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with all that i hear going around especially in the media, its difficult for me to decide whether sexual orientation is a mental, psychological, or conscience choice. do people decide to do it out of their own free will? is it both? any help is appreciated - will rate (link)
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I did much research on this. It is an actually psychological need if you will. When we are little, we need same sex relationships in our lives. If we are neglected with that, then it may take onto a need that may become hormonal when we get older. It's a need that sometimes goes sexual. Not really born that way, and not necessarily a choice. There is no gay gene or anything like that. But it is behavioral. Just like we are born with personalities. Our environment may alter it, but we still had our own individual one on our own.
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I'm 13/f in the 7th grade. There's this girl in my grade, and we'll call her "Chloe." Chloe is like the model student. The typical child prodigy/intellectual. She gets straight A pluses in everything. Even in choir, she gets all the solos because teachers like her so much. What the frick!!! I've been trained in singing since I was 7, have a lot of vocal technique, I think I have a good voice (not to sound like I have an ego or anything), I'm in a very advanced choir outside of school, and I've never received a solo. I have been doing very poorly is school recently, mainly because of my problems on staying focused and my awful organization. I got a D+ in math, B- in History, A- in English, C in Science and B- in Spanish. This is the second quarter now. My math and history grades improved, my Science dropped, Spanish dropped and English dropped, just because I don't take notes and I can't write a beginning of a story in 15 minutes, even though my pieces were published at Stanford. I don't get credit for anything anymore, but that Chloe does. She's very very smart, but not smarter than me. Now, this guy I've liked for ages likes her (he said to to me face-to-face, not knowing that I like him), and that's just the last straw. I hate her!!! I know this sounds like a psycho hose beast talking, but I can't help it. She's a nice girl. And I feel guilty because I hate her so much. Can anyone help me???
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Trinity
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Hun, you are just jealous. For one thing, as far as your grades go, work on your grades, not on how much you hate Chloe for getting good grades. And as far as choir goes, maybe it's because she participates or gets noticed more. Here's a hint, get good grades, be active in class, and also talk to the teacher about what you can do for extra credit and then you get noticed by the teacher. So, chill out about the solos. And I want you to read what you just wrote about why you get bad grades. I hear problems, I don't hear solutions. You know you have problems with organization. Start making goals. Start keeping things in folders designated to certain subjects. Now, as far as the guy thing goes, don't blame her for that. You didn't open your mouth and tell him you liked him. Until you do, it's your fault. Now I see a lot of your issues being placed on her. I'm afraid you just need a wake up call and realize it's not her fault for the problems in YOUR life. She's not intentionally out to get you. I realize that it's hard getting over jealousy, I too am fighting it due to my ex getting together with this girl. I hate that girl. What I do is focus on my life and just let things go. I can't control her, but I can control what I do with my life. Now, realize you can consider me a bitch for this, but then all you'd be doing is running from reality again. Now, I am a "Chloe" if you will. I get straight A's and am a teacher's pet in both drama and debate. I've only been rejected by guys once in my life. I've pretty much gotten whomever I pursued. So, you hating her like this is kind of you hating me. Which is why I'm giving you this reality dose if you will. Now, I hope you start living your life and work on your problems, and just realize she's not out to get you.
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I will rate fives for all answers! In about 12 days it will be my boyfriend and I's one year anniversary. I was really low on ideas so I got a fleece throwover blanket embroidered for him, it has our names and December 22nd, 2004 on it and it also says I LOVE YOU. I dont' know, is this a good idea and if it is, what also can i get him to go along with it. I bought all kinds of things to make him a card and I just think maybe a lil' something else will do. thanks! -sahara (link)
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Very good idea! I was going to do the same thing for my ex-b/f that's also my best friend for Christmas. So I like your idea. And you know what they say, a way to a man's heart is through his stomach. So bake some cookies. I did that for my ex who was b/f at the time for his birthday and he loved it. Most guys love food.
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ok, a wile ago i asked a question about headache's and tried the advice that people gave me but it didint work, and now im like getting headaches more often, can this be somthing serious?
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My sister has frequent headaches and her doctor put her on anti-depressants because I guess they help. It's decressed her migraines though. Oh! And I've heard Midol works.
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14/f... just wondering if 34B is small for my age. Please help - I'm really worried!!! (link)
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Hell no! I'm 15 with 36B. And I'll have you know I've been told I have perfect breasts. And realize more than a handful is a waste. Guys actually like B's.
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I need advice on how I can start a petition. I need to know how I officially and legally start it and who do I present it to. How do I organize it? As you can see from my title, the purpose of the petition would be to have some sort of ruling against out-ruling the pledge of allegiance in schools or changing it.
Anyways, do you think because of 'under God' that after over 200 years, the pledge should be changed or withdrawn from any school. Why or why not? Thanks in advance. (link)
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Okay. Start a paper with lines to have signatures. Make sure you state what you want exactly. Then talk to the administration on how many signatures you need to get it brought up at the school board. Oh! And I believe that the Pledge of Allegiance should be optional. Whoever wishes to say it should be able to, regardless if it has "under God" in it.
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i'm 13 f and i've never had a boyfreind in my life. never had a guy ask me out. never had a guy kiss me. nothing. it's not that i'm ugly or anything, i'm pretty i guess but def not like gorgeous and i'm not mean really and yeah. i guess i'm just not guy material? :( but i really really want a boyfriend and a first kiss. like it's driving me insane i can't help it! and a lot of my friends have had boyfreinds and idk about the kissing part. what is wrong with me? how can i make myself feel better about myself/ please help!!!!! (link)
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Okay. I will tell you right now that guys just seem to be totally blind to anything but certain girls until they reach a certain age. I was just like you. I didn't get my first boyfriend and first kiss till I was 14. I got in high school and it was like BAM! I've had 4 boyfriends since. It comes with time. And realize its not you. Boys are just very immature at this age, and you want older guys anyways. And when you're 13, well I wouldn't worry about not having a boyfriend. It's only a real horror story at 18. So relax, boys will notice you when you least expect it. And patience is always a must in these situations.
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WELL okay me and my b/f met at least 4 weeks and some odd days ago and the moment I met him I knew I was going to end up falling for him and I did
I saw him as this guy who would never be with me because he was to amazing....and I was seen and this snobby stuck up rich girl....!! That night we talked and spent at least 4 hours together everyone from the party left except Me him and Crystal* and Deven* my friend and his friend... He comes over every friday and sometimes during the week. we live kinda far from eachother everyone thinks were perfect for eachother one night after hanging out he told me he loved me and I was shocked...cause I loved him to.. the thing is I am scared to loose such a great person...The other two times I have said I love you to someone they dumped me... so the question is should I be scared?? (link)
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Scared, no. Careful, yes. In matters of love its all about the risk. You'll find more happiness than ever if you do allow yourself to love completely. You could get hurt more, but you'll be more happy. So I guess its up to you whether or not you want to be happy at the expense of getting really hurt or not. So follow your heart and remember...the opposite of love is fear.
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okay, i know for stomach you do crunches, for legs you jog, but how do you lose that flab on your hips?
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To lose love handles, roll your knees to the right or left and do crunches. It isolates the fat and works it.
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ok so I've read some of the advice you gave to other people and I think your great at giving advice.
Ok well I really like this kid, I was shy at talking to him first because I thought he was a cutie. But I pushed myself I talked to him and it went well, I got his msn and everything and we talked on there and he invited me over. We hung out at his house and just talked for a really long time.
Then he asked if I wanted to stay over to eat, so I did. After that.. we walked to a near by park and did our homework, it wasjust awesome. The thing isI'm christian and he isnt, he doesnt believe in waiting to have sex before marriage..and I mean I think he kinda likes me and I do like him, but that creeps me out that if we were ever to get in a relationship he would want to do something like that..
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Just because he isn't a christian doesn't mean he is planning on having sex with you. Yes, it will cross his mind, but he might not necessarily act on it. I guarantee you that you will be even considering it a few times. Its natural no matter what your belief system is. All I can say is talk to him about what is important to you. If he really cares about you, he will consider what you say and not act on his thoughts of sex. Good luck.
P.S. It's perfectly understandable to be afraid. It's human. But I'm sure things will work out. It's still your body after all. And this guy still cares about you and doesn't want to do anything to really drive you away.
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can you give me good, DETAILED directions on fingering a girl? like should i rub her stomach before i do it? i have never don it before, but my girlfriend wants me to, and i want to but i dont want to come off as really wierd and inexperienced. i want to make her comfortable, feel sexy, i want to make me comfertable and sexy, etc. so everything from A to Z on fingering (music and lighting to how many fingers!!) every single step!
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Okay. For starters in my own experience I like one to two fingers. Three fucking hurts. Two will wear you out. One will be more flexible. Now, make sure you move in and out hard. And mostly just ask her what to do for the first time. Girls very so much in that department. Now forget lighting and all that other stuff, once you start its all about the fingering. I will suggest chest groping though. That's always nice. Oh and neck kisses too.
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How do you have an orgasm?
Please, only the females answer this question. Nothing personal.
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God! Honey you will not get an orgasm for a long time. You wil rarely ever get one during sex. Fingering is still rare and oral is rare as well. Females are not built to have orgasms hardly ever. You will be lucky to get one. So don't expect it.
I am a girl. I have been fingered numerous times and all my friends have had sex. And I can safely say that it is rare for girls to get orgasms. The only real way I can get one is when I do it myself.
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how do i give a guy head. ill rate 5
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You stick it in your mouth and don't bite. Sucking doesn't get to them as much as this kind of up and down lip movement. They love serious tongue movement.
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How do I get a guy to CUM when we fool around?
Ill rate 5's to good answers.
*Michaela* ttys
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I suggest oral sex. That is the most intense and it gets them to CUM quicker. Don't bite and remember to use lots of tongue actions. And the more your mouth covers the better it is.
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how do I turn a guy on and make him want me?
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I suggest make fake orgasm sounds in his ear and bite his bottom lip when making out. And neck kisses too.
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When a guy is inside of you, does it hurt?
Im preparing for the night of my life, Im not going to be a virgin no more! Im scared! What do I do if I freeze and he thinks Im bad. Guys, What is more comfy to you? On the bed or Other.
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thankz so much guys and girls. Thankz for being here for me in my time of need! (link)
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Okay. Yes it fucking hurts. You have a big thing going up you so it'll hurt, but don't let him pull out till he's done otherwise you'll be in more pain. They like it lying down. Girls have better orgasms when they are in a chair stance. Don't expect to have an orgasm ever during sex. Hope I helped.
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How long into a relationship would you wait to kiss [peck & make out] with your boyfriend/girlfriend? Thanks. (link)
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Well I go with the flow of the moment. Kissing is not too high to really worry about when you do it. However, anything past kissing takes time. So I suggest that kiss when you feel ready for it. You guys obviously must be attached enough to kiss in order to kiss, so just trust your instincts.
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okay...i've been on my period for about 3 months now. ( i started like 3 months ago..i mean ) i've used pads b/c i was afraid to use tampons. well i tried to use a tampon the other day and it hurts to put it and i got it half way in and pushed up the aplicator but it wasnt in all the way so i pulled it out and when i did it hurt. wut should i do? is that bad?? should i see a doctor?? should it hurt, i kno it's not suppose to, is there something i can do? i rate high for good answers. someone plz give me advice!! (link)
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Okay, listen up. Girls that have never used tampons will hurt. The reason being is you are tight. I'll bring in a story that may not be about tampons, but it'll still prove that point. My boyfriend one time fingered me extremely hard, well it hurt like hell, but I later found out that it was all because I was tight and that was wider than I was, so it causes cramps, aches, and pains. But I got over it like 2 weeks later. So its alright and perfectly normal. You just aren't used to them. And if you actually have blood coming out when you aren't are your period after having a tampon in, relax...you just knocked a piece of skin in there that causes bleeding to occur.
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okay i want a guys opinion or answer since its about a guy. how can a gurl tell if a guys likes them. like my ex boyfreind said we broke up b/c he thinks of me more as a bestfreind than a gurlfriend and he like is always looking at me and like teasing me and stuff like that but he has a g.f. and i have another freind that i likie but i cant tell if he likes me..there r 2. like a games and stuff we joke around and he puts his arm around me and stuff. HELP! i rate 5z for good answers!!! (link)
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Obviously there is such a thing as lingering feelings, but do realize that guys are different. There is differences in every guy. But it sounds like to me that he's just doing things with you that friends do. My ex and I are best friends and I am dating his friend and we act like that. I don't like him and he doesn't like me either. We are just playful people who just happen to act playful. So that's my opinion.
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hey heres my story:
im 18 yrs old and in love with a 24 yr old man! my story starts like this, hes my manager at my job and iimediatly had an instant crush on him but me i dont have that much confidence in myself so when he satrted to show intrest in me i panicked and backed way and brought in a freind to go for him, but the only thing is that the friend is actualy me! the real me that i would like to be but dont have the confidence to be! i made up her name and a whloe life for her(me).and called him pretending to be this person! everything was going so well and my emotions got stronger and the more we talked the more we had in common! i ended up fallin totaly head over heels in love with him and decided id tell him and low and behold he felt the same way! and of course he wanted to meet! i didnt know wat to do! i thought for days and days as to wat i should do and finaly decided i should tell him the truth! that the women he was in love with was me!.... well when i told him over the phone he seemed fine and didnt wanna talk about it just wanted to put it behind us and told me that he could never trust me agian! and im the type of person that trust is important to me and it broke my heart to hear that! so anyway the next three weeks passed by and evything was fine he was nice and called me to talk like friends he invited me to places with him and stil comnfided stuff with me! we were all cool then he hit me with a song he had wrote! he had origianly wanted me to hear it but my comp didnt have speakers so he sent me the lyrics! it was amazing lyrics it touched my heart but he didnt say that i was for me! so i read it he imed me like 20 times asking me if i had recived it and wanted my reaction! once again i panicked and retracted my emotions and played it as if i didnt understand the message he was trying to convey! like i liked the song and wanted to know who the artist was (knowing that he wrote it). he immediatly signed off! then greated me at work with a big smile the next day and asked me once again if i had recived the email! again i backed away! and now so di he! he wont talk to me as much anymore and insist on makeing me jelouse with the other female employees! meanwhile im standing hear with all these feelings and dont know wat to do! im in love with him so much it hurts i cant take it anymore he keeps telling me that my apolagies just arnt enough!can u pls tell me wat i should do! it hurts to have these strong feeling twords someone and not be sure that they feel the same way! i want to go back to when i was the real me!( wich he named lola)
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lola( the real me) (link)
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Okay, it seems as though you've hid a lot of things. Now from personal experience I have made so many mistakes by not telling how I felt. Now I'm in an actual relationship where I can be truly honest, but it does take tears and it does take guts, but realize he did fall in love with the real you. And I know me telling you just to be the real you is hard and you think he doesn't trust you, but I really think he's just waiting for you to try something. If he's going through the effort of making you jealous, then obviously he wants your attention and wants you to try again. Now my suggestion is for you to find a creative way of saying it. Write a poem, let it out in a latter, write a song, make a painting with the edges filled with your feelings, etc. Whatever you are good at creativily, do. He's waiting for you to do something. You are SAYING sorry, now trying SHOWING him you are sorry. I'm crossing my fingers for you and I think you are afraid, but you shouldn't be. He fell in love with the real you, and we always carry old feelings for people, I emphasis ALWAYS unless they were very light feelings. So don't be afraid, cuz you've got him right where you want him now all you got to do is go for it! Go you!
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