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okay.

13 f

and im starting to grow hair / down there \
and under my arms like armpits lol
and my chest are thickening

and also, i have a discharge.

should i wear pads just incase if it comes
any day now?
how long does it usually take
for your period to start?
yes i know every body has their own speed for ther puberty thing to start.

ill rate 5s if you can serisouly help!

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I'm so holy-crap overwhelmed by everything right now! Most of it's from this girl. Don't tell me that teens can't love. I'm 13, and I know what love is. I know I'm in love. But she doesn't like me back. So that's two things so far, love and rejection. Then there's jealousy, when I found out that she had an ex and her first kiss. Her ex is coming back. I know it. I can just feel it. And I have nobody to talk to about it: my parents don't understand (I tried), my friends are as equally nerdy as I am, and don't know a thing about love; I'm way too busy to go see a therapist; I'm too shy to tell her all this.
And of course school. I made all the advanced classes, so that's kinda annoying. But not as much.
And finally, orchestra. I'm in my regular orchestra, a chamber orchestra, an ensemble orchestra, and a jazz orchestra, and I'm also taking private lessons. So that's a holy-crap lot of music to practice.
And now I'm way to overwhelmed to focus on anything. I feel like Charlie Gordon, from Flowers for Algernon. At one point, he described himself as "a blind man allowed to see the light" and that's exactly how I feel. I never knew emotions before. Ever. Now that I know love, rejection, jealousy, etc, I know how to feel. And I've been trying to get over that girl, but I just can't! I can't even remember how I went through my life before I became obsessed with her, before I found Advicenators and started asking and ansering questions, before I knew how to love! I want to be normal again! I want to continue life as I previously had! I can't do anything! I'm just blabbering on and on and on, but there's so much to say! AAUGH!!!!!!!! I'm so pissed off, frusterated, angry, weirded out, overwhelmed, confusticated, and just plain SCREWED UP! Please help! I can't go on with life, I'm losing sleep!

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I liked this boy alot.. and alot of people said we were "together" cause i was always with him and he always held me and kissed me and he called me his baby and everything.. but he also had this lil thing with his ex gf but i kinda just ignored it.. cause he always asured me nothing of it.. well the other day he got mad at me.. and he told me he just wants to be friends for now cause he doesnt like anyone and doesnt want a girl.. Well I`m tryen my best to stay happy cause i mean we are still friends right? but i havent talked to him in like for ever and havent seen him! and if im his friend i still wana see him! and i guess he is with his ex right now.. so i uno they a prob fucking or something! and i Just need advice on how to maybe move on or feel happy or someone to talk to or something! cause im about ready to just give up and spend my whole life crying!

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Homecoming is coming up soon. I can't go because my uncle's wedding is on the same day. But my boyfriend is considering going with my friend who can't find a date, actually she can she just doesn't feel like going with the guy she likes for some reason. Anyways, I said I was okay with them going, but I'm really not but saying I'm okay with it so I don't look too possessive. But I feel uncomfortable with any girl going to one of the most romantic dances with my boyfriend. Should I tell them I'm not okay with it? How do I tell them without sounding like I don't trust them? Is this a bad sign on the boyfriend's part or can he really be doing it just to be nice? And is it bad on the friend's part?

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hey heres my story:
im 18 yrs old and in love with a 24 yr old man! my story starts like this, hes my manager at my job and iimediatly had an instant crush on him but me i dont have that much confidence in myself so when he satrted to show intrest in me i panicked and backed way and brought in a freind to go for him, but the only thing is that the friend is actualy me! the real me that i would like to be but dont have the confidence to be! i made up her name and a whloe life for her(me).and called him pretending to be this person! everything was going so well and my emotions got stronger and the more we talked the more we had in common! i ended up fallin totaly head over heels in love with him and decided id tell him and low and behold he felt the same way! and of course he wanted to meet! i didnt know wat to do! i thought for days and days as to wat i should do and finaly decided i should tell him the truth! that the women he was in love with was me!.... well when i told him over the phone he seemed fine and didnt wanna talk about it just wanted to put it behind us and told me that he could never trust me agian! and im the type of person that trust is important to me and it broke my heart to hear that! so anyway the next three weeks passed by and evything was fine he was nice and called me to talk like friends he invited me to places with him and stil comnfided stuff with me! we were all cool then he hit me with a song he had wrote! he had origianly wanted me to hear it but my comp didnt have speakers so he sent me the lyrics! it was amazing lyrics it touched my heart but he didnt say that i was for me! so i read it he imed me like 20 times asking me if i had recived it and wanted my reaction! once again i panicked and retracted my emotions and played it as if i didnt understand the message he was trying to convey! like i liked the song and wanted to know who the artist was (knowing that he wrote it). he immediatly signed off! then greated me at work with a big smile the next day and asked me once again if i had recived the email! again i backed away! and now so di he! he wont talk to me as much anymore and insist on makeing me jelouse with the other female employees! meanwhile im standing hear with all these feelings and dont know wat to do! im in love with him so much it hurts i cant take it anymore he keeps telling me that my apolagies just arnt enough!can u pls tell me wat i should do! it hurts to have these strong feeling twords someone and not be sure that they feel the same way! i want to go back to when i was the real me!( wich he named lola)
sincerly,
lola( the real me)

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can anyone help me with a new sn? my nick name is bree.. i like x33 and my number is 22 now it dosnt have to do anything with the number but usually i write bRee x33 but as for now that sn is taken.. can anyone help? it doesnt have to do with my name or anything.. i juss need a new sn.. that was juss a suggestion.. ahh!! i rate high!

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Okay, My name is melissa, and i'm fifteen. Theres this guy at my school who keeps calling me fat. He says that i'm obese and that i should just stop eating!!! The problem is, that i'm 5,4 and i'm 105 pounds. I dont think that's fat, and all my friends say i'm stick thin....but, i dont know. If he calls me that, do other people think that? And...if not, how do i get him to stop?

Please help! I rate high!

~Melissa~

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well if you don't know my story read "very very very confused" Well I don't know whether to call my ex, to at the very least let her know what really happened and not let her believe what she was told. I have not attempted this yet, but I feel it might help me with some sort of closer, atleast knowing that I told her, regardless whether she believes me or not. The problem is when she has called she only tells me to stop talking "crap" about her, and I am not, and everytime I have tried to explain things to her she just hangs up. Well last weekend she block her number and called me on friday night, saturdaynight, and 3 times on sunday night, I didnt answer any of the calls because I didnt want to hear say that I am lying and threaten me. At the same time I am at the point that I would like to atleast set the record straight. We had already broken up, yet we were still talking, I had told her that she was the only one for me, but she thought I was trying to talk to other women at the same time, and this is were it started to get ugly and has grown into something worse. The worst thing is when you are accused of something that you didnt do, and what you had actually told someone is not what she heard. I do want to call her, but she has told people that I have been bothering her and that we were never really together, after she believed that I had did something wrong. She blocks her number when calling me, so there 's no record of her number on my cell phone, or bill. So there's my problem, wanting to call her to set things straight, but dont want let her continue to say that I am bothering her. Please I really need some advice.



BREAL,29yrs,male

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i go to a private school and its really small. i'm in 8th grade and next year i'll be going to a public school for the first time. i know i'm ready. i'm smart so that won't be hard. and all my best friends are going there, and i know lots of people that go there. and i'm planning on playing tennis. but do you think there is anything that i should watch out for/look forward to or anything else i should know?

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hey i have a problem. wel yesterday was our school dance, and i hated it so much, because of some stuff that happened. what happend was that there's 2 guys that i like. 1 of them i like A LOT all the time, but the other guy i just think he's really hot and i just really really really wanted to dance with him. this other guy that i like all the time, almost every girl in the class likes him, and i know he likes someone that likes him too, but i know that it's not me. 1 of my friends realy liked him too, and yesterday he asked her to dance. and then after that i was gona ask him to dance but then right wen i was about to my friend asked him to dance, and i was really sad. and then i thought "this dance is the worst dance ever!" but then i thought "well there's i stil have a chance with that other really hot guy tht i've been wanting to dance with." and i know that this guy really likes me and everything, because we went out twice before, and he stil likes me and everything, and i stil like him, but everytime we go out we dont feel comfortable around each other, so we keep braking up. so then we talked a lil, and he we both wanted to dance together and everything, and he kept on coming up to me and tryed to ask me to dance and everything, and i was waiting for him to ask me, but he kept geting too nervous and just walked away without asking me, cuz he didn't know that i wanted to dance with him, and that i still like him too. it was the worst dance ever. i didn't get to dance with any of the two people that i liked. so for the next dance, what should i do to get them to dance with me? especialy the 2nd guy? and is ther anything i can do to get over them? please help! i rate high!

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hey i was just wondering about something... well you know how girls think that boys are weird and what they do to try to impress girls are weird and not attractive at all? wel is there anything about girls that you guys hate? i just wanted to know because there's this guy that i really like and i was wondering if there's any like really annoying habits about girls that guys dont like about them.. ok please answer i rate high!!

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okayy well. i like this one boy. lets call him "Michael" alright?? okay well michael and i went out last year. and ive liked him like over the summer and this year at school. okayy well. im not sure if michael feels the same way. be4 school started me and a couple of friends played truth or dare and i made out with him like once. and then i like kissed him twice. anyways. that was august 20th. and its now septemeber 08. we talk on aim not too much in person.. and i really dont know if he likes me. i think he knows i like him cause every1 in the whole effing school does. and i mean. how do i fidn out if he likes me without me having to just be like. hey do u like me. I DO NOT want to tell him how i feel because.. that would make it akward.

oh yeah.
two other problems.

Theres this other dude. well call him bob. WOW hes a hottie alrightt. i went out with him Three times last year. and i think i might like him again. but last year he was a major perve. and i think he still might be today. i think he likes my friend.

OTHER PROBLEM.
there is this other kid. and hes like totally dark and handsom. he dresses punk but hess soooo sweet. thing is hes a grade above me and im not so sure if he likes me either. he wont tell me who he likes. and hes not excatally any1 people would except me to go out with. me being somewhat a prep and all.

IM CONFUSSEDDDD!
help i rate high for good advice.

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Hey! okay so i like this guy named zach. he's my best guy friend's friend. I barely know him at all. He doesnt really know me.. So what do i do?

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Today was the first day of school (wa hoo) and in my tech class there is this really cute guy and i was wondering how to get his attention without really being to obvios like in his face kinda thing thanks =D I rate high =p

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friends account again...

im not fat but my stomach is a lil loose if ya know what i mean and i want to make it harfd so what are some exercises i can do to make it un-flabby REALLY FAST!!?

also, i have wide hips and a big butt, i think it looks good, but would guys go for it?

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ok im 14/f and i have more of a punk look to me (rocker,play drums, black nail polish, etc.). do any guys like that. im the advice columnist flirty if u want to know more bout my personality. my questio n is, do any guys like girls like me?

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All I ask is that you don't critisize me in this. Well, I made myself throw up a few minutes ago. I did it to help somebody, and I'll never do it again. The thing is, I got a really sore throat after. Does anybody know how to cure that?

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