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too much out there to decide
with all that i hear going around especially in the media, its difficult for me to decide whether sexual orientation is a mental, psychological, or conscience choice. do people decide to do it out of their own free will? is it both? any help is appreciated - will rate
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assuager, you're totally wrong.
Very often when girls are molested by men they become lesbians.
However...I think sexuality is all about love. Its just who you fall in love with, man.
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Hi there,
Personally I think it is a combination of all of those things.
I have quite a few gay friends and some of them are convinced they were "Born Gay" while others think that it is because of their upbringing and one was straight all of his life until he met a certain guy who he has now happily been with for 6 years!
Sexual orientation is completely personal preference, no one can MAKE you gay and no one can MAKE a gay person straight!
Bi-Sexual people are not people who can't make their mind up they are people that prefer to choose to have relationships with people of BOTH sexes! This is a choice made by them for whatever reason!
It brings us back to the age old question are we made who we are by nature or nurture. Are we destined to be the way we are from birth or is it the way in which we are brought up and our environmental surroundings that make us who we are.
As I said before I personally think it is a combination of both.
I hope this helped a little!
Mel xx
(P.s Great to see an intelligent question on here for once!! :o)
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It can be any or all of those things depending on the person involved, their background and lots of other factors.
The thing is, does it really matter? Whatever the reason that people are the way they are, they are entitled to be that way and I can't see that it makes any difference why they are that way.
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well people are gonna tell you that "you're born that way" but in all honesty as a guy or a girl you make the decision whether you want to end up sucking dick or munching carpet. people will say it's psychological and that it's something you can't control but it's something you decide on. a guy has to make a choice if he wants it up the ass or if he wants some poon. and a girl has to decide if she wants to ride a cock or ride a strapon. i mean there are psychologial factors involved with the emotional aspects of sexuality but in the end sexuality is ones sex life. the key word there being sex. and it's all about not whom you want to love or whom you want to be with. it's whom you want to have sex with. love and sex are two totally different things, as is who you feel you belong with and who you find sexy. emotions are not tied to sex, emotions are seperate from sex. sex is a physical act pure and simple and not til after sex do emotions hit you again. and when these emotions hit you a sense of satisfaction or disgust can take over. and i honestly think no one is gay until they've tried both sides of the fence and found out what gives them the best sexual experience. because sexuality and your sexual orientation is all about who or what you want to have sex with. be it man, dildo, woman, or dog. the fact is we all make a choice in whom we want to have sex with this and only this determines sexuality, sexual preference, and sexual orientation. the act of deciding whom we like to fuck.
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Scientists have been trying to figure this out for years. There really is no right answer and at this point, it's mostly up to one's beliefs. I don't really think it's a choice; you just like what you like and you can't really stop that. Personally, I think it could be a combination of genetic and environmental factors that cause it. It doesn't really matter in the long run though, no matter what the cause is, every sexual orientation should be accepted all the same.
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I did much research on this. It is an actually psychological need if you will. When we are little, we need same sex relationships in our lives. If we are neglected with that, then it may take onto a need that may become hormonal when we get older. It's a need that sometimes goes sexual. Not really born that way, and not necessarily a choice. There is no gay gene or anything like that. But it is behavioral. Just like we are born with personalities. Our environment may alter it, but we still had our own individual one on our own.
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Okay, I personally am a lesbian and it is definately not a "choice" you can make or something you can just decide one day..it's alot more than that. Everyone is who they are and the only choice they really have is whether or not to act on those feelings they have. If you are gay, there is absolutely nothing in the world that can change that, no matter how hard you try. At the end of the day you will still be attracted to the same sex. It's part of who you are, period. No one just decides whether they wanna be gay or straight, it's in who you are from the day you were born, just like any other aspect of your personality or character.
I really hope that clears some things up!
<3 Amberly
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I have many bi and homosexual friends and all of them have said the same thing- they were born that way. My gay male friends have said that in their younger years, they dated girls, but it was not the same and they always felt that something was missing from their relationship. A guy might pretend to be gay, or wish he were gay, but the only person who will truly know whether he really is homosexual is themself.
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