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im in need of help...so please help me!
ok, well, my bf's friend asked me if i would make out with my bf and i said i would. you see my bf had never made out with anyone before. so when we went to the movies with him and our friends something happend. all the guys were calling him a wuss bc he has never made out before and stuff. so anyway in the middle of the movie he turns to me and says "look, i love you but i dont want to mess anything up so can i kiss you?" and i was like...um...yea ok. so he was like.."lets do it then". i felt REALLY werid. so then everyone came and sat by us so we kinda stoped talking or doing anything. so then about...i would say 10 mins past and he said "ok, i know this is gonna be akward but im sorry". so out of no where he starts to make out with me. and im not saying it was bad but it felt werid. so after 3 seconds i pulled back and said "this feels weird". and he said sorry and stoped talking. so now i feel bad. i mean, i want him to kiss me bc he wants to and bc he likes me. not bc his buddies are making fun of him! so the question is...should i tell him why i pulled away? and was it bad for me to pull away? sould i say sorry? im so confused so I BEG OF YOU! PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE help me!!!!!!! theres some 5's involed : ).
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Okay, it was a good idea to pull away, because you guys werent kissing because you really like each other, you were kissing because others wanted you too, adn that totally ruins a kiss. Kissing is taken too lightly, it should be as pleasant as possible. Anyway, Tell him why you pulled away, its REALLY important that you do. Also, tell him that you like him for who HE is , not for who his friends want him to be. tell him to ignore those friends, because they jsut want to see some action because they cant get any. thats the only reason they are pressuring him. Dont let him listen to them, make sure he know that. He'll really appreciate that the pressure is off to impress his friends when alls he has to do is impress you. and that wont be hard since you already like him.
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ok well definetly talk to him. tell him that you dont mind him kissing you or anything but tell him you dont want him to kiss you just because of his friends. its ok that u pulled away if you dont feel comfortable kissing someone always stop.if you just talk to him im sure he will understand.hope i helped XoXo
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He probably feels like he screwed up on the kissing end, so if I were you I would tell him why you pulled away. It wasn't a bad thing that you pulled away (I probably would have done the same thing if I were in your position), but you need to make him understand what the situation is. You don't have to be sorry about it because you had a valid reason. Just tell him how you feel and it should all work out. Hope I helped.
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Just tell him how you feel!
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It sounds like your boyfriend is aware of the pressure he's under, and he was trying to apologize before kissing/making out with you. He wouldn't have apologized if he would have thought it was really okay.
You're right - someone should kiss another person because they care for them and WANT to kiss them, not because their friends are making them do it. I think that's fine to tell your boyfriend.
And no one would feel comfortable kissing someone in front of a group of people! You've done nothing wrong. Just be upfront with your boyfriend, and hopefully you guys can find a more private place to lock lips next time.
Best of luck.
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You were perfectly right for pulling away. I mean I bet he really does love you alot and doesnt mind doing stuff with you but peer pressure can be hard on guys aswell as girls. And you pulling away wasnt bad it was just saying exactly how you felt. I think you should tell your bf that you pulled away cause you felt he was doing it because his friends wanted him to. Then he will understand! hope i helped
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Tell him about everything..I'm pretty sure he'll understand it..It's not that bad for you to pull away, maybe you were just nervous..That was your first time, right?If you explain everything to him, he'll understand it!!Hope I helped!
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Personally, I'd tell him everything why you pulled away and why you thought it was bad that you did. Don't say sorry I understand where you are coming from. Like you probably felt weird because he was just doing it because of his friends, and you would have probably liked it more and wouldn't have thought it felt weird if he would have just done it on his own on his own time and whenever he felt comfortable enough. Say sorry if I hurt you (yeah I know I told you not to say sorry but yeah say this..) Sorry if I hurt you when I pulled away I want to be able to kiss you and I want you to be able to kiss me whenever you feel comfortable, and that you just didn't appreciate him listening to his/your friends other than your heart. Hope I helped. Sorry if I didn't.
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Tell him why and certainly don't apologize. You ought to feel specail and loved while kissing someone, not like your being shown off to all his friends. This is an issue, and a moment for the two of you to share, privately.
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i think you shoud tell him why you pulled away
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Hey,
seems like you guy cares to much of what people think...but...i dont really know waht your question is
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you were so rite 4 pulling away, but he mite feel bad. dont say ur srry, bc you shouldnt be. tell him exactly how you feel, and why you pulled away. then if you can, try to slip him a quick kiss on the lips. you dont have to make out unless you both want to. but a kiss on the cheek or lips everyonce in a while is nice, and will remind him how much u love him. i know that my advice sounds really bold and you mite not want to do it, but trust me it will work. i had the same problem last year, but my bf had made out with people before.....
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It wasn't bad of you to pull away. Like you said it was weird and you shouldn't have to be put into a situation that makes you feel weird. But yes you should really tell him why you pulled alway and why it was weird. You shouldn't have to say your sorry, because it wasn't your fault, its his friends fault.
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chin up girl. think about it.... he said it was going to feel weird he what was gonna happen. i bet he feels the same way.. i bet he knows exactly why u pulled away, but in case he doesnt, just tell him exactly what you told us. i bet he feels REALLY weird also. just talk to him about it
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Yes! You should tell him why you pulled back. Tell him what you just told us. Tell him that you want to kiss him but not because his friends were making fun of him. Tell him he needs to do it on his own. But I don't think that you have anything to be sorry about. Tell him that too. If you have any other ?s or you just want to chat, IM me at beecuzzimcool or just Inbox me.
Hope I helped <33
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Just tell him the truth. And do it away from his annoying friends. I think he'll be happy if you do.
Love and romance aren't spectator sports. Find yourselves some private place to kiss. There have got to be some, somewhere.
Good luck!
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1) yes, you should tell him why you pulled away. right now, he probably thinks hes a horrible kisser or that there's something wrong with him.
2) no, it was not bad at all for you to pull away.
3) if you want to clear your consience, you can say sorry. but i suggest you dont, because there's nothing for you to be sorry about! =]
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