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I will rate fives for all answers! In about 12 days it will be my boyfriend and I's one year anniversary. I was really low on ideas so I got a fleece throwover blanket embroidered for him, it has our names and December 22nd, 2004 on it and it also says I LOVE YOU. I dont' know, is this a good idea and if it is, what also can i get him to go along with it. I bought all kinds of things to make him a card and I just think maybe a lil' something else will do. thanks! -sahara (link)
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Very good idea! I was going to do the same thing for my ex-b/f that's also my best friend for Christmas. So I like your idea. And you know what they say, a way to a man's heart is through his stomach. So bake some cookies. I did that for my ex who was b/f at the time for his birthday and he loved it. Most guys love food.
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i'm 13 f and i've never had a boyfreind in my life. never had a guy ask me out. never had a guy kiss me. nothing. it's not that i'm ugly or anything, i'm pretty i guess but def not like gorgeous and i'm not mean really and yeah. i guess i'm just not guy material? :( but i really really want a boyfriend and a first kiss. like it's driving me insane i can't help it! and a lot of my friends have had boyfreinds and idk about the kissing part. what is wrong with me? how can i make myself feel better about myself/ please help!!!!! (link)
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Okay. I will tell you right now that guys just seem to be totally blind to anything but certain girls until they reach a certain age. I was just like you. I didn't get my first boyfriend and first kiss till I was 14. I got in high school and it was like BAM! I've had 4 boyfriends since. It comes with time. And realize its not you. Boys are just very immature at this age, and you want older guys anyways. And when you're 13, well I wouldn't worry about not having a boyfriend. It's only a real horror story at 18. So relax, boys will notice you when you least expect it. And patience is always a must in these situations.
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WELL okay me and my b/f met at least 4 weeks and some odd days ago and the moment I met him I knew I was going to end up falling for him and I did
I saw him as this guy who would never be with me because he was to amazing....and I was seen and this snobby stuck up rich girl....!! That night we talked and spent at least 4 hours together everyone from the party left except Me him and Crystal* and Deven* my friend and his friend... He comes over every friday and sometimes during the week. we live kinda far from eachother everyone thinks were perfect for eachother one night after hanging out he told me he loved me and I was shocked...cause I loved him to.. the thing is I am scared to loose such a great person...The other two times I have said I love you to someone they dumped me... so the question is should I be scared?? (link)
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Scared, no. Careful, yes. In matters of love its all about the risk. You'll find more happiness than ever if you do allow yourself to love completely. You could get hurt more, but you'll be more happy. So I guess its up to you whether or not you want to be happy at the expense of getting really hurt or not. So follow your heart and remember...the opposite of love is fear.
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ok so I've read some of the advice you gave to other people and I think your great at giving advice.
Ok well I really like this kid, I was shy at talking to him first because I thought he was a cutie. But I pushed myself I talked to him and it went well, I got his msn and everything and we talked on there and he invited me over. We hung out at his house and just talked for a really long time.
Then he asked if I wanted to stay over to eat, so I did. After that.. we walked to a near by park and did our homework, it wasjust awesome. The thing isI'm christian and he isnt, he doesnt believe in waiting to have sex before marriage..and I mean I think he kinda likes me and I do like him, but that creeps me out that if we were ever to get in a relationship he would want to do something like that..
what should I do? (link)
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Just because he isn't a christian doesn't mean he is planning on having sex with you. Yes, it will cross his mind, but he might not necessarily act on it. I guarantee you that you will be even considering it a few times. Its natural no matter what your belief system is. All I can say is talk to him about what is important to you. If he really cares about you, he will consider what you say and not act on his thoughts of sex. Good luck.
P.S. It's perfectly understandable to be afraid. It's human. But I'm sure things will work out. It's still your body after all. And this guy still cares about you and doesn't want to do anything to really drive you away.
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How long into a relationship would you wait to kiss [peck & make out] with your boyfriend/girlfriend? Thanks. (link)
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Well I go with the flow of the moment. Kissing is not too high to really worry about when you do it. However, anything past kissing takes time. So I suggest that kiss when you feel ready for it. You guys obviously must be attached enough to kiss in order to kiss, so just trust your instincts.
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hey heres my story:
im 18 yrs old and in love with a 24 yr old man! my story starts like this, hes my manager at my job and iimediatly had an instant crush on him but me i dont have that much confidence in myself so when he satrted to show intrest in me i panicked and backed way and brought in a freind to go for him, but the only thing is that the friend is actualy me! the real me that i would like to be but dont have the confidence to be! i made up her name and a whloe life for her(me).and called him pretending to be this person! everything was going so well and my emotions got stronger and the more we talked the more we had in common! i ended up fallin totaly head over heels in love with him and decided id tell him and low and behold he felt the same way! and of course he wanted to meet! i didnt know wat to do! i thought for days and days as to wat i should do and finaly decided i should tell him the truth! that the women he was in love with was me!.... well when i told him over the phone he seemed fine and didnt wanna talk about it just wanted to put it behind us and told me that he could never trust me agian! and im the type of person that trust is important to me and it broke my heart to hear that! so anyway the next three weeks passed by and evything was fine he was nice and called me to talk like friends he invited me to places with him and stil comnfided stuff with me! we were all cool then he hit me with a song he had wrote! he had origianly wanted me to hear it but my comp didnt have speakers so he sent me the lyrics! it was amazing lyrics it touched my heart but he didnt say that i was for me! so i read it he imed me like 20 times asking me if i had recived it and wanted my reaction! once again i panicked and retracted my emotions and played it as if i didnt understand the message he was trying to convey! like i liked the song and wanted to know who the artist was (knowing that he wrote it). he immediatly signed off! then greated me at work with a big smile the next day and asked me once again if i had recived the email! again i backed away! and now so di he! he wont talk to me as much anymore and insist on makeing me jelouse with the other female employees! meanwhile im standing hear with all these feelings and dont know wat to do! im in love with him so much it hurts i cant take it anymore he keeps telling me that my apolagies just arnt enough!can u pls tell me wat i should do! it hurts to have these strong feeling twords someone and not be sure that they feel the same way! i want to go back to when i was the real me!( wich he named lola)
sincerly,
lola( the real me) (link)
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Okay, it seems as though you've hid a lot of things. Now from personal experience I have made so many mistakes by not telling how I felt. Now I'm in an actual relationship where I can be truly honest, but it does take tears and it does take guts, but realize he did fall in love with the real you. And I know me telling you just to be the real you is hard and you think he doesn't trust you, but I really think he's just waiting for you to try something. If he's going through the effort of making you jealous, then obviously he wants your attention and wants you to try again. Now my suggestion is for you to find a creative way of saying it. Write a poem, let it out in a latter, write a song, make a painting with the edges filled with your feelings, etc. Whatever you are good at creativily, do. He's waiting for you to do something. You are SAYING sorry, now trying SHOWING him you are sorry. I'm crossing my fingers for you and I think you are afraid, but you shouldn't be. He fell in love with the real you, and we always carry old feelings for people, I emphasis ALWAYS unless they were very light feelings. So don't be afraid, cuz you've got him right where you want him now all you got to do is go for it! Go you!
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Ok so i just called my boyfriend, and all of the sudden it feels like i cant even connect with him anymore. (I'm 13 and hes 16) I called him and asked if he was going to the football game Friday nite, and he said probably not. I was trying to hint to him that I was going and that I wanted to see him, but he would'nt really talk. so i lied and told him I needed to do my homework so I could get off the phone w/ him. What do you think we should talk about? (link)
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Well, try not events necessarily but things that interest you. I've gone on for hours about politics and I will tell you right now that if you even keep slightly updated on politics you can go on for hours. But interests are like music (bands you like, songs you like, lyrics you just love to hear, etc.), movies (favorite movies, actors, actresses, etc.), or even some issues that matter something to you (your friend got harassed by a guy, how lame it is to call people bitches and sluts, how full of labels today's world is, etc.). I'm sure there can be something that interests you. Now I am a debator so I could go on forever with topics that matter something. For instance, did you know that a law was passed that prevent schools from saying the pledge of alligiance, but no one really enforces it. I could go on and on.
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ok, i really think i love this girl, but i kinda asked her out last night, and i talked to her, but she doesnt trust me, she thinks that im the kind of guy who will just go out with someone til the next girl who comes around, and really thats far from the truth, but i have no idea how to prove to this girl that i am not lying and i never would especally to her, and that i would devote all my time and effort toward her well-being? (link)
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Well, sometimes girls don't want words. She may not trust you now, but hey you are supposed to earn it. Patience my dear friend, patience. You will earn her respect and trust in time. You just have to prove you are trusting. If you don't do anything stupid like lie to her then she'll learn to trust you. But every girl has some emotional barrier. She obviously doesn't want to get left. Now its your duty to not be another guy that leaves. So go for it...and I hope it pays off.
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theres this boy and he liked me last year and asked me out.i told him i was taken but i would still like to talk to him.i broke up with my boyfriend over the summer and he knew about it.then he agian asked to go with me.i told him that i see him more s a friend.now is the new school year and my friend Diane thinks this boy is kinda ugly.i dint think he's ugly and neither do my friend Brittany.now i kinda like him and he's is still trying to go with me.even though looks arent important to me at all i dont want my friend Diane saying shit about him or me. should i just forget her and go for it or do you think a friends opinion is important (link)
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Okay, I've learned something...I went with one of my boyfriends because my friend said that we'd look cute together. I ended up dumping him 3 days later because I just didn't mesh with him. Now in matters of the heart, friends opinions do not matter. Now you friend only commented on his looks and as you stated looks don't matter. If he's a great guy, then she'll warm up to him, besides you're the one who has to date him. You better like him. So I say go for it, otherwise you could later regret missing an opportunity.
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I NEED HELP!!!!!!!!!!!i am in love w/ this guy named Travis...we have been "Friends With Benefits" 4 quite a while now...he knows that i luv him...We say "I Love U" EVERYTIME that we r on the fone together...he treats me like a PRINCESS...last nite he told me that i was like a sister 2 him.....i was CRUSHED....i cried myself 2 sleep.....he is my EVERYTHING!!!!!....i dunno what 2 do....i feel like giving up on EVERYTHING...including life....I NEED ANYBODIES HELP!!!!!!
*~*~*~*Emmy*~*~*~* (link)
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For starters, love is not as possessive as what you are feeling. That is infatuation. And if you can't even say I love you seriously to each other, then the relationship isn't that deep. And love is where you'll sacrifice everything for their happiness, even if it won't be with you. So quit thinking you are in love when it is no more that a deep infatuation. Tons of girls think they are in love when they aren't. Take it from a girl in love and when you really are in love, just seeing a smile on their face makes you happy. You tend not to care so much about being with them. And you'll get over this, it's just this teenage phase you are going through that makes you think everything is soooooooooo dramatic and deep, when it's not.
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I really really like this guy! My friend is going out with him though and i dont think she knows that i like him! But they are really cute togher and i dont want to make her mad! He is a good friend of mine to! So it's hard to tell eaither of them because i dont know what's going on with them!! what should i do? (link)
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I'm in your exact position. And I told the guy and my best friend now knows. And we're all ok. I'm slowly moving on, but at least now they try not to flaunt it sooo much in front of me. I don't feel bad and they are my friends so they understand me. I'd tell them. It wouldn't hurt, and they are your friends. They like knowing what's bugging you. I hope I helped. Rate me.
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This guy I had a date with kissed me on the firt date. Is that werid? I have never kissed someone on the first date before. Do you think he just wants sex? (link)
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Maybe he felt a real connection, and that's why he kissed you. After the first date, I wouldn't jump to conclusions that he only wants you for sex. I wouldn't take it too seriously. I mean it was only a kiss.
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hey every1
k well i went out with this guy last year, his name is ben. then we broke up over the summer but now for like a month i have liked him again and i found out that he likes me too cause he asked me out tonight online, but as soon as he asked me out and i said yeah he had to go football. im worried that tomorrow at school it will be akward and i really don't want it to be akward cause we have been like really good friends like forever. please tell me good ways to flirt with him tomorrow so it isn't akward! thanks so much I RATE WELL! (link)
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Talk to him like you normally do, except now that you're going out, drop anything involving other guys. And you can hold hands now, and grab his arm and put it around you. That's definately an ice breaker.
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I just want to know what are some things you can say to a girl to charm her and make her like you. Such what are some things i could say to the girl i like to just slowly make her like me. Are there anythings that girls like to hear that charms them. Thanks any help is pretty much appreciated (link)
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Well, if you get them alone. I like it when a guy compliments me on like my eyes or something like that. I also like it when guy's compliment me on my personality (ex. You're so nice, funny, etc.). I had this one guy one time tell me I was worth more than a million dollars. It was kind of an inside joke, but I totally fell for him because of it. You could also play off her interests. Find out what she finds funny and tell jokes or showing off sometimes make girls notice you. I don't much about the girl, but those things should work if you know her pretty well.
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I have been dating this guy for 2 months. We say "I love you" all the time. It's our Spring Break and we call a lot. Here's the problem: He always has to go. And when I ask him why, he just says he has to go and basically hangs up on me. Do we talk about it now? Or should I wait until the break is over? (link)
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Do it now! When problems occur in a relationship, resolve them as soon as you can. Just tell him how you feel. 2 months should show that he cares about you and he'll listen. Hope I helped. Hello Maygen. You need to tell me how it goes.
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Ok I kind like this guy but he's my friend I can't tell if he really likes me or not so should I akk him out or not? (link)
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Ask him!!! What's the worst that can happen, he'll say no. Sure rejections a bummer, but he's your friend. He ain't gonna be mean about it. If it doesn't work out, you can still be friends. You'll live if he says no, and if he says yes well....need I tell you what's gonna happen. Rate me!
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All you girls out there...
I am kind of shy, but am trying to be more outgoing, which I am finding easier and easier. Usually when I like a guy, they have no clue, but I would like to change that. What are the best ways to flirt? If you could tell me some of your favorite flirting moves I would appreciate it. Any little flirty gesture or something that always works for you?
And for you guys out there, what kind of things do you love when a girl does? What is the best ways for a girl to flirt in you opinion? How do you like a girl letting you know she is interested in you?
Please keep in mind that I am kind of reserved, so please don't tell me to go up and grab his butt or something, thats not really my style. Thank you so much in advance for your advice! (link)
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Personally, I always love teasing them. Like saying they're smart asses and stuff. I also like telling jokes, especially gross ones. I feel more open when I add humor, and so far quite a few guys are really flirting back. So I hope I helped.
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Ok, this might be kind of long but here goes...I have been going out with my boyfriend for 9 months, and we are really getting on eachothers nerves, we fight over little things a lot and its getting old. He's always by my side and following me, hes really clingingy and hes just getting annoying. Don't get me wrong, he is the best boyfriend I have ever had--literally--and the longest relationship, but I just want to be friends right now. I don't want any boyfriend at all, but I have issues with breaking up with people. I don't like to hurt people's feelings I hate makeing people feel bad or cry, and I need some ideas as to how I could break up with him, but let him know I still love him, we still have a very big chance, I just need a break and want to be friends for awhile?
I rate high to answers that don't offend or piss me off.
Thanks for you help. (link)
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I bet he might feel the same way. He could be getting annoyed just like you. You just need to start by stating exactly how you feel. Emotions can't be helped and he should understand that. He loves you very much and he'll totally understand. And I'll be your shoulder to cry on. But you should tell him you love him and just need a break. It's not the end of the world and if you tell him that he'll be fine. Just be totally open. You may dread doing it and hate yourself for a bit afterwards. But if its driving you nuts, you're hurting him more staying together with him and not explaining your feelings. I hope I helped.
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ok well heres the deal..i REALLY like this guy and hes sooo sweet! he told me i was hott and hes always talking to me and leading me on..and if he askes me out..i would have my first boyfriend ever. thing is, one of my best friends supposedly "loves" him and she doesnt even know him and they never talk..unlike me i have talked to him lots of times. and now my best freind and him are starting to talk like online, but he ignores her a lot so he can talk to me..and shes making it seem like a competition and always rubbing things in my face whenever they have sumthing in common. another thing it, she knows that he likes me, but she doesnt know that i like him...its really confusing. if she found out she would be soo upset..she even said "if u ever liked him i would hate u" and i dont know what to do cuz shes had tons of boyfriends and i really want this guy to be my first bf. pleas help..ill rate everyone. (link)
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A real friend would be happy for you. Go out with the guy. If your friend can't get over it, then I guess she's not a very good friend. And the fact she rubs it in your face is an indicator there'll be friction even if you didn't go out with him. Besides, it's not like she's gonna end up with him. Most guys don't go after the friend.
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me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 3 months this guy jake all of the sudden starts liking me and all of my friends are telling me to break up with my boyfriend and go out with jake because jake seems way nicer and that he would treat me better. they say this because my boyfriend is kind of scared to make the first move and its fine im not in no big hurry but jake n i were talking and he said that my boyfriend doesnt give me what i want and he was talking about .. you know.. well c i dont know if jake only likes me for that or because of my personality and stuff and he said i was awesome n nice ? help (link)
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Your boyfriend doesn't like making the first moves because he wants to be a good boyfriend. I had a boyfriend like that. He liked me controlling the speed so I could feel more comfortable with him. My suggestion through experience is don't break up with your boyfriend unless you have a really good reason to. Another guy is not a very good reason unless you like them way more than your boyfriend. But from past experience, don't let them go to soon. You'll regret it if you weren't 100% positive.
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