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Overwhelmed!!!
I'm so holy-crap overwhelmed by everything right now! Most of it's from this girl. Don't tell me that teens can't love. I'm 13, and I know what love is. I know I'm in love. But she doesn't like me back. So that's two things so far, love and rejection. Then there's jealousy, when I found out that she had an ex and her first kiss. Her ex is coming back. I know it. I can just feel it. And I have nobody to talk to about it: my parents don't understand (I tried), my friends are as equally nerdy as I am, and don't know a thing about love; I'm way too busy to go see a therapist; I'm too shy to tell her all this.
And of course school. I made all the advanced classes, so that's kinda annoying. But not as much.
And finally, orchestra. I'm in my regular orchestra, a chamber orchestra, an ensemble orchestra, and a jazz orchestra, and I'm also taking private lessons. So that's a holy-crap lot of music to practice.
And now I'm way to overwhelmed to focus on anything. I feel like Charlie Gordon, from Flowers for Algernon. At one point, he described himself as "a blind man allowed to see the light" and that's exactly how I feel. I never knew emotions before. Ever. Now that I know love, rejection, jealousy, etc, I know how to feel. And I've been trying to get over that girl, but I just can't! I can't even remember how I went through my life before I became obsessed with her, before I found Advicenators and started asking and ansering questions, before I knew how to love! I want to be normal again! I want to continue life as I previously had! I can't do anything! I'm just blabbering on and on and on, but there's so much to say! AAUGH!!!!!!!! I'm so pissed off, frusterated, angry, weirded out, overwhelmed, confusticated, and just plain SCREWED UP! Please help! I can't go on with life, I'm losing sleep!
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Well I Think this is not a real problem that some oen can help with. But I will give it a shot. This girl has an ex, so will all the other girls you go out with. If she is acting different around you that means she doesnt want to get too close to you again because she knows your feeling for her. And your emtions are a little over the top, because I went out with this Kid ,Bradley, for 6 1/2 months and I was heart broken when we broke up. So yea, so Just take it day by day...
"You NEVER stop loving some one,
You just learn to live with out them"
Xo Melanie oX
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The fact you claim you're 13 seems pretty improbable. If you aren't lying, you're probably the smartest 13 year old to ever ask a question on this site. Congrats to you my friend.
However, the fact that you write too well to be 13 - at least from the concluion I gathered a while ago about 13 year olds and their writing capabilities - totally makes everything I thought about this question crap.
I've never seen any 13 year old refernece Flowers of Algernon, or better yet, reference any form of literature every made, nor have I seen a 13 year old with good grammar.
So my question to you is...Why write a fake question?
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Wow I'm happy I found your question because first of all, I know JUST how to help. This is gonna be lengthy so I appologize in advanced"
-It seems like you really love her. I know people say all this stuff about how when you're 13 you don't know what love is. Well, they're WRONG because I'm 13 & I fell in love so I know EXACTLY how you feel. Love hurts, it's hard, it's horrible & cruel & sometimes all you can do is face it.
-First of all, TAKE A BREATHER. Being overwhelmed is common, especially at our age. It deffinitely is obvious you've GOT ALOT OF STUFF going on & I know how that feels. You've just got to write stuff down, schedual it out. Then.. you have to face her.
-Okay, I know how friendship is one way & then the second you fess up to how you really feel things changed. You've got to tell her that you respect her & HER feelings so you'll be fine JUST being her friend. I know that seems like a lie to yourself & to her but you have to, just to get things back to normal. Then be friends again for a while & see how stuff is.
-I know these feelings are hard. I know they hurt & make you feel like you could just rip your heart out. Heartbreak is horrible & rejection is possibly one of the worst feelings out there.
-Shyness is understandable, I'm not asking you to tell her how you feel. Let me just say that it sounds like you would make an AMAZING boyfriend & if I was her I would deffinitely go out with you because you sound just absolutely SWEET & dedicated to her. Try your best to get things back on track in your life & then work on winning her because ANYTHING iS POSSiBLE WiTH LOVE <33
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Okay this might be a long answer but first of all after you read this you need to CALM DOWN.
* First please just take a breather for at least 5 minutes. I know you say you have so much to do and are so overwhelmed but you need to like meditate or something. Okay here I bet you have at least 10 minutes to spare if not make it shorter. Sit down somewhere on your bedroom floor, on your bed, kitchen table, anywhere and preferably alone. Close your eyes and don't think anything like "okay now I get to sit here for ten minutes" or anything. Think about what you want or what all you have to do for a few minutes. After that just relax, and try not to think about this girl. You need "YOU time" or just time to think.
* Next question, do you have a planner or assignment book so you can write down when you have what? If not, you should get one and it could help you not feel as overwhelmed.
* Now on to this girl. Don't get offended by any of this I'm just writing down my thoughts on what you said in the question. For a long time I liked this guy and I was exactly like you, I was all over the place! I was obsessed with everything about him... or so I thought. After a really long time, I realized I didn't even KNOW him that well!! I mean we weren't best friends, we didn't talk that much, etc. I'm not saying you don't know what love is but do you really know everything about her and not just what it looks like on the surface? Oh and how do you know she doesn't like you back? Did she say it flat out " I dont like you like that"?? If not, then you never know. But if so, then you might want to try and move on especially if she's making your life so complicated. Before you get way in over your head, consider this. Do you really KNOW her? Or do you just like the idea of being in love with someone? I know you can't just snap your fingers and be over someone, believe me I know, but it does take time. Last thing, if you feel you really really know her and you really do love her, take a chance! It's better than wasting all your time day-dreaming about it and losing sleep!
Hope I helped and if you have any details you want to add or any other questions, just drop it into my inbox.
-PiNkKiSs43
-P.S. I have read that Flowers of Algernon story and I know what you mean.
***Edit-Some people just get scared when you tell them they like you. Why don't you just try and go back to being best friends? Say more than just "Hi" start a conversation. It's better than nothing right? And after you are back to that you never know where that might lead....
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