better but i dont know what else to do to help. Please help, tell me what i can do.
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i know people always hate this answer but its always the true one:
your gonna just have to wait. good trust comes in good time. i lied to my parents once about not going out with this guy whom i really was going out with...it wansnt a serious lie, but it showed them i was a liar. within a year, i NEVER did that, but whenever i talked about guys, it never seemed like they were listening, like it never mattered. within about 2 years, they seemed like they were listening.. and at three years i was forgivin. i know that in the back of their minds they wont forget that i lied to them. trust takes time to repair. if you dont like this answer.. then dont rate. bcuz i dont know if what i said helped... but its true.
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Well i got a problem and its really bugging me cause it hurts me cause i want a g/f!! Well i always start to hang out with the person that i like to get to knoe them but finally when i think i know them enough i decide to ask them out but i always get the same line "were to good of friends" whick i hate now but anyway now i got this girl that i like that i have been really good firends with.. But she just broke up with her b/f cause he was a mean to her and she talked to me more than him...the problem is i want to ask her out but on the other hand i dont want to lose her cause she is a great girl and i love her to death but i mean we talk about everyday for 2 or 3 hours and we always enjoy it...What should i do?? Thanks (link)
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well. i would start by just asking to go to a movie. say like.. just as FRIENDS. like.. that movie Click is coming out tomorrow for example. then after a couple 'friend get togethers...' you can say 'well.. can we go out as a little... more than friends' or something smoother if you can think of it. i mean if she says that youre too good friends, you just say 'okay then lets keep it that way' or something so then she knows it was just an idea, not that your like a dog looking for a bone (expression means desperate && really like her). good luck =D!
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how do you get a girl to go out on a date w/ you? i'm kind of shy and i have trouble talking to girls...sometimes i can't even say hi...help is appreciated i rate (link)
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well, as a girl, my answer is: start off by maybe telling a friend that you like them. girls dont like it when a guy asks you out... but they dont mind when someone says that you like them. but that person cant be like.. a messanger- otherwise its cheesy. that friend of yours could say 'did you know that ___(so && so) likes you'? then hear what her reaction is. if she sounds flattered, then go for it. ask her out. if she doesnt... then keep trying for it. maybe talk to her... maybe say hi every once in a while =]
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Okay so there is this guy that I really liked. We went out for like 2 and a half months and then I broke up with him, but it was rather mutual. During the school year i had my first two classes with him and it is so wawkard. We never talk and he is cool and I want to hang out with him and everything but we haven't talked in months and everythings so awkward. Hes cool and so are his friends. THis is exactly what I didn't want to happen when we broke up. Any ideas on how to reconnect? Ill rate high for any help. (link)
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engage conversation. its an easy thing to do. he may not answer at first, but he cant ignore you forever. i mean, it could be something as simple as, 'oh my god, i cant believe how much homework we have!' or something. have fun! =D
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So i made a mistake..i have this problem where i can't keep a secret. People (my friends) don't usually realize it until they find that out through experience. I have this really weird cyber-like relationship with my friend who is 3 grades older than me, and now we don't cyber anymore but that's another story. He also has a girlfriend. He told me he was going to break up with her awhile ago and now i don't think he's going to anymore, but my friend stephanie told me she thought they were going to break up so i told her that he told me he was going to break up with his girlfriend. i don't remember exactly what i said, but the other day in passing i guess i told my friend bailey, too. i was kind of nonchalant about it, i mean, most people think they're going to break up anyway. Well, today it kind of backfired on me...when i saw him in school he was being kind of weird, and when i got home i went online and tried to be normal talking to him, but he said he didn't want to talk and never wanted to talk to me ever again. so i'm like oh man..what on earth did i do? (we go through so much crap and things get spread and it's just, not a great cycle..)He said my friends stephanie, bailey, jackie, and harry had ALL told him i told them that he said he was going to break up with his girlfriend. Now, stephanie and harry i don't understand because they are two of my best friends so i think they turned on me. great. jackie and bailey was totally an accident and i dont even remember what i said, jackie said bailey told her and i told bailey..i know this is a ton of "who told who" and i'm sorry. my best friends not answering her cell and i have no one else to talk to at this point. Bascially, the issue is what do i do? he's just angry with me and theres so much behind it but i don't know how to handle what's going on, what with him being so mad at me and my friends apparently casuing it? any advice? thanks! (link)
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well, first of all {{as said b4}} you have a lot of apologizing to do. second of all, if you cant keep a secret [[ i know this is hard ]] but tell people that. say that you cant keep a secret and you would advise them not to give you one to keep. yea, thats a difficult thing to have to say to someone, but youre gonna end up hurting people more if you cant keep the secret they give you. and also, when apologizing, admit that you cant really keep a secret, that way the same thing wont happen all over again. and sometimes, it it easier for people to forgive you when you can admit a fault as difficult as having trouble not being able to keep a secret. i hope i helped a little bit.
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First of all, there's this girl I know. She has a lot of guy friends and stuff, and she also has s boyfriend.
Well, I have a bad feeling that one of her best guy friends, who I like, likes her. I mean, he talks to her a lot more than he talks to me. I mean, she would never go out with him (she knows I like him), plus, her boyfriend is a close friend of this guy's. So, it's pretty much impossible for now.
But I can't help but feel jealous! I honestly just wanna go for the guy, but the whole jealousy thing holds me back. I've liked guys before that have liked her, so I guess that contributes to my paranoia.
Anyway, my question is, how can I stop being so jealous and get the guy? Thanks! (link)
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oh my god i hate that! thats happened to me too! i mean i liked this guy named cory and he likes this popular girl who already has a boyfriend! its so annoying! its like HELLO!!! IM RIGHT HERE! BOYFRIEND FREE AND FALLING HARD FOR YOU!!! its like a TERRiBLE feeling! honestly, what i did was give up and move on. if i could go back in time though, i would have taken my chances and asked him out. partly because dannggg i DIGGED him, and partly because it was time to end this jealousy thing. but i didnt ask him out! i wish i did. but i was too friggen worried about like.. what if he says no!! then i would b even more jealous. but... when i thought about it.. it didnt really matter anyways. i mean, if you ask him out and he says no then hes not worth it anyways! if hes gonna dig a girl whos NEVER going to say yes, then thats his fault, and it serves him right for it to stay that way! i suggest you ask him out. you really cant go wrong. if hes says no, then yes, at first you'll be even more jealous, but you'll realize, he had his chance. instead, he'd rather chase after a girl who he doesnt stand a chance against. serves him right if he does say no. on the contrary... if he says yes... jealousy be gone, and youve got a date =]
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Sorry if this is long.
I dated a guy a few years ago. For me, it was fantastic. I loved him very much. I've dated alot of guys since him but I've never felt that connection with anyone else.
We broke up. It was just too serious, too fast and we were too young.
All of a sudden, he pops back into my life (we're both in college now) and everything is completely crazy! I feel as though nothing has changed inside me as far as my feelings for him go.
We hugged that first day for a long time (we hadn't talked for years). He put his face in my neck, rubbed my back. Later when we talked he told me I'd gotten really pretty and kind of played with my hair a bit.
***He knows I'm seeing someone. He was seeing someone then too.***
Anyway, now we keep in touch through letters as he's away right now. I just can't tell if he feels the same about me or if he doesn't.
He says he still thinks about me and wonders if I'm happy. He's said I'm still very special to him. After that first day we talked, he came back to tell me that he'd thought of me that entire day but didnt know if it was a good thing or a bad thing.
I know he's in a place right now where he can't have a relationship. I can't make a move because of that. He needs to be HERE for me to do that.
But I just don't know. I don't know if he still feels something for me or if I'm just imaging it all because I have feelings for him. I don't know if maybe he's holding off too for the same reasons that I am.
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well i believe that he still likes you, but he also likes this other girl. he likes to flirt with you, but there is not enough information to determine whether or not he may like you. from the way i see it, other than the part about playing with your hair, he just really likes you as a friend. like the way someone would love a pet dog or something. im not positive. he may actually like you tho... as more than a dog =P. but you shouldnt make a move. he has a girlfriend and he appears rather content with his life, even if he likes you. whatever it is that keeps him happy it needs to stay that way, because you like him and you just want him to be happy. then again he still thinks about you and wonders if youre happy. i mean, basically your not gonna be happy at the maximum until he's there. and if you feel he digs you, then maybe include how much happier youd be if he was somewhere where you could talk in person, in one of your letters. hope i helped.
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OK. So my friend is pratically in love with this guy. Oh yeah--- and this really is my friend. Though her parents have this rule: no dating till shes 18.
"i dont no what i want to .....do with dave like...you know----i dont no if i want to go out---or jsut talk---or become strangers---or just ignore each other---i just dont no." AIM converstation.
She is so confused about everything, and it's messing her up. She keeps asking me what she should do, and i told her to get to know the guy better, but shes just too afraid of pushing him away. Can anyone help with this? I hate her like this and maybe if they can even just talk more, everything will be good.
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jeez no dating until age 18.. thats harsh!!! but their house- their laws. so, she should just talk to the guy. if he asks her out, she should just simply say the truth. im sorry, but i can't date until age 18, lets just be friends for now. she cant go against her parents rules, cuz that will make her feel worse, and she cant push the guy away because then she still feels bad. she has to just be friends with him until shes 18. i hope i helped.. even just a little bit =P
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There is this guy that i like and he likes me but he like these other girls and he wants me to be his girlfriend .so what do yall think i should do? should i go for it or what . please help me (link)
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two options.
you could just ask him out. because you guys arent really great friends yet, so its not like you could ruin a friendship. and it sounds like from what i hear that he would say yes.
or as the last answer said, you could become better friends and then ask him out. yes this takes more time, but it also insures a steadier friendship that will withstand more trouble. but also, dont wait too long, otherwise you might ruin a friendship. be with him enough to as where he knows that you enjoy being with him no matter what.
make those 'other girls' jealous =D
hope i helped
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ok well is there any other way to let a guy know you like him without actually having to say it (link)
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well... become friends with him, but not GREAT GREAT friends because you dont want to feel that it would ruin your friendship, but certainly let him know that you enjoy being with him no matter what. then if you feel that youve been friends for a while, you can just pass him a note or something. BUT>>>>> just so you know--- i think that the WORST thing you can do is have you friend say it. then yes... you wouldnt have to say it yourself but guys dont like that. they think that your like a wuss or something. i know you dont want to say it, but it would be easier if you did because it flatters guys sometimes to have a brave girl come up to him and have the guts to admit that they like him. haha. wow this answer was really long for such a short question... i hope somewhere in that answer you got some good advice!
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well i heard today that my ex cheated on his last girlfriend. that really worries me because i have beent here before. i asked him about it and said it wasnt true. i really want to trust him but i have had trust issues with boys since my first boyfriend cause he was abusive and cheated. i really dont wanna go through that pain again and dot know what to do about it! i need seruous help this time! (link)
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if i were you, i would snoop around a bit more, so then you have proof of whether or not he was telling the truth or lying. if that isnt possible, i would keep asking him about it every once in a while, like maybe say, '' i know you said you didnt cheat on your girl but people are telling me otherwise and its beginning to worry me...'' or something. i hope i helped...
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Well, I used to go out with a boy, and he was like my first kiss and everything. And I still love him and its been 8 months. But, he has a girlfriend right now. I know he would go out with me if I asked him, but I dont want to break them up. But, I think I really do love him and he means the world to me. We broke up because my friends were being really arrogant and kept telling me lies and false stories about him so I broke up with him. Do I brake them up? How do I get him back? Please help me you have no idea how much I miss him and would literally fo anything to be with him.
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You have two choices, you can try to break them up, but that girl would be REALLLLLLLYYYYY pissed. or then again, you could wait until theyve broken up, then make you move. i think, for now.. just be like, good friends with him. if the girl thinks your 'too' good of friends, then back off a little bit. i mean, he could break up with her for just liking you again, but its not like you did anything that way. all the girl could accuse you of is being his friend, and that is certainly no crime. i hope i helped!
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Heres the sitch...im a 16yr male senior at my high school, and ive been BEST friends with this girl since sophmore year...problem is, ive fallen for her...hard. i cant get her out of my head, i get jealous of any other guys she talks to or who like her, and im really protective of her...but she doest like me when i like her, she said she had a crush on me back when i had a gf soph year, but now she doesnt like ANYONE. what should i do? ive liked her for two years, but she says it would be wierd to date bcuz weve been friends for so long... (link)
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well.. you have two choices, either let go, or keep trying. you obviously know these are your options. you can let go, live life, and find some other girl whos x10 better, or you could keep trying and maybe eventually get that girl youve worked so hard for. I personally, would let go, but it really depends how hard you fell for this girl. hope i helped... maybe even like.. a LiTTLE bit
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ok theres this guy that i have known for a little over a year. and lastnight my friend had a party. and i dont know what happend..i just like fell in love with that kid. i would ask him out, but i dont want other people to judge me for going out with him. hes really cute and really really nice. and i like that in a guy. we were flirting with eachother and one of my friends only knows and she said i should go for him. but i dont want other people to think im like weird for going out with him. i dont know what to do!! and my friend, who told me to ask him out, was like i think he likes you and all that stuff and im confused!! please help. ill rate high!!
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well. your friend is right. you cant just skip this opprotunity because you care what other people think. Life is about what makes you happy. i say go for it. listen to other advice as well =D
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