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Long Distance Relationships
16/f My friend and I both like eachother. We've both expressed our feelings for eachother, but we've never kissed or anything else along those lines. I really want to start something with him, but the problem is that he's going to college and I won't be able to see him at school all the time anymore (he'll be about 2 hours away). How do I persuade him that we could work things out even if he goes to college? Anyone have any good reasons at why long term relationships can work? He doesn't believe that they can.
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Hi. I'm in a relationship with a guy who I've been friends with for over 2 years. He goes to school in Toledo, Ohio, which is 4 hours away from me. We have been together for over a year now, and everything is working out FINE! All you need is a little trust and communication, and you guys will work out. Trust me :)
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Yes they can work if you and him have the will power. I live in Georgia and my bf is in the Marines so he is in North Carolina. I am up here right this second visiting him. In January he will be put on a ship varound the world for 6-8 months. We are so happy together and thats why it works between us. If yall like each other enough it will work yall can make it work.
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You can try it. But from experience I wouldn't. It ends up in heart break.
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Long distance relationships are much harder to mantain, but in the end, waiting for someone you KNOW is worth the time can be a wonderful feeling. In a long distance relationship, you can really show someone how much they mean to you by simply waiting for them. Myself, as well as two of my best friends are in long distance relationships, and all of them are some of the strongest relationships I've ever seen.
Tell him that you can come and visit on weekends, tell him you'll write to him, tell him that you'll send hime "care packages" if he likes that. But most important of all: tell him that you are willing to wait for him, even though he may be far away. Tell him that you think the relationship is worth the effort.
Also... This might be hard to take... but perhaps he wants to "free himself," so to speak, as he's going into college. Maybe he wants to be single, I don't know... But keep that in mind.
Good luck! I hope that things work out well! ^_^
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i am in the same boat except he is going much farther. i'm not sure if we are going to end up together, but my guy believes in long distance relationships because one of his brothers stayed with his gf from high school and they are now married and another one of his brothers did the same thing and is engaged. tell him that it will be hard but you are willing to try because it's worth it. the worst that can happen is it doesn't work out. also, if you like each other, why not enjoy it while it lasts? try to make it last longer, and if it doesn't work out, at least you had fun.
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A lot of people feel the same way about long distance relationships not working because it is nothing but hard work and that's the truth. It can be done and it can work, I can tell you that much about it, but it depends on how much the two of you work at it.
Likely, a lot of long distance relationships don't work because of the tough work. A lot of people tend to give up or find someone else that they can actually touch. Plus, this goes along with trust issues, how your friend will act around the girls near him, and all of that pt together as a whole. Trust is a huge issue because sometimes you may think they might be cheating or getting close to someone and it can make you really crazy because you aren't near him to have clues.
When he's saying that he believes long distance relationships don't work, it's basically not going to be very easy for him to adjust to everything. It's like him saying that he won't be able to survive it if it happens. The truth of the matter is that he's the only one who can convince himself that it can work, not you. What you can do is let him know that you really want something more with him and you'd really like to make it work and that's about it. I understand that you may really want this, but he has to want it for himself and be able to convince himself that this can work.
The truth is that there's no great reasons why long distance relationships work. Everyone likely prefers to see their boyfriend/girlfriend in person so that they can be involved physically.
-TheTeenGirl
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