Last Updated: March 25, 2014
♥ If you send a question to my inbox, it gets answered FIRST! ♥
*About Me
I am twenty-one, soon to be twenty-two, and currently work in a loan servicing department. I truly enjoy my job, as well as college, in which I am reaching my last year to receive my degree. I am an outgoing person whom loves to have fun, be with my best friends and family, go shopping and most importantly, helping others.
Helping others has always been my passionate, from a young age I knew that I wanted to help other people and be a great influence in making someone's life turn for the better. My main goal in life is to help others, and in addition to helping all of you on Advicenators -- you all are important to me, and look forward to helping you all that I can.
Anything you would like advice on, please feel free to ask me. I'll answer honestly and openly, without judgement.
***FAQ [Inspired by Cux]
♦ How to be Popular
♦ Health, Food & Fitness Part I
♦ Special Occasions & Holiday Gift Ideas
♦ I like him, but does he like me? Visa-Versa
♦ Is it ok to date someone younger?
♦ Hair & Makeup Questions, Part I
♦ Hair & Makeup, Part II
♦ I want to be a model!
♦ Google Bar [Thanks to thelaura!]
♦ What is Ham Radio?
Website: My Forum
E-mail: N/A (Just inbox me & you'll be answered 1st!)
Gender: Female
Location: Laguna Beach, CA
Occupation: Loan Servicing Employee
Age: 21
Member Since: September 29, 2006
Answers: 2522
Last Update: April 21, 2014
Visitors: 119535
Main Categories:
Love Life
Random Weirdos
Fashion and Styles
View All
Favorite Columnists
karenR
DangerNerd
christina
Razhie
isis
Cux
Erinn_the_bamf
Lola
LM
Teza
Alin75
more...
|
| |
I'm going out with a guy who pretty much used to be one of my best friends. Whenever he used to say something that'd crack me up, sometimes I'd say "ha, I love you, you're too funny." Well, that was when we were just friends.
We've only been going out a couple of days, but he's already telling me he actually loves me. I know I don't love him back just yet, so I don't want to lie to him. And I've tried to explain that to him, and he said he'll say it anyways. I just always makes me feel awkward when he does, so what should I say back? (link)
|
Try to think of it this way, he's in love with you and he can't and doesn't want to change that. So as the below be stated, give him a hug or smile at him. lay your head on his shoulder, etc. Because you have to care about his feelings, even though you may not feel the same.
I went through the same thing you're going through now, and I eventually fell in love with guy and said it back. That could happen to you, as well.
|
|
ok well i am 13 ok n my bf iz older then me ok nd he keeps pressuring me into things what should i do? cuz like i have been goin out with him for awhile now n he iz like telling me wat to do n shit n its very confusing n on msn he keeps telling me to flash him n finger myself on cam ok nd i dont no wat to do about that either ok plzzz help me i dun no wat to do!!! (link)
|
I'm going to give you the best advice I can in one sentence (yes, that's all it takes) -- You go dump him right now, and move on.
This guy is only wanting you physically, because if he really cared about you, he wouldn't be pressuring you into things. Never do something you're uncomfortable with, and no one should try to make you do those things either.
You're better off without this guy, he's a jerk. Trust me, there are plenty of other guys out there in the sea waiting to be caught -- good guys, that will treat you as you deserve.
|
|
I have wanted this qustion answered for a long time. For some weird reason i always get this bad bad bad guilty feeling if i do soemhting wrong even slighty like skip a problem on my homeowrk ita like wrecking me on the inside. MY mom like trained me to tell her evrything adn when i dont BAM! guilt trip! and it feels THE WORST uyou could ever feel i dont want to have to feel guilty for little things help me (link)
|
Of course, this depends on exactly what you aren't telling your mother. However, you're not supposed to tell her literally everything, you need your privacy. I, as a teenager and almost fifteen, know that you have to have your privacy. I love my mom to death, and we're very close, but both of us know that I need my privacy and if something is important that involves her or is something she really should know -- that is the time to tell her.
So everytime you start feeling guilty, think about the privacy you need for yourself. Think about all of the responsible and good things you've done, not just the ones that make your feel guilty.
|
|
I have come to the point where I cant write, concentrate, derive pleasure from anything, have difficulty remembering things, have blurred vision, eyes seriously hurt, sometimes have severe headaches, most of the time dont know what I am talking especially with my elder brother. I have nt got father and mother I live my elder brother and his wife since 6 years. I am 26/M an MBA had a successful career but now since six months things have been deteriorating. I cant bear it any more. Plz tell me the easiest way to commit suicide which hurts less and is quick and doesnt make much of a mess. (link)
|
Please, I urge you not to commit suicide. I don't know you personally, but I care enough to not want you to do this. We all have our problems, you are not alone. And believe it or not, there are people out there who are worse off than you are. Much worse, and really, it's not worth killing yourself over.
I'm sure you have friends and family, who love and care about you. Think of not only what that would do to you leaving them, but what that would do to them. That would kill their souls! Your brother and his wife, would be devasted as well.
You're very young, and you have a lot of life ahead of you. Don't cut yourself short, because you have some problems here and there. You are worth living on this earth, and you were put here for a reason. You have people who love you and care about you, who would never want anything to happen to you.
There are so many things for you to live for, and I think therapy would be great for you. Because you can express your feelings, and the therapist is a professional and can help you understand and sort out your feelings and problems. I think you may have depression, in which, your doctor could diagnose you. My mother has this, and had some of the same problems you're having. If you are diagnosed with depression, going to the doctor and getting medication will really help you. And you'll feel a whole lot better, I know you will, if that's what you have. Either way, I still recommend seeing a therapist.
Again, please do not commit suicide. You're worth being here, and living on this earth. You are a good person! And if you would decide to do this terrible thing, you won't be able to change your mind tomorrow.
I wish you absolutely nothing but the best, and everything will work out for you and you will be okay. I know it!
|
|
I deleted the shortcut for limewire off my desktop. Now i want to run it and i can find it in the start menu, or anywhere. I checked control panel, and it's still installed. How can i run it? How can i get the shortcut back on my desktop? (link)
| |
Go into your start menu and to Accessories, and click on "Windows Explorer." Next, click on Presario C, and "Program Files." Find Limewire, and drag and drop the icon onto your desktop, and it should run after clicking it. If it does not, you'll have to re-install it, and make sure not to delete the shortcut.
|
my boyfriend said he had to go and that he loved me and i didn't want him to leave and i told him if he left i would dump him. he still signed off, and i dumped him on the phone. and then i called him again and he hung up on me.
who did the wrong thing? me or him? did i over react because he had to go? or was it him?
=/ i feel like crap. i think i overeacted
how can i tell him how much he means to me? (link)
|
To be honest with you, yes, you did over react. Being as I'm sure that you have had to sign off of the computer, while talking to someone before, haven't you? It's really the same exact thing, he said that he loved you. I don't think that's any reason for saying that you would dump him, so honestly, I cannot blame him for hanging up on you.
However, I am here to try to help you. So I suggest going to his house or seeing him at school (if you're a teen), and talking to him alone. Let him know that you're sorry, it won't happen again and that you did over react.
Good luck!
|
|
i have a MAJOR problem! I want to lose weight but thats not going to happen if this continues! During the day i exercise regulary and try to eat healthy but when it comes 2-3 hours before bedtime i get MAJOR cravings for food and i usually give in! and its not just oh a slice of pepperoni NO its like a MEAL with chciken and this and that. and i go ALL OUT like RIGHT before i go to bed. how do i stop it? (link)
| |
I think the problem, most likely, is that you're not getting full enough in the daytime. Are you eating breakfast and lunch? These are extremely important meals to maintain being healthy, especially, breakfast. Be sure to eat both of these meals, and dinner. And if you want a snack before bed, I would just eat it and go to bed. Please, don't keep yourself from eating or deprive yourself from all of the foods you like. That's not healthy, either.
|
ok i'm in 8th grade.. and i dont smoke,drink or do any drugs whatsoever. so me and my friends are talking about when people in my school start drinking which is 8th and up. they said that they wouldnt mind starting now or in 9th.
anyway i was with one of my friends and she said she would do it and everyone else does. she says its not wrong and its not right, just another form of partying. personally i dont feel like i would drink at a young age, and i dont want to give in to peer pressure. i feel pressured to start soon,what should i do?? help is appreciated. (link)
|
Please, I urge you not to drink. Both of my parents were alcholics, my mother recovered and she's okay now. However, my father died because of his drinking. Do not give into the pressure as your friends, and everyone else want you to. I encourage you to stick with friends who do not pressure you to do things you do not want to, and people who are supportive, etc.
Again, please do not drink. I know, how hard it is to be without my father and knowing that's exactly what killed him. It's very hard, and I wouldn't want that to happen to you or anyone else.
|
|
I just tried the Monster Energy drink yesterday and I loved it, so I asked my mom to get me it again today. She told me it's not a good idea to drink it. I thought it was harmless and I know it's not a good idea to drink it all at once in like 10 minutes.. but I want to know, what is bad about it? Are there any reasons not to drink it? What are your experiences with it? THANKS! (link)
| |
What's bad about it is the amount of caffeine, that's extremely dangerous to your health. So if you drink too much of it, you're risking your health, in a major way.
|
if i pluck my moustache, would it grow back longer, or darker?
i cant wax it.
and no bleaching.
do u girls, pluck urs?
help. (link)
| |
Absolutely not, this is an old beauty myth that will never die! However, that would hurt very much. Chances are, it's probably not as noticeable as you think it is. But if you cannot bleach or wax it, and you want it gone -- I'm afraid that's your only choice.
|
|
What the simple way to delete user account on windows x p because when i delete mine it stops responding I don't want to like do any complex thing because i might break it. Why is it doing that? (link)
| |
Actually, there is no need to delete any files. All you have to do is go into your Control Panel (from your Start Menu) and click on "User Accounts." Next, click on the account that you would like to delete, and click on "Delete this Account."
|
im 13/ f
i have blue eyes and blind hair, and pale skin.
what color eye shadow should i wear/
thanks (link)
|
Here's lots of information on eyeshadow colors --
http://www.makeupsense.com/eyes/eyeshadow-colour/
|
Hey =) well there's this song that I have been wondering who sings it and what it's called. Here are some of the words...
This is the story of a girl
Who cried a river that drowned the whole world
And when she looked so sad in photographs
I absolutely loved her-when she smiled
sorry...that's all I know. If you all could please tell me the name of the song and who it's by I would greatly appreciate it! Thanks (link)
| |
Yes, this is "Story of A Girl" by Nine Days. And by the way, 3 Doors Down has never and does not sing this song. :)
|
i like this guy at school but he's a year younger than me and i don't want pple saying i'm desperate so i decided not to like him anymore but i still do
what do i do? help plz and thanks! (link)
| |
Honestly, if you really like this guy and want to be with him -- don't worry about what all of the others think. You're the one who's dating him, and who knows that he's a good person. Just because he's younger than you, especially, only by one year, does not make you desperate.
|
|
How many books are there in the gossip girl series so far? (link)
|
There are eleven books in the Gossip Girl series, so far.
|
my computer has about 4000 viruses on it including Spyware and Malware. Please tell me any FREE antivirus software that i can download to SAVE my computer. Its has ALL my informations of it and i cant let it crash:(
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE i need help fast! (link)
|
I recommend SpySubtract, you can google it and download it for free. However, I hate to tell you this, but it may not work very well for you. Especially, if you have that many viruses. And if they contain a trogan or a worm, that's quite worse. What I suggest you do is format your hard drive, but that will cause you to lose all of your information.
However, if you do not do this -- the viruses may still stay on your computer. Some of them are extremely hard to get rid of, and some you cannot only if you format it. Which means, to clean your hard drive completely. And put everything back on. That is, what information you have on a CD, and other CD's you have. Such as your operating system (Windows XP, Vista, ME, 200, etc.)
|
|
i am a girl...who is 11 years old. Fitness really isn't important to me yet, but i am kinda overweight! what should i do? i always find myself trying to do diets, but never actually stick to them (link)
|
The word "diet" simply makes you not want to do it. The fact that you're even on one, can make you feel overwhelming. Thinking of only the things you can eat, opposed to what you can. So lets eliminate the word "diet."
I'm going to suggest exercising, such as running a mile a day. But not right off, if you aren't used to running or even walking that far. You could do that too. But you don't want to over work yourself, so I'm going to suggest starting off with a few blocks for awhile then you can work your way up to a mile. And so on, so forth.
As far as eating, what I suggest right now, is to eat in small portions. If you make a fist with your hand -- that's how small the portion is. You can really eat whatever you want, in small portions. And that alone helps you.
Please, remember, that you are beautiful no matter what shape or size you are. Don't fall into the hype that you have to be a stick, to be beautiful. Because that isn't true at all, no one wants to be unhealthy and a carrot stick. So please, I ask you to only take healthy measures at losing weight, if you are overweight. Do not risk your health and undergo dangerous things, for a lousy pound. It's all about being healthy, so always and only take healthy measure for your weight.
|
ok well im a female im 5'6" and my weight is about 115.. does that make me underwieght or overweight or what? cuz personally i think im fat but my friends tell me im skinny i want to diet but im afraid i might become anerexic or somthing. Soo what do you think.
(sp?) (link)
| |
In my opinion, you are on the small side. So I don't recommend dieting. I believe that's considered a healthy weight. However, you can find out for sure by checking your BMI. This will tell you if you are at a healthy, underweight or overweight level. You can do this at www.seventeen.com In their "Health" category.
|
ok so i had like a bunch of 5's after giving advice and then my rating was a 4.79
so then i got another five & it dropped right to a 4.8
what happened??? (link)
| |
Actually, that's a good thing. It excelled from a 4.79 to a 4.8. :)
|
|
Are you supposed to put bronzer or your foundation on first? (link)
| |
First, you apply your foundation and then, you apply your bronzer.
|
|