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Am I weird?
I'm 14 and i've never had a boyfriend. I don't really care and I don't obsess over it or anything but if I do ever get one any time in highschool I wouldn't want to do stuff like being fingered or sex or blow jobs and all that...
is that weird? I just don't think i'd feel comfortable doing any of that. I wouldn't have a problem with kissing though..
I'm scared i'll never get a boyfriend just because I don't want to do any of that stuff.
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Don't worry, you're not weird at all =] You're just young and inexperienced, and trust me- it's okay. Once you get to high school, you'll grow up really fast, and things like that will seem alot more normal to you =] I always used to be soooo freaked out by that kind of stuff, but now that I'm older, I'm alot more comfortable- everyone is like that =] You probably feel like ewwww penis haha or eww that's soo weird, but it's not weird at all- it's normal and GOOOD at your age =] hope I helped hun, anymore questions, just ask!! ♥
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no your not weird your juss very unimmature.. im proud you didnt do none of that stuff.. juss take you time and be patient that special someone will come to you soon.. dont rush things your only 14 im 14 / m... and i had lots of chances to have sex buh i dont choice to do it because i wanna live life not get stuck and take care of a kid at age 14! buh im very proud that your not like the rest of them girls doing blow-jobs and hand-jobs and etc...
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No, because guys that turn you down because you don't want to do that are guys that are just looking for action. I'm 13 and I'm not even looking forward to any of that except kissing. I'm really proud of you, it means you have high morals and you're definately going to be wanted because you don't let guys have what they want. You WILL get a boyfriend, and if he wants any of that, tell him that YOU don't, because your opinion matters.
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That is 100% natural. You're just not sure what you want! Thats an excellent way to score a great guy. Not just someone who wants down your pants, ect. I think you should stick to your plan. It's safer and healthier! You will be glad once you find that perfect guy to give it all away to. It's always nice to hear you are completely sure you'll have no dises and such, if you catch my drift ;)
Good luck! Dont fret about this either, I admire your courage!
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No way, you're not weird whatsoever. Believe it or not, not ALL guys are after sex. =)! You have to realize that a boy should be willing to wait to do that stuff until YOU'RE 100% ready to it. If not, then you're not with the right boy. It takes two to tango :) And I don't know, when you actually get a boyfriend, your opinions might change. I know a lot of girls who never in their right mind would have wanted to have sex early in HS, but by the time they got a bf, they went all the way to home and tagged the rest of the bases on the way, lol.
I'm not saying that's going to happen to you, but you're just 14. Your opinions won't be the same throughout your whole lifetime. But defently don't ever let any boy pressure you to do that stuff and don't worry, you'll find boytoy when you do ;)
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your not weird at all. im the same way, except i do have a boyfriend. lol
beleive it or not, some guys also dont want to do that stuff. my boyfriend is 16 turning 17 and he still isnt ready for anything further than kissing. so dont worry, youll find someone with the same preferences as you, and if a guy your with truely loves/likes you, hell wait as well. =]
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Sweetie, you're only 14 & of course it's not weird to feel that way. These days, kids are exposed to these things younger & younger & it's really sad. When I was 14 (which was only 5 years ago), those kinds of pressures weren't very common, not to mention discussed that often. It seems like there's more & more pressure to get boyfriends & become sexually active at such a young age. My advice? Don't worry about a boyfriend for a few more years. You aren't missing out on anything great. Most guys your age aren't mature enough to carry on a real relationship without the sexual part of it. When you're older, it'll be somewhat easier to find someone on the same level as you are. Focus on school & worry about boys later. You'll be happy your decision later, I promise you.
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That is perfectly normal to not wanna do stuff. If you get a boyfriend and you dont wanna do stuff....tell him and if he really cares about you he wont mind at all...im sure he'll want to but he won't because he cares about you, but if you get a boyfriend and he pressures you into doing stuff then he doesn't care about you, even though you may lik ehim alott he could get you into some trouble, so just wait for the right boy who won't care if you do or don't....trust me, cause then when u do wanna do something it will be special for both of you, cause you'll be ready
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You're not wierd at all, hun. There's nothing wrong with waiting. I mean, you're still young-- it's not like you've never been kissed at 30. And the only boys that won't like the fact that you don't want to get sexual with them are the jerks that don't deserve you in the first place.
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You're not weird.
I find you awesome, actually =]
Too many girls obsess over blowjobs, sex, etc.
But you really don't have to.
There are plenty of great guys that are interested in you for you and not
getting in your pants.
And don't worry about getting a boyfriend,
the time will come =]
<3 Laura.
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You are not weird at all i wish high school had more people like that.Your just wise and mature and you have a personality.Other peeople usually go off doin that shit cuz they feel pressured by their freinds and when they do it they regret it.Look,no girl stays single forever.Youll meet alota guys in your life man.And if they dont understand the fact that you dont want to do that stuff and they pressure you into anythin dump them.Youll meet more then one guy and fall in love more then once.Pateince is the key man,wait and one day youll have a guy that desserves you
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Oh no you're not weird.
A lot of guys will have a problem with that.
But there are some guys that are thinking the same way you are.
Just wait for the right one.
It will be amazing when you meet him.
And if you do have a boyfriend soon, let him know that you're not into that stuff, and some will understand and some won't.
Hope I helped.
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No, you're definitely not weird. Not all guys are looking for sex. If a guy really likes you, he'll wait for you to be ready. It's totally fine not to feel comfortable with things like that at such a young age and you should NEVER do ANYTHING you're not 100% comfortable with.
From someone that used to be in a similar situation, though, this can change when you get a boyfriend. I didn't get my first boyfriend until this end of this school year (I'm 17) and before that I always told myself I'd never do all of that so soon. Well, we dated for three weeks before things went bad, but in that time I gave him a hand job and a blow job and we grinded and made out and felt each other up and all that. If someone were to tell me this story from their point of view, I know I'd sound like a whore, but I know that I didn't do anything I didn't WANT to do. I didn't let him give me oral sex or finger me (my pants stayed ON and BUTTONED the entire time) and I didn't have sex with him because I wasn't comfortable or ready to do that. And now, I'm glad I didn't do those things, but that doesn't mean I wish I hadn't done the rest. I chalk it all up to experience now.
It's really good to have strong opinions, but if you do get a boyfriend and do those things, never regret something that you did that you wanted to do at the time. Just go with the flow and things will happen when they're supposed to happen. Don't let any guy pressure you into doing something you aren't comfortable with.
Good luck!
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That's not weird at all. Life is not a race. There will come a time when you are into that kind of stuff. For some people physical contact is a very intimate thing, and it can be scary when everyone around you is doing it like it's no big deal. It makes it not appealing at all.
The good news is, you don't have to be like them. You can go at your own pace and take your sweet time. Eventually, you'll meet a very nice guy who respects you for your morals and values. And when the time comes, there's a strong possibility that you'll change your mind (on your own free will) and WANT to do those things.
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