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i think i love this girl, but she doesnt trust me
ok, i really think i love this girl, but i kinda asked her out last night, and i talked to her, but she doesnt trust me, she thinks that im the kind of guy who will just go out with someone til the next girl who comes around, and really thats far from the truth, but i have no idea how to prove to this girl that i am not lying and i never would especally to her, and that i would devote all my time and effort toward her well-being?
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So... she doesn't trust you. You know what that means?
1. You did something to make her think you're untrustworthy
2. A rumor told her you were untrustworthy
3. Some boy broke her heart by running off with lots of other girls, proving himself untrustworthy and she's categorizing guys as untrustworthy brutes.
It's probably that third one, though not as severe. Lots of girls will, if they've been hurt, naturally assume that the next guy that comes a-calling is going to break her heart. Perhaps guys feel the same way, I wouldn't know - I'm not a guy. ;-)
Sadly, I do know several girls who are exactly the way she thought you would be "the kind of guy who will just go out with someone 'til the next girl who comes around..." – that's how these girls are. They date one boy for a few weeks, the boy thinks he loves her, because she said "I love you," to him. He thinks they're soul mates... but then the girl gets a good look at some other "hot" guy and splits. Because this is a very real aspect of life, perhaps this girl you're enamored with thinks you'll be the same way - she's seen it in action before, right?
To prove yourself, let her know that you still like her (sometimes we girls will just assume you do not like us anymore if you don't tell us!). Do not show interest in any other girl but her - that is, unless you want to prove her right - and she would have a field day with that. Remember her birthday, Christmas and Valentines day. ESPECIALLY Valentines day!!! Everyone knows that Valentines day is one of the most important days of the year to a girl. ANY girl. To show a girl (whether you're dating her or proving to her that you like her), always tell her that you love her; try to spend the day with her. Give her a single red rose. She'll go crazy. Birthdays and Christmas are also important.
Girls love letters. More importantly, we love love letters. Now, now, you don't want to scare her off or anything, but to show your devotion try writing a simple poem (or getting one off the web) about her beauty or a character trait she possesses. When walking past her, smile with your lips, eyes and heart. She'll know you're truly happy to see her.
Just talk to her. We don't like it when you think that, as your girlfriend (or the object of your affections), you don't need to talk to us. Quite the opposite in fact. We want you to talk to us like normal people. Of course, it never hurts to throw in a few sweet words...
Help her. Open the door for her. Walk her home, walk her to her car, carry her books, etc. She will really know you mean business if you're opening doors. Sadly, in our "new age" movement with all the feminist rights people, no one really takes notice of us and our feminism. In the "old days" of the pioneers, a man would always help his wife, daughters, nieces, aunts etc. before he would tend to his sons, nephews, uncles etc. The man would help his wife / daughters into the wagon and make sure they were warm and comfortable before starting off. We like to be treated well, but don't treat her as inadequate. That'll make her mad for sure. Girls can know about cars just as boys can know about ballet. But even if you like a car junkie chick, open the door for her. She'll love you for it.
I hope this has provided a little insight into the complex infrastructure known as the female mind. :)
-FunnyCide
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PROVE IT TO HER!! Let her know that you would pick her over any other girl!! Walk with her, look into her eyes, <b><u>JUST PROVE IT TO HER</b></u>. If you have any further questions feel free to IM me. <b>xxluvtacheerxx</b> or <b>SARAHx3B00</b>
-Sarah
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you cant "think you love" someone. either you do or you dont.
Do what my friend did to prove he was loyal to his girlfriend, staple your hand. just one staple in the back of the hand. It doesnt even bleed that much either.
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Well, sometimes girls don't want words. She may not trust you now, but hey you are supposed to earn it. Patience my dear friend, patience. You will earn her respect and trust in time. You just have to prove you are trusting. If you don't do anything stupid like lie to her then she'll learn to trust you. But every girl has some emotional barrier. She obviously doesn't want to get left. Now its your duty to not be another guy that leaves. So go for it...and I hope it pays off.
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