Ok, so I'm friends with this girl and this boy who have been dating for a few years now. Let's call the boy V and the girl J. J is bipolar, but somewhat high functioning, from an abusive family, and is recovering from a drug addiction. V, even before they started dating, has helped her with everything. He paid for her to get into rehab, for her mental health, helped her press charges against her abusive parents, and has overall been extremely emotionally supportive. I know V really well and he loves her to death.
For some reason J decided to cheat on him. I noticed her hanging with some other guy. At first I brushed it off, thinking that perhaps they were working on something for school or something. But then I figured out she was sleeping with him. I asked her about it, and apparently she isn't as in love with V as he is with her. But she warned me not to tell him, and claims that if I do nothing good will come out of it because his heart will be broken.
I agree that V will be so depressed because he really does love and respect her. He always talks so highly of her and even when he's had a god awful day she makes him happier. I'm honestly so angry that J would do something like this and to make matters worse I've figured out she's been sleeping with this other guy for two and a half years! So while V has been comforting her, helping her through hard times, and saving her from abuse, she's been going behind his back.
Should I tell him what she's doing or should I keep it a secret?
ABSOLUTELY.!!!
Yes his heart will be broken, but it is better to deal with heart break now then later on in life. He will be more heartbroken if he finds out that you knew and decided to spare him for NOW because that is what you are doing, than to tell him the truth. Truth is always better and trust me you don,t want to lose him protecting a cheater. And the guy she is sleeping with will get his karma too. Unless he doesn't know either then i feel very sorry for her.
You should tell him because if you don't not only will you lose a friend, but you will resent yourself and the girl for this because you know about it and you are just smiling and having convos with him while you know his gf is doing things behind his back and then there will be a change between you and the girl and he can and will tell the difference. And plus you don't want someone else to tell him and then you get in more trouble for not being honest with him as his friend.
Tell him and let the stitches come apart and they need to, but you will be there for him and slowly you can help sew them back
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So there's this really cute guy in my program and he was in 3 of my classes last year and from observing him in lecture he was always alone and very quiet. From time to time I caught him glancing at me and my friends (I feel like it's cause of my friend). He was also in one of my tutorial classes (the classes are up to 15 people) and whenever the teacher would ask him a question he would answer, it would be a very smart answer. So now I know he's quiet and smart. I want to get to know him but I'm scared to go up to him, he's caught my friend talking about him a few times but he doesn't say anything. I don't really know what to say to him cause I'm awkward and if you've seen my previous posts you'd know I lack a lot of confidence. Before I thought last school year he would glance at me because he thought I was cute but now I think he's been looking at my friend the whole time. Here's the reason, one time before lecture I was telling my friends a story about high school, I think I was pretty loud because he turned around and started smiling at me and then my friend was like "that guy just looked at you" I guess she put the idea in my head and I think he heard her say that too because after that he would look back sometimes but rarely. Then one day in the library we were handing something in, I was with two of my friends, so one of my friends walked by him first, he didn't do anything then my second friend (the one I'm always with let's call her Alex) walked by him second and his head turned following her, and I don't know if he watched me but I doubt it, ever since then I've been starting to think he's been looking at her. Now this school year he's in 2 of my classes, a random dude came up to him about the homework now they've been inseparable ever since (now it's gonna be harder to talk to him). Looking back maybe if I asked him about the homework we would've been friends. But anyways Alex doesn't know how to lower her voice every time he walks by /sits by us she always has to talk about him. "Hey look that's our best friend" or "he remind me of..." So I know he knows we talk about him, but anyways how should I approach him? Do you think he thinks Alex is cute or is this all in my head or is it because she talks about him that he looks at her?
Boy trouble is the hardest. I say just talk to him to really know. I would say hi since he is shy. Both of you can't be shy together lols. So i would just go up and talk to him if you really can't do it then go with the friend that you think he has an eye for that way you can do it together so you wont be so shy and also you can find out if he likes your friend by body language. Does he only look at her when he speaks does he get closer to her. Small things while also getting to know this boy and seeing if he is someone you want to become friends with or not. Trust me I am 22 about to be 23 and I would see guys that I believed were cute but then I get to know them and they were not my type.
Hope this advice helps you.
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Dear Vikki
I'm 24 and from South Africa. I have been in a relationship for almost 7 months now and before that we were only friends. I love him a lot and care about him a lot, but at times I feel that my insecurities gets in the way and it ends up in us having an argument about something small and stupid. See we have a long distance relationship at the moment and it is mostly when he cannot have decent conversation at night because his busy and then I start thinking "maybe he doesn't want to talk to me" , "maybe he doesn't find me interesting anymore and he will leave me for someone else" and I do know that he cares for me a lot and that he loves me and as soon as I think I have these feelings under control, it creeps in again. I don't want to lose him, because I was insecure and clingy. I never was like this in the beginning. I was cheated on before and most of the times it is when I'm away from him, when we are together, I don't have it and because of this it makes things hard for me. I care about people real fast and they can actually hurt me with words. How do I get past this? How can I get past my insecurities and not be clingy when I feel like these emotions are creeping in? I'm not jealous when it comes to being his girlfriends, because I know what type of guy he is. I know he will never cheat on me, but because I don't always see myself as beautiful, I'm sometimes afraid he will leave me for someone more beautiful than me. The guy that cheated on me used to say to me, that I shouldn't think that someone can love me, because there feelings will change. I was so deeply hurt.
Is there any advice you can give me? Guess I'm just looking for someone to talk to that I don't know personally!
Thanks!
O my God the guy before you was horrible. That wasnt very polite or nice of him to say. I have a friend who was insecure about herself and relationships too. Literally she will be like i don't know why he's with me there are people with bigger boobs and ass whose are sexier and she always compared herself with the models in magazines. I told her the same thing im going to tell you dont feel bad about yourself. Trust me when I say God didnt make you ugly. Im sure you are very beautiful and that your boyfriend loves you. I know it is hard because you are living in a long distant relationship (just like she was) but you have to put your all in it and trust him completely or dont be in it at all. One guy was rude and distasteful and just plain disrespectful to you BUT that does not mean all guys are like that. I believe insecurities come with clingyness. I think you being clingy is because of the insecurities. You not being able to love all of you and appreciate the love that is being given to u is probabw making you more clingy because you are afraid he will leave and u think if you hold on and cling to him he will stay. Trust me guys hate that. They hate all those clingyness and insecurities all the time. They dont think it's sexy. And it's not. You were hurt before and it's okay to feel those ways afterwards but if you are going to get in a relationship you need to be able to let those go. You said it wasnt in the beginning but just started so maybe him saying he loves you is bringing up painful memories from the ex. You have to trust that he loves you. You are going to get hurt at times and it will be painful believe me but you have to trust that he loves you and that if you both work hard on it it will last. But you need to be willing to let those insecurities and clingyness go because if you dont the relationship wont go far. Trust what you feel. You said you know he loves you so trust that and if you still feel insecure then maybe you should take time to be alone and figure out how to better yourself so you wont feel like that anymore.
Hope this helps you out :) Goodluck
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20,f
Honestly,I'm really frustrated because of my looks. I'm 162 cm tall,65 kg,blonde hair,blue eyes. I am a bit chubby but I'm not fat. I tried dieting,exercising,Herbalife products but nothing helped. Yet I feel like I don't stand a chance next to all those pretty girls out there. I see them always having a boyfriend and nobody notices me. Recently I confessed to a guy on college and he said he likes me too but treats me as just a friend. He is a shy person and he said he needs time but I think that if you like someone you don't need time and excuses such as that. I think he is put off by my body. I have a good face,I dress nice,I know what suits me but I still have no one who likes me in a romantic way. I wish some guy would eventually look beyond my unflattering body. Are there still guys in the world who care about personality? I am caring,reliable,compassionate,funny,smart,helpful and many other good things but it seems it simply doesn't matter.
Girl im going to be so honest with you. I used to judge my size too. I am 150-155 weight goes up and down. But i use to cry cause guys i liked didnt want me they wanted some skinny model girl. I got to college and realized who cares about them. I became so proud of my body and my curves that i started to actually show them off. Yes i am going to start excising to lose some thighs because they are wayyy too big but i want to keep the thickness and curves i have. People and television and dolls used to portray to us these figures that were size 2-4 anything bigger was way to big. And i felt so insecure because of it. But you have to realize that not everyone is going to look that way and when they realized the negative impact it did to alot of people they started embracing the curvy woman and men. You are beautiful because GOD made you beautiful. Trust me when i say that you want to show confidence in yourself and your self esteem needs to be high and you need to walk around with a tall chin and hold your head up high. I did and i feel AMAZING.! I realized guys asking me out or not or liking me or not is not important because i know that God has someone out there for me. I need to learn to love myself first and what ever i don't love i will work hard to change it. Don't let guys bring your self worth and self esteem down because they didn't ask you out or dont like you. Trust me they not worth your time anyways. But YOU need to show to the world that you LOVE you and that nomatter what or when you get a guy you will continue loving you because at the end of the day it's you against the world and you need to show the world that you are still here with your head up high standing tall and your not giving up. There is someone out there for you i know it, BUT before GOD can put him in your life he needs to make sure that you feel confident enough to go out there and meet him and show him that you will help bring him up not down. God wants to see you flourish on your own before you try and flourish and nurture someone else.!!
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So... my boyfriend and I (I'm a 21 year old female in Australia) have been together for 13months(which isn't really that long) but I have known him all through highschool etc. and he is actually my older brothers best-friend. In fact my brother was the one who found out he liked me and encouraged us to get together (weirdly my brother was dating my now boyfriends sister at the time just to make things more random. They've since broken up and my brother is now dating a close friend of ours from highschool and we all hang out together.We are all in our 20's)
Problems started around our 1 year anniversary with the relationship were I basically had our first fight (and by I, I mean that. Just me. I got really upset because he rejected me sexually ON PURPOSE and he told me I was being irrational for getting upset.) and after a few days apart we slept together and things went back to normal.
For the past three weeks we have been on a break. One which I instigated as I've been focusing a lot on my health lately, quit smoking started sports etc. All of which my bf is "supportive" though I get the feeling he is sick and tired of hearing me talk about it. Hence I withdrew and stopped talking about it. He recently quit his job and is figuring out what he wants to do with himself.
So I figured a mutual break would do us both some good.
We have still been talking. But everytime we broach on the subject of our relationship things get awkward. Also the last few weeks before our break, sex had become awkward. I have always been a very confident sexual person whilst my partner wasn't. Though we managed to get past this early in the relationship its becoming a problem again. and sometimes mid-way through sex we both just stop and cant get into it again.I haven't enjoyed sex with him since before our anniversary and have become less confident in the bedroom because of this.
My bf is a very steady person. who enjoys his routine and doesn't cope well with change. Whilst I am a strong opposite constantly seeking out new experiences and challenging myself. My partner often says he would like to join me if/when I travel but he never makes plans for these things and I have never seen him take any initiative. Lately I have been trying to get his opinion about us as a couple and what he sees of our relationship in future. Its not so much that I'm planning to get married and have babies(actually I'd rather be travelling) but I want to share my experiences and journey with someone. Thing is that I want to take his opinions and goals into account because I want to support his growth as much as my own. I consistently get the feeling that I'm being needy and nagging him. I don't know if I am demanding too much from the relationship or he is just being square. For instance if I ask him what he thinks about us in a relationship hes says "I don't know. I mean I want to stay a couple.But yer" But it feels like I am just part of his routine now. As I said my self-confidence is starting to drop because I feel he just doesn't care.
I'm the main person responsible for decisions in our relationship, though I've always tried to keep it 50/50 and give him chance to make the choices.
A lot of our early relationship was me needing his help as I moved into the city for a new job and we actually broke up for a few weeks, as I thought it would be to difficult to manage and he was the one who argued we should continue it so I said we could try. It worked out and I have since moved back home and am about to start uni.
I was kind of hoping maybe he might instigate some changes in our relationship but he hasn't. I have tried 'being there for him' when I moved back but I just feel motherly (he's the type of guy who'll let you make him lunch, dinner and do his laundry etc. even help out with paying his phone bill because he doesn't know how) and like I am being overbearing. So I stopped and started focusing on myself and things have progressed to this stage.
I have no idea how I should be approaching this situation and I'm starting to feel like our relationships already over.
I would really like someone elses opinion about this. Should I confront him again? Am I doing the right thing giving him some space? Has anyone been in a similar situation with a partner and it did/didn't work out?
Your honesty is welcome guys.
Thanks.
You like to travel o my God me too. I want the same thing you are looking for. I want someone i can travel with and explore the world with. I feel you should talk to him again one last time and see what happens and if nothing changes then you need to let that go. It's not good to be in a relationship just because you are used to it. You need to branch out and widen your horizon. Go to college and see what's out there and whose out there. Trust me when i say that when you go away to college you will find so much more than what you thought you was looking for. You will find someone who wants to be with you just as equally you do with him. You need to have someone whose in the relationship with you and will treat you with respect and like a queen. It seems he just wants you around so you can mother him back to health and fortune. Which is fine but if he don't help you then that's where the problem needs to end. U have to ask yourself are you worth way more.? And that answer better be yes. Im sure you are worth way more than that. He needs to be on his own and learn to get up and do for himself. Letting others do for him wont get him nowhere. Go to school travel the world and trust you will find someone either at school or from traveling and this will become nothing but a distant memory.
I hoped i helped. E-mail me if you have any other questions. :) God Bless
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13/m
So last Friday was a dance at my school and I went with a girl i like. She and all of her freinds know i like her and her freinds told me if i was to ask her out, shed say yes. So i took the chance and asked her out and she said yes. So now we are dating and this has been my first relationship in well over a year so im a little rusty. This being said im a little reluctantbto saying that i love her or calling her "babe" because i dont want to rush things if you know what i mean. So I was wondering when it would be a good time to start with this and ill take any other relationship tips that you can give me. Thank you for your help and have a nice day.
Awwes well congrats on your first relationship. And it's good to take things slow. But don't be afraid to take things up a speed. Call her babe see how she reacts to it. If she don't like that then don't call her that, but since you guys are dating i doubt she will mind that at all. Gurls hate it when guys are slow with everything it bored the relationship. Be creative and make her smile everyday and spice things up. NOW DONT DO NOTHING CRAZYY but hold her hand. give her a kiss on the cheek and walk her to class. Take it slow and see if she appreciates and likes these things and if she does then keep doing that and grow from there.! :)
Good Luck you will be fine.!
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Hii 15F... I am single. I have 2 bestfriends and both of them have loving bf's... So every break at school they kiss and cuddle and I just stand there. I really like tgis bpy but I'm to ugly(I get told) a guy told me I was fat yesterday and it broke "̮м̣̣̣̥γ̥"̮ heart... Yea I know I'm a bit over weight vut I'm not that fat!! Please help me :( what should I do?
Boys are jerks. Don't listen to them. I'm a bit over the wright im supposed to weigh too. I'm heavy and it sucks at times because alot of guys like those thin model 2 packs gurls and i remember when i was in hs i would always cry cause guys i liked didn't like me and they would call me names. Now in college guys look at me and regret things they said. Guys like me and even talk to me more.
The key is confidence hunn. I wasn't confident in h.s. but now im like hell yeaa screw them. I stopped trying to dress in things that don't fit my body type. Let me tell you something okay don't try and be those thin looking gurls with no meat on their body's okay.? Be your beautiful self because God made you to be the way you are so a special person can come and grab you up. Dress to impress yourself. Buy clothes nothing expensive(i go to rainbow and buy clothes for like 24$) and nothing too revealing but buy something you like and nothing showing to much don't wanna be called a slut too u know.?
But it's not about just the nice clothes and shoes you get it's about how you wear and work yourself. SHOW CONFIDENCE IN YOURSELF. REAL GUYS like that. When a girl can wear something that isn't all that sexy but wears it with so much confidence that it doesn't even matter with anything else. Go to school smiling and proud of your body and don't let NOONE PUT YOU DOWN FOR ANYTHING.! What matters is how you carry yourself and what's on the inside and once you do that rite i promise you the rite guy will be asking you to prom and to be your bf too.! ;)
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Hi im english and i want to know the differnece between "making out" and french kissing....us english dnt use da term makin out lol
Simple french kissing is a quick peck on the lips and sometimes just cheek kiss. Making out is just kissing all over the body, but you don't have any type of sex.
Hope this helped.! :)
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am sixteen,n my boyfriend is 20,i love my boyfriend alot,but since am kinda egoistic,i pretend nt to care atimes but still i feel i care too much still,his ex girlfriend is my cousin,i asked her bfor i got into d relationship n she said she was cool with it.he doesnt try at all,i text,call even send him airtime,still he doesnt care,sometimes,hes WORLDS MOST CARING BOYFRIEND,other times,hes BIGGESR JERK OF THE YEAR,av tried alot to make our relationship envious enough,hes not even bought me anything sinx we bin datin for 6months nau..i know he doesnt have his eyes on another girl,i evn go through his phone,he allows me...is it that his tired of me or what?last 3days made it the sixth month we've been together,and he forgot our anniversary...av broken up with him once but he pleaded n even told his mum to apologize on his behalf..he was really frustrated,he promised me all would b ok..but i dont see it gettin better...only earlia on he tried...please,what do i do?
Sit him down and tell him what you just wrote. Let him know that he's not making you feel hope in the relationship and that it seems like he's not trying. Be very clear and direct if you have too. And still if nothing changes then end it it's not a relationship if Only one person is putting in work and the other is bored. Let him know exactly how you feel and see if it changes
Hope I helped :)
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What do you do if you are messing around with a boy, and finding out that he has another girlfriend, and may have a baby by one of his ex-girlfriends. What should I do I mean I don't claim him so what should I do?
Leave him alone. Trust me when I say you don't wanna be involved in that. It's not cool or cute and he's dragging you along. Your just another one of his "gurls" that he's playing. If you don't claim him then your just a sideline that he wants when his gf ain't around. Dont be okay with being a sideline girl. It's not healthy for you. Don't claim a guy that does things like that. You will find a guy that is 100% willing to claim u and willing to give his all for you.! Don't fall for a guy that doesn't fall for you.! Jerks are not worth our queen hearts :) ♥ you can do so much better.! Don't let him downgrade your importance and intelligence.!
Hope this helped.!
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Recently I broke up with my significant other, and best friend. I left him because of his unambitious lifestyle and inability to commit. Or at least that's the simple way to tell people who haven't seen us together. Truth is, I was completely in love with my ex, but when we were together, he wasn't. Now for the sake a long standing friendship we both had we're trying to go back to just being friends... And it's not working for me. Breaking off from one another is just going to make him angry and hurt him because he's never understood why I needed space, but to me, I can't even think about moving on and dating someone else if he's still around (not that I want to go jump into a relationship, I just want to move on so that I can someday). He wants everything to go back to the way it was, but I can't tell him about my dates or my flirting anymore. And I don't want him to be the first person I call when I'm upset anymore either. I want to move on, completely, and then someday we can be friends again. How do I tell him something like that? Without fighting with him?
You remind me of my bestfriend. She's afraid to tell her EX boyfriend about her new guy she likes afraid of what he will say. Ima tell you the same thing i told her. THERE CALLED AN EX FOR A REASON. There not just an EXample of people you don't want but also an EXample of the type of relationship and life you want to move on from and live something better. You don't need to worry about what he's going to say he's not your concern and your not his. You need to tell him what is on your mind and about you moving on so he can move on and you both can be satisfy. You dont need to argue about something that don't require an argument. Just tell him the truth if he likes it or not shouldn't concern you because your not together. You should be able to have closure without feeling guilty.
:) Goodluck hope i helped
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what does it mean when yuor boyfriend is looking at you like you stupid?and when he looks at one of your best friends and then look around like anything happen?
It means you guys are having problems and you need to talk. Also means that he's being a jerk and he shouldn't be looking at your "BESTFRIEND" in any sexual way and if he is then you need to call you guys off and take a break or just move on.
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is it advisable to have sex with another girl if your virgin girlfriend is not ready.
No it is not. Apparently you guys are on different levels. She isn't thinking about sex but apparently you are. You need to break it off with her nice as possible and tell her your not ready for a real committed relationship. Committed people don't think like this. They will wait for however long they have to for their gf to lose it to them because that's what real LOVE is. Your looking for someone to just give it to u when your ready and in a heartbeat. she's looking for someone to love her no matter what. & To wait for her and just to be there to love her. Your not that person don't string her along. If you know you can't wait nomore don't force her just go about your business cut it off with her & she'll find someone better than you that is willing to wait. If you can keep your adrenaline rush inside then stay and make her happy
Do the right thing :)
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I have been with my wife for 4 years. coming into this relationship I knew her bestfriend was her ex. That should of been a red flag for me, but as the years gone by I got to know her bestfriend and the more I got to know her the more I hated her. she seems to always have to top everything I do, from cooking, to baking, to decorating to the way we dress(just so you understand I'm a girl shes a girl we are all girls)the way we raise the kids everything is a compotition. Plus she always talks about herself and what shes doing and how she gets to go out and do this and that know we have young children and we can't do those thing almost like she rubbing it in our faces. The hard part is shes a huge part of my wife's family the sisters look at like a sister and the in-laws love her as a daughter and call her daughter their gran. see i'm the actual wife and I gave 2 grandchildren but i get treated like the outsider. she comes over almost everyday and doesn't know when to leave, she sleeps in my bed uses my shower. but when i try to say anything to my wife she lets me know how wrong i am and that she doesnt understand why i have such a problem with her and that i'm trying to put her in the middle and she won't choose. like today i packed a picnic to take to my wifes work so the kids and i can eat lunch with her but guess whose been there since early in the morning her bestie so now i have to make extra to feed her to. I just feel liek everywhere i go or anything i do her bestie has to be apart of it. they go and have lunch they talk on the phone for hours they tell each other eveything. my wife and i never go out and have lunch just the 2 of us, and she never opens up to me like that. not only that but she would never let me hang out with her at work like that. I don't know what to do. I don't think they are messing around but I want to be the one to be close to my wife not her. any advise?
You have to tell your wife this. Go to her and tell her you feel like an outsider. Yes they dated and that's her bestfriend but you are her WIFE & she's supposed to be going out with you and hanging out with you all the time not her bestfriend. Then you should tell the bestfriend to back away some. Tell them your feeling like a third wheel which shouldn't be happening since your the wife. You should also speak to her family about this too. They have to realize that your apart of their family now and they have to treat you the way they are treating the other woman.
You have to tell them that things have to change or your relationship is not going to work out. Maybe she doesn't understand how badly your hurting and if you was to talk to her & really tell her listen im feeling hurt left out & like she's the wife in this relationship & that things needs to change or this isn't going to work out, things might just get better. She'll understand that your hurting and she'll start seeing from your point of view.
Hope this helped :) Good luck. Fight for your wife
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Okay this girl and I have a lot of problems... If it isn't her family then its trust... She thinks I'm using her for my own pleasure,, she doesn't believe in true love and happiness which makes things even harder. I've been in many relationships before,, abusive relationships,, relationships based on sex and relationships full of hate,, but the feelings I feel for her are new to me,, I've never felt this strong about anyone in my whole life and I do think that I've found true love... I'm not the type of guy that wants sex and stuff,, its been 1 of my biggest dreams to find that one special girl that I can love and who'll love me in return. I tried explaining to her that I'm not using her but she has trust issues and the more I try to show her that I'm only doing this for the love the more I'm complicating things... I took me 3 years to get to this stage,, we had our first kiss a couple of weeks ago. I was her first kiss and her first "boyfriend-like person"... I don't know how to convince her that I'm not using her. The thing with her parents is complicated because if they find out that we're seeing each other then they'll do to her what they did the last time a guy tried to get into a relationship with her... Her parents are very hard to please,, they don't allow dating because they want her to finish school before she gets into a serious relationship. I'm trying to respect her parents wishes but I'm moving out of town next year to go to college which means that I must wait a whole year for her to finish school first before we can do anything. At the moment we're not dating but we are kinda seeing each other which is complicated. I do love her and I'm trying to show her that I'm not using her,, I'm trying to keep this a secret because if her parents find out about anything then they'll make sure she doesn't see me again and that she doesn't have contact with me... They'll ground her till she's done with school for the year and by that time it'll be too late. I don't know if we should try this long distance thing because in my experience it never lasts... PLEASE SOMEONE HELP ME!!!! I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO ANYMORE!!!! :'(
Your the same guy who asked me before. I guess it got worse.
I will guess she got trust issues because of her parents. She can't trust that a guy will be with her because she's afraid her parents will do what they always do & break it up.
Sorry but she is living with them and until she leaves HS & goes away there's nothing to do about it. Your moving away to college & being with her wouldn't help anyways because she'll just keep doubting the relationship & think you'll be cheating. That's not good for a girl to think about . . . That her bf is cheating on her that apparently she's not good enough.
The best thing for you to do is just move on. You'll find someone. your life just started your going to college. You'll learn what true love is and you'll understand the sacrifices you will have to make.
If you truly love her you will say your good byes and just move to college & she'll be able to move on with her life too. She's not ready for committed relationship & by the looks of it neither are you. You don't trust in long distance relationships. Which means its time to let go.
If you guys are meant to be God will put you guys together when the time is rite. But rite now you guys need to find your own life and love & move on. As hard as it may be that's just what you have to do. Just end things off now on a good note and go to college with no bad tensions between the both of you.
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a guy i recently had a thing with moved away to his cottage for the summer and the last time we talked sort of ended on a bad note. his friend now wants to start hanging out with me and when i was concerned for the guy i recently had a thing with feeling's, he simple stated that he already told him about it and he replied by saying "sick, go for it". the problem is, i don't really want to hang out with his friend as much as i want to hang out with him, and i'm really confused on what to do right now. considering what he said, should i just hang out with his friend, or should i try and talk things out with the guy i recently had a thing with?
You got to move from people like that. It wasn't a relationship it was a "THING" having a "thing" isnt good. Yes it may be his friend but you should talk to him get to know him maybe you'll be more happy with his friend & you might become two people who like eachother and start dating. & if it dont work out atleast you know that you moved on. Dont stay stuck on the past because that wont do any good for you & your future.
Good luck :)
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Things are hard for us because of her family,, she's not allowed to date or see any guys till she's done with school... If her parents find out then they'll make sure that we don't have any contact with one another... Her brother hates me and I don't know why and I know he'll do anything to keep us from being together. Having a dinner with her family will only complicate things more because they'll make sure that we don't see each other anymore... I'm going to college next year which means that I must wait for a whole year for her,, and that worries me because I know men and I'm afraid that she might meet someone else... This is my one true love,, I've been through many relationships and none of them has ever meant this much to me.
You have to tell her these things. She's scared too. This could be why she's running away from you & want to end things. She's afraid of getting caught. It can also be because she loves you so much that she's afraid of what they will do to you. She can be protecting you. You have to let her know that no one can tear you guys apart. Tell her your going to fight for her. I know you don't want to approach her family and talk to them but honestly you should.
My friend didn't want to tell her mom about her two years relationship with her bf because her mom didn't like him because she thought he wanted sex from her which wasn't the case. I told her the same thing im telling you. Keeping it a secret is much harder than telling them. She took my advice and her mother sat down with both of them at dinner and accepted the relationship. She was brave and positive in her love now you have to be too.
Yes your scared but you have to think like this. Your not going to get anything proven by sneaking around. You have to stand up for the BOTH of you & tell her family that you love her that your not there to hurt her. If they try to keep you guys apart then fight that too. Honestly like i said LOVE is worth the fight and sometimes the wait, but NEVER EVER give up on the one you can say is your heart and soul
:)
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For the past few month ive been volunteering at a senior center and there is this maintenance man that works there i liked him from the first moment i saw him but i didnt think he liked me he would never talk to me he would walk by sometimes he would look at me or walk by slow or stand somewhere around me but that it then yesterday he leaned in really close to me and started asking me questions about me volunteering and complimented me for doing it i was shocked by it because he never ever talked to me before i didnt know what to think i was caught off guard then today he came up to me and was speaking in spanish but i dont speak spanish and so he was asking me why i dont know spanish and things like that and then the rest of the time he would walk back and forth past me look at me but now he smiles a little bit and he still stands around me help me tell me what this means why now all of a sudden is he talking to me when he wasnt before
Maybe he's being friendly. Or maybe he just wanted to talk to someone. Honestly it doesn't seem like he likes you in that way it just seems like he needs someone to talk to & he was being polite. Maybe before he was focused on work and not friendship on the job. It could be he just wants to be polite & friendly. It doesn't seem like any feelings are there yet. But if you like him you should keep talking to him more and see if your friendship can build.
Hope i helped :)
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Okay I'm seeing a girl but the thing is that she's still in school and that her parents don't allow dating,, her brother hates me for some reason but we are really crazy about each other... I have no idea how to handle it,, she wants to put an end to this thing we have but I can't do it,, I have strong feelings when I'm with her and I don't know what to do or what to say to keep her here with me :'( I don't want to loose her,, she's my life... HELP PLZ!!!
You should ask her why does she want to break up? If it's because of her family then you should tell her that you want to just have a nice dinner with all of them. You deserve a chance with the one you love no matter what's the cost. Talk to her family tell them your not out to hurt her. Show them your good caring sweet side that made her say yes to dating you.
Sometimes love is a price & if she still wants to break up for other reasons then sometimes you can't stop a girl from changing her mind.
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This guy that I've been working at a restaurant with has FINALLY asked me out after months of flirting and a couple weeks of texting. We've both been dying to see Batman, so that's what we're going to do. Hes almost 20, as I'm still a senior in High school. He's the cool, laid back partier. He went to a large High school and from what I hear was very popular. I have partied before and am somewhat considered popular or well known in my small high school and the only negative thing about me is that im very self concious about my weight (im 5'7 and plus sized, but I'm deff not a whale) so anyways I am SUPER nervous about how this date will go! Can anyone give me their experience on a first date, or a movie date? This sounds so middle school-ish but what if he tries to kiss me? Haha thanks guys
I was very excited for my firs date. We did movies and it was dark and we were in our own world in an aisle alone. Movie was good but at time we wouldn't watch and we would just talk. Then i started watching the movie again and he asked if i wanted the rest of my nachos i said no and gave it to him i looked at him & just when i was going to look away he said don't, he put his hands on my face & kissed me. I was so shocked honestly, but also blown away. I was shocked because i didn't think we were going to kiss at that night but it was so romantic and simple too.
Basically if he tries to kiss you then just kiss back. Don't be scared & pull away it'll take the romance away. Trust me go with the flow. You guys are finally going out make this a great date. Wear something nice but not to over the top. If you want you can e-mail me & send me pictures of ideas you have and i can help you choose something for this perfect date. :)
P.S. i seen dark Knight it was awesome.
GoodLuck :)
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