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How do I approach him?
So there's this really cute guy in my program and he was in 3 of my classes last year and from observing him in lecture he was always alone and very quiet. From time to time I caught him glancing at me and my friends (I feel like it's cause of my friend). He was also in one of my tutorial classes (the classes are up to 15 people) and whenever the teacher would ask him a question he would answer, it would be a very smart answer. So now I know he's quiet and smart. I want to get to know him but I'm scared to go up to him, he's caught my friend talking about him a few times but he doesn't say anything. I don't really know what to say to him cause I'm awkward and if you've seen my previous posts you'd know I lack a lot of confidence. Before I thought last school year he would glance at me because he thought I was cute but now I think he's been looking at my friend the whole time. Here's the reason, one time before lecture I was telling my friends a story about high school, I think I was pretty loud because he turned around and started smiling at me and then my friend was like "that guy just looked at you" I guess she put the idea in my head and I think he heard her say that too because after that he would look back sometimes but rarely. Then one day in the library we were handing something in, I was with two of my friends, so one of my friends walked by him first, he didn't do anything then my second friend (the one I'm always with let's call her Alex) walked by him second and his head turned following her, and I don't know if he watched me but I doubt it, ever since then I've been starting to think he's been looking at her. Now this school year he's in 2 of my classes, a random dude came up to him about the homework now they've been inseparable ever since (now it's gonna be harder to talk to him). Looking back maybe if I asked him about the homework we would've been friends. But anyways Alex doesn't know how to lower her voice every time he walks by /sits by us she always has to talk about him. "Hey look that's our best friend" or "he remind me of..." So I know he knows we talk about him, but anyways how should I approach him? Do you think he thinks Alex is cute or is this all in my head or is it because she talks about him that he looks at her?
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If he's turned his head to look in the direction of you and your group of gal friends, then he is interested in one or more of you. A guy can see a trait he likes in girl A, so he starts watching to see what else he might be able to observe that he likes. However, there may be another trait he like not visible in girl A but girl B. Right now, its just basic interest as far as having his attention but guys are known to have a problem with approaching a girl if she is always with her buddies. As you stated, it will be harder to get him alone too now that he has a friend. I used to be extremely introvert, shy and socially anxious. Didn't outgrow it til after HS. You may be HS or college. Either way, there is nothing much I can suggest that you will find the courage to just talk to him for a start. If you can't get the guts to do such a thing, all you can do is continue to wonder all your life if something would have clicked and you could have been a couple. Looking into the future and seeing yourself with no one because you are too shy is about the only thing that will help some people find enough guts to do something. YOu really can't know for sure at this stage if he is more into ALex or you. The next step is yours. I can't make you brave enough to talk to him. IF however you are determined to talk to him and know you WILL do it because not knowing is eating you up inside, then all you need to know is how to or what to say. You can even plan a simple act of pretense to have an excuse to be near enough to say something. If this interests you, I will try to give you some ideas. Either way, it's in your hands.
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Boy trouble is the hardest. I say just talk to him to really know. I would say hi since he is shy. Both of you can't be shy together lols. So i would just go up and talk to him if you really can't do it then go with the friend that you think he has an eye for that way you can do it together so you wont be so shy and also you can find out if he likes your friend by body language. Does he only look at her when he speaks does he get closer to her. Small things while also getting to know this boy and seeing if he is someone you want to become friends with or not. Trust me I am 22 about to be 23 and I would see guys that I believed were cute but then I get to know them and they were not my type.
Hope this advice helps you.
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