ok so i went to florida with my ex-boyfriend who i'm still crazy in love with! we hooked up down there but we still don't go out. he says he wants to be single because you can do whatever you want. then he says he doesn't like me cuz he wants to be single! i have no clue what to think. what should i do? how do i handle this?
cRazY iN lOve x3
krh028 answered Tuesday August 9 2005, 1:29 pm: cRazY iN lOve x3,
you really need to tell him how you feel. even then he still says he wants to be single try to get over him. i'm confused with you telling me this so dont feel bad. i get the same feelings for this guy that i've liked on and off for a while. i still think i like him but idk. so its either move on or wait till he wants to be toghether again. [ krh028's advice column | Ask krh028 A Question ]
alisonmarie answered Tuesday August 9 2005, 6:05 am: Well, your ex is being pretty straightforward. He is not interested in having a relationship. He wants to be single.
At this point, you've got a choice to make. You WILL NOT date him again, because he's been pretty clear he doesn't want that to happen. So your choice is between hooking up with him every now and then, and choosing to walk away and rebuild your life.
Many people think that if they keep hooking up with someone, that special someone will realize they are meant to be together. It's a common way to think, but unfortunately it's not a good way to think. This guy wants sex, not a relationship. If you continue to mess around with him, you could end up feeling more and more depressed and confused.
Treat this as an end of a relationship, cut off contact, and find someone worth loving who will love you right back.
TheCynic answered Tuesday August 9 2005, 4:49 am: He's telling you the truth. He wants to be single, and do whatever he wants to, and not be responsible for hurting your feelings.
Part of that hurting your feelings thing is your fault, since you hooked up with him. I have to point this out before you make any more mistakes. Hooking up with an ex is stupid. Why? Because in all likelihood it involves your emotions.
You don't do anything (including hooking up with him again)... simply be his friend, if you think you can handle it.
As for being so crazy in love and whatnot, I think love has to be a mutual feeling. Maybe that's just me, but while you're out there finding real love, do something. Become totally obsessed with work or school or a team or your friends, or another guy. Whatever. Get your mind off your ex, because he's not worth wasting more time on. [ TheCynic's advice column | Ask TheCynic A Question ]
MikeMikeMike answered Tuesday August 9 2005, 1:50 am: hey im a guy. and 4 us comitment kinda sux!!! no offence but wen yu have a girlfriend we have to spend a lot of time thinking sbout what were gunna go wut we have to do. wut we have to but yu. It kinda gets boring. Just b his friend and like suprise him wit o idk a make out session were he isnt in controla t all. . hope i was a helpful lil squirrle [ MikeMikeMike's advice column | Ask MikeMikeMike A Question ]
icey0990 answered Tuesday August 9 2005, 12:54 am: if you want a relationship..and he just wants to mess around..you two arent on the saame page and there is no way things would work between you two. You will feel used and you will keep wanting more from him..and it will kill you to know he doesnt like you back when you kiss him..trust me ive been in this situation and it wasnt fun.
so unless your very comfortable with hooking up with him while he has no feelings for you at all..and with the fact that you know hes messing around with other girls..i would move on (i know it will be tough) but if you two want different things...it would never work out
Teza answered Tuesday August 9 2005, 12:49 am: I know its hard for you but you just have to accept his decision and move on. You can still like him but he just doesnt have those feelings for you anymore. I`m sure he didnt mean to hurt you but you will find someone better soon. [ Teza's advice column | Ask Teza A Question ]
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