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don't know what to do.. complicated situation
i have this friend called Matt who i've been mates with for a couple of years now. he confessed he liked me early last year, then got a girlfriend and we just stayed friends. they broke up last year. well a few months ago, we were in his room and kissed. now we're basically together, seeing each other constantly. i really, really like him and have ever since we met.
problem is.. there's this other guy online, named Pete. i live in the USA and hes in france. we're sorta in a internet relationship. however, i'm not getting to see him until earlyish next year when he flies out. i haven't told him about my "friend" because quite frankly, i'm not sure what to say.
i feel like i'm stringing two guys along. everyone tells me i'm not doing anything wrong because my online guy is so far away. but i still feel guilty. i'm not going out with matt officially but we do act like it.
i don't want to "break up" with pete because hes spending all this money to see me, and i feel that would be unfair. however, i really like matt and it would be perfect if it wasn't for the timing.
i just would like some opinions on this situation. should I just continue what I'm doing? am i a cheater? i never intended for things to get like this, and it's depressing me to think of what i could be doing. i wish things weren't so complicated.
thankyou. 5's for everyone.
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If you feel its wrong it probably is. But everyone does something they shouldnt from time to time. Your probably intending on doing stuff with this guy whos flying out to see you. When your with matt - thats wrong. Talk to matt, see hjow exclusive you are. He might be ok with it. I would personally stick with your friend. Long distance realtionships are harder and less fun. Purely up to you. best of luck xxxx
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first internet relationship sounds kind of iffy. i wouldnt play to close to it. I wolud more of my time and energy in worrying about matt. beacuse when you see your "online buddy" he has to go back and his he really going to keep spending all that money to come to the usa from france. weigh your options think of the good and the bad.
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Your decision is obvious. You should be with Matt and end the internet relationship. If the only reason you want to stay with him is because you feel guilty of how much money he's willing to come and see you, then it's not good enough to keep the relationship going. It's not fair to him nor Matt. Maybe you both aren't official, but you've got something there, it's not innocent and that part is known.
What you have to do is just tell him that you don't want to continue things any longer with him because you've found someone closer to you and you feel that it's best this way. I know breaking up with someone is hard, but people go through it, and this is just another hurdle you have to jump and it will be worth it because then you won't be in this dilemma anymore.
Besides, close friends becoming a relationship is hard enough, so let Pete go and let things happen with Matt.
-TheTeenGirl
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The best thing that you can do in this situation is to be honnest and tell the other two people involved. Honnesty is what is lacking in this, and being honnest is the best way to sort this out now. If you're not honnest, you can't hope to have a relationship with either of them.
I don't mean to be hard on you, but don't listen to the people that are telling you nothing's wrong, because there IS something wrong. Online or not, it doesn't matter, they are both people with feelings and affections. The feelings of both of these guys are probably going to be hurt, but that's the situation that you've put yourself in. And even though people will get hurt, telling them is doing the right thing, and perhaps they will be accepting of the situation and it really won't be that bad.
You have to ask yourself the question "which guy do I want to be with more?" You can't have both, and if you continue to try, you'll probably lose both of them. Who knows, though? Maybe you'll end up with one and the other will still want to be your friend.
You probably did never intend it to go this far and I'm sorry to hear about this. I hope that everything turns out as painless as possible. Feel free to send me another question if you need more help on this. Hope that helped, and good luck!
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You need to pick one guy. Not randomly just the one you care for more. If your messing around with matt you need to end what you have with Pete. How would you feel if matt told you that he was talking to another girl online and she is flying out to see only him?. Probly wouldnt feel good. Maybe like you are being used and played. Pete is a online guy. Unless you have meet him in person before is probbly not the safest thing in the world to meet this guy. I think you need to think about what you are doing. And before pete spends alot of money to fly out here. To me you sound like you like matt alot more then pete.
Im not going to call you a cheater. Im just going to say you have alot of things to decide on.
If you have any questions drop one in my inbox.
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