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advice

ok well me and my boyfriend arent in the same class, and i go to a catholic school and so we pass notes ALL of the time and we have never been caught, i passed him a note today and he wrote back after that class.. and one of the teachers saw us and took it.. it said some bad stuff in it and cussing at our school is like.. "unexceptable" so we both got detentions.. idk what to do because all of the parents kno me as a well behaved person.. i kno this question is really gay but hah i get worried about certain stuff. what do i do!?

kk thanks!

go to detention..? what do you mean what do you do? lol sorry

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im so upset. i just got my schedule for school and i dont have any classes with my boyfriend, not even lunch. and our lockers are on opposite sides of the school, so we'll never see each other. and to make things worse, he has three classes with this girl that he cheated on me with like a year ago and shes been after him ever since. i just feel like crying. we've been together for 2 years and i cant stand the idea of losing him. someone please tell me something to make me feel better. :[

the fact that he has classes with that girl and you have none with him, shouldn't make a difference if he was going to cheat on you or not. if he wanted to cheat on you, he would find a way - having some classes with her won't really matter.

but the locker thing could be good - because if you have a class near his locker, you could keep your books in his, and he could keep some in yours :) it could actually be very handy lol

and try not to worry about him having classes with her, if he wants to cheat on you, then he will. if he really wants to mess up AGAIN and risk losing you AGAIN, then whose loss is it really?

hope i helped [♥]

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i have been married for 3years, with this guy" who think "sex" is love he want sex everyday. am not a lover of sex, i believe that sex is part of the relationship but not him" he thinks that if someone is not haveing sex offten to someone they love is because that person don't love that other person. what do u think? help me make my sex adick husband understand what's the meaning of love, and sex.

fake question. at least learn to type and spell so it looks a LITTLE bit real, k thanksss

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hi. i liked this guy for a little while now
and i dont know if he likes me back, my friends keep on saying he does but im not sure. idk...

when i liked his brother (yes itsss wrong haha) i was at my friends house and they are cousins and the guy i like is her cousin too and he found out i liked his brother and he was like well dont tell him, i wont tell him either [he said that to my friend] and then at the mall we saw him and my friends brother and their other friend and i was with his cousin [my bestfriend] and my other bestfriend, and we kept on seeing them and my friend was like i have to tell you something, but she couldn't because he was there, and then when we were walking away my friend was like he was checking you out. and his cousin[my bff] was like yeah.. he has been doing that a lot...

then i went out with my bestfriends brother who is his cousin and while i was going out with him, the kid i liked [who is cousins with the kid i was going out with] commented my picture on myspace saying 'your slammin babe'.

and then my friend texted him saying do you like her? nd he was like no. and then the next day i see him at the mall with my friends and he came and sat at the table behind us bcause his cousin who is my bestfriend was with me, so his friend who the guy i like was with, goes whos stella? nd i turnd around and i was like me... and he was like oh, he wants to fuck you and he points at some random guy walking by. and im like k... and i turned around. then my friend had to go, so me and myfriend walked her and left our stuff with my other friends who stayed at the table, so me nd my friends started walking and then they just stopped half way and started talking to eachother, so i turn around nd i face the table where the kid i like was sitting at with his friends and i see him staring at me, and so was his friend.. and then later on me and my friends were sitting and one of my friends call him because he was walking by and he came over and my guy friend was like you look lonely[to him] why wont you hug her? nd he points at me and the kid i like was like no man your gay.



i told my friend who is in his grade about all of this and she said he's just trying to HIDE that he likes me. but i don't know....

my other friend told me to ask him out. im scared ill get rejected.

its been bothering me forever. what should i do? please help me =[

i didn't even read it all.. so you wanna know for sure if he likes you? simple. ask him, then you'll know

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i've been dating this guy, let's call him delicino (his last name), and we've been on and off for 3 years. we were together for 2 years then we decidd to end up, but have gotten back together 2 times afte rthat and one of those times are right now. it's a secretive relationship and he's my brother's best friend and my best friends brother. my best friend knows about it and we're pretty sure my brother knows too. We only see each other when he stays the night over here and when i'm over at his house. everytime he's over though and we're left alone, he always trys to get me to take off my clothes or something along the lines of that and i tell him no every single time, but he still trys again and the next time he's over. it gets so annoying to me and he's over at my house now and i'm 100% sure he'll try it again. i want to break the relationship off, but im not sure if i want to. it's hard giving him up for the fact that when ever i see him, it brings back memories and me being the person i am gets back together with him. i've told myself not to and that the last time we were together was the last time, but i'm back with him again. i'm confused. i din't know if i should stay with him or not. i have on and off feelings for him too.

dump him. but make sure he knows why. trust me, if he really cares about you'll, he'll beg for your forgiveness and to be your boyfriend again. and if you guys do go back out again, and he continues... dump him FOR GOOD.

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How do you ask a guy for his cell number?
I like this boy at my camp, but he doesnt go to my school or live in my town. I want to ask him his phone number but i'm not sure how i should go about asking it. We are friends, but he flirts with me ALL THE TIME. Camp is over next week (July 20) so i have to get the number by then. He's been saying stuff like "My ringtone is beautiful girls" so i think he wants me to have it. I dont know how to ask though. PLEASE answer by the 20th.
P.S. we get autograph books but i'm not ending camp until August some time so i wont get my book until then, so i can write my number in his book but he cant write his in mine.

*sorry it's long!*
but thank you SO MUCH!

ok don't say that 'you were wondering what his number was'.. cause then it'll seem like you long and crave for his number, since you always wonder about it haha.. so when you go to sign his book, jot down your number, and be like 'hey can i have you number? since i gave you mine :)' that way it doesn't look like you're desperate or anything, you just want him to return the favor :) hope i helpedd, and good luck

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14/f
i dont feel liked at all. like no guys EVER look at me! ive never been kissed and ive never had a boyfriend. when my friends have and are always telling me about their stories. I'd just like to have a story to tell. any advice?

you can't expect the guys to do all the work, you gotta make yourself noticed and let them know you're available. your time will come, trust me. i didn't get my 1st boyfriend til i was 15 and a half, and we're still together now =] (it's been a year!) so just wait it out, and your prince charming will come. maybe not right away, but he will. you're only 14! you still have the rest of your life to live! you're young, you should be focusing on having fun with your friends before you have to worry about real-life things.. if you just stop thinking so much, everything will work out. maybe get come new cltohes, try wearing makeup if you don't already, and if you do, try putting it on differently. do your hair- and most importantly, have fun. because before you know it, you're gonna have to get a job, deal with money, get a car, and eventually go off to college and be on your own, when the last thing you'll be worrying about is a guy. so hang in there sweetie, your time will come :]

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I'm 14 and i've never had a boyfriend. I don't really care and I don't obsess over it or anything but if I do ever get one any time in highschool I wouldn't want to do stuff like being fingered or sex or blow jobs and all that...


is that weird? I just don't think i'd feel comfortable doing any of that. I wouldn't have a problem with kissing though..

I'm scared i'll never get a boyfriend just because I don't want to do any of that stuff.

Don't worry, you're not weird at all =] You're just young and inexperienced, and trust me- it's okay. Once you get to high school, you'll grow up really fast, and things like that will seem alot more normal to you =] I always used to be soooo freaked out by that kind of stuff, but now that I'm older, I'm alot more comfortable- everyone is like that =] You probably feel like ewwww penis haha or eww that's soo weird, but it's not weird at all- it's normal and GOOOD at your age =] hope I helped hun, anymore questions, just ask!! ♥

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ok so i like this guy and we've been a thing for about 7months. im not sure why but we never went out. we were always content just being what we were. ok so i've given him a hj but i can't kiss him. i want to, i really really want to but everytime we get close to it i find some excuse and back away. i've kissed other guys before but i don't know why i can't kiss him. we've been together, unofficially for longer than any other relationsip i've ever had in my life so i don't understand why this is a problem. help me, what is wrong? we like each other and i dont think that it's because we're unofficial because i've kissed other guys that i wasn't going out with which i hope that doesn't make me sound like a whore but it's just the facts. please help me get over this problem, i really want to do this.

if you really want to kiss him then just do it.. if you've given him a hand job, but you can't kiss him, then you're probably just nervous. just go in for the kill the next chance you get =) good luck hunnn &herts;

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okay, so i'm 14 and i'm going to 9th grade. i've beeen going out with this guy that i think i love since june 19th. i have liked him since the end of 7th grade. and he's liked me for much longer than that. but anyways. my bestfriend has already had sex with her boyfriend. and she thinks that me and my boyfriend she have sex. i mean me and him have talked about it and everything & he said he wants to & i think i really want to, but i'm not really sure if i should or not. because i don't like the fact that i could get pregnant. cause my dad would like kill me if i did. but i want to spend the rest of my life with him. and we make out all of the time. & i want to do more with him. but i just don't know if i should. what do you think i should do?

alright well there's like 3857 things between making out and having sex.. and june 19th? that's like a week. you're only 14 years old.. and you probably haven't been in the relationship long enough to know what love is. i mean, you might- but i really really doubt it. you DEFINITELY shouldn't do it just because your friend said you should- that's dumb. do it cause you both love each other, and nothing else. having sex is a big huge emotional ordeal, when done under the right circumstances. your first time should be special, and not because your best friend did it. your virginity is something that you can NEVER get back, so you don't want to lose it until you're sure you're ready to. if you have to ask advicenators if you're ready to have sex, then you are definitely NOT. when you're ready, you'll just know. your first time should just sort of happen, and not be planned out.. it should come from a natural chemistry between you two, and be very very special. if you do have sex, and you don't feel like it was the most emotional thing of your life, then when you get older, you are going to regret it big time. having sex is a very grown up thing, and if you're not prepared to raise a child if that would occur, then you're not prepared to have sex. if could always happen- you could be on birth control, use a condom, and pull out, and you could still get pregnant. condoms ARE afterall man made, so they aren't perfect. neither if birth control or 'pulling out'.. cause there's always precum. so to answer your question, i don't think you should have sex with him- you don't sound ready at all.. just wait it out, and one day, you'll know when it's right.. especially since you 'think that you love him' you should KNOW that you love him, and also know that you're ready to give up your virginity to him. you should trust him with your heart and soul, and he should feel the same way towards you. ♥ good luck hun, and i hope i helped :)

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ok i just got my first boyfriend the 21st and im 13 years old and everytime we see eachother he brings a condom. but i dont know if i should. and plus im prudeee. help me outt

ummmm, obviously don't! you dont even love him dear, you're 13 and you haven't been going out with him for a week.. he's your first boyfriend, and sex is a biggggg deallll. it's not prude to not want to have sex at the age of 13! it's not even prude if you're 35 and don't wanna have sex.. it's a huge emotional ordeal, that is a very loving thing when done under the right circumstances. don't do it.. not until you love him, until HE LOVES YOU, and if he doesn't push you. your first time should be special, not after 5 days of dating and being a young young teenager.. don't do it yet ♥ hope i helpedddddd

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My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months...but most of those months we werent together cuz he lives in New York...and I live in California.He's 5 years older than me,and he's moving out here JUST FOR ME.Basically I want to know if it's really possible for is to stay together forever,or am I living in a fantasy world.Oh and he's always telling me that we will be together forever and stuff like that.

of course its possible, anything is :) especially since he's moving all the way across the country (supposedly) JUST for you, than more power to you! he must really love and care about you ♥ im not saying it's for sure, but it is definitely possible that you'll be together forever :) good luck hun!!!

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15f
me and my ex boyfriend went out for about a month and we really liked eachother. the reason he broke up with me is because he felt he was ready for more because we actually got to hangout about 3 times and all we did was madeout. after he dumped me he told me he regreted it, we have been good friends since and on and off when it came to considering being together again. he has had a thing with a girl but still likes me too , about a week ago he got drunk and on the computer he told me how he wishes i wasnt prude and he likes me sooo much and wishes he never started anything with the other girl so we could give it another shot.he admitted that usually the truth comes out when your drunk. after that he gradually stopped talking to me again and he asked the other girl out yesterday . what do you think ? and do you think hes going to realize he wants to be with me ?

yeah i think that he is realizing that he wants to be with you... but more just to get someeeee. he probably does like you alot, but as he said when he was drunk, he wishes you weren't so prude. so i think that you should get back together with him, but don't do anything more than YOU want to. you only hung out 3 times and all you did was makeout... at 15 that's okay! he needs to take a chill pill... and YOU have to test him to see if he really likes you enough to wait to go further :) good luck hun! and i hope i helpedd ♥

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i know we all hate these questions but im clueless here. i have NO idea what to get my boyfriend for our one year. i spent over $250 on him for christmas and for valentines day gave him candy and a list of "100 reasons why i love you". he downloads all his music so he has every song he wants so i cant burn a cd. and im not doing a scrap book w/ pictures. concert tickets arent an option. i want to get him something he like so i thought about guitar strings or picks but at the same time i want it to be special for our one year ya kno? hes taking me out to dinner & a movie and getting me something but i dont know what. any ideas?

i got my boyfriend a necklace for our one year... just like a simple chain. but since he obv. plays the guitar, strings and pics would be a good idea too.. or find a picture of you two that's like a favorite and blow it up and put it in a nice frame... and hey, if you want, do all three =) haha but idk what he likes though, but just make sure the gift is from the heart, and i'm sure you'll think of something =) good luck, and congrats! ♥ (ps. my one year is thursday! so i can relate lol i NEVER know what to get him =P haha)

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ok so in 3rd grade i had a crush on this boy. he was the first boy i ever liked. in 4th grade i found out he liked me too. in 5th grade he asked me out, and we've been going out ever since (over two years - we're going into 8th grade). so basically hes been like a major part of my life for 5 years, and we're like best friends and bf/gf at the same time. i love him more than anything! he really loves me too and he says he hopes we can be together forever.

well we both know that we're probably gonna break up at some point. we've even talked about it, that if we ever break up and go out with other people, maybe we can get back together when we're older and get married and stuff. well who knows if that would happen. you cant tell the future. but right now i just get so scared when i think about us breaking up. being without him would be like having part of my body cut off. i know in my head that i would get over it, but its so scary to think about being without him. its like before you have an big operation, you know that it will eventually heal, but its still scary to think about how much its gonna hurt.

i dont know... i guess im just hoping someone can tell me something that will make me not worry about it, or help me handle it when it happens. :(

stop worrying! you have nothing to worry about, nothings even happened yet, and who knows, you guys might not ever even break up. i know what its like to be scared of that sort of thing, but think about it- you're not gonna die. and like you said, you know too that you'll get over it eventually... but seriously, don't worry about it until/if it comes ♥ and calm down hun lol it's really okay

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im dating my friend's best friend, and he is in love with her. he likes me to, but the only reason he's going out with me is cuz she has a boyfriend. they are friends with benefits, and i dont know if i can share him with her even though shez my friend! what do i do?!?

are you okay with being the second best? the back up girl? the side man? the one he has just to say he has a girlfriend? are you okay with being cheated on? if you are, then by all means- stay with him. if not, dump him- you should have a boyfriend that only wants you and no one else. he's not worth it, and you don't need him anyway ♥ he might not even care about you... and if he says he does when (well, if) you dump him, he doesn't

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WARNING: This will sound ridicolous, BUT that doesn't make it any less important.

So you know these surveys people send out on myspace, facebook, hotmail etc (The ones with questions about them like "what do you think of my hair" that their friends are supposed to answer!) Well, I desperately want my crush to send it out cause I have some GREAT answers in mind for some of them, but he's not the survey-sending type. We havn't talked for about 5 months ((sadly, we lost touch) and I thought I flirty email like that would be a great way to get him back into my life, but I don't want to be the first one to send it out, and I don't want to TELL him to send it out either (so pathetic!) is there anything I can do? (besides hack him, send it out to myself and some others, answer it, and give him back the password!!)

Thanks!

i would just fill it out, send it to him, and he like hey haha i thought this was cute so i wanted to send it to you! and say something like 'maybe fill it out and send it back to me, just for fun' ♥ good luck! and dont feel weird just randomly sending it to him, people do that all the time =)

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I really like these 2 guys and they like me but I can't decide which one to go out with:

A: Athletic, popular, preppy, my neighbor, REALLY funny, nice, his mom is friends with my mom, and really cute.

B: respectful, nice, anti-prep, into hunting, trucks, and violence, gets into a LOT of fights, "tough guy", and also really cute.

I know it's my choice but I want some input from others. Please try not to put just boy a or boy b. Give me your thoughts on them.

well i dont know either one of them at all especially since you mainly gave physical and stereotypical descriptions like "preppy" or "really cute" or "tough guy" which says nothing.. so idk. but guy a would be tricky because if your moms are friends, that could make it kinda of sticky... but guy b seems sort of like trouble... but my boyfriend was bad before i fixed him so maybe you could fix guy b lol if you're up got a challenge, go for guy b. see if he'll change for you and not get in fights and all that. or, go for guy a, and have a cutsie little relationship but your mothers might try to get involved and i know from my friends' esperience, that that does get realllyyy annoying. so if i were you, just wait it out a little. see who sticks it out while waiting for you to choose, and who gives up on you. if guy b waits, than deff go for him cause he must really like you and maybe he'll change his trouble making ways for you too ♥ good luck hun!!! make the right choice =)

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Ohkay, so theres this guy that I really started liking. We met once on his best friends drive way and but we really didn't talk much and I almost doubt he remembers me, thank god though because I looked disgusting that night. Now I have a huge crush on him and hes single. Were going to the movies this friday, but theres going to be alot of other people there from his school. I dont go to his school though but I have alot of girlfriends and stuff there. Obviously he doesnt like them because hes had only one girlfriend the whole year. I was wondering what I could do that would really impress him at the movies? What are some things I should do to get attention. Ways to talk & flirt.

Things im already doing.
Curling my Hair
Wearing Foundation =)
Wearing a somewhat belly shirt (not slutty) its long sleves and last time I wore it, a guy told me I lookd hot =)
Wearing soffees and possibly a thong.

13/F

help. what else like things I can do at the movies

don't be annoying, don't hang on him, and just be nice. dont try too hard- curling your hair might make you look desperate and like you're trying to hard, don't overdo it. if you don't think so much into things, and if you just relax, the rest will come naturally =) good luck ♥

oh and ps, why would the type of underwear you're wearing make you look any better to this guy? are you planning on stripping? underwear doesn't matter.. especially on the first date, which doesn't even sound like a date.. just don't try so hard, relax.

***editttt;; idc if it was harsh, its true =)

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Okay, so there is this boy. We never went out, but we told said we loved each other and he said he wants to ask me out SO bad. But then, he all of the sudden got back with his ex. I was sooo hurt, and he knew it. We didnt talk for weeks at a time and then we started to talk again. We've become so close again like best friends that will never be like that again. Then one day, he said his former ex broke up with him again, and now he says he loves me. How do I know that he means it? How do I know that he actually does love me?

he doens't mean it and he doesn't love you... at least it really doesn't sound like it anyway. he wouldn't have even gotten with his ex if he cares about you at all- if he wanted to ask you out SOOO bad, then why the heck didn't he? sorry hun, but you need to get over him. he doesn't genuinely care about you at all... he's on the rebound from his breakup with his ex, and it just sounds like he needs to have a girlfriend at all times and thats what you are- kind of like a fill in. i could be wrong, but he sounds like a jerk. good luck hun! and stay away from him... he doesn't deserve you ♥

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