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he ONLY loves me like a sister
I NEED HELP!!!!!!!!!!!i am in love w/ this guy named Travis...we have been "Friends With Benefits" 4 quite a while now...he knows that i luv him...We say "I Love U" EVERYTIME that we r on the fone together...he treats me like a PRINCESS...last nite he told me that i was like a sister 2 him.....i was CRUSHED....i cried myself 2 sleep.....he is my EVERYTHING!!!!!....i dunno what 2 do....i feel like giving up on EVERYTHING...including life....I NEED ANYBODIES HELP!!!!!!
*~*~*~*Emmy*~*~*~*
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Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
For starters, love is not as possessive as what you are feeling. That is infatuation. And if you can't even say I love you seriously to each other, then the relationship isn't that deep. And love is where you'll sacrifice everything for their happiness, even if it won't be with you. So quit thinking you are in love when it is no more that a deep infatuation. Tons of girls think they are in love when they aren't. Take it from a girl in love and when you really are in love, just seeing a smile on their face makes you happy. You tend not to care so much about being with them. And you'll get over this, it's just this teenage phase you are going through that makes you think everything is soooooooooo dramatic and deep, when it's not.
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hmm... mkay. you are freinds with benefnits but yet he thinks of you as a sister. that is just wrong. that would be like him saying he is prokin his sister. ewww... you need to find out what he really thinks of you. like if he really thinks of you like a sister to him, then the friends with benefits really needs to go.
but i know what that feels like to be "like a sister" to someone. and it hurts at the time if you really like the person, but it goes away. just try to keep your cool with him and dont change how you act around him now because your a sister like figure. you should keep the whole friends relationship together just as it was the whole time with him, only minus the benefits. however, if both of you are still comfortable (which i can almost guarentee he is fine with it), with having your benefits, then go ahead and do whatever it is you want to do. if you both still want to have sex and do stuff with each other, then more power to you. but just as long as you are both into it. and if your not and he doesnt get why, just tell him what you think about it... how being friends with benefits just doesnt seem right to you if your a sisterly figure to him. if he doesnt understand that then he is just being an ass and just wants a piece of ass.
hope this helps. good luck and have fun!
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O_o friends with benefits AND a sister? You're just filling multiple rolls here, lol.
You should definently try to talk to him about it. It sounds like you're close, so it shouldn't be too weird talking about personal problems.
My best friend and I were like that. I had this HUGE crush on him... and we tried dating. But I dumped him. And it went something like that, on and off... He's like, the nicest guy I ever dated, seriously.. but I began to realize that it wasn't going to go anywhere besides friendship... and I talked to him about it. Then I realized that we had chemistry.. but no destiny. (hahaha, I know it's corny, but it's true) Sometimes giving up is the best thing you can do. He still treats me like he'd treat his girlfriend, but I learned not to take it to heart.
If you really feel like giving up on life, I suggest therapy, though it's not for everyone, it's helped a lot of people I know. For help getting over this guy... well, become busy. Get a job, volunteer, whatever. Chances are, you'll meet another guy there anyway. (Sorry it was so long!!!)
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hi there
i feel your pain, i am not just saying it, no one deserves to go through this heartache, first of all since your his friend and he says your like his sister, why would he sleep with you because to me he isnt being a true friend a true frind will cherish you and your friendship
personally i don't think he is being honest with you, you should have a talk with him a serious mature conversation, because if you say your his you everything, you need to talk
yo usay that you say i love u , everytime he might have a different interpretation from the one u used, talk to him, also has he got a girlfriend,
Good luck and God bless
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Friends with benefits yet you are like a sister to him? Sounds like you better knock off the benefits part of the relationship...thats just wrong. :)
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Well you have to look at what you want to do...you can tell him you like him A LOT, or you can look at what he said as being a good thing. For example what if you guys got together and broke up? what would happen to your realationship? And if he said that to you...if could bring you guys closer. I think that you guys probally wil start dating, and if you dont still know that he loves you in some way, which is better than nothing. Dont give up...life will get better, and everything happens for a reason. whether you were meant to be with him or not, you life will get better. follow your heart.
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