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I am 16 now. When I was 14 I asked this girl out that I had liked a lot for a long time, and got a no. Soon after, I was curious and looked up gay porn on limewire. Eventually, it became an obsession. In my mind, I am not gay. I loved this girl and have loved others, and could NEVER have the same feeling with a guy. However, guys are my sexual preference. At this age, hormones are anything so that side of me is winning over. I have been on gay hookup sites and have tried hooking up with five guys, two have even came to my door. The first I closed the door on, and the second I chickened out and hid in the house before he left my front door.

I just can't stop trying to hook up, even though I know I'm going to chicken out. I just want to be happy and I feel the sexual frustrations need to be relieved, but I can't allow myself too.

I know that I am not gay because I don't have "true love feelings" for men. So, you can see how this has been tearing me up inside. This is the first time I have ever told anyone, so I am sorry how long this has gotten.

Basically, please answer:
1) Am I gay? (I say I'm not...but maybe im wrong?)
2) Is it normal to have this sexual preference but not the sexual orientation?
3) How can I possibly get over this?







1) i wouldnt be able to answer that question for you..only you can answer it. but to me, it sounds as if your just going through a phase. experimenting during high school is very common, especially with the opposite sex.
2) yes, it is completely normal.
3) you will get over it in time, its nothing you can control yourself.

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my best friend's ex just told her that he likes me. they broke up in june. i kind of like him, but when i asked her what she thought she backed off of the subject. she said he is going to ask me to homecoming...should i go with him?

If you're friend backed off of the subject, she obviously is still deeply hurt by breaking up with him, and still has feelings for him.
I think that you should go to homecoming with him, but just "as friends". Tell your best friend that, as well. If she understands that you guys are not going out on an actual date, she will be more comfortable about it.
And believe me, friendship with your best friend is more important than some guy that you "kind of like".

Hope I helped!
~Jenna

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There's this kid, who like alwayz stares at me. People say that he likes me, and my best friend thinks he does too. He is like the shy type so he doesn't do anything. Last year I had a crush on him, and everybody told him, and than faded away and stoped. Now this year, he might like me, but i am not sure. What should I do? Btw, I catch him looking at me somtiemes during class. Does that mean he likes me?

That may or may not mean that he likes you. Most likely it means he does. If you think he likes you, ask him. A simple 'do you like me?' will get you the answer you may or may not want to hear.
Or, if you like him as well, ask him OUT.


Hope I Helped!
Jenna

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ok so im going out with this kid and and i have braces and so does he if like we make out or kiss will we get stuck together im jyss nervous lol ill rate 5's for none fagg answers

No, you wont get stuck. I used to have braces and my boyfriend did as well. Nothing will happen, dont worry about it.

Hope I Helped!
Jenna

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theres this kid i like and he came over my house and me n him kissed like 6 times and then the next day he kissed this other girl n i dont no if i like him anymore but i invited him to the movies with a bunch of my other friends and some how the other girl he kissed found out about the movies and shes goin n shes like im gonna make out with him right in front of her(meanin me) face and i dont no what to say to him

Dont take it any farther with this guy. If you do, it will only hurt you more.
Especially with this girl, she seems extremely competitive. Its not worth getting into a fight over some guy who kissed you, then another girl the next day.

Hope I helped!
Jenna

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My boyfriend & I were on the phone a few nights ago & everything was fine. Then I started talking about a dream I had where we broke up & he seemed to be interested in what happened. I was worried he was going to break up with me so I said "As for breaking up in the near future..." & I realized a few days later that putting 2 and 2 together, it sounds like *I* wanted to break up with him. A little bit after that he called me back & started saying how he talked to his dad & he wanted to slow things down. Then by the end of the night we had no more relationship. I know this is hard to explain but the next day we talked & I said I still had feelings for him & I didn't want him to think I wanted to break up. He told me neither did he but he did it because it got scared & now it sounds like a good idea to him. Needless to say, I want to get back together. I can't believe this has ended, it really affected me & I want things back to normal. What should I do? I've already tried talking it out with him & I admited that I still like him but it feels like he's not gonna bounce back. He wants to be best friends but I'm not sure if I can be JUST his friend...

Give him time. Yes, I know this might sound like a horrible idea, but it will help in the 'long run'. If he's not ready for a commitment with you now, its no bother trying to ask him to go out with you, and "why did you break up with me?" over and over again.
After a while, when he's cooled off, you should talk to him. He might be ready to go out with you again by then.

Hope I Helped!
Jenna

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look today i just found out that we were moving from clinton to byram,ms! i have been dating my boyfriend for about 1 year and all of a sudden i find out that im moving!!i love him sooooooo much and when i told him today about me moving it totally crushed him. he asked me what he was going to do without me. i wanted to cry so bad. now my question is that if i move should i be worried about him cheating on me without me knowing??? i am sooo confused right now.i really need a friend right now. all of my friends turned their backs on me because they like my boyfriend and they really want to go out with him but he said no to them because he loves me!!!
plzzzzz someone give me advice or have a personal talk with me!!!
thanks

No, you shouldnt be worried about him cheating on you without you knowing. Why? Because if he Truly loves you, he wont want to hurt you. It sounds like he loves you.
If you really need a friend, talk to your mom, your boyfriend, your sibling . . . anyone that is close to you that accepts you for who you are and who you are going out with.

hope i helped!
Jenna

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hi jenna i'm 11 years old and im a boy. i have a girlfriend but sometimes i like to look at other boys and sometimes at night when im trying to sleep i think about those boys and touch myself "down there". it feels really good but it's scary. is this normal? what should i do?

yes, it is completely normal. its also OK to have an attraction to other boys. you shouldnt worry about it at all! all boys masturbate at some point in their life, also. you're just starting at an early age.

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um...this is kind of a queer question...but why am I soooooo in love with JENNA?!?!?! I mean...she's alll I think about...
it's like, I can't seem to get her off my mind
I wanna make out with her...
I think that I love her too much
but can you really love someone too much??
Like, Is there a rule saying that you can only love Jenna Zito this much or else you have to go try on ugly purple fuzzy jackets at the GAP and take pics of them in the dressing room???
Is it against some law to be more obsessed with Jenna Zito that with TEALEMONADE?!?!
I mean...I'm just in the biggest pickle...JENNA, I need some serious hep!!!

P.S. Have you heard how great our jeans fit?!
Thanks...Sarah

ahhaaaa!! i love you sarah ruubbyyy!!

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i've been goin out with this guy on and off for like a month and a 1/2. and he can be really sweet! but he was kissing me today and then a few min. later one of his good friends asked me out.. i feel bad 4 the guy (i wasn't going out with him when his friend asked me out)

wat do i do?

reject the friend.
if you've been going out with this guy on and off for like a month and a half, and it seems like you still really like him, ask that guy out.
if you say yes to the friend, then "the guy" and his friend will get into a fight about you.
im sorry if thats extremely confusing....but i hope i helped

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ok so i went to florida with my ex-boyfriend who i'm still crazy in love with! we hooked up down there but we still don't go out. he says he wants to be single because you can do whatever you want. then he says he doesn't like me cuz he wants to be single! i have no clue what to think. what should i do? how do i handle this?
cRazY iN lOve x3

i think that he's trying to tell you that he doesnt like you. i say to get over him, and i know its hard to get over your love. but if he doesnt like you back after about 2 weeks, forget about him.

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i have a crush one sum1, but idk if hes gay or srt8, and a few people say hes str8, but he says some things to me that make me thing differently...should i try to get over him, or something else?

~~The Human Heart~~

~~The Human Heart~~
if you arent sure, dont get over him. wait a bit till he trusts you enough, and if you feel comfortable, ask him (if you are a girl: ask if he's straight, if you're a boy, ask if he's gay). it might feel uncomfortable and awkward to you, but if this person gets to know you well, he wont feel like hes in a bad position to tell you.

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Wow ok this sounds really stupid.. but, there is this kid i like and hes really really hott. He has braces , but hes still hott with them! So if i hooked-up with him would it like feel werid or just feel regular .. lols

Stupidly Confused

stupidly confused-
it would feel regular. just because he has braces doesnt make anything different.

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Okay I've been with this guy for about six months and we just recently broke up. When we broke up I asked him if it was over completely and he said no. Now I am wondering what I should do? Should I wait on him or should I choose to move on? I still like him a whole lot and he still likes me but I'm not sure if I should wait and see what happens. This is the second time we've broke up. What do I do? I live in California and there is so many guys that are hot here.

if you really like him and cant think about your love life without him, go for it! if not, go hook up with those hot guys from california. haha.

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ok, well, my bf's friend asked me if i would make out with my bf and i said i would. you see my bf had never made out with anyone before. so when we went to the movies with him and our friends something happend. all the guys were calling him a wuss bc he has never made out before and stuff. so anyway in the middle of the movie he turns to me and says "look, i love you but i dont want to mess anything up so can i kiss you?" and i was like...um...yea ok. so he was like.."lets do it then". i felt REALLY werid. so then everyone came and sat by us so we kinda stoped talking or doing anything. so then about...i would say 10 mins past and he said "ok, i know this is gonna be akward but im sorry". so out of no where he starts to make out with me. and im not saying it was bad but it felt werid. so after 3 seconds i pulled back and said "this feels weird". and he said sorry and stoped talking. so now i feel bad. i mean, i want him to kiss me bc he wants to and bc he likes me. not bc his buddies are making fun of him! so the question is...should i tell him why i pulled away? and was it bad for me to pull away? sould i say sorry? im so confused so I BEG OF YOU! PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE help me!!!!!!! theres some 5's involed : ).

1) yes, you should tell him why you pulled away. right now, he probably thinks hes a horrible kisser or that there's something wrong with him.
2) no, it was not bad at all for you to pull away.
3) if you want to clear your consience, you can say sorry. but i suggest you dont, because there's nothing for you to be sorry about! =]

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okay.. i met this guy a couple of weeks ago. his name is adam and hes my sisters friend.. well i really like him alot. but the thing is im 13 and hes 17.. is that wrong? but he has a girlfriend and last night he tried to kiss me! but i turned my head and i said dont you have a girlfriend and he said yes but he doesnt care.. but i wouldnt kiss him because he has a girlfriend and i think thats wrong to cheat. but he always hugs me and comes to my house and stuff and we hang out alot.. and he keeps asking me out too.. but i say no bc "he has a girlfriend" well my question is is that wrong to like a 17 year old and also i need advice on what to do about this situation.. thanks.. i rate 5's for good answers

first let me say: you are doing the right thing.
it is not wrong to like a 17 year old, and it is not wrong for a 17 year old to like a 13 year old. many people who get married are years apart. you might know someone's parents who are more than 4 years apart.
if he keeps asking you out, tell him to first dump his girlfriend before asking you out again.

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I'm 15/f. There's this guy that I like, but I'm afraid to try to talk to him, b/c a friend started saying things about us that aren't true. So I don't know what he thinks about all of it, so it might be a little weird for me to talk to him. But I really like him. What should I do? I'll rate 5's for good advice.

if you know it isnt true, chances are he'll know it isnt true as well.
if you really like him, tell him how you feel. if he feels the same way about you, ask him out.

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Ok my cousin and i are really good friends but in the past two years iv e developed a crush for him.. i dotn know what to do should i tell him and is it normal to like your cousin(im a 13 year old girl)

yes, it is completely normal. some people even crush on their aunts and uncles. dont worry about it! =]

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I just got my braces a few days ago and I was wondering if I could make out with another boy with braces? Would that make the wires attach to each other? HELP MEEE!

listen.
just because you both have braces doesnt make a difference.
no, the wires wont attach to eachother.

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Allright, I've liked this girl I've known for a while, but everytime I start to make a move she hooks up with someone else. I know I'm waiting too long, I just don't know when the opprotune moment. For the past year she's been going out with my best friend. My best friend recently broke up with her girlfriend, but he told me what he was going to do beforehand.

She's one of my best friends; I've known her nearly all my life. And someone found out. That someone told her everything. She's not acting any differently towards me and I don't know what to make of my situation. Should I back off? OR should I hope for the best. Please, I don't know what to do.

she probably hooks up with someone else everytime you make a move because she is scared on what your friendship will be like if you guys break up. i say hope for the best, and dont back off. act yourself in front of her, especially if she isnt acting any differently towards you.
if she knows that you like her and she is not backing away, she might like you as well.

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