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i ahve a big confidence problem and im in love! wait till u
hey heres my story:
im 18 yrs old and in love with a 24 yr old man! my story starts like this, hes my manager at my job and iimediatly had an instant crush on him but me i dont have that much confidence in myself so when he satrted to show intrest in me i panicked and backed way and brought in a freind to go for him, but the only thing is that the friend is actualy me! the real me that i would like to be but dont have the confidence to be! i made up her name and a whloe life for her(me).and called him pretending to be this person! everything was going so well and my emotions got stronger and the more we talked the more we had in common! i ended up fallin totaly head over heels in love with him and decided id tell him and low and behold he felt the same way! and of course he wanted to meet! i didnt know wat to do! i thought for days and days as to wat i should do and finaly decided i should tell him the truth! that the women he was in love with was me!.... well when i told him over the phone he seemed fine and didnt wanna talk about it just wanted to put it behind us and told me that he could never trust me agian! and im the type of person that trust is important to me and it broke my heart to hear that! so anyway the next three weeks passed by and evything was fine he was nice and called me to talk like friends he invited me to places with him and stil comnfided stuff with me! we were all cool then he hit me with a song he had wrote! he had origianly wanted me to hear it but my comp didnt have speakers so he sent me the lyrics! it was amazing lyrics it touched my heart but he didnt say that i was for me! so i read it he imed me like 20 times asking me if i had recived it and wanted my reaction! once again i panicked and retracted my emotions and played it as if i didnt understand the message he was trying to convey! like i liked the song and wanted to know who the artist was (knowing that he wrote it). he immediatly signed off! then greated me at work with a big smile the next day and asked me once again if i had recived the email! again i backed away! and now so di he! he wont talk to me as much anymore and insist on makeing me jelouse with the other female employees! meanwhile im standing hear with all these feelings and dont know wat to do! im in love with him so much it hurts i cant take it anymore he keeps telling me that my apolagies just arnt enough!can u pls tell me wat i should do! it hurts to have these strong feeling twords someone and not be sure that they feel the same way! i want to go back to when i was the real me!( wich he named lola)
sincerly,
lola( the real me)
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well why dont you tell him all of your feelings and tell him you love him i mean it sounds like you do and maybe tell him that you did get the email and tell him the song was beautiful i mean i think he'd appreciate it. hope that helps
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Well if you are 18... why are you pulling so immature things... but anyways what I think you should do ... is Talk to him.. he is older than you and well more mature.. so I think if you to sit down and talk like adults it could work.. so try that and if thats doesnt work email again for more advise
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Okay, it seems as though you've hid a lot of things. Now from personal experience I have made so many mistakes by not telling how I felt. Now I'm in an actual relationship where I can be truly honest, but it does take tears and it does take guts, but realize he did fall in love with the real you. And I know me telling you just to be the real you is hard and you think he doesn't trust you, but I really think he's just waiting for you to try something. If he's going through the effort of making you jealous, then obviously he wants your attention and wants you to try again. Now my suggestion is for you to find a creative way of saying it. Write a poem, let it out in a latter, write a song, make a painting with the edges filled with your feelings, etc. Whatever you are good at creativily, do. He's waiting for you to do something. You are SAYING sorry, now trying SHOWING him you are sorry. I'm crossing my fingers for you and I think you are afraid, but you shouldn't be. He fell in love with the real you, and we always carry old feelings for people, I emphasis ALWAYS unless they were very light feelings. So don't be afraid, cuz you've got him right where you want him now all you got to do is go for it! Go you!
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Well i'd suggest to ask him out on a date and if you don't feel confident wear something you know make you look hot and have someone do your hair and make up so you have a second oppionon. But if you both truly do love each other you shouldn't let him he migh not eveycome back or he might think you dont lik him and giving up on you. Just listen to your heart! And i that didn't help you try asking other people frieds family who evey i'm sure they'll help! Good Luck!!
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You lied and now you are dealing with the consequences. Try not to back off so much next time. If he says your apologies aren't enough, find another way.
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Well, it's bad enough you had to lie about who you are, but things like this backfire and come back to kick you. If this guy is trying to make you jealous and he claims he was in love with you and he's treating you this way, even saying that he won't trust you again, he obviously is confused, and so are you. If you still love him, you need to talk to him, and actually show intrest because if your willing to open your heart to this guy you cant be shy, because love isn't shy, so you need to take time to try and get him to trust you because you can shatter trust a lot faster than you can build it. If this doesn't work, he's not worth it and and you need to go out and find a guy, maybe closer to your age, that actually loves you because this guy may not.
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ok well im so sorry to hear that but also think of it this way hes 24 and ur 18! so you might love him but he probley dose not trust you very well because you lied to him and he probley did not like that but he works with you and you see him and at least you get in touch with him theres nothing you can do besides talk to him and act like nothings wroung...just say your sooo sorrry and i kno you wont accpet my apogay but anyways for what i did was wroung and i like you alot and i dont want to loose you as a friend. thats all i can say for now tell me how things go because thats all that you can do and if he dose not accpet ur appogiy then im sorry to hear that but thats it any mroe things that happends send one to m y inbox! <33sunny411
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Ok this is a tuff situation. But i'll try my best. First of all just keep trying to talk to him. Tell me him the way you are & when you blank out its because you confused and don't know what to say. You only act this way because you love him. I totally understand that !! If apolgys aren't enough than hes just an idiot. You should write him something like he did for you. Such as a poem. And write down all those feelings in it. And once you send it to him. Sign it by your name not anymonus (SP?) just by your name Lola. He would probally understand your more sorry with a poem or song about how you feel about him. If he doesn't than hes like completely not worth it. Because here you are spilling your heart for him telling him how you feel and hes not even listening probally. Just write the poem or song. Even if it sucks its the point of the poem. And it would be sucha sweet thing to do !!!! And if he just doesn't forgive you than hes an idiot. Hope I helped <3
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well the best thing you can do is work up the confidence and just tell him how much you like him. i mean its very obvious he likes you, he wrote you a freaking song, this is as little risk as you will ever see in the relationship game. of course he got hurt when you pretended not to get the song, he poured his soul into it. he really likes you so just ask him out for cofee after work or something like that and work from there
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